around and everyone seems raring to go are you little less than excited to go to that

soiree?

Well in this video today I'm going to teach you how to use that analytical nature to

your advantage.

I'm Barron Cruz and welcome to the charisma matrix!

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Introverted people oftentimes find themselves in their head

in social situations. Say they're at a party at the end of the weekend

as opposed to being in the moment that enjoying the interactions,

they're thinking what is this person thinking? What's that person thinking over

there?

If I go over there and say hello what are they gonna think and are they gonna see

me?

These are all very negative things happening in your head in a social

situation you want to be fluid you want other people to be reacting to you

but that's much easier said than done we have a low level things I anytime your

social situation you're not actually going to be drawn

into your head thinking in making assumptions most of time which are

grossly inaccurate

about everyone else who makes up the environment so hot on combat this

all we need to do is we need to use the fact

you oftentimes go in your head look for reference point to try to decide how you

predict other people were act

to your favor so we need to create and

imager yourself in the social environments

that is much more accurate maybe even own little bit

all overly in your favor as opposed to what you probably currently have which

is

not in your favor which is inaccurate to your detriment

having a selective blind spot

means that you acknowledged your perception or reality

is not correct however you understand that by having this

inaccurate perception it actually working to your favor

in helping you what we want to do is we want to create a perception of yourself

in your brain and your subconscious there is much more geared to reality

and maybe even a little more grandiose and

and beneficial than it actually is because this is gonna be a select a

blind spot that's gonna help us in social situations

now this may sound a little bit strange legal actually want to happen accurate

perception myself in

reality in social situations or understand

right now you likely have a very inaccurate perception and it's going to

your detriment

you think that you are not nearly as charismatic urs social

or people are saying bad things about you then what really is going on

so we at least when it gets you to what is accurate morality

and even better let's get you a little bit over the top so you have a really

nice

salt image and it's gonna be a self-fulfilling prophecy to some point

so how do we do this we need to take advantage of the fact that our brain

locks everything we do and how people treat us

and it compiles its constantly doing this

that's why I was talk about competent competence is very fluid

ebbs and flows with the reaction from the environment but we also know

that your brain your subconscious remembers things a lot more when you're

in a heightened emotional level

and when things are reinforced you often hear incantations are

you know dole smiley Sarah Live skit people like me people like me

well that doesn't work but when you're in heightened emotional state

and you present your brain repeatedly positive reactions from the environment

were actually able to use that kinda strange thing that our brain does to our

advantage

hijack it and kinda hackett to build up a better perception

in self-esteem in yourself then you naturally would just by getting these

reactions environment

so how we gonna do this okay so let's say you are

you get a positive reaction from something inside you're walking you talk

someone you crack a joke in May

lack so we could use what's your actions over

you can stop and you respect yourself play it back in your head

man that was funny I said I got a great reaction

who can't do that you can just got some on the street

and say something and have a laugh in men got people really do think I'm cool

that was great how many people could do that

you work in yourself up in an emotional state in a positive way

and you're playing back in your head is positive reaction

many many times in a short while thirty second burst so what it's gonna do

is that going to supercharge like crap for your brain

in and get a magnet by the way your subconscious picks up on that little

interaction so

whereas maybe would take 10 interactions like that

your brains are saying yeah I'm and you're actually you

started get pretty good maybe you're proving you should talk to more people

but I just completely reiterating that over and over as you get more excited

about it may end up

how many people could do that as well straight I don't even know what they are

great reaction may exert this is her to come along well

by doing that it's good you know how many times I don't know the actual data

but

maybe five to ten times impacting so it's gonna really speed that up

so now you find yourself every time you get a POS reaction you're doing that

is gonna greatly speed up and reduce the amount of time it takes for your brain

to have that positive reinforcement now you're also going to do this

in the actual party this year at click here to get your brain

in a situational comedy is moot because

everyone has a certain level competent omitted cert virus they're very topic

your their family

you're so you know your on your basketball player basketball court

so what we gonna do is we want to get that basic level of competence

from your various situations reinforcing things

but also we were taller break we're here now ever competent you now

to the first time you go to are you you're getting some

some pot use a manager to come in and I just fly and he says yeah actually flew

in phnom

on United the plane's delayed 30 minutes 30 minutes now it is that's a blessing

I his lap and snow you thinkin yeah

as good as place is nice to be a girl congrats almost looked really good

tonight

I'm feeling really good get your subconscious once again

on that crack know you're good but but magnifying get through

running over and over your brain so now you can be more common

after that first positive real re et reiteration

what happened so you're gonna find your brain being an introvert could possibly

going in and

analyze you know how my guest actor were part of his person maybe they're looking

at me funny

but the minute that you tell your brain that you know

you are part people are probably looking positive you're gonna be able to use the

introverted missed your damage because now

will you check in with your brain and your assessing what's going on

and you're predicting what people are saying it can be predicting through a

very positive light

so now as opposed to check you really don't like Peter sense that your brain

San

the problem would love you wonder that say hello private a really positive

reaction

and now when you walk over there he say hey I'm bear how you doing

nothing to say we are anticipating a positive reaction

so they're gonna not obviously I'm a big power to stop telling prophecies

the typical these pics they're gonna think they're gonna subconsciously

because Guiseley personally I was expecting a good reaction

by some guy wanna be cool with price and i wanna talk to you and it just gets no

one so they're gonna go to

first-person they're gonna have all these things going on there had their

gonna project is positive attributes on you

after first getting her actually went up once again you to play it back you're

not too hard in a week or

they want to talk to me seem like they wish to hang around there all night

snowball in your head now you're just gonna be on this massive hi

your subconscious is gonna be has his picture you now in this environment the

situational competence

the you can go up to anyone and it's gonna be so my props in USC at this

point

just how much social momentum is impacting just how much that situational

competences

once you're comfortable in an environment I really hope these things

help bob you've seen a whole people many many times

especially people who were interviewed introverted and often times for shoddy

and social environment I know how difficult

I can be no kind of crippling it can be because often times you will have to be

in social environments are

the people you're with really want us to be a social environment

and we feel like it's such a pain in such a burden with a performer people

won't like us

it's just a snowballing zaidi so try these things out

I think you're gonna find their effective for anyone whether into heard

or not

but this is really a great way out a great to use that introverted is your

favor

by creating a more true maybe even a little overly optimistic per section

that perception of yourself

in your head