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  • Take a moment to feel your bodies. My question to you today is how is your body

  • relevant to your leadership? What I'm feeling right now is a certain amount

  • of terror; you guys are way scarrier than Sierra Leonian army... and a lot of excitement

  • as well. And this is going to be a lot of fun.

  • My claim is that leadership is embodied. Leadership comes through us. It's not all in your head.

  • You don't have to believe me, because we will actually be playing with this, be experiencing

  • this. to experience your work. I talk about the body, there is a couple of

  • misconceptions than generally come up. To to clear up quite quickly particularly when

  • we work with corporate groups. Um, the body has been reduced to two things mainly in the

  • western world. One is the body athletic. You don't need to be muscly like those guys, and

  • it's not about the body aesthetic. There is only one body that I'm allowed to look like

  • in that way and she's not here. So it's not the body athletic or aesthetic. So what is

  • it? These are some leaders I particularly enjoy.

  • They embody who they are. Not so much whether they are tall or short or whether they are

  • overweight or skinny or anything like that, but how they hold themselves, how they move

  • through space. One of my claims is that we move through space like we move through life.

  • If you look at, say, um, Ghandi and Churchill. Round about the same time in history they

  • were around. They embody something totally different. Churchill has a kind of stubbornness

  • to them. "We will fight them on the beaches." This is down, kinda very stubborn kinda quality.

  • Ghandi humility to him. A completely different quality in his body. So sometimes this happens

  • accidentally. And I work with leaders to help people to have more awareness and more choice

  • about what they embody. If circumstances change, then you might need

  • to change what you embody. So, for example, Churchill at the end of World War II lost

  • an election. Yea. He thought that he was going to win, but he lost it. The country eeded

  • something very different at the end of the war, which he didn't embody.

  • I put my niece on there as (inaudible) heroic when I was looking at the pictures and finding

  • some slides. She embodies, for me, vulnerability, which is an edge for me at the moment and

  • also curiosity. That might be an embodied state that would benefit you today.

  • Who thought about their body before Nick mentioned it today? Other than I'm hungry or I need

  • the toilet or something like that. Is there in which we can actually... Some people, yea,

  • okay... Is there a way in which we can actually maximize our state for today? So you can use

  • your body to get the most out of today. By five p.m., you will be a half of a day closer

  • to your death. You won't get that time back; I promise you that. So make the best use of

  • that. The body can be very helpful for that. Ah, actually I'm talking about body language.

  • That's another thing to clear up. So, um, sometimes people go on body language courses

  • and learn some gestures. And these, some politicians sometimes do this, and they seem kinda fake, inauthentic.

  • Have you seen that? Yea? I'm talking about body being, so I'm talking

  • about who you are as a person. This is what we're going to be playing with not some tricks

  • to try and fool other people. Yea, it's about who you are, how that's embodied, and what

  • that opens, and what that closes. Your body leans you in a particularly direction behaviorally.

  • So it's going to be different for each of you. It's a mirror.

  • Why now? Um, I mention change. A big thing for me is helping people be, ah, human beings

  • at work. So bring yourself to work is a motto we have. I think that is very necessary, um...

  • One reason it's necessary that if you are not feeling this body it can be quite hard

  • to be compassionate to feel other people and also the bigger body, which (inaudible) will

  • talk about later. So the earth as well as a critical factor. Um, if that's too big,

  • just the factor of stress and well being absolutely vital feeling your body for that.

  • The problem is this: when we are our best selves our leadership is beautiful. I'm sure

  • on your best days, you all have beautiful leadership. You really embody your values.

  • All different but all special and wonderful. (inaudible) stuff happens. Stuff grabs us.

  • Stuff throws us off center in my language. Here there are two dogs. Ah, it's pretty primal

  • with this stuff. It goes back to being an amoeba actually but definitely back to being

  • a dog, um, they are both in what I call a disstress response. Two different versions

  • of it. So one is in the aggressive, tight response. The other one is in more of a fearful,

  • collapsed response. Both of these are not ideal states for leading in.

  • In your average day, you might not get bogged up by a big dog, but you might get a scary

  • email. You might get a phone call you don't expect from a client saying, "ah, yea, our

  • budget has been cut. We can no longer do that piece of work with you." What other kind of

  • things that you get that throws you off center? Just a couple people kinda shout out. What

  • grabs you? What perturbs you? The speakers will grab you today. I guarantee that.

  • Mmm? (inaudible)

  • Okay, negative results. What else? Just a couple from people just wanna hear your worlds.

  • (inaudible) Apathy. Okay, so that throws you off center...

  • ha! Ok. What else? One more. (inaudible)

  • Ok. So it's anything outside of your comfort zone. You know? Whatever that is in your world.

  • This throws into a state that I call off center, which isn't ideal for leadership. Um, this

  • is a process that I can take you through. It's a quick win. You learn it easily and

  • quickly, and you can practice it your whole life. We're going to do this experientially.

  • That's more than enough of me talking, so can you all stand up and walk over to the

  • dojo area, which is over here. So, um, the exercise that we are going to

  • do is stimulate the distress response, so you can then center. We're going to do this

  • in a safe, progress way. We start small and work our way up. The person receiving is in

  • charge. The first thing to do is check they're not wearing any watches, ring, jewelry, because

  • I'm going to grab their arm. So, is it okay if I grab your arm?

  • Yep. Stand to the side. Start gently. Give 'em

  • a little grab. Now, we need enough to stimulate a physical response, but not so much we tramautive

  • them and freak them out, they run out in tears, and never come back. You know? So, she says

  • too much or too little? Do you want more or ...

  • More. A little bit more... yea. Okay. She stands

  • fast. She needs more. So I build, put it up fifty percent. Okay, so now we got noticeable

  • physical response that's enough. So what did you do in your body?

  • I could fee my body jump. Jump, so you came up. What else?

  • Ah, my shoulders' tensed. Okay. Anything else?

  • Ah, breathing stopped. Okay, great. So, um, you're human. This is

  • fairly typical response. There different variations on it. Abdominal, the jaw tightening is another

  • one to watch out. It's important that you get really specific rather just say, ah, I

  • just freaked out or I got stressed. If you get specific you can then undo those things

  • when you center. So this time.. relax your shoulder. I'll take

  • you through the ABCs, so you are aware of your body, feeling the felt sense of your

  • body. Balance, so grounded down, expanded out. Relaxing the center line, relax the tongue,

  • relax the abdominal muscles. Aahh... that kind of feeling.

  • Haahh. There we go. I'm going to grab you again.

  • Ready? Mmhmm.

  • Okay, so I used the same, ah, degree of grab if not a little bit more. How was it that

  • time? I could feel the kinda outside of me shake

  • but the inside stayed very firm. Okay, you probably noticed a lot less movement

  • as well. Yea, so, this of course, there is the movement that I just like physical give

  • her, but there isn't the distress response so much being stimulated. Often it will feel...

  • like, okay, something, I've been grabbed, but it's not so bad. It's okay. It's manageable.

  • Yea? It's quite different from the first time. Very.

  • So it's a before and after test. Essentially, you can test experiementially with each other

  • then you swap roles. Um, start gently. If someone is really, ah, well, either really

  • centered, done lots of meditation, or has, has various things going on you can grab and

  • shout, but build up to that. Start gently. Haha.

  • So safety points... who's in charge here? Me or her? Who's in charge?

  • She's in charge. She's in charge. The receiver is in charge.

  • Yea. And also watch out that you don't smash someone's brand new Rolex that probably, that

  • will stimulate distress response, but there will be a form or something to fill in. So,

  • grab someone from your home group, pair up with them, you're going to have five minutes

  • for this, so nice and quick. (Speaking)

  • Centering is a way of getting ourself together under pressure, so we all have things in life

  • which surprise us, grab us, shock us whether that's emails or a difficult phone call whatever

  • it is something comes up. And then it's how do we get us out of the shocked, tense state

  • to, back to where we can the best leaders we can be.

Take a moment to feel your bodies. My question to you today is how is your body

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