a business and a life that you love, and I know you do. Today’s question comes from

Poonam and she writes:

“Hi Marie, I love your videos and your energy. Here’s my Q. I’m really bad at making

decisions. Whenever I have to make a decision I start calling around and asking everyone

what should I do. I feel like everything I’m doing in my life is based on decisions made

for me by somebody else. Later on I regret that I listened to all these people because

things usually get bad. But still I’m not able to make my own decisions. Is there a

way that I can improve my decision making skills? Thanks, Poonam.”

Poonam, great question. First thing I want you to know, you are completely capable of

making your own decisions, and smart ones at that. You’re just not practiced at it

yet. So here are a few strategies that can help.

Strategy number one is put down the clipboard. Poonam, running around constantly asking others

for their opinion is a bad habit you need to drop like a hot pocket. Right now you’re

a survey addict and the only way you’re gonna kick this habit is to put down

the clipboard.

All kidding aside, the most important step that you can take to improve your decision

making skills is to trust yourself to start making them, and that means you need to go

cold turkey on group surveys.

Strategy number two is be the decider. So check it out, you already make tons of decisions

every day, you’re just probably not aware of them. You know, which way should I walk,

what do I wanna wear, should I wear my bra on the inside or the outside, should I send

this as an email or text? So you’re making decisions all the time and you just gotta

start paying attention to them. Yes, I know, these are little decisions, but the point

is you make them and if you make small ones you can make big ones. In fact, I wrote a

song for you that I think should be your new anthem.

If it’s good enough for Queen Bey, you know what I’m talking about? So here’s the

point: be the decider and celebrate that and I promise it’ll give you more confidence.

Strategy number three is dial 888-INNER-WISDOM. Here’s the deal, so many of us make the

mistake of constantly looking outside of ourselves for help with life’s big decisions. Now,

of course it’s ok to talk with people you trust, but right now, Poonam, you are completely

disconnected from your own truth, so you need to dial your inner wisdom hotline because,

here’s the deal, the advice that’ll never steer you wrong comes from within. It’s

called listening to your heart or your higher self or your intuition.

You have 24/7 access to this wisdom as long as you know the right numbers to dial. What

I mean is, how to listen to your intuition, how to actually tap into your heart. Now,

we’ve already done some episodes about this, so I will put the links below. With practice

you are gonna feel confident, you’re gonna feel strong, and you are going to love making

your own decisions. In fact, the best part about it can be summed up in this Tweetable.

“The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.”

That was my A to your Q, Poonam, I hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you.

Are you a good solo decision maker or are you addicted to other people’s opinions?

Now, if you’ve been able to sharpen your own decision making skills, I would love to

know how you did it.

As always, the most awesome discussions happen after the episode over at the magical fairytale

land of MarieForleo.com, so get your buns over there and leave a comment now.

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