a feud fester into adulthood can cause serious damage. Here's how to put an end to your sibling

rivalry. You will need Understanding and willingness to compromise. Step 1. Understand the roots

of sibling rivalry. Studies show that conflicts often begin in childhood due to factors such

as parental treatment, gender, family dynamics, and age differential. Step 2. Recognize your

sibling as an actual person. Avoid the temptation to regress to childhood labels like "the attention

seeker” or "the perfect one" -- your sibling has likely long outgrown that phase. Step

3. Pinpoint the source of friction. It's easy to shift the blame of your rivalry entirely

onto your sibling, but acknowledging your own part will give you a deeper understanding

of the conflict. Step 4. Hash out the hostility. Start by saying "I'm sorry" for whatever part

you may have played in the sibling rivalry. Researchers have found people automatically

respond positively to hearing an apology. Then, focus on reaching an understanding and

ways to fix the problem. If you live apart from your sibling, don't use a family gathering

to confront them. Plan to meet in a neutral setting or talk over the phone. Step 5. Realize

what you can and can't change about your relationship, and try to make peace with a compromise. You

may not be able to choose your family, but you _can_ do your best to overcome sibling

rivalry. Did you know 80% of siblings over the age of 60 say they've ended their rivalry,

while 4% stay angry forever, according to a survey.