Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you're watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

嘿，我是瑪莉．芙萊奧 (美國跨多行業專家)，你正在收看的是 MarieTV，這裡能讓你學會創造

and a life that you love. And I love that you're here with me today. You know why?

你所熱愛的事業與生活，好喜歡與你們在這相處的時光，知道為什麼嗎？

Because it's Q&A Tuesday, one of my favorite days of the week, really. It's all about

因為今天是星期二的你問我答時間，一週當中我最愛的一天，一切只是

Q's and A's and today's question comes from Giuliana. Pretty name. And she writes:

問與答，而今天的問題來自茱莉雅娜，好好聽的名字，上面寫道：

“Hi Marie, how do I know when the obstacles are just part of the game or it's just too

「嗨，瑪莉，當阻礙來臨時，我要怎麼樣才能知道它只是考驗，還是真的令人

hard? You have to be pushed sometimes, right? But how do I know when it's the right time

不堪負荷？我們都知道有時候做事情要懂得堅持，對吧？但我又該如何知道

to push and recommit or if it's just time to give up and quit? Thank you so much, Giuliana.”

何時該堅持、往前衝，或是乾脆選擇放棄退出呢？非常感謝妳，茱莉雅娜」

Giuliana, this is a big, juicy question and the truth is, there are so many factors that

茱莉雅娜，這還真的是個大課題，老實說，不同的情況都不能混為一談

make every situation unique. Sometimes the smart thing to do is to quit. We'll talk

因為當中涉含許多不同的因素，有時候最聰明的辦法就是放棄它，這一點我們

about that in a minute. But other times you gotta dig deeper and recommit.

待會再來說明，但其他時候一定試著再加以努力、重新出發。

While I don't have all the answers, I do have some tips that will help you find yours.

雖然我無法給妳很確切的答案，但我倒是有一些小提醒，能釐清自己應該怎麼做

First thing is that quitters do win. You know that old saying that quitters never win and

第一個就是「半途而廢也會成功」，我們都聽過「半途而廢的人不會成功，成功的人永不放棄」

winners never quit? Total BS. It's just not true. To stay with something just because

這句話，對吧？這完全在唬爛，根本不正確。僅只為了害怕感覺或看起來像個輸家

you're afraid of feeling like or looking like a loser is not a smart strategy.

就死守在那不放棄，是很不明智的做法，所以我

So I want to give you a reframe. It's called the power of positive quitting. This is what

希望可以改變一下你們的觀念，也就是正向放棄的力量。這是當你

happens when you realize that you've gone as far as you can go with a particular project

發現你的專案已經發展到盡頭了，還繼續堅持死守在那

and it's actually not smart to keep going. You should cut your losses and redirect your

反而是不明智的做法。你應該削減損失，並且重新將時間跟資源

time and your resources into a new direction. So let me give you an example from my own life.

投入到新的方向，接下來我會以我自己生活中發生的事情做為例子

A few years ago I had spent a lot of time and money and energy building this beautiful custom

一年多前，我花了大量時間、資金與心力建造這個美好的

online membership forum. So it was going great, it was awesome. We had opened up the membership,

客製網路會員論壇，一開始進行得很順利、很美好，開拓了我們的會員

a lot of people paid us, and they came in, and guess what happened?

便有許多人願意加入會員、付費使用，但猜後來怎麼樣？

The whole thing friggin' crashed and burned. It was a nightmare. Now uh, what I did is took

最後一整個是徹底的失敗，變成一場惡夢，好呃，後來這件事情我想了一下

a look and said, “Ok, all this money and time and energy I spent? I'm pulling the plug

並決定：「好，這件事花了我那麼多時間金錢跟心力，最後變這樣？我不幹了

We're getting out of here.” So of course I took care of my customers, we changed

一切就此終止」，當然我有顧慮到我的客戶，所以我們後來

platforms, everything was fine, but the point is I took a look at it and I said, “This

換個平臺繼續，一切進行地都還算順利，重點是我回想並意識到：

is the right thing to quit because I'm not gonna win going any further.” So I 86-ed

提早放棄是對的，因為再繼續下去我不可能有獲利的機會，於是我放棄了

that whole thing, which brings me to my next point.

所有事情，這就接續到我的下個重點 (譯註：根據城市字典的解釋，86 表示「取消、拒絕、摒除」)

Number two, you gotta fork over the freedom fee. So here’s what I mean by this. Sometimes

第二，「你必須心不甘情不願付出自由的代價」，這裡我的意思是指說，有時候 (譯註：fork over通常用來表來「心不甘情不願做某件事」)

we've got a lot of money or time or ego invested in the project and we feel like there's

我們投注了許多金錢、時間、面子在一項專案裡，會覺得既然已經付出太多沉沒成本 (譯註：sunk cost 就是指「已經投入卻無法回收的成本」)

a ton of sunk costs and we don't wanna let it go. I get it. But you've gotta reframe that.

就捨不得鬆手放棄。這我懂，但關於這點你最好也重新思考一下

Just like when you're trying to switch cell phone companies and they make you pay

就好像你想換家電信公司的時候，他們會要你

that big fee to get out. That's what it's like sometimes with a project. If you start

繳一大筆違約金，這就跟處理專案的情況很像，如果你能

to think about just letting this thing go and you get all kinds of mental and emotional

直接放棄並釋懷，讓你的內心有各種的不同的情緒的話 (譯註：也就是不要只是感到惋惜、難過等負面情緒)

bandwidth, it's gonna make it a lot easier to eat those costs.

這會讓吸收那成本變得簡單許多

Number three, hard happens. Look, things in life get hard. I mean, we can all agree on

第三，「困難常常在發生」，聽好，生命處處充滿困難，大家都能同意這點

that. Right? ( - Oh yeah~ - Hands up!) But seriously, do not get caught up in the myth of flow. Yes, sometimes things

沒錯吧？ ( - 喔，真的沒錯~ - 舉雙手贊成！) 但說認真的，千萬別陷入事情順利發展的泥淖之中，是沒錯，有時事情發展順利

do flow but not always. Very often, you know what? Things do get hard. So don't believe

但並非每次都如此，聽過這句話嗎？「人生不如意，十之八九」，

anybody when they tell you, “Oh, if it's really right for you, it's so easy and it

所以如果有人跟你說：「如果有一件事真的適合你，它對你來說相當簡單

flows and it just… it's a natural unfolding of your you-ness.”

進展也很順利，因為你只是在自然發揮你的天賦。」的時候，拜託聽聽就好了

Natural unfolding my badonkadonk. You know what unfolds naturally? A bath towel. Kind of.

自然發揮個頭啦！你知道什麼東西才是真正自然發揮的嗎？就是浴巾，或許吧

So I've had lots of projects that are totally worthwhile and you know what?

我曾經做過許多很有意義的專案，而且你們知道嗎？

Hard things actually pop up. So when that happens for me, I realize I gotta dig in deeper and push through.

困難常常出現。當困難發生的時候，我知道我得再更加努力、設法通過考驗

Sometimes it means I take a little break or sometimes it means I change my approach.

有時候那表示我該休息一下了，有時表示我該改變進行方向

But the point here is, obstacles don't mean you should quit. Sometimes you've really

但重點是，障礙擋在前面時，不代表你就該放棄，有時候你更是要

got to push through. Now, I know in this whole question we still haven't helped you decide

努力設法通過考驗。我知道就妳提出的問題來說，以上的忠告無法確切協助

whether or not you should quit or commit, so here are two strategies that'll help

決定到底是該放棄還是堅持，所以接下來的兩項策略技巧能幫助

you find clarity.

釐清心中要的答案

First up, the 10 year test. Now, we've talked about this before on MarieTV, but we're repeating

第一招，「10 年之後見真章」，雖然這點我們在之前的影片就有提過，不過這邊再提一次

it because it works. I want you to ask yourself, 10 years in the future will you regret quitting

因為它真的有用，我要你們捫心自問，10 年之後，你是否會後悔你現在

this project right now? So going back to my example, when that website crashed and burned

放棄這項專案？回到我前面所舉的例子，當初網頁執行徹底失敗的時候

I asked myself, “Am I gonna regret 10 years from now just giving this whole thing up?”

我反問自己：「我 10 年之後會不會後悔我現在放棄掉這些東西？」

Not at all. It was one project, it taught me a lot, but that was it. I wasn't gonna

答案是不會，因為那只是一個專案，我從中學到很多，但僅只如此，我不會為了它

cry over it. So that's the same thing I want you to do. I want you to recognize whether

難過半天，所以同樣我希望你也能這樣做，我要你搞清楚

or not this project or whatever you're working on, is it a true soul goal or is it just something

目前執行的專案，或專注的事情上，是不是你真正想要的目標，又或者只是職涯途中的一站

on your journey that's taking you to something bigger?

帶你前往康莊大道的一顆墊腳石？

So Giuliana, get connected. Really ask yourself, how will you feel in 10 years?

所以啊，茱莉雅娜，好好想想，反問自己 10 年過後的想法會是如何？

Tap into your heart and really pay attention to how you feel. This isn't just a useful test, it's actually a tweetable.

傾聽內心的聲音，真實感受心中深處的想法，這招不只有用，也是我們今天的推特轉發訊息

“Your feelings will guide you if you have the courage to tap into them and listen.”

「如果你有勇氣接觸、傾聽內心的感受，那股聲音將帶領你向前邁進」

Second you want to ask for guidance. So whether you meditate or you pray or you have another

第二招就是「諮詢他人」，不論你是反思冥想、祈禱神祇

spiritual practice, the point is you've gotta plug into a higher power. Ask for some help.

抑或其他修行信仰，重點是你得要尋求更高層次。尋求他人協助就對了。

I do this all the time and it is amazing. You've gotta be open though to receiving the signs.

這方法我很常使用，結果都很棒。尋求諮詢時別忘了敞開心房

So maybe that looks like an email or maybe a call from a friend or maybe you'll

才能接收新的想法，這方法可能會是來自一封電子郵件，或是朋友的一通電話，突然間

get an intuitive flash, but the point is if you don't ask you will not receive. So, Giuliana,

你可能就會頓悟，重點就是如果你什麼都不問，那你什麼也不會得到，所以囉，茱莉雅娜

these are all the things that work for me. I know it's a big, hairy topic, there's

這兩招對我而言都滿有用的，我知道這樣的主題牽涉範圍非常廣

a lot of things to consider, but if you want another resource you might want to consider

畢竟還有其他很多因素尚待考慮，但如果妳想了解其他更多資訊的話

checking out Seth Godin's book The Dip. It's all about how to figure out when to

不妨參考賽斯．高汀的《低谷》，這本書內容主要都在談論何時該放棄，何時又該突破障礙 (譯註："The Dip" 原作於 2007 年出版，分享該如何適時放棄，才能再造高峰，臺灣中譯本於隔年發行)

quit and when to commit. So that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps.

勇往直前，以上就是我針對妳的問題給予的建議，希望真的能幫助你

So now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever struggled with when to commit and

現在我想聽聽看你們的意見，你是否曾在堅持與放棄兩難之間做掙扎呢？

when to quit? And if so, what helped you decide? I would love to hear about it in the comments

如果有，後來是什麼方法幫你做出決定？請在留言區留下你的看法吧

below. Now, as always, the best discussions happen

如往常一樣，每一集結束後，在 MarieForieo.com

after the episode over at marieforleo.com, so come on over and leave a comment now.

的網站裡，都會出現熱烈的討論，所以現在就請你到網站上，留下你的想法吧

Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel. That would be awesome.

你喜歡這部影片嗎？如果喜歡，不妨訂閱我們的頻道，如果願意將它

And share it with all of your friends. And if you want even more incredible resources to

分享給你的朋友們那當然是再好不過的，如果你想要更多超讚的資源

create a business and a life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I

去創造你熱愛的事業及生活，或者想要我只會在 email 裡

only get to talk about in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.

提到的個人洞見的話，那就來 MarieForleo.com 網站，並且註冊以利收到電子報

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world really needs that

繼續闖蕩你的事業，並繼續朝著你的夢想邁進，因為這世界正需要

special gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I'll catch you

你那獨一無二的天賦，非常感謝你的收看，我們下回再於

next time on MarieTV.

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