Please leave the theatre now and come back at the end of my talk.

請你離開演講廳，等演講結束之後再回來

You can’t say you weren’t warned.

不能說我沒有警告你

I dated younger men. The two men in their twenties and so I have sex with younger men.

我曾經跟年輕的男生交往，兩個年輕的男生，在他們二十多歲的時候，所以我跟他們發生性關係

And so having sex with younger men, I encountered not with all the men I date but with a number.

所以跟年輕的男生發生關係，我遇到一些狀況，當然不是所有的男生都如此，但至少是我交往過的一些男生

What happens when total freedom of access to hard-core pornography online meets our reluctance as a society to talk

情況是這樣的，我們有完全的自由可以在網路上看到全裸的情色畫面，然而社會卻拒絕

Openly and honestly about sex. And results in porn therefore the coming by default the sex education of today.

公開的、坦誠的討論性事，也因此今日的性教育也沒有太多討論

Not a good thing.

不是一件好事

So when I realize this and nearly four years ago, I launched at Ted 2009 a website put up a new money very basic, very clinking.

我四年前了解到這個問題的存在，我在2009年TED的時候發行了一個網站，用了一些錢架設最簡單的、俗氣的

At make love not porn dot com. The post the mix of hardcore porn and balance of them with the reality.

就是makelovenotporn.com，上面的內容融合了色情的畫面以及一些真實的裸照

The construct is porn world, real-world. This is what happens in the porn world.

建立在色情世界和真實世界之上，這邊是色情片上面的樣子

This is what really happens in the real world.

另一邊是真實世界的樣子

I was very straightforward in my Ted talk. As one torturer said it was the first time the words comment my face.

在TED演講上，我非常的直接坦白，也是第一次有毒舌評論，直接批評我的臉

Having heard on the Ted’s stage six times in session.

在TED的講台上六次，我的理念被許多人聽見

My talk went viral and the response has been absent extraordinary ever since.

我的演講很快的被散播，各種的評論也從來沒缺席過，一直到現在

And the most extraordinary thing separate from very high traffic to the site.

同時得到了非凡的效果，網站的流量相當高

From every country in the world with zero promotion from me.

並且有來自世界各地的瀏覽紀錄，而且我個人沒有做任何的行銷

Has been that every single day for the past nearly four years.

過去四年的每一天

I get emails to my make love not porn inbox.

我從makelovenotporn的網站信箱收到許多郵件

And I get them from young people and older people. I get them from men and women.

我收到來自年輕人、老年人的信件，收到男的、女的

Make love not porn is a chance to equal proposition.

這是一個兩性平等的網站

Girls watch porn too. They’re just as influenced by porn as default sex education as boys.

女生也會看A片，他們也跟男生一樣會被A片誤導，因為性教育的缺乏

From gay and straight, for all around the world.

也收到世界各地的同性戀、異性戀的郵件

And what amazes people is the fact that I stood on stage and talk about.

讓大家很驚奇的是，我能夠站在舞台上談論這件事

And I’m doing something about what everybody knows and no one ever speaks about.

我正在做的事情是大家都知道的事情，但是從來沒有人講出來

And so people feel able to tell me anything. They pour their hearts out to an email.

因此人們覺得他們可以對我講任何事，他們在信件裡面傾心吐意

They tell me things about the sex lies in the porn watching habits that they never told anybody else before.

他們告訴我在A片裡面的謊言、他們看A片的喜好，而且他們從來沒有告訴過任何人

And those emails overtime began making me feel that I had a responsibility to take make love not porn forward

累積了這麼多的信件，我發覺到我有義務把這個網站在更向前推進一步

In a way that will make it much more far-reaching helpful and effective.

讓它能夠對更都人有幫助、有更大的效益

Make love not porn is not anti-porn. The issue I’m tacking is not porn.

Makelovenotporn 不是反對A片，我想要處理的議題不是色情

I’m tackling the total lack in our society offer open healthy honest conversation around sex and porn.

我想要面對的是社會上缺少了可以健康地、誠實地討論性事和色情的機會

Which then enable amongst many other benefits

這同時也可以帶來許多其他的好處

People to bring the real world mindset to the viewing of what’s the century artificial entertainment.

人們可以有心理準備，帶著真實世界的狀況來觀看這個幾世紀以來人造的娛樂

Our tack line is pro sex, pro porn, pro knowing the difference.

我們的立場是支持性、支持色情、支持理解兩者間的不同

And make love not porn entire message brought down to talk about it.

Makelovenotporn所要傳達的訊息就是開始談論這件事

And that’s because we all get very vulnerable when we get naked.

而我們在赤裸的時候都會感到格外的脆弱

Sexual egos are very fragile. People find it bizarrely difficult to talk about sex with the people that actually having it with while they actually having it.

性方面的自我也是非常脆弱的，人們莫名其妙地對於和他們發生關係的人討論性事，感到難以啟齒

Because you’re terrified of hurting others person’s feelings, point out a view, derailing the entire encounter.

因為你害怕會傷害到別人的感情，說出你的感覺會破壞整個交往的情誼

Derailing the entire relationship. But at the same time you want to please your partner.

破壞這段關係，但是在這個同時你又想取悅你的伴侶

You want to make them happy. So you’ll seize your cues on how to do that from anyway you can.

你想要讓他們歡愉，所以你會抓住任何線索和跡象，讓你知道該怎麼做

And if it only cues you have are from porn, those are the ones you take to not a very good effect.

然而如果你的線索來源是從A片裡面得到，你所做的並沒有很好的反應

So I’m decided that what I want to do is take every dynamic that exists out there in social media currently.

所以我決定要做的事情就是把握現存在社會媒體之中的動力

And apply them to the one area that no social media network platform has ever gone or ever dare to go which is sex.

把他們實踐在一個從來沒有人做、也沒人敢做的社群平台上，也就是性

I want to socialize sex. And to make real world sex socially acceptable and therefore adjust the socially sharable and discussable.

我想要把性事社群化，讓真實的世界可以接受性這件事情，所以他們可以在社交之中被討論、分享

As anything else that we currently share and discuss on Facebook, Twitter, Tumbler, Instagram.

就如同我們現在常常分享、討論的社群一樣，臉書、推特、Tumbler、Instagram

So 11 weeks ago I and my two co-funders CTO Cory Enis, user experience got us in the chase

11個禮拜以前，我和我的合夥人，CTO葛瑞 茵尼斯，根據使用者經驗

We launched in beta make love not porn dot tv.

我們開設了測試的網站makelovenotporn.tv

Makelovenotpron.tv is a user generated crowd source platform where anybody from anywhere in the world.

Makelovenotporn.tv是一個使用者可以操縱的資源平台，世界各地的任何一個人都可以使用

One of you can upload and submit videos of yourselves having real world sex.

你可以上傳、提交一個你真實的做愛影片

Having the sex you really have in the real world. And I and my team curate, we review everything.

一個發生在真實世界的性愛，我和我的團隊會檢視所有的內容

This is not youporn, pornhub, Xtube. We’re not porn. We’re not ameture. We’re real world sex.

這不是youporn、pornhub、Xtube，我們不是色情網站，我們也不是業餘的，我們是真實世界的性愛

What do I mean by that. Well…real world sex is funny.

這是什麼意思的，真實世界的性愛很有趣

If you can’t laugh at yourselves having sex, when can you?

如果你自己都不覺得有趣了，你什麼時候可以?

Porn world sex is not funny. Porn is paradise but the sex is deadly ends.

在A片裡面的性事不有趣，A片裡面是天堂，但是性愛是死板板的

One of the reasons I want to do this is I want to reassure people the same shit happens to all of us.

其中一個我想做這件事的原因，也是想要確認大家都會發生一樣的糗事

Because we never talk about it. We go ‘oh my god! That was so excruciating, embarrassing. I never speak about this to anybody ever’

因為我們從來不談論，我們會說”天啊!這太害羞了、這太尷尬了，我從來沒有跟任何人討論過”

So for example, the total nightmare putting the condom on.

舉例來說，一個天大的噩夢就是帶保險套

Guys always know how to do the magic. Shhh. As you all know it does not happen like that.

男生都會知道怎麼做這個魔法。噓！才不是，你們都知道事情不是那樣發生的

Why it doesn’t happen like that things goes soft juices and strong up encounters get derailed.

為什麼不是像魔法一般呢？男生的生殖器一下軟趴趴，等會兒勃起，整件事情完全脫序

Queer things, funny faults. Everyone does. Nothing to be shame of.

怪異的事情、好笑的錯誤。每個人都會犯的，不用覺得不好意思

We want to category make love not porn dot tv that is sexually equivalent to America funnies home videos.

在makelovenoporn.tv網站上面我們想做性的分類，就像美國家庭喜劇片分類一樣

Because some people film themselves having sex. You never see the outtakes but there’s a market for that.

因為有人錄下他們自己的性愛，你不會知到這所帶來的效果，和可以利用的價值

Imagine the sex equivalent to ‘Charles bit my finger’ which is now have over 450 million views on YouTube.

想像你的性愛影片就跟”Charles bit my finger”一樣，在Youtube上面已經超過四億五千萬的點閱率

Imagine the appeal of that in a sex context.

想像這個熱門度在性愛影片上

So real world sex is funny. Real world sex is messy.

所以真實世界的性愛是好笑的，真實世界的性愛是混亂的

It also amuses me when people talk about porn is being dirty.

這也讓我覺得很有趣，人們討論A片時覺得他們很骯髒

Because porn actually sanitize the sex. In porn, nobody has hair.

A片其實把做愛演得太過衛生，A片裡面沒有人有體毛

You never see anybody using loop even the gallons on set.

你沒看過在裡面有人帶套或是用潤滑劑

You never see any of those nice messy things that happen in real world sex.

在真實世界的性愛，不會那麼美好

So we won’t encounter like period sex. Never see that in porn.

我們更不會看到月經來的時候的做愛，從來沒在A片看過

And as a result, unfortunate myth of sprung up for those guys and girls goes ‘wow! Can’t have sex during a period.’

因此，對於那些有性衝動的男孩女孩們，這個不幸的神話就成立了”哇!月經來的時候不能做愛”

I promise you, you can.

我跟你保證，你可以

So we invite the hottest most arousing real world sex content that is sex during a period.

所以我們蒐集了真實世界裡面最熱門、最激情的性愛內容

Blood everywhere, no big deal. Take the time when I’m with your tit. Whatever turns you on.

到處都是血，沒甚麼大不了，你可以慢慢的愛撫你自己，只要讓你有性欲

Real world sex is responsible. In porn, either, there are no condoms or all of a sudden the condom is on.

真實世界的做愛是要負責任的，A片裡面都不用保險套，或是突然之間就有保險套了

Jump cut. They’re having the sex. Where did that come from?

剪掉那些畫面，他們就在做愛了，但是保險從哪裡來的?

So we invite the hottest most arousing real world sex content that actively compete eroticized condom usage.

所以蒐集了最熱門、最激情的真實性愛，並且包括了保險套的使用

What’s the hottest most arousing way you can introduce a condom in to the action?

還有什麼更激情的方式可以以行動介紹保險套的使用呢?

Put it on. Take it off. Disposes of it.

帶上套、拿下來、丟掉

I have sex with the condoms all the time. I want to watch my kind of sex.

我做愛的時候都用保險套，我想要看到我這種的性愛

But I particularly want creative ideas for those awkward condom moments that we all go through.

我特別想要那些創意的點子，那些我們都曾經歷過的保險套窘境

And if more of us having more creative ideas on how to make this awkward condom moment hot and arousing.

如果有更多創意的型式來讓這些尷尬的保險套窘境更好笑、更激情

There will be a lot more safe sex happening. A lot less STD and a lot less unwanted pregnancies.

就可以有更多的安全性行為，更少的性病、更少的意外懷孕

So that’s what I mean by real world sex.

所以真實世界的性愛就是這個意思

And our business model is that we charge you to submit small token of nominal fee.

我們的營運模式就是你繳交的時候，會收取一點手續費

It’s the local equivalent of US five dollars for submission.

就跟其他一樣，提交影片收取五塊美金

That’s curation fee. It’s also for quality control that screens out spam as crap.

這是處理的人工費用，也是為了保障品質，去掉那些垃圾或是無用的畫面

Then we charge you to view, not to download, because we host in stream.

你觀看的時候會收費，不是下載收費，因為我們是線上看的形式

But to rent. So when you click on the video you like, you pay five bucks and you can view it as many times as you like over a three-week period.

想是租片一樣，你按你喜歡的影片，你付五塊錢，然後你就在三個禮拜之內無限次觀看

And you can show it to anybody else cause it’s in your fiscal sanity of your laptop, your cell phone.

你也可以給你的朋友看，因為這算是你電腦或是手機裡面的財產

And then we revenue your share. We give you the contributor the make love not porn star we like to call you.

我們也會回饋你的分享，我們稱你為makelovenotporn的貢獻者

We give you fifty percent of the revenues that you make love not porn.tv content generates.

你的影片50%的收入，會回饋給你

Which first of all, isn’t an incentive to you to actually promoted through the network share it socially.

第一，這是對於你在社群網絡上推展的獎勵

And help drama acting for us. And secondly, if we hope one day, we hit critical mass and one day

當然也是為我們演出，第二，五們希望，如果有一天可以戰勝輿論

Your makelovenotporn.tv video could hit the YouTube holy grail of a million rentals at five bucks per rental.

你在makelovenotporn.tv上的影片可以上到Youtube這個殿堂，你百萬計的點閱率可以收到每筆五塊錢的租金

We give you the half revenue you’re laughing. This has the potential to be what we like to call the ‘etsy of sexy’

我們給你一半的所得，這個我們稱他叫做”極致的性感”

This is the way you can create your own cottage industry doing what comes naturally, the way it comes naturally.

如此一來，你的家庭即工廠，你可以用最自然發生的事情、自然的賺錢

Which make recession toward economy the world over and with global.

這個也是對抗全球經濟蕭條的另一解法

And we hope also be quite appealing proposition

我們也希望可以吸引到更多的注目

So what my team and I doing is we’re building a platform and tools to be what we call sexual social currency.

所以我和我的團隊正在架設一個平台和工具，叫做性的社群貨幣

We are taking everything that makes Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram so addicted to people.

我們抓住了臉書、推特、Tumblr、Instagram讓人們上癮的特性

And apply it to the one air those guys will never go. We have lots of social features that have social functions.

將這些特性運用，讓使用者再也不離開，我們有很多社群的特性、功能

So for example, you’ll be able to curate and put together your own make love not porn .tv playlist.

比如說，你可以自己蒐集、整理你的makelovenotporn播放清單

Just what you do on ITunes and Spotify. And that playlist might be the solitary usage.

就像你在iTunes和Spofitfy上面一樣，這個清單可能是要壯陽用的

So maybe it’s collection of scenes to get you off in 20 seconds every time.

或是這個清單能讓你在20秒內失去性致

But it could also be the sex equivalent of a mix tape.

他也可以是熱門的性愛選集

So imagine that you become dating this really hot guy or girl.

想像一下，你正在跟這位超帥、超正的男孩或女孩約會

Your curation put together at makelovenotporn.tv playlist. You send it to them then we have a gifting capability.

你自己挑選了makelovenotporn.tv上的清單，你把清單傳給他們，我們也有送禮物的功能

And because it’s us, it’s socially okay to do that. And that playlist might just be

因為是我們的平台，這個社群可以讓你這麼做，這個播放清單也許是

Here are some hot stuff to share next time together but it could also be here’s what I’m really into.

有趣熱門的東西，我們下次可以一起分享，或者是這是我喜歡的類型

This is what I would really like you to do to me.

或者可以表示，你對我這樣做我會很舒服

This is what would actually really make me calm and by send this playlist.

或是說你這樣做就能讓我冷靜下來，只要傳送清單就可以表達

I don’t have to have the actual conversation out loud in words have been forbid, because that’d be really awkward and embarrassing for both of us.

我不會真正的大聲說出來這類的禁忌話題，因為兩方都會覺得尷尬不好意思

And I can see how you respond and we can take it from there.

我們可以先看看對方的反應，在從那邊接續

Then, we have a system of rating and scoring. So you can rate the content holistically.

我們也有自己的評分系統，你可以針對內容善意的評分

But we also have in video timeline scoring.

我們同時也有影片時序的評分

We’re very interested in which bits of the video you find most hot and compelling.

我們很好奇，影片的哪個片段吸引你、讓你覺得火熱

We are dated sexual in a very different way from the way that Pamilla intended originally.

我們對於性的期待和潘蜜拉原來期待的有很大的差異

This platform has a potential one day to be the Kinsey of today.

這個平台有潛力可以成為明日之星

Real world, real time, real life human sexual behavior.

真實、即時、時計的人類性愛行為

I could get that nobody else is doing but when it came designing.

我相信沒有任何人正在做這件事情，但是真正要設計

That in video timeline scoring system. We have to take the count the fact that getting to amuses me when people talk about watching porn.

影片時序評分系統的時候，我們要面對的是人們在看A片時可以得到的娛樂效果

Nobody’s watching porn when wonky. This is not entertainment you watch.

沒有人會在沒性慾的時候看A片，他不是那種娛樂效果

It’s the entertain you’re activate to. So we have design an in video timeline and scoring system is very simple.

這是你有衝動的時候會觀看的娛樂。所以我們要設計的影片時序和評分系統非常的簡單

Easy to use and one handed.

簡單使用，一手使用

So we have designed our own unit of appreciation. Our version of the Fackbook like is the makelovenotporn.tv yes.

我們自己研發了獨特的按讚方式，makelovenotporn.tv版本的按讚就是Yes

So you score by going yes. Yes yes. Yes yes.

你可以以yes來評分，yes yes. Yes yes.

And all you have to do is hit the spacebar. You can do in one hand. You can do it left handed or right handed.

你只要抓穩手把，可以用單手完成，左撇子右撇子都可以

We have a system of badges and stickers like foursquares that reward talent and skills and achievements.

我們也有徽章或是貼紙的系統，就像foursquares一樣，會給特別的成就和技巧獎勵

So the first time you contribute you get a newby badge. And we are deliberately designing a mechanism.

你第一次貢獻影片可以得到新人獎徽章，我們特別的設計了一套機制

To encourage you to push your sexual boundaries.

來獎勵你拓展自己性的界限

So the very first time you either view or contribute content outside your normal rail.

所以第一次，你觀看或是貢獻給你交友圈以外的人

You get the explore badge. And all of this builds up your sexual profile on makelovenotporn.tv

你會得到探索者的徽章，這些徽章可以建構你makelovenotporn.tv上的性介紹頁

Because sex is personality. Who we are sexually is as much part of how we self-identify and self express.

因為性愛也是有個性的，我們在性方面如何也是一種自我認同、自我表現

As any other talent skill or trait we currently public to showcase in social media.

就如同其他公開在社群上討論的才藝、特性一樣

And by the way, we also have a category where porn star get to post the sex they have in the off camera in the real world.

順帶一提，我們也有一個專區是A片演員他們可以上傳他們在真實世界裡面性愛

Because porn star have real world sex too which is completely different from the sex they have on the camera.

因為A片演員也在真實世界做愛，而且跟鏡頭裡面的完全不一樣

Make love not porn has brought to me many people who reached out saying love what you’re doing, want to help.

Makelovenotporn也讓我接觸到很多人贊同我們正在做的事情並且像要幫忙

Including much to my surprise, when this first began happening, a lot of people in the porn industry.

一開始的時候，有許多人讓我驚訝，很多人是從事性行業的

Specifically generation Y porn. Your generation porn is like your generation anywhere else.

特別是Yporn，這個世代的A片就像你這個世代的其他東西一樣

They’re entrepreneurial. They’re ambitious. They’re questioning and challenging the old world and they want to be a part of the new.

他們是企業、他們有企圖心，他們會質疑、挑戰舊的世代，他們想要成為新世代的一部分

Twenty-something porn stars and porn directors reached out to me of their own volition.

二十幾歲的A片演員和A片導演對我表白他們自己的意志

Saying we love this initiative. We want to help.

他們說他們喜歡這樣的初衷，他們也想要幫忙

So you’ll see on makelovenotpron.tv, my friend Danny Wylde and Lydia Bow who are twenty-something porn stars and a real-life couple.

你會看到在makelovenotporn.tv上面我的朋友丹妮懷德和莉蒂亞保，他們是二十幾歲的A片演員也是真實世界的情侶

Having the sex they really having in a real relationship. My friend Lily Kate who’s a lesbian porn star.

在真實世界裡面發生關係，還有我的朋友莉莉凱特，他是蕾絲邊的A片演員

Having a sex, she really has with her real girlfriends.

她和她真實世界的女朋友的性愛

All of which goes to demonstrate up point that porn is not real world sex.

這些都在在的說明了A片和真實世界裡的性愛的差異

And we want people to understand the difference.

我們想要人們認知到這樣的差別

You have no idea. How extraordinary difficult has been to make this thing to happen.

你絕對想不到，要讓這件事情成真有多麼的困難

It took me two years to get makelovenotporn.tv fund it. Very ironic.

我花了兩年才讓makelovenotporn.tv成立，很諷刺

I should be every venture capitalists and investors wet dream literally.

我應該出現在那些冒險的資本家和投資者的春夢裡面

I have an idea enabled by technology design this distributed sec worth billions of dollars

我的點子加上科技的實踐，可以讓一秒值千萬元

In the way that is both socially beneficial and potentially very very lucrative.

有潛力帶來豐厚的財富和社會的助益

But because that sec is porn and the social benefit is sexuality.

但是因為這一秒是A片，對於社會的助益是性

Nobody seems to come near me. when I finally found an angel investor to got it and put up the seed funding that we needed.

沒有人敢接近我，當我終於找到一位天使願意當做投資者，拿出我們所需的資金

I’m then couldn’t get my hands on the money for quite a while

我卻有一陣子無法把我的手離開那些錢

Because I couldn’t find a single bank anywhere that would allow me to open a business banking account

因為我找不到任何一家銀行願意讓我的事業開一個帳戶

For business that has live porn in the name. even though, the business is makelovenotporn.

只因為名字裡有A片，即使我們的事業名字是makelovenotporn

And even though we have a social mission. And by the way I still can’t

即使我們有社會的使命，順帶一題我現在還是找不到

If anybody out there knows anybody who owns the bank and believes our mission.

如果任何人知道有誰家開銀行，願意認同我們的使命