Name: 當「善良」等於失去自我？（討好行為大集合）😱 (When Being “Nice” Means Losing Yourself (Fawning Compilation))
Uploaded: 2025-12-05T18:01:03.000Z
Duration: 23 min 17 s

From a young age, society teaches us to prioritize the needs of others and put our own desires on the back burner.

從小，社會就教導我們要優先考慮別人的需求，把自己的渴望擺在後面。

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We're told that selflessness is a virtue and that taking care of ourselves is selfish.

我們被告知無私是一種美德，而照顧自己是自私的。

But in reality, self abandonment can have dire consequences for our well being.

但實際上，自我放棄可能對我們的福祉造成嚴重後果。

Neglecting our own emotions, opinions and values can lead to a sense of emptiness and disconnection from our true selves.

忽略我們自己的情緒、意見和價值觀，可能會導致空虛感和與真實自我的疏離感。

That's why it's crucial to recognize the signs of self abandonment and make a conscious effort to prioritize self care and self love.

這就是為什麼辨識自我放棄的跡象，並有意識地努力優先考慮自我照顧和自我關愛是如此關鍵。

So let's dive into the warning signs that you may be neglecting your own needs.

所以，讓我們深入探討你可能正在忽略自己需求的警訊。

People Pleasing Ever find yourself saying yes to requests, Taking on more responsibilities than you can handle, or putting your own goals and desires on the back burner to accommodate others?

取悅他人 你是否曾經發現自己對請求說「好」，承擔了超出自己負荷的責任，或是為了配合他人而把自己的目標和渴望擺在後面？

While it's natural to want to help others, when you constantly prioritize their needs before your own, it can be a sign that you're abandoning yourself.

雖然幫助別人是很自然的，但當你總是優先考慮別人的需求勝過自己的時候，這可能是一個你正在自我放棄的跡象。

According to therapist and psychology professor Dr.

Teo Smith, individuals who tend to prioritize the satisfaction of others over their own well being should explore ways of assisting others without causing harm to themselves.

Teo Smith 博士表示，那些傾向於優先考慮他人滿意度勝過自己福祉的人，應該探索如何在幫助他人時，同時避免傷害自己。

You can do this by setting boundaries and respectfully declining tasks that don't align with your comfort level while still offering your support for the ones that do.

你可以透過設定界線，尊重地拒絕不符合你舒適範圍的要求，同時仍對你願意做的給予支持。

Without a solid foundation of self care, you can't truly be there for others in a sustainable way.

如果沒有穩固的自我照顧基礎，你就無法真正且持續地支持他人。

You seek External Validation when you always put the needs of others before your own, you can develop a strong subconscious desire to receive praise, recognition and validation from them as a way to feel good about yourself.

當你總是把別人的需求放在自己之前時，你會尋求外部認可，並可能發展出強烈的潛意識渴望，從他人那裡獲得讚美、認可和肯定，以此來感覺良好。

But changing yourself to fit others expectations can result in self hatred, anxiety and stress, especially when they fail to validate you.

但為了迎合他人期望而改變自己，可能會導致自我憎恨、焦慮和壓力，尤其當他們未能認可你時。

In the words of William Shakespeare, self love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self neglecting.

套句莎士比亞的話：「自我關愛，我的領主，並非像自我忽略那樣邪惡的罪。」

Remember that there is nothing wrong or shameful about who you truly are.

請記住，你真實的樣子並沒有錯或羞恥之處。

When you learn to love yourself and stop seeking external validation, you can authentically integrate every part of yourself into everything you do.

當你學會愛自己並停止尋求外部認可時，你就能真實地將自己的每一個部分融入你所做的一切之中。

This can help you build genuine relationships with others as well as with yourself.

這能幫助你建立與他人以及與自己之間真誠的關係。

This can look like taking on a job that you don't feel comfortable with.

這可能表現為接下一份讓你感到不舒服的工作。

Being in a friend group that conflicts with your values and prevents you from being your true authentic self or pushing your emotions to the side.

待在一個與你的價值觀衝突、讓你無法展現真實自我的朋友圈，或是把情緒擺一邊。

This creates a buildup of anxiety and inner tension.

這會造成焦慮和內在緊張的累積。

You may try to find comfort in other ways by venting, getting drunk or eating unhealthily.

你可能會試圖透過發洩、喝醉或不健康飲食來尋求慰藉。

However, avoiding your emotions only perpetuates the cycle of neglect.

然而，迴避情緒只會延續忽略的循環。

Ever feel so much better after a good crying session.

痛快哭一場後，感覺是不是好多了。

According to licensed psychotherapist Sharon Martin, it's important to acknowledge and process your feelings instead of neglecting them.

根據執照心理治療師 Sharon Martin 的說法，承認並處理你的感受，而不是忽略它們，這很重要。

When you feel emotionally overwhelmed, you can try journaling, meditating, talking to a friend or therapist, or engaging in activities that bring you joy.

當你感到情緒崩潰時，可以試試寫日記、冥想、和朋友或治療師哈拉，或是做些讓你開心的事。

If possible, try finding a job or friend group who you feel comfortable and aligned with.

如果可以的話，試著找一份讓你感到自在且合拍的工作，或是一群合拍的朋友。

When you allow yourself to feel instead of trying to push your emotions aside, you can breathe, be attentive, and

當你允許自己去感受，而不是試圖把情緒推開時，你就能呼吸、專注，並且

You don't respect yourself or set boundaries when you lack self respect, you may tend to make choices that conflict with your values, which undermines your happiness and self worth.

當你缺乏自尊時，你會不尊重自己或不設定界線，你可能會做出與你的價值觀衝突的選擇，這會損害你的幸福感和自我價值。

Building self respect entails recognizing your worth and establishing healthy boundaries to ensure your needs are met.

建立自尊需要辨識你的價值並設定健康的界線，以確保你的需求得到滿足。

Setting boundaries is a crucial component of self care that requires communicating limits to others assertively and clearly.

設定界線是自我照顧的關鍵組成部分，需要自信且清晰地向他人溝通你的底線。

According to Psychotherapist Jo Nash, Ph.D.

根據心理治療師 Jo Nash 博士的說法，

setting boundaries not only fosters positive relationships but also correlates with better emotional and mental health and a stronger sense of identity.

設定界線不僅能培養正面的關係，還與更好的情緒和心理健康以及更強的自我認同感相關。

Failing to set boundaries may result in overextending yourself and neglecting your needs.

未能設定界線可能會導致你過度付出並忽略自己的需求。

It's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively, even if it makes you uncomfortable at first.

清楚且自信地溝通你的界線很重要，即使一開始會讓你感到不舒服。

This can look like saying no to requests that don't align with personal values, taking breaks when necessary, and

這可能表現為拒絕不符合個人價值觀的請求、在必要時休息，以及

communicating needs in a relationship without feeling guilty or ashamed.

在關係中表達需求而不感到內疚或羞愧。

Reflect on your situation and ask yourself honest questions.

反思你的狀況，誠實地問自己一些問題。

Is it right for you to hold so much tension at work because you're not being your true self?

在工作中承受這麼多壓力，因為你沒有展現真實的自我，這樣對嗎？

Is your partner's acceptance conditional on you behaving in a certain way?

伴侶的接納是否取決於你某些特定的行為表現？

Are your friends expecting you to change to fit in?

朋友是否期待你改變以融入他們？

With social media, we're often conditioned to seek approval from others and do what they want.

在社群媒體上，我們常被制約去尋求他人的認同，並做他們想做的事。

By being truthful with yourself, you can recognize if you're sacrificing your authentic self for others.

誠實面對自己，你就能辨識出是否為了他人而犧牲了真實的自我。

Remember Psych 2 goers value yourself for who you are, not who others think you should be.

記住，Psych 2 的觀眾們，要肯定自己的價值，而不是別人認為你應該成為的樣子。

Set boundaries and say yes only when you truly want to.

設定界線，只在你真心想做時才說「是」。

If you neglect yourself for too long, you risk feeling anxious, depressed, and tense.

如果你長期忽略自己，就有可能感到焦慮、沮喪和緊繃。

A good sign that you're on the right path is feeling present and relaxed.

如果你感覺當下很自在、很放鬆，這就是你走在正確道路上的好跡象。

If you enjoyed this video, please leave a like and share it with someone who might benefit from it.

如果你喜歡這支影片，請按讚並分享給你覺得會受用的朋友。

Click the notification bell to be notified whenever we post a new video.

點擊通知鈴鐺，這樣我們發佈新影片時你就不會錯過。

Are you looking for a cuddly companion that brings positivity and mental wellness to your daily life?

你在尋找一個能為你的日常生活帶來正面能量和心理福祉的可愛夥伴嗎？

Get your very own sai the lovable Plushie is here to brighten your days.

擁有你自己的 sai，這個可愛的絨毛玩具將點亮你的每一天。

It embodies the spirit of Psych2go and it serves as a reminder to prioritize your mental well being.

它體現了 Psych2go 的精神，也是提醒你要優先考慮心理福祉的象徵。

Its green leaf symbolizes growth, renewal and the importance of self care.

它的綠色葉子象徵著成長、更新以及自我照顧的重要性。

Whether it's for yourself or as a thoughtful gift for a loved one, SAI is ready to be your snuggly friend through all of life's ups and downs.

無論是送給自己，還是作為一份貼心的禮物送給摯愛，SAI 都準備好成為你人生起伏中的溫暖朋友。

Buy your SAI plus you Today link is listed in the Description box.

立即購買你的 SAI 絨毛玩具，連結在說明欄。

In the realm of human interaction, it is natural to consider the needs and emotions of others.

在人際互動的領域裡，考慮他人的需求和情緒是很自然的。

Empathy and compassion play crucial roles in maintaining healthy relationships.

同理心和慈悲心在維持健康的人際關係中扮演著關鍵角色。

However, there is a fine line between genuine care for others and self abandonment.

然而，真正關心他人和自我放棄之間只有一線之隔。

One way this can manifest is through a psychological defense mechanism known as fawning.

其中一種表現方式是透過一種稱為「討好」的心理防禦機制。

This phenomenon was first studied by therapist Pete Walker, who defines fawning as a survival strategy rooted in people pleasing behavior.

這個現象最早是由治療師 Pete Walker 研究的，他將討好定義為一種根植於取悅他人行為的生存策略。

It often arises from a deep rooted fear of rejection or a desire to avoid conflict at any cost.

這通常源於對被拒絕的深層恐懼，或是想不計一切代價避免衝突。

People who engage in fawning tend to prioritize the needs, wants and emotions of others above their own.

採取討好行為的人傾向於優先考慮他人的需求、慾望和情緒，而不是自己的。

They may go to great lengths to please others, sacrificing their own well being and personal boundaries in the process.

他們可能會竭盡全力去取悅他人，在此過程中犧牲自己的福祉和個人界線。

With that said, here are six telltale signs that you're abandoning yourself for others, according to experts.

說到這裡，專家們指出，有六個明顯的跡象表明你正在為他人而放棄自我。

Difficulty Setting Boundaries Struggling to establish and enforce personal boundaries can be a red flag for fawning.

難以設定界線 難以建立和執行個人界線可能是討好的警訊。

When you struggle to set boundaries, it means you have difficulty defining and communicating with what is acceptable or unacceptable to you in your relationships.

當你難以設定界線時，這意味著你在人際關係中難以定義和溝通什麼對你來說是可以接受或不可接受的。

You may fear that asserting your boundaries will lead to conflict or rejection.

你可能會害怕，主張自己的界線會導致衝突或被拒絕。

As a result, you may allow others to overstep your limits, ignore your own needs, and

結果，你可能會允許他人越界、忽略自己的需求，並且

This can lead to a general erosion of your sense of self and self worth, says Tranquil.

Tranquil 表示，這可能導致你的自我感和自我價值感普遍受到侵蝕。

Difficulty Expressing Opinions if you find it challenging to express your own opinions, preferences or beliefs, it may indicate that you are prioritizing the views of others over your own.

難以表達意見 如果你發現表達自己的意見、偏好或信念有困難，這可能表示你優先考慮他人的觀點勝過自己的。

Authentic self expression can be challenging because fear of disagreement or disapproval can lead to self silencing and a loss of your authentic voice.

真實的自我表達可能充滿挑戰，因為害怕不同意或不被認可，可能會導致自我壓抑，並失去你真實的聲音。

Asserting yourself and voicing your true thoughts, feelings and opinions can trigger intense guilt or shame because you've internalized the belief that your needs are less important than those of others.

主張自己並說出真實的想法、感受和意見，可能會引發強烈的罪惡感或羞恥感，因為你內化了「自己的需求不如他人重要」的信念。

Overextending Yourself Another common behavior among those who abandon themselves for others is taking on more responsibilities and tasks than they can reasonably handle.

過度承擔責任 那些為他人而放棄自我的人，另一種常見的行為是承擔比自己能力所及更多的責任和任務。

This is because people who struggle with fawning often feel obligated to fix or rescue people from their problems, resulting in an excessive amount of commitment.

這是因為那些難以取悅他人的人，常常覺得有義務去修復或拯救他人脫離困境，結果導致過度的承諾。

This overextension can lead to exhaustion, burnout, neglect of self care, and

這種過度承擔可能導致筋疲力盡、職業倦怠、忽略自我照顧，以及

a lack of time and energy to focus on your own needs and personal growth.

導致你沒有時間和精力去關注自己的需求和個人成長。

你喜歡這個影片到目前為止嗎？

If you found this valuable and helpful, please support our work by leaving a Like comment and subscribe Lack of Reciprocity People who abandon themselves for others often struggle to receive the same level of dedication and emotional support they put into their relationships.

如果你覺得這個影片很有價值且有幫助，請透過按讚、留言和訂閱來支持我們。互惠失衡：那些為他人犧牲自我的人，常常難以在關係中獲得與付出一同等級的付出和情感支持。

So if this rings true for you, you most likely don't even ask or accept support from others because of an internalized belief that your needs are less important or that you must always be the caretaker.

所以，如果這讓你很有共鳴，你很可能因為內化了「自己的需求不如人重要」或「你必須永遠扮演照顧者」的信念，而根本不會尋求或接受他人的支持。

But by refusing support, you reinforce the pattern of neglecting your own needs and denying yourself the help that could contribute to your own well being.

但拒絕支持，反而會加劇你忽略自身需求、剝奪自己獲得能促進你個人福祉的幫助的模式。

Tolerating Disrespectful Behavior Continuously tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior from others without asserting yourself or taking appropriate action is another strong indicator of self abandonment.

容忍不尊重行為：持續容忍他人不尊重或虐待的行為，卻不為自己發聲或採取適當行動，是自我放棄的另一個明顯跡象。

Abandoning yourself for others can lead to a tolerance for disrespectful or abusive behavior from others due to a fear of conflict or rejection.

為了他人而犧牲自我，可能會因為害怕衝突或被拒絕，而導致你容忍來自他人的不尊重或虐待行為。

You may find it challenging to assert yourself or establish boundaries when faced with disrespectful treatment.

當面對不尊重的對待時，你可能會發現很難為自己發聲或設定界線。

This tolerance perpetrates the cycle of self abandonment and can have negative consequences on your self esteem and overall well being.

這種容忍會延續自我放棄的循環，並可能對你的自尊和整體福祉產生負面影響。

Emotional Exhaustion Engaging in fawning behavior can be emotionally draining.

情緒耗竭：採取討好行為可能會讓情緒非常疲憊。

Constantly catering to the needs of others can leave you feeling overwhelmed, fatigued and emotionally depleted.

一味地滿足別人的需求，可能會讓你感到不知所措、疲憊不堪，甚至情緒耗竭。

And despite your efforts to please others, you may find that you still feel a sense of emptiness or dissatisfaction with yourself.

儘管你努力取悅他人，卻可能發現自己仍然感到空虛或對自己不滿意。

This lack of fulfillment stems from neglecting your own needs and passions in favor of meeting the expectations of others.

這種不滿足感源於你為了滿足他人的期望，而忽略了自己的需求和熱情。

Constantly neglecting your own needs and and feelings can lead to emotional fatigue and potential burnout.

持續忽略自己的需求和感受，可能會導致情緒疲勞，甚至可能引發職業倦怠。

These signs highlight the impact self abandonment can have on various aspects of our lives, including emotional well being, boundaries and support systems.

這些跡象突顯了自我放棄對我們生活各個層面，包括情緒福祉、界線和支持系統所造成的影響。

Recognizing the signs of fawning and its connection to abandoning oneself for others is crucial for personal growth and well being.

辨識討好行為的跡象及其與為了他人而自我放棄的關聯，對於個人成長和福祉至關重要。

By becoming aware of these patterns, you can begin to work towards reclaiming your sense of self, setting healthy boundaries and fostering a sense of balance and self care in your relationships.

透過覺察這些模式，你可以開始努力重拾自我，設定健康的界線，並在人際關係中培養平衡感和自我照顧。

So psych two goers, what are your thoughts on this video?

那麼，各位觀眾，你們對這支影片有什麼想法呢？

它在情感上引起了你的共鳴嗎？

If so, how do you plan to return to yourself today?

如果有，你今天打算如何找回真實的自己呢？

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