After that he asked you on a date and that one date led to two and before you realized it, you've been dating this guy for a year and lately, the magic's gone.

之後他約你出去，就這樣一來一往。在你意識到之前，你已經跟這小子在一起一年了，最近你對他沒感覺了。

Maybe you've just started to notice how loudly he eats soup.

可能只是因為發現他喝湯很大聲。

So you've decided.

所以你下定決心了！

It is time to break up.

是時候分手了！

But how in the world are you gonna have that conversation?

但到底該怎麼開口呢？

Hey everyone welcome to Wellcast.

嘿大家好，歡迎收看 Wellcast。

This week we're talking about that awful discussion that comes at the eleventh hour of a relationship.

這週我們要來討論，分手前一刻那令人難堪的談話。

We're gonna give you our seven-step plan for making a clean break between you and your partner.

我們要教你分手七步驟，讓你能分得乾淨俐落。

Download this worksheet on your password-protected mobile device and keep it handy for reference on the big day.

先下載工作表到設有密碼的行動裝置，以備不時之需！

You ready?

準備好了嗎？

Step one: first things first before anything else, you need to make sure that you want to go through with this breakup.

第一步：最重要的事是你必須非常確定自己想要分手。

If you're not happy in the relationship, that is a huge red flag.

如果妳不快樂，就代表這段感情已亮紅燈。

Ask yourself the following questions: do you communicate well?

問自己以下問題：你們的溝通狀況良好嗎？

Does your partner accept you as you are?

另一半能接受妳最真實的樣子嗎？

Are you open with your partner or do you find yourself keeping secrets from him?

你對另一半敞開心胸，還是有秘密相瞞？

Do you look forward to seeing him or do you find yourself making excuses to avoid him?

你期待與他相見，或老是找藉口避不見面？

Step two: figure out exactly what you're going to say to your boyfriend.

第二步：想清楚你要對男朋友說的話。

Odds are the first question he's gonna ask is: "Why are you doing this?"

他的第一反應可能會問妳：「為什麼這樣對我？」

So on your worksheet, write down your reason—or reasons.

所以在工作表中，寫下妳的原因或各種原因。

Don't go overboard.

但別太超過。

It can be as simple as: I no longer have feelings for you or I don't think I can trust you anymore.

可以簡單地說「我對你沒感覺了」或是「我不信任你了」。

Step three: once you've committed to actually breaking up and have figured out exactly what you wanna say, plan out a maximum three hour time period for the daunting task.

第三步：當下定決心分手和想好分手台詞後，策劃要在三小時內完成這個艱鉅任務。

These three hours we'll give him enough time to process but keep the conversation from spiralling into a loop rehashing the same points over and over again.

三小時足以讓他有充分時間思考又可避免話題在相同的事情上打轉。

Step four: make plans for directly after the conversation.

第四步：計畫談分手後的行程。

Maybe ask a friend to catch a movie or schedule a haircut.

可以約朋友看電影或預約弄頭髮。

Giving yourself a concrete out will help you leave any difficult situations and having something to do afterward will give you time to process the breakup but keep you from dwelling on.

有確切的計劃能幫助你從難堪的局面中抽身，結束後有事可做也給你時間緩和分手情緒，又不會讓你一直想著不愉快的事。

Step five : alright, the time has come.

第五步：好吧！該來總是要來！

You've blocked out three hours, scheduled band practice for afterward written down what you're gonna to say, so say it.

你挪出三小時，也計劃結束後要去練團並寫下妳想要說的話，那就說吧！

Remember this conversation is gonna be painful for him and you.

要記住，談分手對妳和他而言都很難受。

Nothing you say is gonna change that fact.

不論你說什麼都無法改變這個事實

Be honest but sympathetic, don't go overboard and don't get angry, just say enough so that you can explain your reasons for breaking up.

要誠實但保持同理心，別太過份，也不要生氣，只點出你想分手的原因即可。

Step six : when it's over, its over.

第六步：結束就是結束了。

Don't lead your partner on.

別跟你的另一半藕斷絲連。

Tell your now ex-boyfriend that you won't be contacting him and ask him to respect this wish.

告訴前男友你不會跟他保持聯絡，希望他能理解。

Listen, you won't be doing him any favors by drawing the breakup out or leaving a door open for a relationship further down the line.

聽好，拖延分手時間或給他機會再續前緣，對他不會有任何幫助。

You're breaking up for a reason, remember?

你想分手是有原因的，記得嗎？

So be sure that there are no emotional loose ends.

所以確保自己不會感情用事。

Step seven: the stuff exchange.

第七步：物歸原主。

This should be a very brief meeting where you can both exchange belongings, but that's it.

這應該只是一個短暫的會面交換彼此的物品，就這樣！

No talks of getting back together and no cementing the breakup.

不要談復合的事也不去強調分手的事實。

This meeting should take place in public so you're not tempted to have another long conversation, and if you're worried take a friend.

安排在公共場合會面才不會使你陷入另一次長談。

You've just gone through one of the harder conversations you'll have to have for a long time, you'll probably feel low for a little while and that's okay.

在經歷一場難熬的分手談話，你可能會低落好一陣子，但這很正常。

Look, just because a relationship is over, doesn't mean it was meaningless.

要知道關係結束不代表它毫無意義。

In fact, the reason you're feeling so crummy is because that relationship was an important part of you growing up.

事實上，感覺差只是因為這段感情是成長中很重要的一部分。

Still feeling a little down after your breakup?

分手後仍覺得難過？

Well, check out our breakup playlist here, specifically curated by the Wellcast team.

來看看 Wellcast 圑隊精心製作的分手系列影片。

To recap: you have decided to break up with your boyfriend—first make sure you actually wanna do this.

總之，在你決定跟男友分手時，要先確定自己想這麼做。

Next, commit a time period up to three hours, no longer.

接著，設定在 3 小時內談完分手。

And work out what you're gonna say before you get into the situation.

並在開始前想清楚該說的話。

When you're there, be honest, but be sympathetic with your now ex-boyfriend, make it clear that your decision is final and ask him not to contact you for a little bit.

一旦起了頭就要說出妳的真實感受，但對前男友要保持同理心，讓他明白你已下定決心，請他暫時不要跟你聯絡。

If you both have stuff to exchange make plans to briefly meet in a couple days in a public place, so you can do that.

如果有物品要歸還彼此，儘快安排在公眾場合短暫會面，讓事情順利進行。

Tweet us at watchwellcast, email as watchwellcast@gmail.com or leave a comment down below

可以到我們的推特 (@watchwellcast)，電郵至 [email protected] 給我們，或是在下面留言。

We'll see you next time!

我們下支影片再見！