Name: 我 35 歲了。如果你正值 20 歲，請觀看此片 (I'm 35. If you're in your 20's watch this)
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Kings, I don't know a lot, but at the age of 35, these harsh truths, I know for sure, they are cheat codes that will give you an unfair advantage in every area of your life.

國王們，我知道的不多，但在我 35 歲的時候，這些殘酷的事實，我肯定知道，它們是作弊碼，會讓你在生活的每一個領域都獲得不公平的優勢。

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So listen close and don't learn this too late.

所以，請仔細聆聽，不要太晚才知道。

Harsh truth number one, you have three seconds before people decide whether they like you or not.

第一條殘酷的事實是，在人們決定是否喜歡你之前，你有三秒鐘的時間。

There has never been a person gifted enough to have a second chance to make a first impression.

從來沒有一個人的天賦足以讓他有第二次機會留下第一印象。

You know it's cute when we tell kids don't judge a book by its cover, but when you grow up you realize that book publishers actually spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on focus groups and designers to create the best looking cover.

當我們告訴孩子們不要以封面來判斷一本書的好壞時，你知道這很可愛，但當你長大後，你會意識到圖書出版商實際上花費了數十萬美元在焦點小組和設計師身上，以創造出最漂亮的封面。

所以，你要始終保持最佳狀態。

Harsh truth number two, school will make you a living, but self-education will make you a fortune.

殘酷的事實二：學校能讓你謀生，但自學能讓你發財。

You see the system is not broken, it's meant to be like that.

你看，這個系統並沒有壞，它本來就是這樣的。

They never wanted you to be successful, so you have to go after it.

他們從不希望你成功，所以你必須去追求。

Harsh truth number three, clothes don't make the man, but they give him a good start.

殘酷的事實三：衣服不能造就男人，但能給他一個好的開始。

You see, as much as I'd love to wear sweatpants in business meetings, I understand one thing, that life is a stage and the best actors get paid.

你看，雖然我很想在商務會議上穿運動褲，但我明白一件事，生活就是一個舞臺，最好的演員會得到報酬。

So you better make sure your costume fits the role you want to play.

是以，你最好確保你的服裝符合你想扮演的角色。

In other words, dress like you want to be addressed, period.

換句話說，穿得像你希望別人稱呼你一樣，就這樣。

Harsh truth number four, but the best fashion statement is a nice body.

第四個殘酷的事實是，好身材是最好的時尚宣言。

It's rare today, yet it will never go out of style.

它如今已很少見，但卻永遠不會過時。

See most people claim they work out for health, yeah right.

大多數人都說健身是為了健康，沒錯。

The truth is most people just want to look good naked.

事實上，大多數人只是想讓自己的裸體看起來更漂亮。

But see most people don't have the knowledge to achieve this.

但是，大多數人並不具備實現這一目標的知識。

Most people run on a treadmill day after day, year after year, never achieving any real results.

大多數人日復一日、年復一年地在跑步機上跑步，卻從未取得任何實際效果。

They want to get in shape, but haven't determined what shape.

他們想健身，但還沒確定健身的方式。

Men, lift weights three to five times a week, hit each body part twice a week, eat food that rots, get seven to eight hours of sleep, and you will achieve your dream body.

男人們，每週舉重三到五次，每週鍛鍊每個身體部位兩次，吃腐爛的食物，保證七到八小時的睡眠，你就會擁有夢寐以求的身材。

You don't need ozempic, you need commitment.

你不需要 Ozempic，你需要的是承諾。

Harsh truth number five, we are judged in three ways, how we look, how we sound, and what we say.

第五個殘酷的事實是，我們受到三方面的評判：我們的外表、我們的聲音和我們所說的話。

I want you to take a good look at the person next to you, go on.

我要你好好看看你旁邊的人，繼續。

How we look is 55%, how we sound is 7%, and what we say is 38%.

我們的外表佔 55%，我們的聲音佔 7%，我們說的話佔 38%。

Now we talked about how we look, now let's talk about how we sound.

現在我們來談談我們的外表，現在我們來談談我們的聲音。

You see, nothing will improve your confidence and self-esteem than learning how to speak.

你看，沒有什麼比學會說話更能提高你的自信和自尊了。

Learn how to get your point across, tell stories, and connect, and you will move up in your industry faster than any other activity you can do.

學會如何表達自己的觀點、講故事和建立聯繫，你就能比其他任何活動更快地在行業中晉升。

Harsh truth number six, now here's a crazy study for you.

第六個殘酷的事實，現在有一項瘋狂的研究要告訴你。

They asked 1,000 parents and 1,000 teachers, who is responsible for developing the self-esteem in children?

他們詢問了 1000 名家長和 1000 名教師，誰負責培養孩子的自尊心？

72% of parents said the teachers were, 78% of the teachers said the parents were.

72%的家長說老師是，78%的老師說家長是。

See this is just like life, everybody is blaming somebody else, nobody is taking responsibility.

看，這就像生活，每個人都在指責別人，沒有人承擔責任。

See real men take responsibility for everything that happens in their life, the way they look, the money in their bank account, the position at their job, the way that other people treat them.

看到真正的男人對生活中發生的一切負責，包括他們的外表、銀行賬戶裡的錢、工作中的職位以及別人對待他們的方式。

You see, blaming is draining, it's basically giving away your power.

你看，責備是一種消耗，它基本上是在放棄你的力量。

When you take ownership, you keep your power and you dictate your fate.

當你掌握了主動權，你就掌握了自己的權力，你就能主宰自己的命運。

Harsh truth number seven, if you don't find and live your purpose, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

第七個殘酷的事實是，如果你沒有找到並實現自己的目標，你將後悔終生。

See you are not here to just work, pay rent, and then die, that is not your purpose here.

你在這裡不是為了工作、交房租，然後死去，那不是你在這裡的目的。

But if you don't find your purpose, that is exactly what's going to happen.

但是，如果你沒有找到自己的目標，那就會發生這樣的事情。

See you can make money, you can make all the money, but you can't make time, you can't get that time back.

你看，你可以賺錢，你可以賺到所有的錢，但你賺不到時間，你無法挽回那些時間。

That's why they say never become too good at something you hate, because the world will make you do it for the rest of your life.

這就是為什麼人們說，永遠不要在你討厭的事情上做得太好，因為這個世界會讓你一輩子都做這件事。

This is why I created the purpose formula.

這就是我創建目的公式的原因。

See if you're struggling to find your purpose, or maybe don't even think you have a purpose, or maybe you're starting a new chapter in your life, I will tell you that finding your purpose is a simple matter of putting the right pieces into an equation.

如果你正在苦苦尋找自己的目標，或者你甚至不認為自己有目標，又或者你正在開啟人生的新篇章，那麼我會告訴你，找到自己的目標只是一個簡單的問題，只需將正確的片段放入等式中即可。

Harsh truth number eight, go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.

第八條殘酷的真理：去你被讚美的地方，而不是被容忍的地方。

One of the largest and longest studies in US history is the Harvard Grant Study.

美國曆史上規模最大、時間最長的研究之一是哈佛大學贈款研究。

They did this study over 75 years, spent $20 million and tracked the lives of over 268 men, and they found one thing, you ready for it?

這項研究歷時 75 年，耗資 2000 萬美元，追蹤了超過 268 名男性的生活，他們發現了一件事，你準備好了嗎？

They found that people with deep connections are more successful at work, live longer, and are happier.

他們發現，擁有深層聯繫的人在工作中更成功、更長壽、更快樂。

So remember this, you can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.

所以請記住：你無法改變身邊的人，但你可以改變身邊的人。

Never hang on to bad friends just because you've known them for a long time.

千萬不要因為認識時間長了，就對壞朋友念念不忘。

Harsh truth number nine, your mornings are sacred.

第九個殘酷的事實是，你的早晨是神聖的。

They are for affirmations, not information, meditation, not social media agitation.

它們是用來肯定的，而不是用來獲取信息、冥想的，更不是用來煽動社交媒體的。

See when you wake up and you start responding to messages, you're playing defense.

當你一覺醒來，開始回覆資訊時，你就是在防守。

When you start your day in alignment, you're playing offense.

當你開始一天的訓練時，你就是在進攻。

Think about this, scientists have concluded that the first seven years of a child's life will dictate how he or she will turn out.

想想看，科學家們得出的結論是，孩子生命的頭七年將決定他或她的未來。

If a day is like a mini life, then the first two hours of your day will dictate how your day turns out.

如果說一天就像一個小生命，那麼每天的前兩個小時將決定你一天的結果。

So inject positive energy into your morning and you will feel the effects throughout your entire day.

是以，在早晨注入正能量，你會在一整天中都感受到效果。

Harsh truth number 10, your morning routine is meaningless if you don't have a good night routine.

第 10 個殘酷的事實是，如果你沒有良好的夜間作息，你的晨間作息就毫無意義。

So many people obsess over the morning routine and they sleep on the night routine, pun intended.

很多人都沉迷於早上的例行公事，而在晚上的例行公事上卻睡大覺，這是雙關語。

It's like, if you don't have a good night's sleep, then you won't have a good day.

這就好比，如果你晚上睡不好，那麼你就不會有美好的一天。

So get you a good night routine, set an alarm, not for when you want to wake up, but for when you want to go to bed.

是以，要養成良好的夜間作息習慣，設定鬧鐘，不是什麼時候起床，而是什麼時候睡覺。

Lay your clothes out the night before and write your to-do list the night before.

前一天晚上把衣服鋪好，寫好待辦事項清單。

Finish your day before it starts and you will set yourself up for success.

在一天開始之前就結束一天的工作，你就會為自己的成功做好準備。

Take a photo of it and I guarantee you will have the best sleep you ever had in your life.

拍一張照片，我保證你會睡上一生中最好的一覺。

Which brings me to number 11, if you're not being grateful, you're wasting your life.

這讓我想到了第 11 條，如果你不懂得感恩，你就是在浪費生命。

People who are grateful are more intelligent.

They live longer and they make more money.

This is why I created the Three Times Happier Journal.

這就是我創建《幸福三重奏》日誌的原因。

I spent years working on it and I think it's the best journal on the market.

我花了數年時間研究它，我認為它是市場上最好的期刊。

But honestly, I don't care what journal you use.

不過說實話，我不在乎你用什麼期刊。

Even if you just use a piece of paper, a blank sheet of paper, write down three things that you're grateful for every morning and it'll change your life.

哪怕你只是用一張紙，一張白紙，每天早上寫下三件讓你感激的事情，它就會改變你的生活。

One sad Harvard study showed that 83% of people in the US do not set goals for their life.

哈佛大學一項令人痛心的研究表明，美國有 83% 的人沒有為自己的人生設定目標。

14% only think about them and just 3% write them down.

14%的人只是想想，只有 3%的人寫下來。

If you're in the 3% club, there's a 300% greater chance that you actually meet your goals.

如果你加入了 3% 俱樂部，那麼你實現目標的機率就會增加 300%。

If you shoot for nothing, you will hit it every single time.

如果你什麼都不做，那麼你每次都會命中。

If you kind of want something, you will get kind of results.

如果你想要什麼，你就會得到什麼。

如果沒有寫在紙上，那就是蒸汽。

Harsh truth number 13, you should either have a supportive partner or no partner at all.

第 13 個殘酷的事實是，要麼有一個支持你的伴侶，要麼就沒有伴侶。

You see, the best relationships are not 50-50.

你看，最好的關係不是五五分成。

Each person giving their all, giving their heart to support the other to become the best version of themselves.

每個人都全力以赴，全心全意地支持對方成為最好的自己。

Love if, love because of, and love period.

如果愛，因為愛，和愛的時期。

You find somebody that's a love period, hang on to them.

如果你發現有人是你的真愛，那就緊緊抓住他。

Harsh truth number 14, this brings me to the best relationship advice I ever got.

第 14 個殘酷的事實，讓我想到了我得到過的最好的戀愛建議。

See, so many people say, I take care of you and baby, you take care of me.

很多人都說，我照顧你，寶貝，你照顧我。

不，不，不，不，不，不，這太愚蠢了。

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