Name: 如何散發冷酷而有吸引力的能量 (How To Radiate a Cool, Attractive Energy)
Uploaded: 2025-05-08T02:51:08.000Z
Duration: 9 min 25 s

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Matthew McConaughey gives off an almost effortless feeling of being cool, so today we'll break down some of the habits that make him so charismatic and how you can incorporate them into your own life.

馬修-麥康納（Matthew McConaughey）給人一種不費吹灰之力的酷感，今天我們就來分析一下他之所以如此有魅力的一些習慣，以及你如何將它們融入自己的生活。

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It's worth noting, while Matthew McConaughey is very handsome, his confidence and charisma can apply to you no matter what you look like.

值得注意的是，雖然馬修-麥康納非常英俊，但無論你的長相如何，他的自信和魅力都適用於你。

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The first habit you can learn from Matthew is to set the mood at the start of every interaction.

你可以從馬修身上學到的第一個習慣是，在每次互動開始時營造氛圍。

Matthew moves slowly and is never rushed when speaking.

馬修行動緩慢，說話從不急躁。

This gives off a relaxed feeling no matter the situation.

無論在什麼情況下，這都會給人一種輕鬆的感覺。

Just watch how he enters the Colbert Show.

看看他如何進入科爾伯特秀就知道了。

You'll notice he walks in slow and his pace is very relaxed as he looks around smiling.

你會發現他走得很慢，步伐也很輕鬆，他微笑著環顧四周。

This conveys a carefree attitude that sets the tone from the start and frames the rest of your conversation.

這傳達了一種無憂無慮的態度，從一開始就定下了基調，併為接下來的談話奠定了基礎。

Imagine the difference it would make if he entered quickly and walked straight to the host with tight body language.

試想一下，如果他快步入場，用緊湊的肢體語言徑直走向主持人，效果會有多大。

Now, relaxed isn't the only mood you can set.

現在，輕鬆並不是你唯一可以營造的氛圍。

You can set playful, flirty, high energy, whatever you want.

你可以設置俏皮、嫵媚、高能量等任何你想要的風格。

Determine the mood you want for an interaction and spend the first 10-20 seconds bringing that energy.

確定你想要的互動氛圍，並在開始的 10-20 秒鐘內傳遞這種能量。

You'll also see Matthew greets everyone around him.

你還會看到馬修向身邊的每個人打招呼。

He takes the time to intentionally acknowledge the band and the audience.

他特意花時間向樂隊和觀眾致謝。

Many people make the mistake of only greeting the people they think can benefit them, so you'll see them only try to talk to the most attractive or coolest person in a group.

很多人都犯了一個錯誤，那就是隻和他們認為能給自己帶來好處的人打招呼，所以你會看到他們只試圖和一群人中最有魅力或最酷的人交談。

Or at an interview, they'll blow off whoever's at the front desk, only being kind to the person they think has the power to give them the job.

或者在面試時，他們會對前臺的人吹鬍子瞪眼，只對他們認為有能力給他們這份工作的人客氣。

This type of focused charisma makes people feel like you're trying to get something from them, which is off-putting.

這種專注的魅力會讓人覺得你想從他們身上得到什麼，從而令人反感。

So the next time you're walking into an interview, a workplace meeting, or a social group, take three to five seconds to greet each person.

是以，下次當你走進面試、職場會議或社交場合時，請花三到五秒鐘的時間向每個人問好。

For a stronger first impression, combine this with some form of touch, whether it's a hug or just a handshake.

為了加深第一印象，請將擁抱或握手與某種形式的接觸結合起來。

Now, it's clear that that trademark energy that Matthew creates is one of comfort and relaxation, so much so that other actors joke they inherit those vibes just from spending time with him.

現在，馬修所營造的標誌性能量顯然是一種舒適和放鬆的能量，以至於其他演員開玩笑說，和他在一起就能繼承這種能量。

One reason for this is that he makes himself comfortable in every environment.

其中一個原因是，他讓自己在任何環境中都感到舒適。

Just look at his body language in this clip from Craig Ferguson.

看看克雷格-弗格森這段視頻中他的肢體語言就知道了。

Matthew lounges back in his chair with his arms draped over the side.

馬修躺在椅子上，雙臂垂在椅背上。

This exudes that informal, I-don't-give-a-care attitude that is one of the main ingredients of his charm.

這散發出一種不拘小節、我不在乎的態度，而這正是他的魅力所在。

To try this in your own life, next time you want to look relaxed under pressure, try the simple act of taking up slightly more space than you usually would and opening your body language.

要在自己的生活中嘗試這樣做，下次當你想在壓力下顯得輕鬆時，不妨試一試比平時多佔一點空間，並打開你的肢體語言這個簡單的動作。

A nice bonus to this, your physical comfort will translate to mental comfort, putting you more at ease.

這樣做的一個好處是，身體上的舒適感會轉化為精神上的舒適感，讓你更加安心。

So not only will you appear confident and relaxed, you'll also feel it.

是以，你不僅會顯得自信和放鬆，還會感受到這一點。

Beyond just the body language itself, what makes Matthew seem so cool is that he stays anchored to himself.

除了肢體語言本身，馬修之所以看起來如此酷，還在於他始終保持自我。

Watch this next clip from The Graham Norton Show.

請觀看《格雷厄姆-諾頓秀》的下一個片段。

Everyone else on the couch is sitting straight up, but Matthew doesn't try to blend in.

沙發上的其他人都坐得筆直，但馬修並沒有試圖融入其中。

He even puts his drink on the ground instead of the table so he can lounge back even more.

他甚至把飲料放在地上，而不是桌子上，這樣他就可以躺得更舒服了。

Many people would feel social pressure to sit up straight to try to fit in, especially around a dominant personality like John Cena, but Matthew does the opposite.

很多人都會感到社會壓力，特別是在像約翰-塞納這樣性格強勢的人面前，為了融入社會而不得不坐得筆直，但馬修卻恰恰相反。

He stays in his own frame instead of joining theirs.

他停留在自己的框架中，而不是加入他們。

Staying true to yourself even when it makes you stand out can show tremendous confidence.

堅持自我，即使這讓你顯得與眾不同，也能顯示出巨大的自信。

This isn't to say you should never try to change your habits or grow as a person.

這並不是說你永遠都不應該嘗試改變自己的習慣或成長為一個人。

It's about choosing what kind of person you want to be.

這關係到你要選擇成為什麼樣的人。

Again, whether that's relaxed, high energy, playful, kind, choose who you want to be and don't stop just to blend in with the other people around you.

同樣，無論是放鬆的、高能量的、俏皮的、善良的，選擇你想成為的自己，不要只為了融入周圍的其他人而止步不前。

Now, no matter who you are, there is one more habit you can steal from Matthew to instantly become more charismatic in conversation.

現在，無論你是誰，你都可以從馬修那裡學到一個習慣，讓自己在談話中立刻變得更有魅力。

成為一個有磁性的故事講述者。

Storytelling is a conversational superpower.

講故事是一種會話的超級能力。

If you can tell good stories, people will love being around you.

如果你能講好故事，人們就會喜歡和你在一起。

And everyone has a fantastic story to tell.

In the rest of this video, you'll see that you can turn anything into a fun story, even something as mundane as changing a flight or sending an email.

在本視頻的其餘部分，你將看到你可以把任何事情變成一個有趣的故事，即使是像改變班機或發送電子郵件這樣平凡的事情。

All you have to do is know how to tell it.

你所要做的就是知道如何講述它。

One key to a magnetic story is using a good pre-frame.

磁性故事的關鍵之一是使用好的預設框架。

This hooks people to listen to what you're saying.

Listen to this next clip for a quick example.

請聽下一個片段，瞭解一個簡單的例子。

Just one pre-frame sentence can be enough to hook people.

只需一句預設句子就足以吸引人。

You can also do this simply by hinting that there's a good story to be told.

您也可以通過暗示有一個好故事要講來達到這個目的。

For instance, listen to how Matthew answers George Lopez in this next clip.

例如，請聽下一個片段中馬修是如何回答喬治-洛佩茲的。

George just asked him about growing up in an area where being white made him a minority.

喬治剛剛問了他在一個白人使他成為少數族裔的地區的成長經歷。

Notice how he's purposely vague with a smirk and a smile in his eyes that gets George to ask for more detail.

請注意，他故意含糊其辭，眼睛裡帶著笑意，讓喬治詢問更多細節。

You know, there was times where I probably went some places that wouldn't have been recommended and pulled off some cultural exchanges at late nights.

有時候，我可能會去一些不被推薦的地方，並在深夜進行一些文化交流。

Once you have people hooked, there's several tricks to telling a good story.

一旦你吸引住了人們，就有幾種講好故事的技巧。

The first is to recognize that people are wired to love emotional journeys.

首先要認識到，人們天生就喜歡情感之旅。

所以，不要只描述發生了什麼。

Share your emotional experience during the story.

For example, listen to Matthew talk about later that same night when a group of guys approach him and  Another trick you saw there to make your stories interesting is to act out your characters.

例如，請聽馬修講述當晚有一群人向他走來，他就把他們的故事講了出來。

Here's another example from a second later.

This could have been a complete non-story, but pay attention to how Matthew tells it.

這本可以完全不是一個故事，但請注意馬修是如何講述的。

He starts with his emotional journey and he ends by acting out his past self.

他以自己的情感歷程開始，以演繹過去的自己結束。

For context, this is about sending his director his vision for the character Dallas in Magic Mike.

為便於理解，這是在向他的導演表達他對《魔力麥克》中達拉斯這個角色的看法。

Sending an email and waiting four days to hear back doesn't seem like much of a story.

發送一封電子郵件，等待四天才收到回覆，這似乎沒什麼大不了的。

But if you play your characters and take people on the journey that makes it story-worthy to you, you'll have people captivated.

但是，如果你能扮演好自己的角色，帶領人們踏上旅程，讓故事變得對你有價值，你就會讓人們為之著迷。

Now, you may feel intimidated to play the characters in your story.

現在，你可能會對扮演故事中的人物感到害怕。

After all, most of us aren't professional actors like Matthew.

畢竟，我們大多數人都不是馬修那樣的專業演員。

But you don't need a spot-on impression to captivate people.

但是，要想吸引人，並不需要一針見血的印象。

Any change to your speaking cadence and posture will make your stories more engaging.

改變你說話的語調和姿勢，會讓你的故事更有吸引力。

Listen to the crowd laugh in this next clip when Matthew switches to playing his mom when she's upset to hear they're extending their stay in Greece.

在下一個片段中，當馬修轉而扮演他的母親時，當她聽說他們要延長在希臘的逗留時間而感到不高興時，聽聽觀眾們的笑聲吧。

When there aren't characters to play, there's another trick you can use to keep people captivated.

當沒有角色可玩時，您還可以使用另一種技巧來吸引觀眾。

And by now, you've probably noticed the last trick for magnetic storytelling.

現在，你可能已經注意到了磁性故事的最後一個技巧。

If you want to hook people, tell your stories in the present tense.

如果你想吸引人們，就用現在時講述你的故事。

Put them right in your story, experiencing it as it happened.

讓他們置身於你的故事中，體驗故事發生的過程。

Listen to this quick example where Matthew talks about getting his part in Angels in the Outfield.

請聽這個簡短的例子，馬修講述了他在《外場天使》中的角色。

He pre-frames, speaks in the present, tells it with his hands, and acts out his character, all in less than 30 seconds.

他在不到 30 秒的時間裡，預先構思、以現在的方式說話、用手講述、表演角色。

Now, there's a lot going on in this video and you may be wondering how do you actually remember all this when you're around other people.

現在，這段視頻中有很多內容，你可能會想，當你和其他人在一起時，如何才能真正記住這些內容呢？

Especially if you're speaking with someone who makes you nervous, it's hard to remember to put all this into practice.

尤其是當你與一個讓你緊張的人交談時，很難記住要把這些都付諸實踐。

That's why we put together our program Charisma University.

這就是我們開設魅力大學課程的原因。

It's a step-by-step program that tells you exactly what to do every day to take what you're learning and turn it into a habit.

這是一個循序漸進的計劃，告訴你每天該做什麼，把你學到的東西變成一種習慣。

So 30 days later, you radiate confidence and charisma naturally without even thinking about it.

是以，30 天后，你會在不經意間自然而然地散發出自信和魅力。

Rather than tell you about the program myself, here are a few things that our past members have said.

在此，我不想親自向大家介紹該計劃，而是向大家介紹一下我們過去的會員所說的話。

This first comment came just one week into the program.

第一條評論是在計劃開始一週後提出的。

While going through first impressions, I've been able to get into conversation with people that I never would have before.

在經歷第一印象的過程中，我已經能夠和別人聊上幾句，這在以前是絕對不可能的。

The lesson on asking questions to draw out values is gold.

關於提出問題以引出價值觀的課程是金子般的東西。

Thanks to everyone who developed the course, it has already been life-changing.

感謝開發該課程的所有人，它已經改變了我的生活。

Another member wrote in, I wasn't truly confident.

另一位成員寫道：我並沒有真正的自信。

I was constantly seeking validation and cared too much about other people's opinions.

我一直在尋求認同，太在乎別人的意見。

But now my life has improved tremendously because of CU.

但現在，因為中大，我的生活得到了極大的改善。

I find it way easier to connect with people, to have great interactions, and to be happy even if things don't go the way I want them to.

我發現這樣更容易與人溝通，有很好的互動，即使事與願違，也能感到快樂。

Taking this course has been one of the most impactful decisions of my life.

學習這門課程是我一生中影響最大的決定之一。

And lastly, one member writes, I am way more confident now having gone through the daily action guides, and I can see a big difference in the attention and respect that I get.

最後，一位成員寫道：通過每日行動指南，我現在更加自信了，我可以看到我得到的關注和尊重有了很大的不同。

I don't think it's an overstatement to say charisma is literally a gateway to getting anything you want in life, so thank you for making Charisma University.

我認為，說魅力是人生中獲得一切的敲門磚一點也不為過，所以感謝你們創辦了魅力大學。

This program is literally guaranteed to change your life.

這項計劃保證能改變你的生活。

You can take the entire course, and if you don't think it was worth every penny, you can give yourself a refund from right inside the program.

你可以學完全部課程，如果覺得不值得，還可以在課程中申請退款。