Name: 不要減輕你伴侶的痛苦...聽聽心理學博士怎麼說 - Michael Gervais 邁克爾-格韋斯（中英字幕） 博士 (不要減輕你伴侶的痛苦... ► 聽聽心理學博士怎麼說 - Dr Michael Gervais 邁克爾·格韋斯（中英字幕）)
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The worst thing we can do for our loved ones is to try to reduce their pain.

我們能為親人做的最糟糕的事情就是試圖減輕他們的痛苦。

There's a difference between pain and suffering.

We all have an emptiness or a dark place or corners inside of our spirit and our mind that are not fulfilled and watered and full.

我們每個人的精神和心靈深處都有一個空虛或黑暗的地方或角落，沒有得到滿足、澆灌和充實。

比如，我們都能體會到這一點。

And when I'm talking about pain, I'm not necessarily talking about suffering, but acknowledging our suffering, being in touch with the pain, that's enough to say, when you're really honest, that's enough to say, I can't do this.

當我在談論痛苦時，我不一定是在談論苦難，但承認我們的痛苦，與痛苦接觸，當你真正誠實時，這足以讓你說，我不能這樣做。

Like, this is not the person I want to become and be on a regular basis.

比如，這不是我想成為的人，也不是我想經常成為的人。

If that's the case, if that assumption is right, then as a loved one, my job is to help you get real and experience those places as often as you can so that you make the declaration to say, no, no, no, no, no.

如果是這樣的話，如果這個假設是正確的，那麼作為你的親人，我的工作就是幫助你儘可能多地去真實地體驗那些地方，這樣你就可以發表聲明說：不，不，不，不，不，不。

That's not okay for me to feel and be this way on a regular basis.

我不能經常有這種感覺和狀態。

So let me pull on that thread just a little bit further.

所以，讓我把這條線扯得更遠一點。

It is healthy and necessary to feel all of the human emotions.

感受人類的各種情感是健康的，也是必要的。

When we ask people, what do you want in life?

當我們問人們，你想要什麼樣的生活？

If grandma dies, do you want to be happy?

如果奶奶死了，你想要幸福嗎？

When your child is sick, do you want to be happy?

孩子生病時，你想讓他快樂嗎？

I think the answer is that we want to feel all of the human experience to its fullest, but never lose ourself in it, but to experience all of it.

我認為答案是，我們想要充分感受人類的所有經歷，但絕不是在其中迷失自我，而是要體驗所有經歷。

And so we're getting into the weeds of some very esoteric and non-scientific thinking right now.

是以，我們現在正在深入探討一些非常深奧和非科學的思想。

But the practice is that if I care about you deeply, the mistake I can make in your life is to help you feel like it's all okay.

但做法是，如果我深深地關心你，我在你的生活中所能犯的錯誤就是讓你覺得一切都好。

It's okay that you're drinking and driving and you killed a 14-year-old.

你酒後駕車撞死了一個 14 歲的孩子，這沒什麼大不了的。

No, the work is to say, what's this like for you to feel that pain?

不，工作就是說，你感受到這種痛苦是什麼樣子的？

So you make the commitment to say, no, no, no.

所以，你要承諾說，不，不，不。

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不要減輕你伴侶的痛苦...聽聽心理學博士怎麼說 - Michael Gervais 邁克爾-格韋斯（中英字幕） 博士 (不要減輕你伴侶的痛苦... ► 聽聽心理學博士怎麼說 - Dr Michael Gervais 邁克爾·格韋斯（中英字幕）)

commitment

practice

experience

necessarily

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