I think that people who think they're gonna be positive all the time are deluded.

我認為那些認為自己會一直積極向上的人都是自欺欺人。

I did a research project many years ago where I took the 300 best selling books on positive thinking.

多年前，我曾做過一個研究項目，收集了 300 本最暢銷的關於積極思考的書籍。

I went through each of those books one page at a time, identify the most positive words in the positive language that I could find in there.

我一頁一頁地翻閱每本書，找出其中最積極的正面語言。

I then put that into a book.

然後，我把它寫成了一本書。

and divided into 365 days.

並分為 365 天。

So there are five to six positive affirmations and quotations per day, every day for two years, 24 months I did this.

是以，每天都會有五到六句積極的肯定語和名言，兩年來，我每天都這樣做，一做就是 24 個月。

At the end of that two year period, I then total up all the scores on a plus three to minus three scale.

兩年期結束後，我將所有分數按正三至負三的比例加總。

I monitored it.

我監視著它。

I found out that I had ups, downs, up, up, down, down, up, down, up, down and total amount is zero-ed out.

我發現自己有漲、跌、漲、漲、跌、漲、跌、漲、跌、漲、漲、跌，總金額為零。

So I realized it was delusional to think I was gonna be a one sided person.

所以我意識到，認為自己會是一個單方面的人是痴心妄想。

Just like a magnet that has two sides, and you have two sides.

就像磁鐵有兩面，你也有兩面。

And the more you set up a fantasy that has only one side, the more you get depressed when it doesn't match your fantasy.

你越是設定一個只有一面的幻想，當它與你的幻想不符時，你就越會感到沮喪。

So I'm a realistic guy that sets real goals in real time with a balanced orientation.

是以，我是一個現實的人，會以平衡為導向，實時制定真實的目標。

and I accomplish more by doing that than setting up fantasies and then having nightmares.

而我這樣做的成就感，要比建立幻想然後做噩夢來得大。

So I'm not a positive thinking guy, I'm a balanced thinking guy.

所以我不是一個積極思考的人，我是一個平衡思考的人。

But when people are down, you need the positive thinking, but when you're up and you're fantasizing and setting up fantasies in pies and disguise, you need some critical thinking to be able to put you back into reality.

但是，當人們情緒低落時，你需要積極的思考，但當你情緒高漲時，你在幻想，在餡餅和偽裝中設置幻想時，你需要一些批判性的思考，才能把你拉回現實。

So I'm a believer in both sides are needed.

所以，我相信雙方都需要。

If you live by your highest values, you're willing to embrace both pain and pleasure in the pursuit.

如果你按照自己的最高價值觀生活，你就願意在追求的過程中接受痛苦和快樂。

When I was with the Nick Lowry, who is a hall of fame football kicker and he had broken bones and damaged knees and this and that.

當我和尼克-洛瑞（Nick Lowry）在一起時，他是一位名人堂級的橄欖球踢球手，他的骨頭斷了，膝蓋也受了傷，諸如此類。

But nothing stopped him, his mission was to be the greatest football player.

但沒有什麼能阻止他，他的使命就是成為最偉大的足球運動員。

So when somebody's inspired by a vision and they're inspired by their what they want to accomplish and they know their service and they know what their mission is.

是以，當有人被願景所激勵，被自己想要實現的目標所鼓舞，他們知道自己的服務，知道自己的使命是什麼。

They embrace pain and pleasure in pursuit of it.

他們擁抱痛苦，追求快樂。

Support and challenge, ease and difficulty.

支持與挑戰，輕鬆與困難。

All complementary opposite pairs that we face in life, nice, mean, kind, cruel, hero, villain, whatever pair of opposites are.

我們在生活中面對的所有互補的對立面，善良、卑鄙、仁慈、殘忍、英雄、惡棍，無論哪一對對立面。

We embrace them both and we live by our highest value.

我們擁抱這兩者，並以我們的最高價值為生。

But the second we go down to lower values, we only want one side, and people that want one side end up bipolar, bipolar condition is a by-product of the search for one side, monopolar expectations.

但是，一旦我們的價值降低，我們就只想要一面，而想要一面的人最終就會兩極化，兩極化狀況就是尋找一面的副產品，即單極期望。

As long as you're looking for one sided world, always positive, always sweet, always positive, always kind, always nice, always that's delusional.

只要你在尋找一個單面的世界，永遠積極、永遠甜蜜、永遠正面、永遠善良、永遠美好，那就是妄想。

I don't I don't support that kind of illusion because no one ever has that.

我不支持這種幻想，因為從來沒有人擁有過這種幻想。

People live in a fantasy.

人們生活在幻想中。

The fastest way to be depressed is look for only one side.

抑鬱的最快方式就是隻看一面。

The fastest way to fail is to look for only one side.

失敗的最快方式就是隻看一面。

Embrace both sides of life and you'll be prepared for the real challenges that you face to do incredible things in the world.

擁抱生活的兩面，你就會為迎接真正的挑戰做好準備，在世界上做出不可思議的事情。

The people that do the most extraordinary things embrace both sides.

那些能做出非凡成就的人，會同時兼顧兩方面。