To be honest, from my experience, I would say that most of us don't want to get married at all.

老實說，根據我的經驗，我認為我們大多數人根本不想結婚。

But that's not to say that there aren't a lot of people here who still want to get married, and of course, everyone has their own opinions about marriage, but overall, I think the trend is that most Americans are not getting married, or they're getting married much later in life.

當然，每個人對婚姻都有自己的看法，但總的來說，我認為趨勢是大多數美國人都不結婚，或者他們結婚的年齡要晚得多。

First, I think it's really important to understand that our dating culture is really different, and most people here will date purely out of love, and we don't really consider too much about our partner's financial status, or their job, or how much property they have.

首先，我認為很重要的一點是，我們的約會文化確實與眾不同，這裡的大多數人約會純粹是出於愛，我們不會過多考慮對方的經濟狀況、工作或財產多少。

And no, there is no cai li in America.

不，美國沒有 "蔡裡"。

Usually, after you're married, you'll go buy a house together, and combine your incomes to pay it off together.

通常，結婚後，你們會一起去買房子，然後把你們的收入加在一起一起還清。

So when we're dating, we basically just think it's important to find someone with similar values and similar life goals, but mostly, we want someone that we can fall in love with, and someone who brings joy and happiness to our day-to-day life.

是以，當我們約會時，我們基本上只認為找到一個價值觀相似、生活目標相似的人很重要，但最主要的是，我們想要一個能讓我們墜入愛河的人，一個能給我們的日常生活帶來快樂和幸福的人。

Because if we're gonna spend the rest of our life with one person, it better be someone that we truly want to see every day.

因為如果我們要和一個人共度餘生，那他最好是我們每天都想見到的人。

So why don't American girls want to get married?

那麼，為什麼美國女孩不願意結婚呢？

There are two main reasons, and the first one is that it's super hard to find a really good guy here.

主要有兩個原因，第一個原因是在這裡很難找到一個真正的好人。

A lot of American guys don't do any household chores, they're not really good at taking care of the kids, and they can be extremely selfish.

很多美國男人不做家務，不善於照顧孩子，而且他們可能非常自私。

So for girls, after they get married, they're expected to keep doing their full-time jobs, and take care of the house, and do all of the child care.

是以，對於女孩來說，結婚後，她們要繼續做全職工作，照顧家庭，照顧所有的孩子。

So I can tell you from experience of watching my mom do this, it can get really, really exhausting.

是以，我可以告訴你，根據我母親的經驗，這樣做真的會非常非常累。

In Chinese, there's the phrase 中男青女, and I think a lot of people think that America isn't this way, but in most places, I would say it really is, and girls are expected to do a lot more than boys.

中文裡有一句話叫 "中男青女"，我想很多人認為美國不是這樣的，但在大多數地方，我想說確實是這樣的，女孩被期望比男孩做得更多。

For example, I have three brothers, and I'm the only daughter, so I was expected to do a lot more than them, and before I was even 10 years old,

例如，我有三個哥哥，而我是獨生女，所以我被要求比他們做得更多，而且還不到 10 歲、

I could cook, clean, do the dishes, mow the yard, take care of the house, and take care of my younger brothers.

我可以做飯、打掃衛生、洗碗、修剪院子、打理家務、照顧弟弟。

Literally, anything needed to be done around the house,

從字面上看，家裡需要做的任何事情都可以做、

I could do it, and I was expected to do it.

我可以做到，人們也期望我做到。

But even to this day, I don't even think that some of my brothers know how to do the laundry.

但時至今日，我甚至覺得我的一些兄弟還不會洗衣服。

So there are a lot of things in American culture that are really unfair for women, and in turn, it's kind of given us this negative impression of marriage.

是以，美國文化中有很多對女性不公平的東西，這反過來又給了我們對婚姻的負面印象。

And this leads us to the second reason that

這就引出了第二個原因，即

American girls don't really want to get married anymore, which is because these days, most girls can live a very full and happy life being totally independent.

美國女孩其實已經不想結婚了，因為如今大多數女孩都可以完全獨立，過著充實而幸福的生活。

More and more women are getting a better education, which leads them to higher-paying jobs and being able to fully support themselves.

越來越多的女性接受了更好的教育，從而獲得了更高收入的工作，能夠完全養活自己。

In the past, girls were expected to get married and have kids and just live as a housewife, and if you didn't do this, it was basically socially unacceptable and you could be ostracized from society.

過去，人們希望女孩結婚生子，過上家庭主婦的生活，如果你不這樣做，基本上是不被社會接受的，你可能會被社會排斥。

But now, I would say most of the girls that I know are living perfectly happy lives, being totally independent, and they have a good group of friends and family who support them while they go study or work to support themselves.

但現在，我想說的是，我認識的大多數女孩都過著非常幸福的生活，完全獨立，她們有一群好朋友和家人支持她們，同時她們去學習或工作以養活自己。

Getting married is definitely not the main focus of their entire life.

結婚絕對不是他們整個生活的重心。

I think it's super important that girls are able to have this choice to choose what they want their future to be, and while it may be the case that most Americans don't really want to get married, there are still plenty of Americans who do get married, especially if you go to some smaller towns in America where the cost of living is much lower and people can have a more relaxed lifestyle.

雖然大多數美國人可能並不真的想結婚，但還是有很多美國人結婚了，尤其是如果你去美國的一些小城鎮，那裡的生活成本更低，人們的生活方式也更輕鬆。

You'll be able to see more and more people getting married and having kids because they don't need to work so much or they can rely on one person's income if they have a really good job.

你會看到越來越多的人結婚生子，因為他們不需要工作那麼多，或者如果他們有一份非常好的工作，他們可以依靠一個人的收入。

So in these situations, there are some women who are housewives and there's no real negative connotation to this word unless you say it like she's just a housewife.

是以，在這種情況下，有些女性是家庭主婦，這個詞並沒有真正的負面含義，除非你說她只是一個家庭主婦。

Then it can come off as really judgmental.

這樣就會顯得很有評判性。

Most Americans don't really judge when someone says they're a housewife or a stay-at-home mom or something like that because we know how hard it is to take care of the whole house and to raise kids basically on your own.

當有人說自己是家庭主婦或家庭主婦之類的人時，大多數美國人都不會妄加評論，因為我們知道基本上一個人照顧整個家和撫養孩子有多難。

Some people might feel jealous or they might feel like those women aren't living up to their full potential by just being a housewife, but those judgmental people are really just a minority.

有些人可能會覺得嫉妒，或者覺得這些女性只做家庭主婦沒有充分發揮自己的潛能，但這些有偏見的人其實只是少數。

So even though a lot of American girls are choosing not to get married recently,

是以，儘管最近有很多美國女孩選擇不結婚、

I would say that deep down, a lot of us still do want to get married.

我想說的是，在內心深處，我們很多人還是想結婚的。

It's just really hard to find the right person.

只是很難找到合適的人。

I think marriage should be pretty simple and easy and really romantic as long as we have that right person.

我認為婚姻應該是非常簡單、輕鬆和浪漫的，只要我們有那個對的人。

But without that person,

但沒有那個人

I think it just makes life way more difficult for a lot of women.

我認為這讓很多女性的生活變得更加艱難。

Anyway, I hope this video helped you understand more about American culture and let me know in the comments if you share any similar thoughts or feelings or if you have any questions feel free to ask and I'll see you guys next time.

總之，我希望這段視頻能幫助你更多地瞭解美國文化，如果你也有類似的想法或感受，請在評論中告訴我；如果你有任何問題，請隨時提出，我們下次再見。

Bye!

再見！