Name: 當你猶豫不決的時候，這段話能幫到你...► Marie Forleo 瑪麗-弗裡奧（中英字幕） (當你猶豫不決的時候，這段話能幫到你... ► Marie Forleo 瑪麗·弗里奧（中英字幕）)
Uploaded: 2024-12-28T16:01:17.000Z
Duration: 4 min 6 s

How do you help somebody who has two conflicting voices, both are equally valid, but they're paralyzed just with pure indecision?

你該如何幫助那些有兩種相互衝突的聲音的人，這兩種聲音都同樣有效，但他們卻因猶豫不決而癱瘓？

進階程度副詞句型

Yeah, so one of my life mantras that saves my butt every single day of the week is this idea that clarity comes from engagement, not thought.

是啊，我的人生格言之一就是 "清晰來自參與，而不是思考"。

情態助動詞 A2

So you can be sitting on your couch and wrestling with two options, whether it's which business should I start?

是以，你可能會坐在沙發上，糾結於兩個選擇：我應該創辦哪家企業？

Should I stay in this relationship or not?

Should I go back to school or should I stay in this job?

我應該回到學校，還是繼續做這份工作？

There's a million things that all of us kind of struggle with each and every day.

我們每個人每天都在為無數的事情掙扎。

And one of the things that's helped me, and I remember it was actually tied back to when I was considering whether or not to go for some type of career in dance.

其中對我有幫助的一件事，我記得其實可以追溯到我考慮是否要從事某種舞蹈職業的時候。

Now, I never had any formal dance training.

我從未接受過正規的舞蹈訓練。

My dance experience really was me moonwalking across my mom's linoleum floor in my white socks to like Michael Jackson.

我的舞蹈經歷其實就是我穿著白襪子在媽媽的油氈地板上 "月球漫步"，就像邁克爾-傑克遜一樣。

That's as far as the dance training I had, but I love to dance.

我接受的舞蹈訓練僅此而已，但我熱愛舞蹈。

And I didn't wanna just focus on one specific thing, and I loved spirituality, I loved business, I loved marketing, I loved personal development, but I also loved fitness and I also loved dance.

我不想只專注於某一件事，我熱愛靈性，熱愛商業，熱愛市場營銷，熱愛個人發展，但我也熱愛健身，熱愛舞蹈。

And so I was having a hard time reconciling what to call myself, what to focus on.

是以，我很難調和該如何稱呼自己，該專注於什麼。

It was really a confusing time in my life.

那真是我人生中的一段混亂時期。

And it was really frustrating because I had a lot of drive and I wanted to help people and I wanted to make a difference, but I didn't and I couldn't figure out how I fit into society.

這真的很令人沮喪，因為我有很多動力，我想幫助別人，我想有所作為，但我沒有做到，我不知道自己如何融入社會。

So this idea of dance just didn't leave me alone.

是以，舞蹈這個想法一直沒有離開我。

And I remember just saying to myself, if I don't actually go and take a class, how am I gonna know?

我記得我對自己說，如果我不去上課，我怎麼會知道呢？

And so I went and I took my first ever professional dance class at Broadway Dance Center.

於是我去了百老匯舞蹈中心，上了我的第一堂專業舞蹈課。

And getting into that class, I was terrified because in the dance world, unfortunately, if you're 25 years old, in the hip hop world, you're kind of over the hill, which is disgusting to say.

上那堂課時，我很害怕，因為在舞蹈界，不幸的是，如果你 25 歲，在街舞界，你就有點過氣了，說起來真讓人噁心。

你就是那個老傢伙，這太瘋狂了。

That is insane to say, and it's not true everywhere, but I remember going into that class and it was like the warmup section and I just sat down on this wooden floor and I moved myself in the back because I was terrified that I would make people trip or that people would laugh at me.

這話說得太離譜了，而且也不是在哪兒都能這麼說，但我記得我去上那堂課的時候，好像是熱身環節，我就坐在木地板上，把自己挪到了後面，因為我很害怕會把別人絆倒，或者別人會嘲笑我。

And I just sat on the floor and the music came on and I started crying because it felt so right.

我就坐在地板上，音樂響起，我就開始哭，因為感覺太對了。

And I'm like, why have I tortured myself for like three years going like, could I dance, should I dance, should I try to dance?

我就想，為什麼我折磨了自己三年，就像，我能跳舞嗎，我應該跳舞嗎，我應該嘗試跳舞嗎？

I mean, I tortured myself for years about that and was miserable.

我是說，我為此折磨了自己很多年，非常痛苦。

And so this idea of clarity comes from engagement, not thought.

是以，"清晰 "這一概念來自參與，而非思考。

If you're wrestling with something, do anything you can to move towards the thing that you think you want.

如果你正在糾結一件事，那就盡你所能，朝著你認為自己想要的方向前進。

You know, if you're not sure if you should stay in a relationship, it's like, give that relationship everything you can.

你知道，如果你不確定自己是否應該留在一段關係中，那就像，給這段關係你能給的一切。

If it's a career that you might want to investigate or you might want to move towards, like go take a class, intern.

如果這是你想研究的職業，或者你想朝這個方向發展，比如去上課、實習。

Get yourself embedded in that field somehow to test it because your body has a truth.

讓自己以某種方式融入該領域，對其進行測試，因為你的身體有一個真理。

It has a natural knowing that you can never access through your mind alone.

它有一種自然的知覺，你永遠無法僅靠頭腦來獲取。

And I think that once you engage with your body and you actually take action, there is this flood of intelligence that you have access to that you cannot get any other way. 100%.

我認為，一旦你與自己的身體接觸，並真正付諸行動，你就能獲得其他方式無法獲得的大量智慧。100%.

And that's what makes that such a great philosophy.

It doesn't matter how that story plays out.

It only matters at the end of that story, you got a visceral answer.

故事的最後，你得到了一個直觀的答案，這才是最重要的。

You got a visceral answer and now you can stop torturing yourself and you can go in that other direction or the other thing that you want to do and feel more confidence and go for it.

你得到了一個直觀的答案，現在你可以不用再折磨自己了，你可以朝著另一個方向，或者你想做的另一件事，更有信心地去做。

And some of the best things that you can do is actually get that know.

而你能做的最好的事情，就是真正去了解它。

Like if you think something is so great and so magical that you actually take a step towards it and you get that body knowing or some kind of feedback like, oh, this is disgusting.

比如，如果你覺得某件事情很棒、很神奇，以至於你邁出了一步，卻得到了身體的認知或某種反饋，比如 "哦，這太噁心了"。

But to get that answer, you don't have to journal about it.

但要得到這個答案，你不必寫日記。

You don't have to meditate on it for four weeks.