At first glance, their relationship seems like a fairy tale.

乍一看，他們的關係就像童話故事。

They spent countless joyful moments together, shared dreams, and planned a future.

他們一起度過了無數歡樂時光，分享夢想，規劃未來。

However, as time went on, Psy began to notice subtle signs that made them feel uncomfortable in the relationship.

然而，隨著時間的推移，Psy 開始注意到一些微妙的跡象，讓他們在這段關係中感到不自在。

Their partner would avoid difficult conversations, lash out when they're frustrated, and ignore Psy when they're having a bad day.

他們的伴侶會迴避困難的對話，在沮喪時發火，在Psy心情不好時不理不睬。

Does that sound right to you?

你覺得這樣做對嗎？

Emotional safety is the security you feel when you're with someone that allows you to express your feelings freely and be who you are.

情感安全是指當你和某人在一起時所感受到的安全感，這種安全感允許你自由地表達自己的情感，做自己。

Curious about how to discern if someone is truly emotionally safe to be in a relationship with?

您是否想知道如何辨別一個人在情感上是否真的安全？

Here are a few essential signs to watch out for.

以下是一些需要注意的基本徵兆。

Also, be sure to look out for the bonus thought we've added as well.

此外，請務必留意我們添加的獎勵思想。

Consistency.

一致性。

When you don't feel emotionally safe in a relationship, it can feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them.

當你在一段關係中感覺不到情感安全時，就會覺得你必須在他們身邊如履薄冰。

It's difficult to be constantly second-guessing and worrying about your partner's words or responses.

不斷猜測和擔心伴侶的言語或反應是很困難的。

In contrast, an emotionally safe partner will be consistent and reliable in their words and actions.

相比之下，情感安全型伴侶的言行會始終如一，值得信賴。

They will follow through on their promises, show up for you when you need them, and prioritize the relationship.

他們會履行自己的承諾，在你需要的時候出現在你身邊，並優先考慮雙方的關係。

Imagine planning a special date night and they not only show up but are fully present and engaged.

想象一下，在計劃一個特別的約會之夜時，他們不僅會出現，而且會全身心地投入其中。

This consistency means you don't have to worry about their moods or second their responses.

這種一致性意味著您不必擔心他們的情緒或附和他們的反應。

Responsibility.

責任。

In any relationship, misunderstandings are bound to occur.

在任何關係中，誤解都是難免的。

However, when you're with an emotionally safe individual, they will take responsibility for their actions, apologize sincerely, and seek to repair any harm they caused.

然而，當你和一個情感安全的人在一起時，他們會為自己的行為負責，真誠地道歉，並努力彌補自己造成的傷害。

Just like if they unintentionally hurt your feelings, they might say, I'm really sorry for what I said earlier.

就像如果他們無意中傷害了你的感情，他們可能會說：我真的很抱歉我之前說的話。

I didn't mean to hurt you and I want to make it right.

我無意傷害你，我想彌補過錯。

You can't build a secure relationship with someone who doesn't own up to their mistakes or know how to apologize.

如果一個人不承認自己的錯誤，也不知道如何道歉，你就無法與他建立安全的關係。

They should be willing to put in the effort to improve in these areas when necessary.

必要時，他們應願意付出努力，在這些方面有所改進。

They value honesty, accountability, and mutual respect, nurturing a safe and trusting relationship dynamic.

他們重視誠實、負責和相互尊重，培養一種安全和相互信任的關係動態。

Vulnerability.

脆弱性。

Healthy conflict resolution and vulnerability are essential components of emotional safety.

健康地解決衝突和脆弱是情感安全的重要組成部分。

A safe partner approaches conflicts with respect and empathy, seeking mutual understanding.

安全的夥伴會以尊重和同情的態度對待衝突，尋求相互理解。

They're willing to share their fears, insecurities, and emotions authentically, such as during a disagreement.

他們願意真實地分享自己的恐懼、不安全感和情緒，比如在意見分歧時。

They might say, I feel uncomfortable when we argue like this.

他們可能會說，我們這樣爭吵，我覺得很不舒服。

Can we find a way to understand each other better?

我們能找到更好地相互理解的方法嗎？

This approach helps you build trust and fosters a deeper connection.

這種方法有助於建立信任，促進更深層次的聯繫。

They listen without judgment.

他們傾聽而不評判。

An emotionally safe partner will not jump to conclusions or criticize your feelings.

情感安全的伴侶不會妄下結論，也不會責備你的感受。

If you share a concern about feeling neglected, an emotionally safe partner would respond with, I can see why you feel that way.

如果你擔心自己被忽視，情感上安全的伴侶會說："我知道你為什麼會有這種感覺。

Let's talk about how we can make more time for each other, rather than dismissing your feelings or getting defensive.

讓我們來談談如何為彼此騰出更多的時間，而不是否定你的感受或採取防衛態度。

Being emotionally safe means your partner listens attentively, validates your feelings, and expresses their own thoughts and emotions in a respectful manner.

情感安全意味著你的伴侶會認真傾聽你的傾訴，認可你的感受，並以尊重的方式表達他們自己的想法和情感。

This kind of dialogue is the first step towards creating an emotionally safe environment.

這種對話是創建情感安全環境的第一步。

A.R.E.

A.R.E.

You There For Me?

你在嗎？

Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement.

可訪問性、響應性和參與性。

This acronym, devised by Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, highlights essential qualities in a supportive partner.

這個首字母縮寫詞是由情感焦點療法的創始人蘇-約翰遜博士設計的，它強調了支持型伴侶的基本品質。

The right person will make it very clear that they are there for you.

合適的人會非常明確地告訴你，他們是為你而存在的。

For example, if you call them during a stressful moment, they'll try their best to make time to listen and offer comfort, showing you that they're there for you both physically and emotionally.

例如，如果您在緊張時刻給他們打電話，他們會盡力抽出時間傾聽並給予安慰，讓您知道他們在身體和情感上都在您身邊。

They are committed to being a part of your life, without playing games or sending mixed signals.

他們致力於成為你生活的一部分，而不是玩遊戲或傳遞混合信號。

Respect and Boundaries.

尊重與界限

A safe partner will understand and honor your needs, both physical and emotional, without pushing you beyond your comfort zone.

一個安全的伴侶會理解並尊重你的生理和情感需求，而不會把你逼到舒適區之外。

For instance, if you need some time after a long day, they'll respect that space and won't pressure you to interact with them when you're not ready.

例如，如果你在忙碌一天後需要一些時間，他們會尊重你的空間，不會在你沒有準備好的時候給你壓力，讓你與他們互動。

Being with them feels safe and you know that they won't pressure you into doing things you're uncomfortable with.

和他們在一起感覺很安全，你知道他們不會給你壓力，讓你做一些你不喜歡的事情。

This respect creates a sense of safety and shows that they honor your individuality.

這種尊重會給人一種安全感，並表明他們尊重你的個性。

Empathy.

同理心。

Emotional safety is about feeling understood.

情感安全就是感覺被理解。

A safe partner shows compassion and genuine interest in your well-being.

一個安全的伴侶會對你的幸福表示同情和真正的興趣。

When you're upset about a work issue, do they say, I'm really sorry you're dealing with that, how can I help?

當你為工作上的問題苦惱時，他們是否會說："我真的很遺憾你正在處理這件事，我能幫上什麼忙嗎？

They celebrate your successes and offer empathy and support during challenging times, creating a safe emotional environment where you feel accepted.

他們為你的成功喝彩，在你遇到困難時給予同情和支持，為你創造一個安全的情感環境，讓你感到自己被接納。

Bonus Thought.

額外思考

Self-Reflection.

自我檢討。

It is also important to take a moment for self-reflection.

花點時間進行自我反思也很重要。

Are you being emotionally safe for your partner as well?

你在情感上對伴侶也是安全的嗎？

Communication, trust, respect and empathy are two-way streets in a healthy relationship.

在健康的關係中，溝通、信任、尊重和換位思考是雙向的。

Emotional safety is the cornerstone of a strong and lasting relationship.

情感安全是牢固持久關係的基石。

By being aware of the safety and fostering a nurturing and supportive environment, you can create deep and meaningful connections with your partner.

意識到安全問題並營造一個培養和支持的環境，就能與伴侶建立深厚而有意義的聯繫。

Your partner should make you feel emotionally safe and valued, trust your instincts, prioritize your emotional well-being and cultivate relationships that bring out the best in you.

你的伴侶應該讓你感到情感安全和被重視，相信你的直覺，優先考慮你的情感健康，並培養能激發你最佳狀態的關係。

Which of these green flags do you think is the easiest to spot?

您認為哪一面綠旗最容易識別？

Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

歡迎在下面的評論區發表您的看法。

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如果您覺得這段視頻對您有幫助，請與其他可能需要觀看的人分享。

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Thank you so much for watching.

感謝您的收看。