So whether it's or physical abuse or verbal abuse, there's an anxiety that when things start to get intense in any way, shape, or form in the relationship, there's an anxiousness that will start to show up and that those two things are connected, usually for the person that has an anxious attachment and has experienced some type of abuse or trauma, that when things start to get in any kind of intensity, whether it's anger, whether it's the intensity of love and connection, will start to produce this very anxious stirring within the individual.