I lost millions on that one deal.

那筆交易讓我損失了數百萬美元。

I was on the Joe Rogan podcast, people were saying like, I want her dead.

我在喬-羅根的播客上看到有人說，我想讓她死。

Can somebody kill her please?

有人能殺了她嗎？

I want her dead or they said everything.

我希望她死，否則他們什麼都說了。

People say like, what's the secret?

人們會說，祕訣是什麼？

What's your happiness?

你的幸福是什麼？

Figure it out for yourself.

自己想辦法。

This summer, I interviewed 58 year old Janet who has started over 12 successful businesses.

今年夏天，我採訪了 58 歲的珍妮特，她已經成功創辦了超過 12 家企業。

Janet for a lot of reasons has figured life out.

出於種種原因，珍妮特想通了人生。

But at the same time, is still someone who's My husband passed away nine months ago, it still feels rather traumatic for me to even talk about.

但與此同時，他仍然是我的親人。我的丈夫九個月前去世了，現在提起這件事，我仍然感到相當痛苦。

We interviewed Janet and posted short snippets of her videos on Instagram.

我們採訪了珍妮特，並在 Instagram 上發佈了她的視頻短片。

And those videos have gone millions of views worldwide.

這些視頻在全球已有數百萬人觀看。

So today we are sharing the extended version of Janet's greatest life lessons and experiences that I guarantee will change the way you look at your life.

是以，今天我們將分享珍妮特最寶貴的人生經驗和教訓的擴展版，我保證這些經驗和教訓將改變你對人生的看法。

How old are you?

你多大了？

I'm 58.

我 58 歲了。

What does it feel like to be 58?

58 歲是什麼感覺？

It feels better than I thought it would feel.

感覺比我想象的要好。

It's all where you are in life.

這取決於你的生活狀態。

And I thought at 58, I wouldn't be active.

我想，58 歲的我不會再活躍了。

I you know, I didn't know what 58 was.

我不知道 58 是什麼。

But I feel good.

但我感覺很好。

I feel happy.

我感覺很幸福。

I feel like I have a lot of energy.

我感覺自己精力充沛。

I play tennis almost every day.

我幾乎每天都打網球。

I feel strong.

我感覺很強壯。

What would you say is a big change you made in your life that drastically improved the quality of it?

您認為自己在生活中做出的、能極大提高生活品質的重大改變是什麼？

Not caring what other people think.

不在乎別人怎麼想

When did that come?

什麼時候來的？

Well, I you know, I didn't live a typical life when I was 18.

你知道，我 18 歲時的生活並不尋常。

I moved to Italy on my own.

我一個人搬到了意大利。

You know, I just kind of led my own life to my own rules.

你知道，我只是按照自己的規則過自己的生活。

And I had a lot of feedback that I should, you know, fit in society's rules, never got a high school diploma.

我得到了很多反饋，你知道，我應該適應社會的規則，我從來沒有拿到過高中文憑。

But then I went on to go to university.

但後來我上了大學。

So I just did things in my way.

所以，我只是按照自己的方式做事。

And sometimes I cared about what people said to me, you know, you're not gonna make everyone happy.

有時我也會在意別人對我說的話，你知道，你不可能讓所有人都開心。

So why bother and you have to be true to yourself.

所以，何必呢，你必須忠於自己。

What do you do for a living?

你靠什麼謀生？

I own restaurants, 10 restaurants or 12.

我擁有 10 家或 12 家餐館。

Sorry, 12 restaurants in Toronto.

對不起，多倫多有 12 家餐廳。

It's good when you lose count of how many businesses you have 12 restaurants in Toronto and two restaurants in LA.

當你數不清自己在多倫多有 12 家餐廳，在洛杉磯有 2 家餐廳時，這就很好了。

Amazing.

太神奇了

So you're talking about, you know, people want you to go down this conventional path.

所以你說的是，你知道，人們希望你走這條傳統的道路。

Did you ever end up doing that?

你最終這麼做了嗎？

I mean, going to university was was pretty conventional.

我的意思是，上大學是非常傳統的。

And I got the message from society because I was a high school dropout, that I needed that.

因為我高中輟學，社會給了我這樣的資訊：我需要這樣。

And so I was figuring out kind of like, okay, society, parents, you want me to go to university, you know, I'm going to do this.

所以我就在想，好吧，社會、父母，你們想讓我上大學，那我就這麼做吧。

And I went later in life and ended up being a straight A student and valedictorian.

我後來去了那裡，結果成了全優生和告別演說者。

And then I went on to do my master's degree in business.

然後，我繼續攻讀商業碩士學位。

So I, I fell into that.

於是，我，我陷入了這種境地。

But I thought it was a little bit, you know, of a joke that I had to do this, read some books, take a test, and now society is going to praise you.

但我覺得這有點像一個笑話，你知道，我必須這樣做，讀幾本書，參加考試，現在社會就要表揚你了。

Yeah, I thought like, right, I figured out the biggest secret on the planet to make people happy.

是啊，我想，對了，我發現了這個星球上讓人們快樂的最大祕密。

You know, at the at the end of the day, I do really need university when you look at the Bill Gates of the world, or, you know, we don't.

你知道，在一天結束的時候，當你看到世界上的比爾-蓋茨時，我確實需要大學，或者說，你知道，我們不需要大學。

So we don't need to fall into what society has taught us.

是以，我們不必陷入社會教導我們的誤區。

I finished university kind of around when I was 30.

我大概是在 30 歲時完成大學學業的。

And I'm open right into the restaurant business.

我馬上就要開餐館了。

I'm passionate about restaurants.

我對餐館充滿熱情。

And I travel all over the world to experience restaurants.

我到世界各地去體驗餐廳。

I'm, I'm doing two of my passions, business, and restaurants and food, I feel very lucky.

我有兩個愛好，做生意、餐館和美食，我感到非常幸運。

I mean, some people never discover what their passions are.

我的意思是，有些人從未發現自己的激情所在。

And generally, you know, it's been it's been successful.

總的來說，你知道的，它是成功的。

And I've been really happy doing it.

我做得很開心。

I think that's the greatest success if you're, if you're happy doing it.

我認為，如果你做得開心，這就是最大的成功。

What's your attitude towards risk?

你對風險持什麼態度？

There's a lot of people who want to make changes in their life.

很多人都想改變自己的生活。

But the so to speak risk of doing that risk of failure of fear perception from others.

但這樣做的風險可以說是失敗的風險，因為害怕別人的看法。

How do you approach that?

你是如何做到這一點的？

When I opened my first restaurant, when I was 30, I had a lot of people, a lot of people have a lot of advice when you start off in something new, and you haven't done it before.

當我 30 歲時開第一家餐廳時，很多人都給了我很多建議。

Everyone's an expert.

人人都是專家

Yeah, unless it's coming from someone who has walked in your shoes or have done it, the experience, but people just randomly giving you advice when you pay, they don't, they don't trust that you know what you're doing.

是啊，除非是你的同行或有經驗的人給你的建議，但人們只是在你付錢時隨意給你建議，他們不相信你知道自己在做什麼。

Now nobody can say anything to me.

現在沒人能對我說什麼了。

I'm 28 years in the business.

我幹這行已經 28 年了。

But for people starting off a lot of people, you know, giving their opinions.

但對於剛開始工作的人來說，很多人都會發表自己的意見。

But one opinion that I had pushed my way was, this is too risky, and you're going to lose everything.

但有一種意見認為，這樣做風險太大，你會失去一切。

And what I had to say to everyone was, I have nothing.

我必須對大家說的是，我一無所有。

There's nothing here to lose.

這裡沒有什麼可失去的。

I had a bit of money that I rolled into this restaurant.

我帶了點錢，捲進了這家餐廳。

Yeah.

是啊

And I was like, it's not that much.

我想，也沒那麼多。

And if I lose it, I'm going to start over again.

如果我失去了它，我會重新開始。

When it depends on how what do you have to lose?

這取決於你會失去什麼？

What stage of your life are you at?

您正處於人生的哪個階段？

Yeah, I think there's times to take bigger risks.

是的，我認為有時需要冒更大的風險。

Other times, you know, you want to put the kids through college, maybe it's not time to start rolling some dice.

其他時候，你知道，你想讓孩子們上大學，也許現在還不是開始擲骰子的時候。

I think it's a stage of life.

我認為這是人生的一個階段。

And you have to add, you have to ask that question to yourself.

你必須補充一點，你必須問自己這個問題。

Are you okay with risk?

你能承受風險嗎？

You want risk?

你想冒險？

How risk averse are you?

您的風險厭惡程度如何？

It's such an individual journey, right?

這是一段個性化的旅程，不是嗎？

But in the beginning, when you start something, what do you have to lose?

但一開始，當你開始做一件事時，你會失去什麼呢？

Nothing.

什麼都沒有

Yeah, even to that point, I find that's a limiting way of thinking, what do I have to lose being meaning money, this or that?

是啊，即使到了那一步，我發現這也是一種限制性的思維方式，我有什麼好失去的，是指金錢、這個還是那個？

Well, okay, what do you have to lose by not taking that risk?

好吧，不冒這個險，你會有什麼損失呢？

People often think, what do I have to lose by taking the risk?

人們常常會想，我冒這個險會有什麼損失呢？

What do you have to lose by not taking it that pressure that you now have inside your head that dissatisfaction with yourself that all the regrets all the what if that's a lot to bear.

不接受它，你會失去什麼呢？你現在腦子裡的壓力，對自己的不滿，所有的遺憾，所有的如果，都讓你難以承受。

And a lot of the time we don't think about that.

很多時候，我們並沒有想到這一點。

We think about what happens if I take the risk and it doesn't work.

我們會想，如果我冒了這個險，卻沒有成功，那該怎麼辦？

What happens if you don't take it?

如果不服用會怎樣？

Life is going to be over like that.

人生就這樣結束了。

You cannot believe how fast time goes by.

你無法相信時間過得如此之快。

People will not believe it.

人們不會相信的。

And it's like, you're going to snap your fingers, your life is going to be over, live your best life.

這就好像，你要彈指一揮間，你的人生就要結束了，好好生活吧。

And what what what your life is, I don't know what's going to make you happy.

你的生活是怎樣的，我不知道怎樣才能讓你快樂。

And you may not know what's going to make you happy until you do your work, do your work, get clear, what do you want in this, you know, fabulous life, that we get to make a choice every single day, you better figure out your own life, no, and no one's going to help you.

你可能不知道什麼會讓你快樂，直到你做你的工作，做你的工作，得到明確的，你想要什麼在這個，你知道，神話般的生活，我們可以做出選擇的每一天，你最好弄清楚你自己的生活，沒有，沒有人會幫你。

No, you know, no one's out there going to serve you your life in a on a platter.

不，你知道，沒有人會把你的人生放在一個盤子裡端給你。

I think just like simplifying these things, I think we overcomplicate a lot of the whole figuring my life out I agree.

我認為，就像簡化這些事情一樣，我認為我們把很多事情都過於複雜化了，我同意這種說法。

And if you can simplify it down to what do I do in the morning?

如果你能把它簡化為我早上要做什麼？

What do I do during the day in the afternoon at night?

白天下午晚上我都做些什麼？

That really gives you a lot of clarity.

這真的讓你豁然開朗。

Yeah.

是啊

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如果你也有這樣的情況，但你想做這樣、這樣和這樣的事情，我強烈建議你拿一本我們的目標設定日誌。

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這本日誌只用三個部分，就能幫你勾勒出理想的生活，將其轉化為可衡量、可實現的具體目標，然後建立起你所需的紀律和結構，在短短六個月內實現你所有最大的夢想。

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現在正值假期，我們將為點擊下面鏈接並搶到紅包的前一百名用戶贈送超過 1500 美元的免費紅包。

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所以，如果你也像珍妮特一樣，想邁出人生升級的下一步，點擊下面的鏈接，28 年的從業經歷讓你今天對自己的一切瞭如指掌，如果讓你回到 30 歲剛入行時的自己，給她一些建議，讓她更快地達到你現在的成就，你的建議會是什麼？

I would say there's no need to go faster and build that foundation.

我想說的是，沒有必要加快速度，打好基礎。

I think people move too quickly.

我覺得人們走得太快了。

And I've seen a lot of people blow up because of that and lose everything.

我見過很多人是以而崩潰，失去一切。

I made sacrifices in my life, I moved back home, I left home when I was 18.

我在生活中做出了犧牲，我搬回家住，我 18 歲時就離開了家。

As a 30 year old and move back into my parents home to save money.

作為一個 30 歲的年輕人，為了省錢，我搬回了父母家。

So I could save money and make bigger moves in life to then kind of have a bigger life later when you kind of want it build strong foundations.

這樣我就能省下錢，在生活中做出更大的改變，為以後的生活打下堅實的基礎。

I've seen too many people start expanding, you expand too quickly and you don't have the resources.

我見過太多的人開始擴張，你擴張得太快，卻沒有足夠的資源。

It's a recipe for a disaster.

這是災難的根源。

Can you understand when a business will do a restaurant business will do well and when it won't like can you identify certain factors immediately when you walk into a restaurant?

當你走進一家餐廳時，你能立即識別出某些因素嗎？

Sometimes I can sometimes, you know, I will I have certain sayings like never mistake a busy restaurant for a successful restaurant meaning are you making money?

有時候，我有一些說法，比如不要把繁忙的餐廳誤認為成功的餐廳，意思是你賺錢了嗎？

I like doing this business.

我喜歡做這一行。

I also like making money.

我也喜歡賺錢。

So I can walk into a small restaurant, I can see an army in the kitchen, I can see high labor, I can see high food costs.

是以，我走進一家小餐館，就能看到廚房裡的大軍，看到高昂的勞動力，看到高昂的食品成本。

I see a busy restaurant and people say, they're killing it.

我看到一家繁忙的餐廳，人們會說，他們正在大幹一場。

Look at them.

看看他們。

They're so busy.

他們太忙了。

And I will say they will be they'll be done in one year.

我想說的是，他們會在一年內完成。

And I've been good.

我一直都很好。

I've been good at picking out the restaurants that I kind of analyze that I walk in, I see locations, I see what they're doing.

我善於挑選餐廳，我對它們進行分析，我走進去，看到它們的位置，看到它們在做什麼。

I'm good at calling how long restaurants will will be around, I think.

我想，我很擅長預測餐館還能開多久。

But I'm fascinated to the way you're talking about everything you haven't mentioned once the food.

但我對你談論食物時的方式非常著迷。

Oh, God, no, I know the food's obviously great.

哦，天哪，不，我知道食物顯然很棒。

No, no, I know.

不，不，我知道。

It's obviously great.

這顯然很棒。

But I feel like in terms of succeeding, and that's such an important life lesson or business lesson.

但我覺得，就成功而言，這是非常重要的人生一課或商業一課。

It's oftentimes not about like what you would think it is, right?

很多時候並不像你想象的那樣，對嗎？

I go to restaurant, I think food.

我去餐廳，就會想到食物。

But what actually makes me like this restaurant one, where is it to, you know, who's the chef three, the vibe, this and that, like, yeah, you really focus on a lot of things beyond that.

但實際上，讓我喜歡這家餐廳的原因，一是它的位置，二是它的主廚是誰，三是它的氛圍，四是它的這個那個，就像，是的，你真的很關注這些之外的很多東西。

A restaurant is not just the food, not just the service.

餐廳不僅僅是食物，也不僅僅是服務。

And when you watch a movie, it's not going to be just like, who's the director, who are the actors, it's going to be the lighting, like the costumes and makeup.

當你看一部電影時，你不會只關注導演是誰，演員是誰，還會關注燈光、服裝和化妝。

So again, I equate it to a film, everything has to work for the vision of that, you know, every time I'm to a restaurant, I approach it like a movie.

是以，我再次把它等同於一部電影，一切都要為電影的視覺效果服務，你知道，每次我去餐廳，我都把它當作一部電影來對待。

How do you apply that, generally speaking, as a business advice?

一般來說，你如何將其作為商業建議？

It's not a one size fits all situation in life.

人生不是一成不變的。

And that's why it's almost hard to say, do I have a formula, I don't have a formula.

這就是為什麼幾乎很難說，我有公式嗎，我沒有公式。

There's there's not a formula is a lot of project by feeling to or it's more planned out.

很多項目都是憑感覺進行的，或者說計劃性更強。

No huge gut and opportunity luck, right time, right place.

沒有巨大的勇氣和機遇運氣，天時地利人和。

I wouldn't be in the restaurant business had had I not walked by in Yorkville, be our partner.

要不是我路過約克維爾，成為我們的合作伙伴，我也不會從事餐飲業。

You guys joking, we're serious.

你們在開玩笑，我們是認真的。

Let me think about it.

讓我想一想。

Two weeks later, I'm in the restaurant business life happens.

兩週後，我開始經營餐館生意，生活發生了翻天覆地的變化。

And are you open for the opportunities?

你願意接受這些機會嗎？

And also, right, you know, that you know, you work a lot with your gut, but your gut has to be clear, meaning do you know what you want?

還有，你知道，你經常憑直覺做事，但你的直覺必須明確，也就是說，你知道自己想要什麼嗎？

I mean, sometimes you you think you want things.

我的意思是，有時候你覺得你想要的東西。

But until you do your inner work, and you get clear, you're not gonna know what's right for you.

但是，除非你做了內心的工作，清楚了自己的想法，否則你不會知道什麼才是適合你的。

Some people might say, like, I want to be a lawyer, I want to be a lawyer, because their parents have told them that they get there.

有些人可能會說，我想成為一名律師，我想成為一名律師，因為他們的父母告訴他們，他們能做到這一點。

And they're like, this is not what I want.

他們會說，這不是我想要的。

Who are you living for?

你為誰而活？

You sometimes you think that, oh, I'm just wondering, I want money.

有時你會想，哦，我只是想知道，我想要錢。

Oh, you know, I know money's gonna make me happy.

哦，你知道，我知道錢能讓我快樂。

Things from the outside are gonna make you happy.

外在的東西會讓你快樂。

And then once you get all the money in the world, that's when you realize that's not it.

一旦你得到了世界上所有的錢，你就會意識到這不是你想要的。

You'll see a lot of billionaires give these talks, people that don't have money, they're like, they don't believe it.

你會看到很多億萬富翁發表這些演講，而那些沒錢的人卻不以為然。

They're like, if I had money, I know I'd be happy.

他們會說，如果我有錢，我一定會很幸福。

But I know I know quite a few billionaires, and they were chasing to be to be rich.

但我知道我認識不少億萬富翁，他們都是為了成為富人而追逐的。

When they got rich, they're like, I'm not happy.

當他們發財後，他們就會說，我不開心。

Then they went and they did their inner work.

然後，他們去做內心的工作。

And now they can enjoy their money.

現在，他們可以享受他們的錢了。

But it's not until I think you have to live and examine life.

但直到我認為你必須去生活，去審視生活，這才是真正的生活。

I think that's the important thing.

我認為這才是最重要的。

You have to do your inner work.

你必須做好內心的工作。

And we all have trauma to different degrees.

我們每個人都有不同程度的創傷。

And until you deal with your own trauma, then get clear.

在你處理好自己的創傷之前，請保持清醒。

So something speaks to your gut is actually true.

所以，直覺告訴你的東西其實是真的。

Yeah.

是啊

So one thing I've learned is that as much as you can focus on being successful, being happy and being successful are parallel.

是以，我學到的一點是，你可以專注於成功，但快樂和成功是並行不悖的。

So as much as you can put effort into being good at what you do, you also need to put effort into being happy, and living in the moment and enjoying life.

是以，在努力做好本職工作的同時，也要努力讓自己快樂起來，活在當下，享受生活。

There are two different things.

這是兩碼事。