People view you as not an ongoing person anymore.

人們會認為你不再是一個持續的人。

It's sad and lonely.

這是一種悲傷和孤獨。

There's no cure and there's no hope.

沒有治療方法，也沒有希望。

It's a big mistake.

這是一個很大的錯誤。

That's something that I only discovered 40 years into my life.

這是我 40 年後才發現的。

Five years ago, I wasn't like this at all.

五年前，我完全不是這樣。

It's hard.

這很難。

Bloody hard.

太難了

You make yourself miserable.

你讓自己痛苦不堪。

You want the truth?

你想知道真相嗎？

In this video, I'll be in Montreal, Canada, asking strangers in their 80s, some of the world, what advice they would give to their younger self.

在這段視頻中，我將在加拿大蒙特利爾，詢問世界上一些 80 多歲的陌生人，他們會給年輕的自己什麼建議。

Let's get into it.

讓我們開始吧。

How old are you?

你多大了？

88.

88.

What does it feel like to be 88?

88 歲是什麼感覺？

Well, I just came back from my cardiologist.

我剛從心臟病醫生那裡回來。

I'm in perfect shape physically, but I lost my wife a couple of years ago, so mentally I'm still working on it.

我的身體狀況很好，但幾年前我失去了妻子，所以精神上我還在努力。

How is that like, if you don't mind me asking?

如果你不介意我問的話，那是怎麼樣的？

Well, it's sad and lonely.

好吧，這是一種悲哀和孤獨。

I eat most of my meals alone, but I'm doing okay.

我大部分時間都是一個人吃飯，但我做得還不錯。

As long as I'm in good physical shape for another year, that'll be fine.

只要我的身體狀況還能再堅持一年，那就沒問題。

I'm pretty sure I'm going to get there.

我很確定我會到達那裡。

Yeah.

是啊

How long were you guys together for?

你們在一起多久了？

63 years.

63 歲

It was a perfect relationship, but, you know.

我們的關係很完美，但是，你知道的

My wife contacted ALS.

我妻子聯繫了 ALS。

She lived for a year after the diagnosis, but there's no cure and there's no hope and she had no quality of life.

確診後，她活了一年，但無法治癒，也沒有希望，她的生活毫無品質可言。

But she opted for medical assistance in dying and went very quietly and with dignity.

但她選擇了醫療協助死亡，走得很安靜，也很有尊嚴。

What was your favorite memory of her?

你對她最美好的記憶是什麼？

Oh, everything.

哦，什麼都有。

Three sons and seven wonderful grandkids.

三個兒子和七個可愛的孫子。

We did a lot of cruising.

我們經常巡航。

We were in Vietnam, we were in the Baltics.

我們在越南，我們在波羅的海。

We had a good life.

我們生活得很好。

What did she mean to you?

她對你意味著什麼？

Everything.

所有東西

How old are you?

你多大了？

70.

70.

What does it feel like to be 70?

70 歲是什麼感覺？

Oh, man.

天啊

It's been a rough year.

這是艱難的一年。

My wife died at the end of March and my mother died two weeks ago.

我妻子三月底去世，我母親兩週前去世。

Otherwise, I'm doing good.

除此之外，我做得還不錯。

How long were you and your wife together?

你和妻子在一起多久了？

35 years.

35歲

It was a great combination.

這是一個很棒的組合。

We did real well.

我們做得很好

So I kind of lost my mother, who I was with for 70 years, and I lost my wife, with whom I was with for 35 years.

是以，我失去了與我相伴 70 年的母親，也失去了與我相伴 35 年的妻子。

So a lot of adjustments.

所以要做很多調整。

Can you define the word love?

你能給 "愛 "下個定義嗎？

Wishing the best for the other person.

祝願對方一切順利。

What is important to you guys at this point in life?

在人生的這個階段，什麼對你們最重要？

I think for me, now, I lost my husband this year, he was 97, and it's very hard to live alone after you've lived with someone for 60 years.

我想，對我來說，今年我失去了我的丈夫，他 97 歲了，在你和某人生活了 60 年之後，獨自生活是非常困難的。

Really different kind of living.

真正與眾不同的生活

And everything starts to go, like, your back told me I've got bones broken in my back.

然後一切就開始了，比如，你的背告訴我，我背上的骨頭斷了。

I'm like, broken?

我想，壞了？

So that's why I'm with the Walker.

這就是我支持沃克的原因。

Five years ago, I wasn't like this at all.

五年前，我完全不是這樣。

Everything goes.

一切順利。

My eyesight is going, but I'm alive.

我的視力下降了，但我還活著。

I'm here and I see my grandchildren and I see my kids.

我在這裡，看到了我的孫子孫女，看到了我的孩子們。

Alright, I just want to cut in here.

好吧，我想插一句。

It's the first video that we filmed, I think, where an overwhelming number of the interviewees have dealt with loss recently.

我想，這是我們拍攝的第一部視頻，其中絕大多數受訪者最近都經歷了失去親人的痛苦。

These videos, it's one thing to listen to the advice you hear, but it's also another thing to really think about what these people are saying.

在這些視頻中，聽取建議是一回事，但真正思考這些人說的話又是另一回事。

We are going to be going through very similar emotions and feelings that they are going through right now.

我們將經歷與他們現在非常相似的情緒和感受。

I just invite you to take the time to text somebody that you love.

我只想請你花點時間給你愛的人發個簡訊。

Not text them, honestly.

老實說，不是給他們發短信。

Don't text them.

不要給他們發短信。

Take time to call somebody to go make an appointment with somebody that you love.

抽時間給某人打個電話，去和你愛的人約個時間。

Tell them that you love them.

告訴他們你愛他們。

Tell them that you appreciate them.

告訴他們你很感激他們。

You never know when the last time will be.

你永遠不知道最後一次是什麼時候。

Life is really short and all these interviews have been showing me this recently, so I know I'm going to do that after I finish filming this today.

生命真的很短暫，最近所有這些採訪都讓我明白了這一點，所以我知道，今天拍完之後，我就會這麼做。

How does the world look at you differently?

世界對你的看法有何不同？

Just by the age.

只是年齡。

If you're 88, you probably have dementia.

如果你 88 歲，你可能患有痴呆症。

You probably have very few interests left in life.

你可能已經沒有什麼興趣愛好了。

People view you as not an active, ongoing person anymore.

人們認為你不再是一個活躍的、持續的人。

It's a person who is saying goodbye, you could say.

可以說，這是一個正在告別的人。

But you don't feel that way, right?

但你沒有這種感覺，對嗎？

I don't feel that way.

我不這麼覺得。

Not yet, anyways.

反正現在還沒有。

How do you feel about the way people think about you?

你如何看待別人對你的看法？

I accept it because I know it's the truth.

我接受它，因為我知道這是事實。

That's what they think.

他們就是這麼想的。

I must have thought the same thing when I was younger.

我年輕的時候肯定也是這麼想的。

What have you done in your life to feel this good at this point?

你在生活中做了什麼，讓你此時感覺如此美好？

A lot of exercise.

大量運動

I'm in the gym three, four times a week.

我每週要去三四次健身房。

Bicycling, walking.

騎自行車、步行

Even now, I'm going for lunch and I'm up to 10,000 steps.

即使是現在，我要去吃午飯，我的步數也達到了 10,000 步。

Amazing.

太神奇了

My grandfather died when he was about 97, and he remained intellectually active to the very last day of his life.

我的祖父去世時大約 97 歲，直到生命的最後一天，他的智力依然活躍。

And I'm very busy.

我很忙

I'm writing, I'm doing voiceovers.

我在寫作，我在配音。

I'm very, very busy.

我非常非常忙。

My days are full.

我的日子很充實

If you know how to channel your creativity and you let others benefit from it, you've defeated age.

如果你知道如何引導自己的創造力，並讓他人從中受益，那麼你就戰勝了年齡。

I'm also a fine artist, and nobody can tell you when to stop that.

我還是一名美術家，沒人能告訴你什麼時候該停止創作。

So you're in control.

這樣你就能掌控一切。

It's not like you have to retire from your job.

你又不是非得從工作崗位上退休。

And that, I think, is very, very satisfying in some ways, you know, that you can just keep producing, keep making.

我認為，這在某種程度上是非常非常令人滿意的，你知道，你可以繼續生產，繼續製作。

What's the truth about life that you could teach to young people?

你能教給年輕人的人生真理是什麼？

If you live in the past, you're depressed.

如果你活在過去，你就會沮喪。

If you live in the future, you're anxious.

如果你生活在未來，你就會焦慮。

But if you live in the present, you're at peace and focused on the present.

但如果你活在當下，你就會心平氣和，專注於當下。

That everything is impermanent, so let's enjoy this moment 100%.

一切都是無常的，所以讓我們百分之百地享受這一刻吧。

Everything has a beginning.

萬物皆有開端。

Everything has an end.

萬物皆有盡頭。

When we are young, we think that it's never going to end.

當我們年輕的時候，我們認為它永遠不會結束。

It's a big mistake.

這是一個很大的錯誤。

Enjoy the moment.

享受當下

Exactly.

沒錯。

And also not to be so full of yourself and so proud in the sense of empty pride.

也不要自以為是，不要空虛驕傲。

What you can do with your body or what your achievements.

你的身體能做什麼，你的成就是什麼。

You know, as you get older, you see that many of those things get weaker, you know?

你知道，隨著年齡的增長，你會發現很多東西都會變弱，你知道嗎？

Like your body is not as strong, so you cannot do as much.

就像你的身體沒有那麼強壯，所以你做不了那麼多事情。

But when you are young, you know, sometimes you look at old people and you say, you know, why don't they move faster, you know?

但是，當你年輕的時候，你知道，有時候你看著老人，你會說，你知道，他們為什麼不走得更快，你知道嗎？

Why don't they understand, you know?

他們怎麼就不明白呢？

I guess when you are confronted with somebody like that and then you feel your impatience growing, so that's the moment to practice deep breathing and mindfulness.

我想，當你面對這樣的人時，你會感到越來越不耐煩，這時候就需要練習深呼吸和正念。

That's the way to combat stress.

這就是對抗壓力的方法。

If you could go back in time knowing what you know today and give one piece of advice to your younger self, what would you say?

如果你能回到過去，瞭解你今天所知道的一切，並給年輕的自己一個建議，你會說什麼？

I say to myself, if my husband would come alive again, I'd never argue with him again.

我對自己說，如果我丈夫能再活過來，我就再也不和他吵架了。

I would want to encourage that guy to be more able and courageous to act on his gut feeling.

我想鼓勵那個人更有能力和勇氣根據自己的直覺採取行動。

That's something that I only discovered 20, 30, 40 years into my life, you know?

這是我在 20、30、40 年後才發現的，你知道嗎？

What is this gut feeling that people talk about?

人們所說的直覺是什麼？

It was as if it was a sound that was beyond my ability to hear.

這彷彿是一種我無法聽到的聲音。

I was brought up in an environment and a mindset where you did what you were told, you obeyed.

我的成長環境和思維方式都是言聽計從、唯命是從。

That resulted me in getting into a relationship that I went too far in it because I don't want to disappoint her, don't want to say no.

這導致我在一段感情中走得太遠，因為我不想讓她失望，不想說 "不"。

My gut feeling was saying, like, this doesn't feel good.

我的直覺告訴我，這感覺不太好。

I wish I'd had more courage in myself, more confidence in my gut feeling.

我希望自己能有更大的勇氣，對自己的直覺更有信心。

What's the lesson or takeaway that you have from that experience?

你從那次經歷中得到了什麼教訓或啟示？

It's one of balance.

這是一個平衡問題。

Not being a total robot and not being a total, you know, inward-looking person either.

既不是一個完全的機器人，也不是一個完全的，你知道的，內向的人。

If you could go back in time knowing what you know today and give your younger self one piece of advice, what would you say to her?

如果你能回到過去，瞭解你今天所知道的一切，並給年輕時的自己一個建議，你會對她說什麼？

No.

不

No?

不是嗎？

Nothing.

什麼都沒有

Everything was perfect the way it was because it took me to this moment.

一切都很完美，因為它把我帶到了這一刻。

Looking back, what do you wish young people knew earlier in life?

回首往事，您希望年輕人早些知道什麼？

I think you know exactly what you should be doing when you're at this point in your life.

我想你很清楚自己在人生的這個階段應該做什麼。

You can't say what you should have known and been better at.

你不能說你應該知道什麼，應該做得更好。

You can only do what you can do.

你只能做你能做的事。

You make yourself miserable thinking that you're not keeping up to what you should be.

你認為自己沒有達到應有的水準，讓自己痛苦不堪。

What's one thing that when you were younger you put a lot of importance on and as you got older you realized wasn't actually that important?

你年輕時非常重視的一件事，隨著年齡的增長，你發現它其實並不那麼重要？

You want the truth?

你想知道真相嗎？

Chasing girls.

追逐女孩

And then I met my wife and we've been married for 45 years.

後來我遇到了我的妻子，我們已經結婚 45 年了。

I saw the futility of that.

我看到了這樣做的徒勞。

It's a lot nicer to be in a very loving couple than to be chasing women all the time.

一對恩愛夫妻比整天追逐女人要好得多。

Don't be afraid to fall in love.

不要害怕墜入愛河。

Yeah.

是啊

No, it's true.

不，這是真的。

Some people are.

有些人是這樣。

Some people are very sort of, well, they're afraid of becoming dependent or getting hurt or whatever, but you shouldn't.

有些人很害怕依賴別人或受到傷害，但你不應該這樣。

You got to risk it.

你得冒這個險。

What's your recipe for living a good life?

你的美好生活祕訣是什麼？

Do the right thing was the number one thing.

做正確的事是第一位的。

That was my wife's credo.

這是我妻子的信條。

Keep your chin up.

抬起下巴

Don't be judgmental and give the other person the benefit of the doubt.

不要妄加評論，要相信對方。

Kindness, fairness, honesty.

善良、公平、誠實。

She had it all.

她擁有一切。

She had it all.

她擁有一切。

I mean, I could go on and on.

我的意思是，我可以一直說下去。

She had it all.

她擁有一切。

A lot of people my age feel very lost in life.

很多和我同齡的人都覺得生活很迷茫。

They feel like it's very hard to navigate their life to figure out what they want to do.

他們覺得很難把握自己的人生，不知道自己想做什麼。

What would be your advice to those people?

你對這些人有什麼建議？

How did they figure their life out or piece it together?

他們是如何摸索或拼湊出自己的生活的？

Wow.

哇

I'm 70 and I feel very much like you do.

我今年 70 歲，感覺和你很像。

I mean, apart from wanting to have a really good relationship, which I succeeded after a number of failures, I never really had any major goal, never really had that kind of a priori list.

我的意思是，除了想擁有一段真正美好的感情--在經歷了數次失敗之後，我成功了--之外，我從未有過真正的重大目標，也從未有過那種先驗的清單。

It's sort of more like, well, what does she like?

更像是，她喜歡什麼？

But I learned a bunch of things.

但我學到了很多東西。

Do you regret that?

你後悔了嗎？

Not having a specific big goal?

沒有具體的大目標？

At times, I felt I should have had some goals that were more explicit, because then you can put your efforts at achieving it, sort of think like, well, maybe if I had had them, I might have actually achieved them.

有時，我覺得自己應該有一些更明確的目標，因為這樣你就可以努力去實現它，就會想，如果我有了這些目標，也許就真的實現了。

Instead, I had quite a few, let's say, minor successes, which it is what it is.

相反，我取得了不少，可以說是小有成就，這就是事實。

My advice to young people, smoke a lot of dope.

我給年輕人的建議是，多吸食毒品。

Well, not a lot.

嗯，不是很多。

Not a lot, people.

不是很多

Don't smoke a lot.

不要經常吸菸。

Before going to bed at night, I have either an edible or a joint of indica every night.

每晚臨睡前，我都會吃一粒可食用的秈米或一小節秈米。

Every night?

每天晚上？

Almost.

差不多了

And it relaxes me.

這讓我很放鬆。

Well, you should.

你應該這麼做。

The smell in the whole bloody house.

整個房子都是這味道

You don't really get stoned, I must say.

我得說，你並沒有真的嗑藥。

Well, maybe you do.

好吧，也許你是這麼想的。

You wouldn't know, yeah?

你不知道，是嗎？

You know, we have to work with what we have and start from there.

你知道，我們必須利用我們所擁有的一切，然後從那裡開始。

How do we figure out what we need?

如何確定我們需要什麼？

What costs us the most to do, that's what we need the most.

我們花費最多的，就是我們最需要的。

What costs us?

我們的代價是什麼？

Like, energy wise?

比如，能量方面？

The effort.

的努力。

The effort.

的努力。

Is that also what scares us too?

這也讓我們感到害怕嗎？

Yes.

是的。

Scared, bored with, or, no, I don't want to bother with that.

害怕了，厭煩了，或者，不，我不想管這些。

Well, maybe you have to look into it.

好吧，也許你得調查一下。

Don't focus on all the noise that's around you.

不要把注意力放在周圍的噪音上。

If there's nothing you could do about the noise around you, find something positive that you could do and affect other people.

如果你對周圍的噪音無能為力，那就找一些積極的事情來做，並影響其他人。

My expression is, I aspire to inspire.

我的表達方式是，我渴望激發靈感。

If you could go back in time and give your younger self one piece of advice, knowing what you know today, what would you say to him?

如果你能回到過去，給年輕時的自己一個建議，你會對他說什麼？

Develop more personal friendships.

發展更多的個人友誼。

You know, men don't usually have a lot of friends.

你知道，男人通常沒什麼朋友。

My wife had hundreds.

我妻子有幾百個。

At her funeral, there were 150 people and 200 condolences on the website of the funeral home.

在她的葬禮上，有 150 人参加，殯儀館網站上有 200 份弔唁。

You know, she was really loved, and I know I can do better.

她真的很可愛，我知道我能做得更好。

What is the value of community?