Do girls like to be approached in public?

女孩喜歡在公共場合被人搭訕嗎？

Absolutely. Are you kidding me?

完全正確。開什麼玩笑？

I complain about it on a daily basis.

我每天都在抱怨。

Confidence is key.

自信是關鍵。

Even if you are like 5'7 and you are confident, personality is so hot to girls.

即使你的身高只有 1 米 7，但你很自信，在女孩眼中，你的個性是如此炙手可熱。

Get up and make a move.

起來行動吧

Get up and make a move.

起來行動吧

I don't want to be disrespectful, you know?

我不想失禮，你知道嗎？

Did you know that over 75% of women wish that they were approached more?

你知道嗎，超過 75% 的女性希望有人能更多地接近她們？

I wanted to see for myself, so I decided to hit the streets and ask the beautiful women of New York City if this was true or not.

我想親眼看看，於是決定上街去問問紐約的美女們，這到底是真是假。

To up the stakes even more, I decided to go out and do a real-life approach for myself.

為了進一步提高賭注，我決定走出去，為自己做一次真實的嘗試。

So stick around to the end to see if my approach was successful and if this statistic holds up in the real world.

所以，請堅持到最後，看看我的方法是否成功，以及這個統計數據在現實世界中是否成立。

So, the question is, do girls like to be approached in public?

那麼問題來了，女孩們喜歡在公共場合被人搭訕嗎？

By hot men, yes.

是的，是性感男人。

Oh yeah, for sure. 100%.

哦，是的，當然。100%.

No. Well, I don't know.

不，我不知道。

I mean, you approached me, obviously, and that seemed normal.

我是說，很明顯是你主動找我的，這看起來很正常。

It really depends on your approach, I think, but I think the overall answer is no.

我認為這取決於你的方法，但我認為總的答案是否定的。

I think it's different, honestly, for most girls.

老實說，我覺得大多數女孩的情況都不一樣。

I think if you're just nice and respectful and you see that she's not in a rush or in the middle of anything, then that's fine, but if she seems busy on the phone, she has something to do, then avoid it.

我認為，如果你態度和藹，尊重她，看到她並不著急或正在忙什麼，那就沒問題，但如果她打電話時似乎很忙，她有事情要做，那就避開她。

No.

不

The question is, do girls like to be approached in public?

問題是，女孩們喜歡在公共場合被人搭訕嗎？

Absolutely. Are you kidding me?

完全正確。開什麼玩笑？

I complain about it on a daily basis.

我每天都在抱怨。

What do you complain about? Do guys not approach you enough?

你抱怨什麼？男生不夠接近你嗎？

No, I don't think it's that.

不，我不這麼認為。

I just think, for example, I was at a bar last night and there was a group of three guys clearly just got off work staring at us and we were just sitting there.

我只是覺得，比如說，昨晚我在酒吧裡，有三個人顯然是剛下班，盯著我們看，我們就坐在那裡。

Three single girls, like, why don't they get up and say hi to us? And you know what it is?

三個單身女孩 為什麼不站起來跟我們打招呼？你知道是怎麼回事嗎？

Because there's dating apps now, guys think they have all these options. There's something better.

因為現在有了約會軟件 男人們覺得他們有了所有這些選擇還有更好的

You think a girl's cute? You're like, oh, she's cute.

你覺得一個女孩可愛嗎？你會說，哦，她很可愛。

Oh, but this one's hotter. She might not have a better personality, but she's hotter.

哦，但這個更性感。她可能沒有更好的個性，但她更性感。

I feel like back in the day, they didn't have the apps, so they were forced to actually go up and talk to girls, and now that there are these dating apps, it's like they can hide behind a screen and talk and not be shy.

我覺得在過去，他們沒有約會軟件，所以他們不得不真正走上前去與女孩交談，而現在有了這些約會軟件，他們就好像可以躲在螢幕後面哈拉，不再害羞。

I don't know, but I just, it's really annoying.

我不知道，但我就是覺得很煩。

She's cooking right now. She's cooking right now.

她正在做飯她正在做飯

You know, the funny thing is that when you ask if they like to be approached in public, most say yes, and if they say no or if they have some sort of objection or reservation around being approached in public, it's always that of it being creepy or weird or something regarding their safety or the danger of meeting someone on the street, and when you think about it like that, it makes it really obvious why dating apps are so popular, because it doesn't require you to really risk anything. You just throw up some pictures on a profile, and it's really easy to meet someone. That's really what dating apps provide, is that they provide a low risk, zero skin in the game way of meeting women, and that's why everyone is on them, and that's why they're so popular.

有趣的是，當你問他們是否喜歡在公共場合被人搭訕時，大多數人都會說喜歡，而如果他們說不喜歡，或者對在公共場合被人搭訕有某種反對或保留意見，他們總是會說這樣會讓人毛骨悚然或感覺怪異，或者涉及到他們的安全或在街上遇到某人的危險，當你這樣想時，就會明白為什麼約會應用程序如此受歡迎，因為它不需要你真正冒任何風險。你只需在個人檔案上上傳幾張照片，就能很容易地認識某個人。這就是交友軟件提供的真正意義，它們提供了一種低風險、零風險的認識女性的方式，這就是為什麼每個人都在使用它們，這就是為什麼它們如此受歡迎。

But that's also why guys have mediocre results, because if you have no skin in the game and you have low risk, there's really low potential for you to have a reward.

但這也是為什麼有些人成績平平的原因，因為如果你沒有參與遊戲，你的風險很低，那麼你獲得回報的可能性就真的很低。

What's the best way to approach a girl in public?

在公共場合接近女孩的最佳方式是什麼？

I feel like you should just be confident about yourself and just make the first move, because I like somebody that takes the first step. Just be like, hey, what's your name? I love that.

我覺得你應該對自己有信心，主動出擊，因為我喜歡邁出第一步的人。就像，嘿，你叫什麼名字？我喜歡這樣

Because if you come off as really strong, the pickup line, I feel like that could be cringey sometimes, so just natural. I definitely think just being nice, saying, excuse me, hi, sorry, and then just going with your best line, whatever works for you, I guess.

因為如果你表現得很強勢，搭訕的臺詞，我覺得有時候會讓人覺得很尷尬，所以自然就好。我覺得只要態度好一點，說 "不好意思，你好"、"對不起"，然後用你最擅長的臺詞，我想就可以了。

Presenting them or starting a conversation is good, and then if you kind of see there's a little vibe going, then you can get their number or give them yours. I feel like there's a thing now, though, that's like, I feel like guys are so scared and cautious, but I always admire when a guy is brave and says something to you, because that takes guts to be like,

向他們介紹或開始一段對話是很好的，然後如果你看到有一點氣氛，你就可以得到他們的電話號碼或把你的電話號碼給他們。我覺得現在有一件事，就像，我覺得男人都很害怕和謹慎，但我總是很佩服一個人勇敢地對你說一些話，因為這需要勇氣、

I love your sweater, or whatever,

我喜歡你的毛衣，或者別的什麼、

I saw you walking, and whatever the line is, I think that's nice, and we need that. Say, hey, do you want drinks? Dinner? On me?

我看到你在走，不管是什麼線，我覺得那很好，我們需要它。你想喝點什麼嗎？晚餐？我請客？

What if you're not at a bar, or you're walking down the street, and a guy wanted to stop you and start a conversation because he was interested? Say, hey, you look really beautiful. And what would the follow-up be?

如果你不在酒吧，或者你走在街上，有個人想攔住你，因為他對你感興趣而開始交談，你會怎麼做？說，嘿，你看起來真漂亮。你會怎麼做呢？

You want a Chanel bag.

你想要一個香奈兒包

What is it about the Chanel bag that would entice you? It just depends on the girl's style, like it could be a Chanel, it could be a Louis V, you know, it just depends.

香奈兒包有什麼吸引你的地方？這要看女孩的風格，比如可能是香奈兒，也可能是路易 V，你知道，這要看情況。

For me, I'd say it depends, it doesn't matter the place,

對我來說，我會說這要看情況，地點並不重要、

I think it more matters the way in which they approach you. Because if it's in some sort of weird and sleazy way, it's kind of uncomfortable, but if it's in more of a wholesome, like, hey, I think you're cute, type of way, I think it's less weird.

我認為更重要的是他們接近你的方式。因為如果是以某種怪異、下流的方式，會讓人覺得不舒服，但如果是以一種更健康的方式，比如，嘿，我覺得你很可愛，我覺得就沒那麼怪異了。

What would be an example of a weird or sleazy way to approach a girl? Like going up to someone and immediately just being like, can I get your number?

接近女孩的怪異或下流方式的例子是什麼？比如走上前去，馬上就說：能給我你的電話號碼嗎？

You know, like there's no introduction, it's like to a cat calling, that type of situation is weird. What would be the best pick-up line that is not weird and would actually work? I would just start a genuine conversation with the girl and then kind of be like, hey,

你知道，就像沒有介紹，就像貓叫，那種情況很奇怪。最好的搭訕方式是什麼？我會和女孩開始一段真誠的對話，然後說，嘿、

I honestly think you're cute, would you want to maybe grab dinner sometime, like what's your number?

老實說，我覺得你很可愛，你想不想找個時間一起吃個飯，比如你的電話號碼是多少？

Got it. No pick-up line, just be like a genuine, like have a conversation, like we're people, just like talk like a person. If it seems like you guys are hitting it off, then I think you can like proceed and ask for their number. Would you prefer to meet someone in person or on a dating app?

明白了不需要搭訕臺詞，只要像個真誠的人，就像我們是普通人一樣，有話好好說，像個普通人一樣。如果你們看起來很合得來，那我覺得你就可以繼續問對方要電話號碼了。你更喜歡親自見面還是在交友軟件上見面？

Oh, in person, 100%. I go for personality, so like in person,

哦，本人，100%。我追求個性，所以喜歡本人、

I need to feel the vibe. Definitely in person,

我需要感受這種氛圍。一定要親自去、

I'm not really into the whole dating app thing. As much, I prefer something more natural. What is it about dating apps that you don't like? It's just not for me. Again, I like something more natural, more wholesome, something definitely more organic. I don't like being on like my phone that much or on social media. I think it's pretty fake sometimes, so yeah. Why in person over an app? Feels more authentic. I would always rather like see someone face-to-face than their profile.

我不太喜歡約會軟件。我更喜歡更自然的東西。你不喜歡約會軟件的什麼地方？就是不適合我。同樣，我喜歡更自然、更健康、更有機的東西。我不喜歡經常使用手機或社交媒體。我覺得有時候很假，所以是的。為什麼是面對面，而不是用 app？感覺更真實。比起他們的個人資料，我更願意看到他們面對面。

In person.

親臨現場。

Why in person? Because I know if they're lying about their height or not. Like on the dating apps, a lot of guys lie about their height and you see them in person, they don't look the same. I guess it can be said for girls too, like girls do the same, like you know with the face app and everything, so.

為什麼是本人？因為我知道他們的身高是否在撒謊。就像在交友軟件上，很多男生都會謊報身高，但當你看到他們本人時，他們看起來就不一樣了。我想這也適用於女生，比如女生也會這麼做，就像你知道的美顏軟件之類的，所以。

What is kind of the minimum height requirement for a guy to date you?

男生和你約會的最低身高要求是多少？

To date me or to date like in general?

和我約會還是和一般人約會？

I would say like 6 foot would be nice. How tall do you think I am?

我覺得 6 英尺就不錯了。你覺得我有多高？

Okay, I'm 5'7", so you're probably like 6 foot. I'm 5'10".

好吧，我5'7"， 所以你可能像6英尺。我5'10"。

You're 5'10", okay. No you're not, you're 6 foot, because I have heels on.

你有一米八，好吧不，你不是，你是6英尺，因為我穿了高跟鞋。 No you're not, you're 6 foot, because I have heels on.

How tall do you think I am?

你覺得我有多高？

6'2".

6'2".

I'm 6'1". I was gonna say, he's at least 6 foot. 5'10".

我有 6 英尺 1 英寸我想說的是 他至少有6英尺高5'10".

People that are 5'10' are like our height.

身高 5'10' 的人和我們一樣高。

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I know a 5'10'er when I see him. Got it, okay.

是啊，是啊，是啊。就像我看到5'10'er就知道他是誰一樣 Like I know a 5'10'er when I see him.知道了

Yeah.

是啊

Girls got jokes.

女孩們會開玩笑

That was actually really good.

這真的很不錯。

Okay, so how would you rate your experience on dating apps overall?

好吧，那麼您如何評價您在約會應用程序上的總體體驗？

I would much rather be approached in person.

我更希望有人親自來找我。

I agree, I agree.

我同意，我同意。

If no one had dating apps, I wouldn't be on them.

如果沒人用約會軟件，我也不會用。

But I feel like I have to be, because guys are too scared to approach you in person.

但我覺得我必須這樣，因為男人們都不敢當面接近你。

Boys, come here, come here. Okay, so when was the last time you approached a girl in person?

孩子們 過來 過來好吧，那你上一次當面接近女生是什麼時候？

Right now. No, I had to holler at you.

就現在不，我必須對你大喊大叫

Alright, I guess not right now.

好吧，我想現在不行。

I don't know, like a week or two ago.

我不知道，大概一兩週前吧。

How often do you approach girls?

你多長時間接近一次女孩？

Not often, not often.

不經常，不經常。

I don't want to be disrespectful, you know.

我不想失禮，你知道的。

Well, why would it be disrespectful to approach a girl on the street?

那麼，為什麼在街上接近一個女孩會是不尊重呢？

What's the reason for me approaching them?

我接近他們的原因是什麼？

Well, if you were interested and you wanted to start a conversation. I don't want to come off as creepy or imposing. I want to be respectful.

好吧，如果你有興趣並想開始一段對話的話。我不想讓你感到毛骨悚然或強人所難。我想尊重你

So what would be the correct way to approach a girl either on the street or in a daytime setting without being creepy?

那麼，在街上或白天接近女孩時，怎樣做才不會令人毛骨悚然？

You could say, I really like your coat.

你可以說，我真的很喜歡你的外套。

Or I could say, hey, cool cats.

或者我可以說，嘿，酷貓。

If I said I really like your coat, you would just keep walking.

如果我說我很喜歡你的外套，你就會繼續走。

Don't know until you try.

不試不知道。

See? That's exactly what I'm talking about.

看到了嗎？這正是我要說的。

If a girl is looking at you, what does that mean? Does that mean she wants you to approach her? Is that a hint?

如果一個女孩看著你，這意味著什麼？這意味著她想讓你接近她嗎？這是暗示嗎？

For sure, it is.

確實如此。

If she's staring at you for too long, that means something.

如果她盯著你看的時間太長，那就說明有問題。

Do something about it.

做點什麼吧

She wants you to approach you.

她想讓你接近她。

She's just maybe too scared to take the first step.

她可能只是太害怕了，不敢邁出第一步。

So you should do it, for sure.

所以，你一定要這麼做。

If a girl is looking at you, is that a hint?

如果一個女孩在看你，這算是暗示嗎？

Get up and make a move.

起來行動吧

Get up and make a move.

起來行動吧

You heard it here first.

你在這裡先聽到的。

Have you ever had a situation or a time where a guy did approach you, perhaps in public or you were out somewhere, and it went well?

你是否曾經遇到過這樣的情況，或者有一次，一個男人確實主動接近了你，也許是在公共場合，也許是在你外出的某個地方，而且進展順利？

Yeah, a few times.

是的，有幾次。

And it's worked out.

而且還成功了。

And what did they say to start the conversation, if you remember?

如果你還記得，他們是怎麼開始談話的？

I honestly don't remember.

我真的不記得了。

A lot of times it was just on nights out, but people that were definitely friendly and, I don't know, not too pushy for sure.

很多時候只是在晚上，但人們肯定都很友好，我也不知道，肯定不會太咄咄逼人。

I could use some dating tips.

我需要一些約會技巧。

I'm actually supposed to go on a date tonight.

其實我今晚應該去約會的。

Wait, you're supposed to go on a date tonight?

等等，你今晚要去約會？

How did you meet him?

你是怎麼認識他的？

I just went to the DMs on Instagram.

我剛剛去了 Instagram 的 DMs。

So it's sliding into the...

是以，它正在滑向...

It's not organic, but...

它不是有機的，但...

Is sliding into the DMs on Instagram an effective way to meet a girl?

在 Instagram 上滑動到 DMs 是認識女孩的有效方法嗎？

Sometimes.

有時

I feel like almost more than dating apps because you can see a lot more than dating apps.

我覺得幾乎比交友軟件更有吸引力，因為你可以看到比交友軟件更多的東西。

I don't know. I feel like it's pretty effective.

我不知道我覺得挺有效的。

It's direct.

很直接。

Okay, so what would be your final advice?

好吧，你的最終建議是什麼？

Confidence is key.

自信是關鍵。

Even if you are 5'7 and you are confident, personality is so hot to girls.

即使你身高一米七，但你很自信，在女孩眼裡，個性是如此炙手可熱。

So be confident.

所以要有信心。

So after successfully interviewing the women on the street, it was time for me to go out and put this to the test in the real world.

是以，在成功採訪了街上的婦女之後，是時候讓我走出去，在現實世界中檢驗一下了。

So to up the stakes even more,

所以，為了進一步提高賭注、

I'm also going to turn on this stopwatch and see how long it takes me to get a successful approach.

我還要打開這個秒錶，看看我需要多長時間才能成功接近。

Alright, cameraman, how long do you think it's going to take me?

好吧，攝影師，你覺得我需要多長時間？

Best guess.

最佳猜測

I think I can do 15.

我想我能做 15 個。

We're already burned a minute doing this, so...

我們這樣做已經浪費了一分鐘，所以......

I'm going to guess 15 minutes or less, so comment below what you think.

我猜 15 分鐘或更短，請在下方評論您的想法。

And to show you it's real, this is the time.

為了向你證明這是真的，現在就是時候了。

4.35. Let's see what happens.

4.35.讓我們拭目以待。

I shouldn't even be near the camera.

我甚至不應該靠近攝影機。

If I wanted to phase rugged,

如果我想變得粗獷

I could just approach a bunch of girls and hopefully it worked.

我可以隨便接近一群女孩，希望能成功。

But I want to make it realistic.

但我想讓它變得現實。

I want to approach a girl I'd actually be interested in.

我想接近一個我真正感興趣的女孩。

We may go 15 minutes and not see it.

我們可能走了 15 分鐘也看不到它。

Gotta pick up the pace and walk fast.

必須加快步伐，快步前行。

This is honestly so much more fun.

老實說，這樣更有趣。

Dating apps are cool when you're in a new city.

當你在一個新城市時，約會應用程序很酷。

It's useful to be on a dating app.

使用交友軟件很有用。

You don't have to go anywhere. They're convenient.

你不必去任何地方。他們很方便。

Dating apps have a lot of benefits, but this is fun.

約會應用程序有很多好處，但這很有趣。

You gotta go out on the hunt.

你得出去打獵。

Try and make something happen.

試著做點什麼。

We're racing. We're running laps.

我們在比賽。我們在跑圈

I have three minutes left.

我還有三分鐘

Two minutes, 50 seconds.

兩分 50 秒

Not seeing a whole ton right now.

現在沒看到一大堆。

Wait. I lied. Maybe.

等等，我撒謊了也許吧

Let's see if this goes somewhere.

讓我們拭目以待。

Oh, no. He's old.

不會吧他老了

Excuse me. Hi. Sorry.

打擾一下你好 - 對不起 - Hi.Sorry.

Damn it.

該死的

Literally 30 seconds left.

只剩下 30 秒鐘了

30 seconds.

30 秒

Excuse me. Hi.

打擾一下你好

I saw you. I thought you were cute.

我看見你了我覺得你很可愛

I wanted to come say hi.

我想過來打個招呼

I'm sorry. I have to go.

對不起 我得走了 I'm sorry.我得走了

No worries.

不用擔心。

What happened to your 20-minute mark?

你的 20 分鐘標記怎麼了？

Excuse me.

打擾一下

Hi. I saw you. I thought you were cute.

嗨，我看見你了我覺得你很可愛

I wanted to come say hi.

我想過來打個招呼

What is your name?

你叫什麼名字？

Nice to meet you.

很高興見到你

I like your outfit.

我喜歡你的打扮。

You're pretty dripped out for a Thursday night.

週四晚上你可真夠累的。

Thank you.

謝謝。

I'm on my way to yoga class.

我正要去上瑜伽課。

This interaction went on for almost five minutes.

這種互動持續了近五分鐘。

Things were going well until...

事情進展順利，直到

Do you have Instagram? It would be cool to exchange.

你有 Instagram 嗎？如果能交換一下就更好了。

I do. I have a boyfriend, so I don't want to...

我願意我有男朋友，所以我不想...

Oh, yeah, yeah. No worries.

哦，是的，是的。別擔心

No worries. Go ahead. Sorry about that.

不用擔心。說吧不好意思

Go ahead. Have a good day.

去吧祝你愉快

Things weren't looking good at this point.

此時的情況不容樂觀。

It was getting late, and there just weren't many suitable women out on the street.

天色已晚，街上沒有幾個合適的女人。

That was until I turned around and...

直到我轉過身...

Excuse me. Hi.

打擾一下你好

Hi.

你好。