Welcome back to Podcast and Chill on the Learn English Podcast channel.

歡迎回到 Learn English Podcast 頻道的 Podcast and Chill。

I'm Leo.

我是里歐

And I'm Gwen.

我叫格溫

It's great to have you with us again.

很高興你能再次加入我們。

Today we're talking about something that affects a lot of us in everyday life.

今天，我們要討論的是日常生活中影響我們很多人的事情。

Yep.

是的。

We're going to answer a question that many people have been thinking about.

我們將回答一個很多人都在思考的問題。

What's that question, Leo?

那是什麼問題，里歐？

It's are you a toxic person?

你是一個有毒的人嗎？

I've seen that question a lot on the internet lately.

我最近在網上經常看到這個問題。

A toxic person is someone who often makes others feel bad, sad, or stressed.

所謂 "有毒 "的人，是指經常讓他人感到難受、悲傷或壓力的人。

So how can we tell if we're being toxic or if someone around us is?

那麼，我們如何判斷自己或身邊的人是否有毒呢？

That's exactly what we'll talk about today.

這正是我們今天要討論的內容。

Stay with us to find out if there's a toxic person in your life or if it might be you.

和我們一起看看你的生活中是否有一個有毒的人，或者這個人可能就是你。

So let's start by recognizing toxic behaviors.

是以，讓我們從識別有毒行為開始。

Gwen, what exactly are toxic behaviors?

格溫，到底什麼是有毒行為？

Good question, Leo.

問得好，里歐。

Toxic behaviors are when someone often brings negativity into situations.

有毒行為是指某人經常將負面情緒帶入情境中。

Can you explain more?

能詳細解釋一下嗎？

Sure.

當然。

It could mean they always talk about bad things.

這可能意味著他們總是談論不好的事情。

They might speak badly about others and don't care how others feel.

他們可能會說別人的壞話，不在乎別人的感受。

Is it like when someone always finds something wrong with what you're doing no matter how hard you try?

就像無論你多麼努力，總有人發現你做的事情有問題一樣嗎？

Exactly.

沒錯。

Or when they constantly make you feel like you're not good enough.

或者他們總是讓你覺得自己不夠好。

That sounds so terrible.

這聽起來太可怕了。

Another sign is if they never listen to what others have to say and just push their opinions onto everyone else.

另一個跡象是，他們從不聽別人說什麼，只是把自己的意見強加給別人。

That can really bring people down.

這真的會讓人沮喪。

If you notice these signs in someone, or even in yourself, it might be time to think about it.

如果你在某人身上，甚至在你自己身上發現了這些跡象，也許是時候考慮一下了。

Okay, now I have a really interesting question for you, Gwen.

好了，現在我有一個非常有趣的問題要問你，格溫。

What is that, Leo?

那是什麼，里歐？

So it can be quite easy to know if someone is being toxic, but how do we know if we are being toxic?

是以，要知道別人是否有毒很容易，但我們如何知道自己是否有毒呢？

That brings us to our next point, self-reflection.

這就引出了我們的下一個問題，即自我檢討。

What is self-reflection?

什麼是自我反思？

Self-reflection is all about asking yourself some simple but honest questions.

自我檢討就是問自己一些簡單而又誠實的問題。

What questions?

什麼問題？

You can ask yourself, do I often make others feel bad?

你可以問問自己，我是否經常讓別人感覺不好？

Or do I usually complain or talk badly about people?

還是我經常抱怨或說別人的壞話？

Those are tough questions.

這些都是棘手的問題。

But they're so important, it's about being honest with yourself.

但它們是如此重要，關鍵是要對自己誠實。

Alright, so what if my answers are yes and yes?

好吧，如果我的答案是 "是 "和 "是 "呢？

If you're often talking about negative things, you might need to make some changes.

如果你經常談論負面的事情，你可能需要做出一些改變。

I would feel very bad if I knew I was a toxic person.

如果我知道自己是一個有毒的人，我會感到非常難過。

Well, it's not about feeling bad.

好吧，這不是因為感覺不好。

It's about seeing these behaviors and deciding to improve them.

就是要看到這些行為，並決定加以改進。

Everyone has bad days, but if it's happening all the time, it's worth thinking about, right?

每個人都有不順心的時候，但如果總是這樣，那就值得思考了，不是嗎？

Exactly, Leo.

沒錯，里歐。

The thing is, toxic behaviors don't just affect you.

問題是，有毒行為不僅會影響你自己。

They affect everyone around you, too.

它們也會影響你身邊的每一個人。

Please tell me more about how badly it can affect other people.

請告訴我更多關於它對其他人有多大影響的資訊。

You know, Leo, toxic behaviors are like a wildfire.

你知道嗎，獅子座，有毒行為就像野火。

What do you mean?

什麼意思？

Well, they spread quickly.

嗯，它們傳播得很快。

People around a toxic person might start to feel sad, anxious, or stressed out, too.

中毒者周圍的人可能也會開始感到悲傷、焦慮或壓力。

I've seen it happen.

我見過這種情況。

One negative comment, and suddenly everyone feels bad.

一個負面的評論，大家就會突然感覺很糟糕。

Exactly.

沒錯。

And over time, this can really hurt relationships.

隨著時間的推移，這會真正傷害人際關係。

I bet friends might start avoiding you.

我打賭朋友們可能會開始躲著你。

And co-workers might not want to work with you.

同事也可能不願意和你共事。

And family members might want to stay away from you and all of your negativity.

家人可能會希望遠離你和你的負面情緒。

That's why it's so important to be aware of how your actions affect others.

這就是為什麼意識到自己的行為會影響他人是如此重要。

So if people seem unhappy around me, does that mean I'm a toxic person?

那麼，如果我身邊的人看起來不開心，是否意味著我是一個有毒的人？

Not necessarily, Leo.

不一定，里歐。

But if that happens, you should really think about how you act around people.

但如果發生了這種情況，你就應該好好想想自己在別人面前的表現了。

I see.

我明白了

You can choose to be more positive, listen more, and be more supportive.

你可以選擇更積極、更多傾聽、更多支持。

Affect, meaning to change or influence something.

影響，意為改變或影響事物。

Example, the weather can affect your mood.

例如，天氣會影響你的情緒。

Recognizing, meaning knowing who someone is or what something is because you have seen them before.

認識，指的是知道某人是誰或某物是什麼，因為你以前見過他。

Example, she's recognizing her old school friends.

例如，她認出了她的老同學。

Behaviors, meaning the way people act or behave.

行為，即人們的行動或行為方式。

Example, his behavior in class is very polite.

例如，他在課堂上的表現非常有禮貌。

Complaining, meaning talking about things that are wrong or make you unhappy.

抱怨，即談論不對或讓你不開心的事情。

Example, she is complaining about the bad service at the restaurant.

例如，她抱怨餐廳的服務不好。

Avoiding, meaning keeping away from something or someone.

迴避，指遠離某事或某人。

Example, he is avoiding crowded places.

例如，他不去人多的地方。

How do you know if a person is being toxic?

如何判斷一個人是否有毒？

A person is being toxic if they always bring negativity into situations, often criticize others, talk badly about people, and don't care about other people's feelings.

如果一個人總是把消極情緒帶到各種場合，經常責備別人，說別人的壞話，不關心別人的感受，那麼他就是有毒的。

They might also never listen to others and only push their own opinions.

他們也可能從不聽取別人的意見，只堅持自己的觀點。

Why does Gwen compare toxic behaviors to a wildfire?

格溫為什麼把有毒行為比作野火？

Gwen compares toxic behaviors to a wildfire because both spread quickly and can have a big negative impact.

格溫把有毒行為比作野火，因為兩者都會迅速蔓延，併產生巨大的負面影響。

So what exactly should we do if we find out we are being toxic?

那麼，如果我們發現自己是有毒的，究竟應該怎麼辦呢？

Great question, Leo.

問得好，里奧。

The next step is taking responsibility.

下一步是承擔責任。

Taking responsibility?

承擔責任？

If we realize that we've been negative or hurtful, we need to take responsibility for it.

如果我們意識到自己的消極或傷害，我們就需要為此負責。

So, I have to admit, I made mistakes.

所以，我必須承認，我犯了錯誤。

That would be hard.

那可就難了。

Actually, it's a sign of strength.

事實上，這是力量的象徵。

If you've hurt someone, the best thing you can do is to take responsibility and apologize.

如果你傷害了別人，最好的辦法就是承擔責任並道歉。

How can it help, though?

它能提供什麼幫助？

It shows that you care about the other person's feelings and that you're willing to make things right.

這表明你在乎對方的感受，並願意糾正錯誤。

Seems like a sincere apology can go a long way.

看來，真誠的道歉能起到很大的作用。

And remember, it's not just about saying sorry.

請記住，這不僅僅是說對不起。

It's also about making a real effort to change.

這也是為了做出真正的改變。

Got it?

明白了嗎？

The apology doesn't mean much if we keep making the same mistakes, right?

如果我們繼續犯同樣的錯誤，道歉就沒有什麼意義了，不是嗎？

Right.

對

This brings us to our next point, practicing empathy.

這就引出了我們的下一個問題，即練習換位思考。

What is that?

那是什麼？

It means putting yourself in someone else's shoes.

這意味著設身處地為他人著想。

Alright, Gwen, this actually sounds challenging.

好吧，格溫，這聽起來很有挑戰性。

You should ask yourself, how would I feel if someone said or did this to me?

你應該捫心自問，如果有人對我說或做了這些，我會作何感想？

And then?

然後呢？

When you start thinking about how others feel, you're less likely to be negative or hurtful.

當你開始考慮他人的感受時，你就不會那麼消極或傷人了。

Empathy is such a powerful tool.

同理心是一種強大的工具。

But how can I show my empathy?

但我怎樣才能表達我的同理心呢？

Well, it's very simple.

嗯，很簡單。

Just listening can make a huge difference.

只要傾聽就能帶來巨大的改變。

Just listening?

只是聽？

Yes, Leo, just listening.

是的，里歐，我只是在聽。

But I've always listened to others.

但我一直在傾聽別人的意見。

The point is to listen without interrupting.

關鍵是要傾聽，不要打斷。

You mean no interrupting?

你是說不能打斷別人說話？

Exactly.

沒錯。

It shows that you respect the other person's thoughts and feelings.

這表明你尊重對方的想法和感受。

When I understand where people are coming from, it's easier to be more kind.

當我理解人們的想法時，我就會更容易變得善良。

Correct.

正確。

So keep that in mind.

是以，請牢記這一點。

But Gwen, listening feels quite passive.

但格溫，聽著感覺很被動。

Are there any ways to show empathy more actively?

有什麼方法可以更積極地表達同理心？

Certainly.

當然。

That leads us to our final point for today, making small positive changes.

這就引出了我們今天的最後一點--做出積極的小改變。

How can I make positive changes?

我怎樣才能做出積極的改變？

You can start with little things that can make a big difference.

您可以從小事做起，卻能帶來很大的不同。

For example?

例如？

Like saying thank you more often or giving a genuine compliment.

比如多說謝謝，或者給予真誠的讚美。

You're right.

你說得對。

They're small gestures, but they can definitely brighten someone's day.

這些舉動雖然微不足道，但絕對能照亮別人的一天。

Positive words have a powerful effect.

積極的話語具有強大的影響力。

So instead of using them to hurt people, let's use them to make others feel better.

是以，與其用它們來傷害別人，不如用它們來讓別人感覺更好。

What else can I do?

我還能做什麼？

Well, let's try to focus on the positive side of things.

好吧，讓我們試著把注意力集中在事情積極的一面。

Even on my bad days?

即使在我不順心的時候？

Would you be surprised if I said changing your mindset can make you a happier person?

如果我說改變心態能讓你變得更快樂，你會感到驚訝嗎？

Really?

真的嗎？

Really.

真的

When you change yourself for the better, both you and others benefit.

當你把自己改變得更好時，你和他人都會受益。

It sounds like a win-win to me.

對我來說，這聽起來像是雙贏。

Exactly.

沒錯。

Well, now I feel much better if I happen to be a toxic person.

現在我感覺好多了，如果我碰巧是個有毒的人。

Hey, I don't think you're toxic at all, Leo.

嘿，我覺得你一點都不毒，里歐。

But remember, nobody's perfect.

但請記住，人無完人。

We all have our ups and downs.

我們都有起伏。

The important thing is, we're trying to be better.

重要的是，我們正在努力變得更好。

You're so kind, Gwen.

你真好，格溫

Thank you.

謝謝。

Responsibility.

責任。

Meaning, a duty or job you are expected to do.

意思是你應該做的職責或工作。

Example, it is your responsibility to finish your homework.

例如，完成作業是你的責任。

Apologize.

道歉。

Meaning, to say sorry for something you did wrong.

意思是為自己做錯的事說對不起。

Example, he apologized for being late to the meeting.

例如，他為開會遲到道歉。

Respect.

尊重。

Meaning, to show care and consideration for someone else.

意思是對別人表示關心和體貼。

Example, you should respect your teacher's rules.

例如，你應該尊重老師的規定。

Effect.

效果

Meaning, a change that happens because of something else.

意思是說，由於其他原因而發生的變化。

Example, the new rules had a positive effect on the team.

例如，新規則對團隊產生了積極影響。

Benefit.

好處

Meaning, to gain or receive something good from something.

意為從某事中獲得或得到好處。

Example, you will benefit from studying hard.

例如，努力學習會讓你受益匪淺。

And that brings us to the end of today's podcast episode.

今天的播客到此結束。

So my friends, keep these tips in mind as you go about your day.

是以，朋友們，請在一天的工作中牢記這些提示。

You might be surprised at how much of a difference they can make.

您可能會驚訝於它們所帶來的巨大變化。

Thanks for joining us for this important discussion, everyone.

感謝大家參加這次重要的討論。

We hope you found it helpful.

希望對您有所幫助。

Don't forget to check the free PDF in the description for more useful vocabulary.

別忘了查看說明中的免費 PDF 文件，瞭解更多有用的詞彙。

We'll see you next time on Podcast and Chill.

我們下次在 "播客與放鬆 "節目中再見。

Until then, keep working on being the best version of yourself.

在此之前，請繼續努力，做最好的自己。

Bye for now and take care.

再見，保重。