Name: 9 個月前我被解僱了......情況是這樣的。 (I was laid off 9 mo ago...here's how it's going.)
Uploaded: 2024-10-23T02:09:23.000Z
Duration: 18 min 19 s

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Hi Uniqlo's! It has been a minute since I have been on here. I'm so sorry for stepping away, but it has been nine months since you-know-what has happened. I'm here to report that this year has been the most pivotal, chaotic, and pleasantly unexpected year of my life. Let me set you down somewhere. I'm currently in San Francisco at my friend's place for a wedding. I know I've been very MIA from YouTube, but I have been consistently putting out on Jumbopod and IG Reels, so if you've been following me there, I hope you've been liking it. I really miss YouTube. I mean, this is where I started. I will definitely come back. It's just all of this is a lot to operate. Your girl's getting very little sleep, working all the time, and I promised I would do a brutally honest post-layoff

嗨，優衣庫的朋友們！我好久沒來這裡了。我很抱歉離開這裡，但自從你知道發生了什麼事以來，已經過去九個月了。我在這裡向大家報告，今年是我人生中最關鍵、最混亂、最出人意料的一年。讓我給你介紹一下吧。我現在正在舊金山朋友家參加婚禮。我知道我已經很久沒在 YouTube 上露面了，但我一直在 Jumbopod 和 IG Reels 上發佈作品，如果你一直關注我的作品，希望你喜歡。我真的很想念 YouTube。我是說，這是我起步的地方。我一定會回來的。只是這一切都太繁重了你的女孩睡得很少，一直在工作，我答應過要做一個

過去進行式

Q&A at the nine-month mark, so I posted on my IG stories to ask for questions, and I got a ton, and then I categorized all of them into burning topics. The first question is, how are you doing? I actually get, how are you doing and how's your mental health in real life a lot. My mental is better than when I was working, surprisingly. I would say things are not as intense as before, and there's still like some things I'm working out, but overall pretty good.

在九個月之際，我在 IG 上發佈了 "問與答"，向大家徵集問題。第一個問題是，你過得怎麼樣？實際上，在現實生活中，我經常被問到 "你過得怎麼樣 "和 "你的心理健康如何"。出乎意料的是，我的精神狀態比我工作的時候要好。我想說的是，事情沒有以前那麼緊張了，我還在解決一些問題，但總體來說還不錯。

未來簡單式

I mentioned right now I'm in San Francisco for a wedding. Kevin is a groomsman, so he is at the site already, so I'll meet up with him later. There are highs and there are lows. Like recently, I had an old family friend pass, and that was kind of a shock, and I literally just saw her this summer.

我提到現在我在舊金山參加一個婚禮。凱文是新郎官，所以他已經在婚禮現場了，我稍後會和他見面。有高潮，也有谷底。就像最近，我的一個老朋友去世了，這讓我很震驚，我今年夏天才見過她。

And as a kid, I would crawl under her door gate and show up at her house unannounced and ask for her noodle soup because I loved it so much. And I have another friend who recently got cancer, and I visited him at the hospital. I think all of this just goes to show that life is very short.

小時候，我會從她家的門縫裡爬進去，突然出現在她家，向她要湯麵，因為我太愛吃了。我還有一個朋友最近得了癌症，我去醫院看望了他。我想這一切都說明，人生苦短。

Too short to not do things that you love. Also, health is number one, and just be kind to everyone.

不做自己喜歡的事情太短暫了。另外，健康是第一位的，善待每一個人。

Wow, I felt like that was a little bit heavy. I promise it's really not that heavy. So next question, how did I feel when your work identity disappeared with the layoff? What was surprising was that I still really love tech and product, like I read about it constantly in my free time. The transition from working at a tech job for almost a decade to this year wasn't super hard. I already had been doing videos part-time for three years, and then I also invested in a lot in other areas of my life, like singing, friends, family. So I had a lot of various identity pillars to lean on, but the struggle really came in content because I've always been a career creator. So losing that was like, who am I now? I still don't really know how to talk about myself to people. Some people still call me that tech girl. Some people say I'm a lifestyle creator. I would love your two cents.

哇，我覺得有點沉重。我保證沒那麼沉重。那麼下一個問題，當你的工作身份隨著裁員而消失時，我有什麼感覺？讓我感到意外的是，我仍然非常熱愛技術和產品，就像我在空閒時間經常閱讀有關技術和產品的書籍一樣。從做了近十年的技術工作過渡到今年並不難。我已經做了三年的兼職視頻，然後我還在生活的其他方面投入了很多，比如唱歌、交朋友、照顧家人。所以我有很多不同的身份支柱可以依靠，但真正的掙扎來自於內容，因為我一直都是事業的創造者。失去了這些，我現在是誰呢？我仍然不知道該如何向別人介紹自己。有些人仍然叫我技術女孩。有些人說我是生

The latest language I've been using is that I'm a lifestyle creator with an emphasis on career, work, and progress.

我最近使用的語言是，我是一個生活方式的創造者，強調事業、工作和進步。

Where does the bulk of your money come from? How do you not have financial anxiety? Are your parents bankrolling you? What about your fiancé? Literally got inspired to get a 95 because of you and now I hate it here. Girl! First off, I wish my parents were that well off. I would love to be a Nepo baby.

您的大部分資金從何而來？你怎麼會沒有財務焦慮？你的父母在資助你嗎？你的未婚夫呢？因為你，我得到了考 95 分的靈感，現在我討厭這裡了。女孩首先，我希望我的父母也能這麼富裕。我也想當個尼波寶寶。

Unfortunately, my family does not have that kind of money. I grew up in a low-income financial aid immigrant family. I still support my brothers financially. My husband, Kevin, is not covering for me. He has said he can, so I'm very very privileged in that respect. But yeah, I don't think people realize that like I have been working in tech for almost a decade non-stop, so there's cushion there. The mortgage is expensive but not as expensive as you may think. It is sometimes less than people's rent, especially for my friends who live in New York. I definitely pay less than them.

不幸的是，我家沒有那麼多錢。我在一個低收入的資助移民家庭長大。我仍然在經濟上供養我的兄弟們。我的丈夫凱文並沒有為我提供資助。他說他可以，所以在這方面我非常非常榮幸。不過是的，我覺得人們沒有意識到，我已經在科技領域不間斷地工作了將近十年，所以那裡有緩衝。房貸很貴，但沒有你想象的那麼貴。房貸有時比房租還低，尤其是我住在紐約的朋友。我肯定比他們付得少。

Financial anxiety was there after the layoff. I panicked and I took on a lot of sponsors, which burnt me out. It was a really big learning experience for me. For the record, I am completely financially supporting myself. You know, like Kevin doesn't pay for all my meals. Like I pay still for a good amount of things. We don't spend egregious amounts of money and everything you see has been accumulation over the decade. But I will say I'm incredibly thankful to have content to financially support me too. Like there are sponsors, there is ad rev, I do speaking engagements.

裁員後，財務焦慮一直存在。我驚慌失措，接受了很多贊助商，這讓我焦頭爛額。這對我來說是一次非常重要的學習經歷。鄭重聲明，我在經濟上完全自給自足。你知道，凱文並沒有支付我所有的餐費。我還是會為很多事情買單。我們花錢並不大手大腳，你所看到的一切都是這十年來的積累。但我想說的是，我也非常感謝有內容在經濟上支持我。比如有贊助商，有廣告收入，我也做演講活動。

And it's okay if I'm taking an L this year because my time off is way more valuable than any other year I've had in my life. I'm investing in the long run. Also, with respect to health insurance, I am married to Kevin, so I'm on his health insurance. We love that. I think I've answered your questions, but

如果我今年休 L 年也沒關係，因為我的假期比我生命中的任何一年都要寶貴。我這是在做長期投資。另外，關於醫療保險，我嫁給了凱文，所以我有他的醫療保險。我們很喜歡這樣。我想我已經回答了你的問題，但是

I am sensing that I'm not addressing the root of your question, which is how do you manage money when you don't have income? I want to have a very thought-out answer that's helpful to you, so maybe

我感覺我沒有從根本上解決你的問題，即在沒有收入的情況下如何理財？我想給你一個經過深思熟慮的、對你有幫助的答案，所以也許

I will put that together in another video in the future. Okay, next question. Are you making more or just as much as you were working full-time versus now as a creator? Super juicy. I know a lot of people are dying to know what the creator salaries look like versus tech salaries. For me, I don't think I'm ready to talk about it, nor do I know how to talk about it publicly, but I can share broadly.

我將來會把這些內容放到另一個視頻中。好的，下一個問題。全職工作和現在做創作者相比，你賺得更多還是一樣多？超級多汁。我知道很多人都很想知道創作者的工資和技術人員的工資相比是什麼樣的。對我來說，我覺得我還沒準備好談論這個問題，也不知道如何公開談論，但我可以廣泛分享。

So you already know the tech salaries. I've shared that before. Creator salaries range so much. I've seen really big creators make anywhere from 500k to a million or more. Like if you're like big, big, big. But I've also seen people with millions of followers who make less than 100k. And according to Kajabi, only 4% of creatives make over $100,000, so maybe that'll help put things in perspective. All that is to say, the creative space is really, really hard.

所以，你已經知道了技術人員的工資。我以前分享過。創作者的薪水差別很大。我見過真正的大創作者能掙到50萬到100萬甚至更多。就像如果你像大，大，大。但我也見過擁有數百萬粉絲的人，收入卻不到 10 萬。而根據 Kajabi 的數據，只有 4% 的創意人收入超過 10 萬美元，也許這能幫助我們正確看待問題。綜上所述，創意領域真的非常非常艱難。

What's the biggest change you've noticed in yourself? What's the best thing you said yes to?

你發現自己最大的變化是什麼？你答應過的最好的事情是什麼？

What are the highs and lows of not having a conventional job in the last nine months? A lot of people struggle with not having a routine. Like a lot of people go back to work because they like that structure. I thrive with living with a blank canvas. You know, I'm someone who's very good at creating structure. Like I'm a framework person. If you have a problem, I have a framework. I'm that girl. I've also learned that I'm very self-motivated, maybe because I have put in so much time into corporate that now that I have this rare time of my life, I'm so scared to lose it.

在過去的九個月裡，沒有傳統工作的高低起伏是什麼？很多人都在為沒有常規工作而掙扎。就像很多人回到工作崗位是因為他們喜歡那種結構。而我卻喜歡空白的生活。你知道，我是一個非常善於創造結構的人。就像我是一個有框架的人。如果你有問題，我有一個框架。我就是這樣的女孩。我還了解到，我是一個非常自我激勵的人，也許是因為我在公司投入了太多的時間，現在我擁有了人生中難得的一段時光，我很害怕失去它。

I want to make everyday counts. The thing I always want to say yes to is myself. And then if I ever catch myself saying like, why am I doing this? I just got to take that out. This is not the year to be putting up with shit. This is the year to go full throttle on what my inner voice is telling me to do. With the lows, there were a good amount of lows. Like I don't talk about many of them publicly. I kind of brush on some of them on the jumbo pod. For example, hiring a team was brutal.

我想讓每一天都有意義。我總是想對自己說 "是"。如果我發現自己說，我為什麼要這麼做？我就得把這句話說出來。今年不能再忍氣吞聲了。今年，我要全力以赴，去完成我內心的聲音告訴我要做的事情。谷底也不少。我沒有公開談論過其中的很多。我在巨型播客上刷了一些。比如，招聘團隊就很殘酷。

A lot of people I worked with, I put a lot of my trust in them and they just like let me down.

與我共事過的很多人，我都非常信任他們，但他們卻讓我失望了。

The surprising thing is that in the creative industry and freelance space, the skill range is humongous. What I loved about corporate is A, you really have to learn the game of like interviewing. No matter how crappy people are, even at work, there is a baseline. The second is people have managers to coach them through how to communicate and collaborate with other people.

令人驚訝的是，在創意產業和自由職業領域，技能的範圍非常大。我喜歡企業工作的原因是 A，你真的必須學會面試這個遊戲。無論多麼蹩腳的人，即使是在工作中，也是有底線的。第二，人們有經理指導他們如何與他人溝通和合作。

In the creative space, most people don't have any experience working on teams or in an office.

在創意領域，大多數人都沒有團隊或辦公室工作經驗。

So they're just raw dogging work. Also, there's a lot of people who are full of shit and you have to vet them, backchannel. So that's been a huge pain point. Like I still do all of my writing, videos, editing, production. I do everything myself except for the podcast. I have an editor.

所以，他們只是原始的狗工作。而且，有很多人都是滿嘴胡言亂語，你必須在背後對他們進行審查。所以這是一個很大的痛點。我仍然負責所有的寫作、視頻、編輯和製作。除了播客，我什麼都自己做。我有一個編輯。

Another low is living with the stigma of getting laid off. That's just been my current state for so long. Some people also think I got fired, which was not the case. There are two totally different things. I also have some online hate. My parents constantly ask me about whether I'm looking for a job. There is inherent societal shame, but I constantly just have to remind myself, don't lose sight. My goal is even farther than the next job. I'm doing all that I can to make this gap year worth it. And speaking of my gap year, I do have a question. How is design school coming along? And the answer is amazing. Well, I'm not going to like one specific design school.

另一個谷底是生活在失業的恥辱感中。長期以來，我一直處於這種狀態。有些人還認為我被解僱了，但事實並非如此。這完全是兩碼事。我在網上也有一些仇恨。我的父母經常問我是否在找工作。這固然是社會的恥辱，但我必須時刻提醒自己，不要迷失方向。我的目標比下一份工作還要遠。我會盡我所能，讓這段空檔期過得有價值。說到我的空檔期，我有一個問題。設計學院學得怎麼樣了？答案很令人驚訝。我不會喜歡某一所設計學校。

I did take topography at art center in Pasadena. The professor was a Disney Imagineer for like 20 years. I learned a lot. Also, if you haven't noticed, my type game has been fire. I'm a design student. My edits are so different from before. I hope you've been witnessing my evolution. I am peering into the possibility of taking classes in digital art and animation. I also took a few UX design courses on Coursera, who is by the way, the sponsor of today's video. Let me tell you about

我在帕薩迪納的藝術中心學過地形學。教授是一名迪士尼幻想師，在迪士尼工作了 20 年。我學到了很多東西。另外，如果你沒注意到，我的打字遊戲已經火了。我是學設計的。我的編輯和以前大不一樣了。我希望你們能見證我的進化。我正在研究選修數字藝術和動畫課程的可能性。我還在 Coursera 上學習了一些用戶體驗設計課程，順便說一下，今天的視頻就是由 Coursera 贊助的。讓我來告訴你

Coursera guys. Coursera is an online learning platform that has all kinds of courses, degrees, certifications from all kinds of notable companies and universities like these and these. I have been posting about my journey taking Coursera courses on my Instagram and LinkedIn. So y'all know I've been studying up on design and AI and specifically on Coursera. I've been taking their UX design courses. There's one by Google and one by CalArts. On top of that, I'm also taking their AI product management course that is taught by IBM. I have gotten a lot of questions on my opinions on AI and

Coursera 夥計們Coursera 是一個在線學習平臺，有來自各種知名公司和大學的各種課程、學位和認證，比如這些和這些。我一直在我的 Instagram 和 LinkedIn 上發佈我學習 Coursera 課程的心路歷程。你們都知道我一直在學習設計和人工智能，特別是在 Coursera 上。我一直在學習他們的用戶體驗設計課程。還有一門是谷歌的，一門是加州藝術學院的。除此之外，我還在學習由 IBM 講授的人工智能產品管理課程。我收到了很多關於我對人工智能的看法的問題。

I made a post of my deeper thoughts over here. But essentially, I am optimistic and I do think that AI is creating a lot of new job opportunities with new skill sets that we should keep up with as well. The IBM course in particular, I think, is pretty extensive. It gives a pretty good intro to

我在這裡發表了一篇文章，闡述了我更深層次的想法。但從本質上講，我是樂觀的，而且我確實認為人工智能正在創造大量新的工作機會和新的技能組合，我們也應該跟上它的步伐。尤其是 IBM 的課程，我認為內容非常廣泛。它很好地介紹了

AI, machine learning, deep learning, neural networks, and LLMs. It also has tactical modules on generative

人工智能、機器學習、深度學習、神經網絡和 LLM。它還擁有關於生成式

AI, prompt engineering basics, how to build AI-powered products, and how to use gen AI in your PM career.

人工智能，提示工程基礎知識，如何構建人工智能驅動的產品，以及如何在您的 PM 職業生涯中使用人工智能。

So if you are in your level up era, do check out the courses on Coursera. I have linked all the ones I mentioned down below in the description for you to check out. Thank you so much Coursera for partnering with me on so many pieces of content this year. It's been a privilege to be a Coursera partner. I hope all of you have a wonderful learning journey and now back to the video.

是以，如果你正處於提升水準的時期，不妨看看 Coursera 上的課程。我在下面的描述中鏈接了我提到的所有課程，供大家查看。非常感謝 Coursera 今年與我合作了這麼多內容。能成為 Coursera 的合作伙伴是我的榮幸。希望大家有一個美好的學習之旅，現在回到視頻。

After nine sweet months, is returning to corporate still worth it? Yo dude, I don't know what to tell you. I have flip-flopped on this question all year like my friends are sick of my shit. You have no idea how many times I've opened up LinkedIn jobs and just doomscrolled job opportunities. I'm just like, oh my god, this would look so good. I sent it to Kevin. He's like, please not another one. A few thoughts I am holding myself to. One, this is the most valuable time of my life. I have never been in a place where all those things that I said, oh it'd be nice if I could do this, I am doing them. I am getting through my creative bucket list and if I go back to the office, all of that out the door.

經過九個月的甜蜜時光，重返公司還值得嗎？老兄，我不知道該怎麼跟你說。整整一年，我都在這個問題上翻來覆去，就像我的朋友們厭倦了我的狗屎一樣。你根本不知道我在 LinkedIn 上打開了多少次工作機會，但都是 "茫無頭緒"。我就想，天哪，這一定很不錯。我把它發給了凱文。他說："拜託，別再來了。我有幾個想法第一，這是我一生中最寶貴的時光。我從來沒有經歷過這樣的時刻，我說過的那些 "哦，如果我能做到這些就好了 "的事情，我都在做。我正在完成我的創意水桶清單，如果我回到辦公室，所有這些都會被淘汰。

Two, I love my tech job. Having stable income is so good. Having co-workers is nice. A routine, an office, my little work bag, doing meetings, but the office politics, I hate. The promotion game, I hate. I'm very happy to go back to work. I'd love to, only if it's a very compelling opportunity. I don't want to willy-nilly just get a job. I want to take my time. I really need to invest in leveling myself up. When the opportunity comes, girl, you know I'm gonna pounce at it. Is there a company that can convince me? Yes, there are many. Right now, I'm very much into that intersection between creativity and

第二，我喜歡我的技術工作。有穩定的收入真好。有同事真好。例行公事、辦公室、我的小工作包、開會，但我討厭辦公室政治。我討厭升職遊戲。我很樂意回去工作。我很想回去工作，但前提是必須有非常好的機會。我不想隨便找份工作。我想慢慢來。我真的需要投資來提升自己。當機會來臨時，姑娘，你知道我會抓住它的。有公司能說服我嗎？是的，有很多。現在，我非常喜歡創意與

AI, but ain't no way I'm leaving LA, so that limits my options a lot as RTO is happening. Where do you see yourself in five years? Cheesy question. No, I love these types of questions. Thank you for asking.

人工智能，但我不可能離開洛杉磯，所以這大大限制了我的選擇，因為 RTO 正在發生。你覺得自己五年後會在哪裡工作？很俗的問題。不，我喜歡這類問題。謝謝你的提問。

I see kids, yeah. I still see content. An interesting discovery this year was that I love content. I love making videos. I just love building this community. I see a vague outline of a 9-5, but it's kind of a mirage, so I don't know if it's actually there. I would love to do both tech and content, but I cannot go back to what I was doing before. I don't know how I manage full-time product management and doing content on the side. I no longer have it in me to do those 4am nights and still wake up for morning meetings and stand up. The body doesn't work the same in your 30s anymore.

我看到了孩子，是的。我還能看到內容。今年一個有趣的發現是，我喜歡內容。我喜歡製作視頻。我喜歡建立這個社區。我隱約看到了朝九晚五的輪廓，但這有點像海市蜃樓，所以我不知道它是否真的存在。我很想既做技術又做內容，但我不能回到以前的工作狀態。我不知道該如何處理全職產品管理和兼職內容的關係。我再也沒有力氣在凌晨 4 點的時候還能起床參加晨會和站立。到了 30 多歲，身體已經不一樣了。

But in five years, I'm gonna be 35, 36. I think it's gonna be my prime. That will be the peak of my career and I'm so excited for it. I'm seriously building my foundational skills to prep for that wave. I mean, if that wave comes early, I'm open to it. That is a time I see myself being a real trailblazer, like doing new things in tech, in this industry, in content. I don't know how to explain it, but that is the dream. The vision board. How do you manage to tease so much in your life?

但再過五年，我就35、36歲了我想那將是我的黃金時期。那將是我職業生涯的巔峰，我為此感到非常興奮。我正在認真學習基礎技能，為那波浪潮做準備。我的意思是，如果那波浪潮提前到來，我願意接受。在我看來，我將成為一名真正的開拓者，在技術、行業和內容方面做出新的嘗試。我不知道該如何解釋，但這就是我的夢想。願景板你是如何在生活中處理這麼多事情的？

My real honest answer is I actually am very bad at time management. I don't manage it, but I am very good at getting things done. It's very strange. I have this one-track mind. I'm super momentum-based.

我真正誠實的回答是，我其實很不擅長時間管理。我不會管理時間，但我很擅長把事情做完。這很奇怪。我的思維很單一。我超級注重動力。

I'm very like, deep work, don't bother me, in my zone. I love to endlessly write, create, read, watch.

我很喜歡，深入工作，不打擾我，在我的區域。我喜歡無休止地寫作、創作、閱讀和觀看。

I love a good flow state. I don't like looking at the clock, which is probably why I sleep so late.

我喜歡良好的流動狀態。我不喜歡看時間，這可能是我睡得這麼晚的原因。

What is your daily routine to make the best use of this time? I don't think a routine is going to be insightful, but I do think a few mindsets are. So I'm going to give you a few guiding principles

為了充分利用這段時間，你的日常工作是什麼？我不認為例行公事會有什麼啟發，但我認為一些心態會有啟發。是以，我要給你一些指導原則

I hold on to. One, talking about the thing is not doing the thing. Let that sink in. Like, if I held a gun to your head and said, what is stopping you from doing the thing? Whatever that reason is, you gotta kill it. Number two, stay out of drama. Enough said. Number three, I read this from a book recently, or like, maybe an Instagram post. Anxiety is an addiction. I felt so attacked when I read that.

我堅持第一，光說不做。讓這句話深入人心。比如，如果我拿槍指著你的頭說，是什麼阻止你去做這件事？不管是什麼原因，你都要把它扼殺在搖籃裡。第二，遠離戲劇。說的夠多了。第三點，我最近從一本書上讀到這句話，或者是Instagram上的帖子。焦慮是一種癮。當我讀到這句話的時候，我覺得很受打擊。

Doom spiraling, saying negative things. I used to do a lot of that and it almost felt comfortable to me.

厄運螺旋式上升，說消極的話。我以前經常這樣做，感覺很舒服。

It's so easy to be a pessimist and say, oh, that's just not going to work because xyz. And when it actually happens, you get to say, oh, I knew it. But those type of people never get to take their chances to make the thing happen. I had to swallow the pill that that is an easy out and it drains me and it holds me back from giving it a real honest shot. Do you still get burnt out? Yes. But I would say it's not that bad. It's more like I get overwhelmed. And when that does happen, I just write. I put all my thoughts on a page. I recently reread the book The Artist's Way. I read this in college. Like, my girlfriends and I really enjoyed this book. I had been going through this mental block of like, oh, I'm not a creative person and I suck and I don't have good ideas. It tells you to do morning pages, which is like basically journaling for three pages every single morning. And it also tells you to take yourself on artist dates every week and that rest and play are really good for your energy. I highly recommend the book. You should read it. Link it down below. If you could go back nine months ago, what would you tell her? Do you regret anything? Regret is a strong word. There are things I could have done better and that there are things that I didn't have to do. But I think it's hard to skip all of that completely because I wouldn't have known unless I had done it. You know what I mean? I don't know. In a strange way, I find it very empowering to develop your own strong opinions about something based on your own personal experience. Like you put the work to figure that out and you have that anecdote that you can pull from. But if I could go back to Chloe nine months ago, I would tell her three things. One, it's okay to rest. In fact, it makes you a better, more productive, more creative person. So please do it for the love of God. Two, don't be afraid of losing that opportunity in front of you right now. Scarcity mindset is so real. Plenty of opportunities will come your way. Trust me. Just focus on yourself. And three, trust your gut. People ain't shit. Don't believe people. If you get a weird icky feeling about someone, it's probably true.

悲觀主義者很容易說，哦，這行不通，因為 xyz。當事情真的發生時，你會說，哦，我就知道。但這類人永遠不會抓住機會，讓事情發生。我不得不吞下這顆藥丸，因為這很容易讓人放棄，它會耗盡我的精力，讓我無法真正誠實地去嘗試。你還會感到倦怠嗎？會。但我覺得沒那麼嚴重。更多的是不知所措。當這種情況發生時，我就寫作。我把所有的想法都寫在紙上。我最近重讀了《藝術家之路》這本書。我在大學時讀過這本書。我和我的閨蜜們都非常喜歡這本書。我一直有這樣的心理障礙：哦，我不是一個有創造力的人，我很差勁，我沒有好的想法。這本書告訴你要寫

How should I deal with a layoff? This just happened to me. I feel so numb. Is it okay to rest and not do anything? Layoffs suck. I know firsthand. A lot of my friends have gotten laid off this year. First of all, it is not your fault. It is more of a reflection of the company than you. If a company isn't making enough money, it just makes so much sense to cut the expenses to make them look more profitable. I'm just saying, that's what it is. Privately, I have supported a lot of friends through the journey this year. Like I became the layoff girl and I've gotten so much outrage, like coffee chats, can I talk to you? This happened. How do I navigate it? Everyone struggles with it. I think only like one or two people I know really flourished in it because I guess they were so burnt out that they really wanted to leave. And it was nice to have severance after they left. For the majority of people who weren't expecting it, it sucks. And then to get back on your feet, get interviews, and get pummeled in this economy just messes up your head in a way that puts you in dark places. Trust me, you're gonna get that job offer. It might not be soon, but it will come. And when that happens, all of this will feel very very long ago. And if you're not feeling emotionally sane, you must rest.

我該如何應對裁員？我剛剛遭遇了這種情況。我感覺很麻木。休息一下，什麼都不做可以嗎？裁員很糟糕。我有切身體會。我的很多朋友今年都被裁員了。首先，這不是你的錯。與其說是你的錯，不如說是公司的錯。如果一家公司賺的錢不夠多，那麼削減開支讓他們看起來更有利可圖就很合理了。我只是說，事實就是如此。私下裡，我支持很多朋友走過了這一年。我成了 "裁員女孩"，得到了很多憤怒，比如咖啡哈拉，我能和你談談嗎？發生了這種事。我該如何應對？每個人都在掙扎。我想我認識的人中，只有一兩個人真的在裁員中茁壯成長，因為我猜他們已經筋疲力盡

You must be gentle with yourself. You must treat yourself with love. There is no other way. And when you're ready, get back in the game and lock in. You've done it before, you can do it again.

你必須溫柔地對待自己。你必須用愛對待自己。別無他法。當你準備好了，就回到遊戲中，鎖定目標。你曾經做到過，你還可以再做一次。

Do you recommend the content life for others in tech? I get this question so so so much. My answer is always the same. One, content is not an overnight success. Get that out of your head. It looks so glamorous. It is not glamorous. You are making videos for like what seems to be years with absolutely no return. You're making cringe videos and everyone's making fun of you basically. And it is a lifestyle. You're constantly writing, filming, editing. You have to love making videos. Two is, thankfully, it is a very easy thing to try out. If you have the itch at all, you can just whip out your phone and start recording. It's one of those things where I don't think you'll know if you want to do it until you actually do it and it's very easy to try it today. My experience has been full of trials and tribulations, ups and downs. I've changed my mind on it all the time, but I can confidently say I sincerely love it. I love storytelling, making videos. I love building this community. I love meeting unique loves and jomies out in the wild. I love this. Last question, how did you know what you want to do this year? Could you share more about your life PRD? Some of you may know I wrote this whole life PRD because I'm a product manager and this is just what PMs do.

您是否向其他技術人員推薦內容生活？我經常被問到這個問題。我的回答總是一樣的。第一，內容不是一蹴而就的。別再這麼想了。它看起來很迷人。這並不光彩。你拍了好幾年的視頻，卻毫無回報。你拍的視頻讓人崩潰，基本上每個人都在取笑你。這是一種生活方式。你要不停地寫稿、拍攝、剪輯。你必須熱愛製作視頻。其二，值得慶幸的是，這是一件非常容易嘗試的事情。只要你手癢，就可以拿出手機開始錄製。我認為，只有真正去做了，你才會知道自己是否想做這件事，而現在就可以輕鬆嘗試。我的經歷充滿了磨難和坎坷。我一直在改變自己的想法，但我可以自信地

It is this why, what, how of how I'm going to approach my gap year. I said I would make a template on it. I still am trying to figure that out. I don't know exactly how to do it because it is so tailored to me. I had to figure out how to make this like generalizable to everyone. I go through the doc in detail in this video and this video. I link those down below. If and when I make that template, you will know. I will post about it. Surely it's gonna happen. Just give me some time.

這就是我要如何對待我的間隔年的 "為什麼"、"做什麼 "和 "怎麼做"。我說過我要做一個模板。我還在想辦法。我不知道到底該怎麼做，因為它太適合我了。我必須想辦法讓它對每個人都通用。我在這段視頻和這段視頻中詳細介紹了文檔。我在下面鏈接了這些視頻。如果我製作了模板，你們會知道的。我會發布相關資訊。肯定會的。給我點時間吧。

And I think that wraps up this Q&A at the nine month mark. Thank you to all those who submitted your questions. Really appreciate it. I hope this gave some interesting perspective on various life paths, on how life is on this side. Probably a lot of you have gone through or are going through layoffs right now and it sucks. It truly does. I've seen the best of people lose all of their self-confidence but come back and get on their A-game once more. And I don't know who needs to hear this and I think this is low-key hypocritical to say or like I don't know like confusing to say. Don't trust social media. I have constantly been surprised at how successful people look online and then I meet them in real life and they are in complete shambles. Everyone is fighting demons. Everyone is working on themselves. Pay attention to your heart and your body. You are more than enough. You showing up today is incredible and trust yourself. You got yourself this far. You will keep going.

九個月的問答到此結束。感謝所有提交問題的人。真的非常感謝。我希望這能給大家提供一些有趣的視角，讓大家瞭解不同的人生道路，瞭解這邊的生活是怎樣的。可能你們很多人都經歷過或正在經歷裁員，這很糟糕。確實如此。我見過最優秀的人失去了所有的自信，但又重新振作起來。我不知道誰需要聽到這些，我覺得說這些很低調虛偽，或者說我不知道該說什麼。不要相信社交媒體。我經常驚訝於那些在網絡上看起來很成功的人，而當我在現實生活中遇到他們時，他們卻一塌糊塗。每個人都在與魔鬼作鬥爭。每個人都在為自己努力。關注你的內心和身體。你綽綽有餘。

You're a brilliant person. You're gonna get there. It'll come a lot sooner than you think. And remember sometimes the hardest person to appreciate is yourself. Don't forget to be gentle with yourself.

你是個聰明人你會成功的比你想象的要快得多記住，有時最難欣賞的人就是你自己。別忘了對自己溫柔點

 You deserve it. And with that, I will see you next time Uniqlos. Bye!

這是你應得的。就這樣，我們下次再見吧再見