I'm an only child.

我是獨生子女。

And the reason I'm telling you this is because I am going to tell you 17 life lessons.

我之所以告訴你這些，是因為我要告訴你 17 條人生經驗。

I wish someone had told me as a teenager.

真希望在我十幾歲的時候就有人告訴我。

So these are things that I had to find out the difficult way and that's why I'm sharing them with you today.

是以，這些都是我好不容易才發現的，這也是我今天與大家分享的原因。

So that way you do not need to go through the years and years of pain struggle soul searching that I went through and you can just bypass all of that if you listen and you take heed.

這樣，你就不需要經歷我所經歷的長年累月的痛苦掙扎和靈魂探索，只要你傾聽和注意，你就可以繞過這一切。

So I've got a couple things written down and honestly, I'm just going to spitball these 17 lessons lesson.

所以，我已經寫下了一些東西，說實話，我只是想把這 17 節課的內容說出來。

Number one is you need to extend your timeline.

第一，你需要延長你的時間表。

And I know that is very difficult when you watch my videos.

當你觀看我的視頻時，我知道這很困難。

It's very difficult when you are on tik-tok and you see these 18 year old 21 year old millionaires and I understand that I am even a part of that issue sitting here at the age of 23 years old for tens of millions of dollars.

當你在 tik-tok 上看到這些 18 歲 21 歲的百萬富翁時，你會感到非常困難，而且我知道，我甚至也是這個問題的一部分，23 歲就坐在這裡，身家數千萬美元。

It is so easy to see the final product and think that you need to rush when quite frankly you don't I can tell you that I have missed out on so many hang out with the friends grab a beer with the friends watch the football game.

我可以告訴你，我已經錯過了很多和朋友們一起逛街，和朋友們一起喝啤酒，看足球比賽的機會。

My childhood and my teenage years had none of that which is why I want you to understand extend the timeline you want to become a millionaire great.

我的童年和少年時代都沒有這樣的經歷，這就是為什麼我想讓你明白，延長你想成為百萬富翁的時間線是非常重要的。

Give yourself five years.

給自己五年時間。

Give yourself 10 years.

給自己 10 年時間。

You don't need to rush now.

你現在不必著急。

I will say if you can get rich faster go for it.

我會說，如果你能更快地致富，那就去做吧。

If you can learn a high income skill and we'll talk about a little later down the line if you can start a side gig that then turns into a small little business that then turns into a very large business go for it, but just alleviate the pressure stop thinking you need to become a millionaire in a year two years and even in my position.

如果你能學會一門高收入的技能，我們稍後再談，如果你能開始一個副業，然後變成一個小生意，再變成一個非常大的生意，那就去做吧，但只是減輕壓力，不要再想你需要在一年兩年內成為百萬富翁，甚至在我的位置上。

I understand.

我明白。

I did not have a normal person's journey.

我沒有正常人的旅程。

It is not normal to amass the sort of wealth that I have amassed.

像我這樣積累財富是不正常的。

And by the way, as I said that came with a lot of drawbacks.

順便說一句，正如我所說，這樣做有很多弊端。

So don't just think it's all roses and sunshine, but even me in my position.

所以，不要以為這一切都是玫瑰和陽光，即使是我，在我的位置上也是如此。

You can see videos of me in 2015 2016 when I was just starting out my business with acne on my face reading books going to the gym being an absolute loner and I say this because please keep this in mind anytime you watch my video or some tick-tock this stuff does not happen overnight is been nearly a decade since I started reading a book a week since I started meditating going to the gym and setting the building blocks in the foundation for the man that I would go on to be so please keep your foot on the gas keep pressing but extend your timeline time is your biggest asset at the moment.

你可以看到我在 2015 年 2016 年剛開始創業時的視頻，那時我臉上長滿了痤瘡，在看書，去健身房，是一個絕對的獨行俠，我這麼說是因為無論何時你看我的視頻或一些滴答聲，請記住這一點，這些東西不會在一夜之間發生，自從我開始每週看一本書，自從我開始冥想，去健身房，為我日後成為一個男人奠定基礎，已經過去了近十年，所以請把腳放在油門上，繼續按下去，但要延長你的時間表，時間是你目前最大的資產。

The next life lesson is walk with purpose.

下一堂人生課是 "有目標地行走"。

I remember even from the age of 15 or 16.

我甚至還記得自己十五六歲的時候。

I would walk down the street.

我會走在街上。

You could tell I was on a mission and I think that was really just a sign of having a clear direction a vision for what I could become.

你可以看出我在執行一項任務，我認為這正是我有明確方向和願景的標誌。

So when you walk down the street, I'm not saying that you need to sprint keep your shoulders back look straight walk with a clear direction look like you know where you're going.

所以，當你走在街上時，我並不是說你需要衝刺，而是說你要保持肩膀向後挺直，走路時要有明確的方向感，看起來你知道自己要去哪裡。

Now.

現在

The next thing is to focus on practicality and not purpose.

其次是注重實用性，而不是目的性。

I hear this whole thing of oh, I'm not starting because I just need to find my purpose.

我聽到有人說，哦，我不開始是因為我需要找到自己的目標。

I need to find my passion stop it focus on practicality when you are a teenager.

我需要找到自己的激情，而不是在青少年時期只注重實用性。

You will not know your purpose.

你不會知道自己的目的。

You will not know your mission and even in your 20s even the phase I'm in it will morph and it will change so instead focus on practicality focus on learning skills that are practical focus on starting businesses or careers that are practical focus on getting an apprenticeship or even a low-paying job that isn't the destination of where you want to get to but is practical and will teach you the core Foundation and the core principles to then go on and succeed in your 20s.

你不會知道自己的使命，即使在你 20 多歲的時候，即使是我現在所處的階段，它也會變形、會改變，所以要注重實用性，注重學習實用的技能，注重創業或從事實用的職業，注重找一份學徒工甚至低薪工作，這些工作不是你想去的目的地，但很實用，會教會你核心基礎和核心原則，讓你在 20 多歲的時候繼續取得成功。

Now the next life lesson and this is so important and I know I'm just speaking to men here and a lot of times in my content.

現在，下一堂人生課非常重要，我知道我在這裡只是對男人說，很多時候我的內容也是如此。

I speak to men but for reasons that I've previously mentioned it is important for me to put out content and nurture the next generation of men.

我的演講對象是男性，但出於我之前提到的原因，對我來說，發佈內容和培養下一代男性非常重要。

So men listen to me when I say focus on becoming a gentleman in this world and especially in the West.

所以，男人們聽我說，在這個世界上，尤其是在西方，要注重成為一個紳士。

I see some of the most disgusting behavior from men.

我從男人身上看到了一些最噁心的行為。

It does not surprise me that so many women treat you with disrespect because you are not men even worthy of respect.

這麼多女人對你不尊重，我一點也不驚訝，因為你根本就不是值得尊重的男人。

Do not listen to all of these guys that have never lived in the real world telling you oh, you're a simp if you pick up a girl if you drop a girl home after a date if you pay for the bill.

不要聽這些從未在現實世界中生活過的傢伙告訴你，哦，如果你搭訕一個女孩，如果你在約會後送一個女孩回家，如果你買單，你就是個傻瓜。

I don't know who raised some of these kids because quite clearly they're not actual men the way that I was raised is as a man you pay for the bill and if you cannot pay for the bill if you cannot afford to and when I was younger, I was in that position.

我不知道這些孩子是誰養大的，因為很明顯他們不是真正的男人，我的成長方式是，作為一個男人，你要為賬單買單，如果你不能買單，如果你負擔不起，當我年輕的時候，我就處於這種境地。

Well, then guess what get to work.

好吧，那你猜怎麼著，開始工作吧。

Don't take girls out to dinner put your head down and focus if you're taking a girl to you pick her up you drop her home you do the gentlemanly thing.

不要帶女孩出去吃飯，如果你要帶女孩去，就低頭專心地去接她，然後送她回家，做紳士的事。

I cannot express how important these things are to learn in your teenage years other things understanding a girl's alcohol tolerance.

我無法表達在青少年時期學習這些知識有多麼重要，除了瞭解女孩的酒精耐受力之外。

I see so many idiots that give girls drink after drink after drink not seeing that they are quite clearly intoxicated as I said, I don't know how some guys were raised.

我看到很多白痴給女孩們一杯酒接著一杯酒，卻不知道她們顯然已經喝醉了，就像我說的，我不知道有些人是怎麼長大的。

But the way that I was raised if you are with a woman if she's your date or she's one of your friends in that situation.

但我從小的教育方式是，如果你和一個女人在一起，如果她是你的約會對象，或者她是你的朋友之一，在這種情況下。

You are responsible for her.

你要對她負責。

So act accordingly if you want to be a man of honor if you want to be a man that deserves respect then you must learn how to treat a woman properly never ever let her cross your boundaries and just remember if you are a man that is worthy of respect and obviously never accept disrespect from another party by just thinking this world we live in so many men are afraid of you know, come across and being a simp if you pay for the bill or if you pick her up on a way to a date that is absolutely no way to conduct yourself as a man.

是以，如果你想成為一個有尊嚴的男人，如果你想成為一個值得尊敬的男人，那麼你就必須學會如何正確對待一個女人，永遠不要讓她越過你的底線，只要記住，如果你是一個值得尊敬的男人，顯然永遠不會接受來自另一方的不尊重，只要想想我們生活的這個世界，很多男人都害怕你知道，如果你為她買單，或者如果你在約會途中去接她，那麼你就是一個傻瓜，這絕對不是一個男人的行為方式。

So learn these principles as a teenager and they will carry through for the rest of your life, especially if you stack them up with all these other life lessons, then you are going to be a man of honor you are going to be a man that other women respect and I can tell you that goes very far in life.

是以，在青少年時期學習這些原則，它們將貫穿你的餘生，尤其是如果你把它們與所有這些其他的人生課程疊加起來，那麼你將成為一個有榮譽感的男人，你將成為一個讓其他女人尊重的男人，我可以告訴你，這在生活中會走得很遠。

The next thing is I want you to enjoy the journey.

其次，我希望你們能享受旅程。

I want you to remember that these are your glory years these years right now as a teenager and especially in your early teens even these are the years you're going to look back at with fondness because these are the years that you built you built your character the person that you are going to become.

我希望你們記住，這些年是你們的光輝歲月，現在是青少年時期，尤其是十多歲的時候，甚至這些年都是你們回首往事的美好時光，因為這些年你們塑造了自己的性格，塑造了你們將要成為的人。

I can tell you right now that my most fond years were probably the year before I started my first ever business when I was 16 and a couple years after that the years were things were tough.

我現在就可以告訴你，我最快樂的時光可能是我第一次創業的前一年，那年我 16 歲，之後的幾年則是艱難的歲月。

They were not easy.

他們並不容易。

I was making sacrifices.

我在做出犧牲。

It was difficult at the time, but I have so much appreciation for it now.

雖然當時很困難，但我現在非常感謝它。

So please if things are difficult or they're hard right now take a moment to appreciate it because these are the years are going to be talking about in a decade two decades when you're sitting outside with your boys at your beachfront property having a cigar or drinking a glass of wine and reminiscing about the good times.

所以，如果現在遇到困難或艱難，請花點時間好好珍惜，因為十年二十年後，當你和你的孩子們坐在海濱莊園的戶外，抽著雪茄或喝著紅酒，回憶美好時光時，你就會說起這些年。

Now if you're in your teens, I want you to start investing now and I don't care if it's $10 a week or $30 a week or $50 whatever you can do.

現在，如果你只有十幾歲，我希望你現在就開始投資，我不在乎是每週 10 美元，還是每週 30 美元或 50 美元，只要你能做到。

Even if it's $5 a week, it's not about the money and it's not about you know, the eighth one of the world compound interest because I'll be honest at this age.

即使一週只有 5 美元，也不是為了錢，也不是為了世界第八的複利，因為我在這個年紀已經很老實了。

It really doesn't matter and hopefully in a few years you should be making a very very good income that far exceeds anything you could ever make from investing.

這其實並不重要，希望幾年後你能獲得非常非常好的收入，遠遠超過投資所能帶來的任何收益。

All it comes down to is simply good habits.

歸根結底，就是要養成良好的習慣。

I do not believe that if you won't invest $10 when you make a hundred dollars a month that you'll invest $10,000 when you make a hundred thousand dollars a month.

我不相信，如果你在一個月賺 100 美元時不願意投資 10 美元，那麼你在一個月賺 10 萬美元時就會投資 1 萬美元。

And if those numbers sound crazy to you, I can't imagine ever making hundred thousand dollars a month all this just park that in your mind for now.

如果這些數字對你來說聽起來很瘋狂，我無法想象一個月能賺到十萬美元，那就先把這個數字記在心裡吧。

Okay, you don't need to worry about that, but I'm telling you it's a very very strong reality if you're consuming content like this and you dedicate your life to building over the next year three years five years ten years.

好吧，你不需要擔心這個問題，但我要告訴你，如果你消費這樣的內容，並在未來一年、三年、五年、十年將你的生命投入到建設中，這是一個非常非常強大的現實。

I can tell you numbers like that almost guaranteed in your future, but I know for the a lot of you that will overwhelm you.

我可以告訴你們，這樣的數字幾乎是你們未來的保證，但我知道對你們中的很多人來說，這會讓你們不知所措。

So just park that aside for right now.

所以，現在先把它放在一邊吧。

If you make a hundred dollars a month just invest 10.

如果你每月賺 100 美元，只需投資 10 美元。

It's simply having good financial hygiene and building those good habits early on the next life lesson.

簡單地說，就是要養成良好的財務衛生習慣，並儘早養成這些好習慣，這是人生的下一課。

If you're a teenager is build high income skills a high income skill could be content creation.

如果你是一名青少年，正在培養高收入技能，那麼內容創作就是一項高收入技能。

It could be sales.

可能是銷售。

It could be copywriting.

可能是文案寫作。

These are things that no matter what I don't care if the year is 2023.

這些事情，無論如何，我都不在乎是 2023 年。

I don't care if the year is 2040.

我不在乎時間是否是 2040 年。

These will always be important skills and these will always be highly paid skills.

這些永遠是重要的技能，也永遠是高薪技能。

So please do not get caught up in short-term fads short-term Trends ask yourself if I learn this skill today will this pay dividends in five years ten years twenty years and if the answer is yes, well, then maybe you should consider learning it now the next life lesson this especially applies to men is focused on building muscle and your physique, especially between the ages of 16 to 21 22 if you can get in the gym if you can do exercise whether that's a standard sort of bro split routine whether that's powerlifting whether that's CrossFit whatever you decide to do building muscle at a young age.

是以，請不要陷入短期時尚短期趨勢問自己，如果我今天學習這項技能，這將在五年十年二十年的紅利，如果答案是肯定的，那麼也許你應該考慮現在學習它的下一個生命的教訓，這尤其適用於男性是專注於建立肌肉和你的體質，尤其是在16至21 22歲之間，如果你可以在健身房，如果你可以做運動，無論是標準排序的兄弟分裂例程，無論是力量舉重，無論是CrossFit無論你決定在年輕的時候做建立肌肉。

You're going to have that mind muscle connection and you're going to keep that on and you're going to carry that through for the rest of your life.

你將擁有心靈與肌肉的聯繫，你將保持這種聯繫，並將這種聯繫貫穿你的餘生。

You know, I started going to the gym when I was 14 some would argue that that was even too young but I'm very happy that I did and I'm very happy that I built up muscle in my teenage years because now I do a lot of tennis.

你知道，我 14 歲就開始去健身房了，有人會說我太小了，但我很高興我這麼做了，我很高興我在十幾歲的時候就練出了肌肉，因為現在我經常打網球。

I do a lot of running some boxing and I never really worry about losing muscle or my physique or anything like that because I had more than half a decade of nurturing that so especially for men as our testosterone starts to decline in our mid-twenties onwards use these years to your advantage lift heavy things push yourself train hard because you have this incredible advantage and will carry through for the rest of your life.

我經常跑步和打拳擊，我從不擔心肌肉或體格或其他類似的問題，因為我有超過 50 年的時間來培養肌肉和體格，特別是對於男性來說，我們的睪丸激素在 20 多歲時開始下降，是以要利用這幾年的時間來發揮你的優勢，舉起重物，推動自己努力訓練，因為你有這種令人難以置信的優勢，並將貫穿你的餘生。

The next life lesson is be confident but acknowledge your age and your lack of wisdom.

下一堂人生課就是要自信，但要承認自己的年齡和缺乏智慧。

I started my first business when I was 16 years old.

我第一次創業是在 16 歲的時候。

And by the way, this wasn't a business where I was hiding behind a computer.

順便說一句，這不是我躲在電腦後面做的生意。

I was front-facing with clients.

我的工作是面對客戶。

I was pitching multi-million dollar businesses.

我當時正在推銷價值數百萬美元的業務。

So I had to walk in with confidence.

是以，我必須充滿信心地走進去。

I had to be presentable.

我必須表現得體。

I had to talk I had to communicate clearly I had to be confident regardless of my age and I had to do that front-facing publicly to potential clients, but at home when I was alone in solace in peace, I understood and even me sat here at 23 hundreds of thousands of people even millions of people around the world looking at me as a hero and inspiration and mentor.

我必須說話，我必須清楚地溝通，我必須自信，無論我的年齡如何，我必須面對面地公開面對潛在的客戶，但在家裡，當我獨自一人在安寧中得到慰藉時，我明白了，即使是我，坐在這裡，23 歲，全世界數十萬人甚至數百萬人都把我當作英雄、靈感和導師。

I understand that at the end of the day.

說到底，我是理解的。

I still have so much to learn.

我還有很多東西要學。

I understand that.

我明白這一點。

Of course, I got started so early.

當然，我這麼早就開始了。

I had my first employee at the age of 17.

我在 17 歲時有了自己的第一位員工。

I dropped out of school at the age of 17 to support me and my mom.

為了養活我和媽媽，我 17 歲就輟學了。

I've experienced so much by this age, but no matter what wisdom is solidified through decades and decades of experience.

到了這個年紀，我經歷了太多，但無論什麼智慧，都是在十幾年、幾十年的經歷中凝結而成的。

So if you are in your teenage years be confident walk through life with confidence.

所以，如果你正處於青春期，一定要自信地走過人生。

Don't let your age especially when it comes to business in your career.

不要讓年齡影響你的事業，尤其是在商業領域。

Don't let that weigh you down.

不要讓它拖累你。

But in moments of peace and quiet acknowledge that no matter how well you're doing wisdom is only truly forged through decades and decades of life experience the next life lesson.

但在寧靜的時刻，我們要承認，無論你做得有多好，只有通過十幾年、幾十年的人生經歷，才能真正鑄就智慧，才能上好下一堂人生課。

And once again, this relates specifically to the men is get comfortable talking to girls.

再說一次，這與男人們的具體情況有關，那就是要能自如地與女孩交談。

Listen, of course, I believe that as a teenager and in your early to mid 20s, those are your years to build but it doesn't matter if you're even 15 get used to speaking to girls.

聽著，當然，我認為在青少年時期和 20 歲出頭到 20 歲中期，是你的發展時期，但如果你連 15 歲都不習慣和女孩說話，那也沒有關係。

Don't let yourself become one of these 25 year olds that goes on to become a multi-millionaire but is just creepy around women get comfortable speaking to girls.

不要讓自己成為這樣的人，25 歲就成為千萬富翁，但在女人面前卻令人毛骨悚然。

If you're in a cafe and you think a girl is cute just talk to her.

如果你在咖啡館裡覺得某個女孩很可愛，就跟她說話。

What's the worst that could happen and even better just give her a compliment and that's it.

最壞的情況又能怎樣呢？最好的辦法就是讚美她幾句，僅此而已。

Don't ask for her number.

不要問她要電話號碼

Don't ask for her Instagram.

不要問她的 Instagram。

Just give her a compliment.

誇誇她就行。

And that is the least that you can do you have to get comfortable speaking with women holding your ground keeping your chin up and keeping confident.

這是你最起碼要做到的，你必須自如地與女性交談，堅持自己的立場，抬起下巴，保持自信。

Don't let it consume your life because I do not believe that women should be your goal in your teenage and early 20s because as a man your best years really are from the ages of around 26 28 all the way up until your late 30s, but nonetheless just learn how to carry yourself around the opposite sex.

不要讓它吞噬你的生活，因為我不認為女人應該是你十幾歲和二十出頭時的目標，因為作為一個男人，你最好的年華其實是從 26 28 歲左右一直到 30 歲左右，但無論如何，你只要學會如何在異性面前表現自己就可以了。

The next lesson is keep your word and start learning this lesson from a young age.

下一堂課就是信守諾言，並從小開始學習這一課程。

If you say that you're going to give someone a certain percentage in your business.

如果你說要給某個人一定比例的股份。

Well, then give them that percentage if you say that you can show up to something well then show up to it.

好吧，那就給他們這個百分比，如果你說你能很好地出現在某件事情上，那就出現在它上面。

Your word is your reputation and your reputation is the most important thing that you have so learning from a young age to show up to keep your word that will build trust and I will carry on for the rest of your life.

你的話就是你的聲譽，而你的聲譽是你擁有的最重要的東西，所以從小就要學會信守諾言，這將會建立起信任，並將伴隨你的餘生。

The next life lesson and once again, I know this relates specifically more to the men is in your 20s doesn't matter if it's your early mid or late 20s.

下一堂人生課，我再次強調，我知道這堂課更多地與男性有關，那就是在你 20 多歲的時候，不管是早中期還是晚期。

These are your years to build if you do things correctly your 20s will set you up for the rest of your life.

如果你能正確行事，20 多歲的年紀將為你的餘生奠定基礎。

So I made this video specifically for the teenagers, but it's really just to say that your 20s mentally prepare yourself because this truly will be your make or break period in your life.

是以，我專門為青少年製作了這段視頻，但其實只是想說，20 多歲的你要做好心理準備，因為這確實是你人生中的成敗時期。

The next life lesson is learn to say no more than you say.

下一堂人生課就是學會少說多做。

Yes, learn to say no when people want to go out learn to say no to business opportunities.

是的，當別人想出去時，要學會說 "不"，學會對商機說 "不"。

I know you have that friend watched a video has a business idea and they want to go 5050 with you, but your gut instinct tells you that it would be a bad business partner or why do I need a business partner in this I could just do it myself.

我知道你有個朋友看了視頻後有了創業的想法，他們想和你一起去 5050，但你的直覺告訴你，這將是一個糟糕的商業夥伴，或者我為什麼需要一個商業夥伴，我可以自己做。

So just learn to say no learn to stand your ground.

所以，要學會拒絕，學會堅持自己的立場。

I can tell you right now that yes has ruined more people's lives than no ever has people saying yes to getting in relationships.

我現在就可以告訴你，"是 "毀掉的人比 "不是 "毀掉的人多得多。

They shouldn't be in people saying yes to starting businesses that they shouldn't people saying yes to going out when they shouldn't as I said learning to say no will be one of the most invaluable skills that you can learn from a young age.

正如我所說，學會說 "不 "將是你從小就能學到的最寶貴的技能之一。

The next lesson is learn how to dress.

下一堂課是學習如何穿衣。

Well learn how to find good quality clothes.

那就學習如何找到優質的衣服。

I know that I'm wearing a shirt with a graphic right now, but I'm in the comfort of my own home.

我知道我現在穿著一件有圖案的襯衫，但我是在自己舒適的家裡。

I'm very relaxed.

我很放鬆。

But when you leave the house, you should be presentable no big labels.

但出門在外，你應該體面，不能貼大牌。

And by the way later down the line once you found your style and what works for you, you can spruce things up you can get a little bit more funky with it.

順便說一句，一旦你找到了自己的風格和適合自己的東西，你就可以把它打扮得更時髦一些。

But at first from a young age learn how to find clothes that fit you.

但首先要從小學會如何找到適合自己的衣服。

Well, not too tight and not too loose.