I think I just want to do nothing and just read.

我想我只想什麼也不做，只想讀書。

I literally want to do nothing.

我真的什麼都不想做。

Hello my loves, welcome back to Lavendaire.

你們好，親愛的，歡迎回到拉文戴爾。

Let's talk about what to do when you feel like doing nothing, when everything feels exhausting and you have no energy or motivation to do anything.

讓我們來談談，當你覺得無所事事，當一切都讓你感到疲憊不堪，當你沒有精力或動力去做任何事情時，該怎麼辦？

I know some of you want to hear tips on how to be productive when you're feeling unmotivated, but the truth is, when you're in this low state, the best thing you can do is the opposite of being productive.

我知道你們中的一些人想聽聽如何在缺乏動力時提高工作效率的建議，但事實是，當你處於這種低迷狀態時，你能做的最好的事情恰恰與提高工作效率相反。

You have to slow down, be gentle on yourself, and allow yourself to heal.

你必須放慢腳步，溫柔地對待自己，讓自己痊癒。

Don't even try to get your life together.

甚至不要試圖讓你的生活變得更好。

Just allow yourself to be.

只要允許自己存在。

If you're feeling this way, it's likely you have high expectations for yourself and you're frustrated because you haven't been able to show up the way you wanted.

如果你有這種感覺，很可能是你對自己有很高的期望，並且因為自己沒能如願以償而感到沮喪。

Or maybe others have high expectations on you, whether it's your parents or the people around you.

或者別人對你有很高的期望，無論是你的父母還是你周圍的人。

Or maybe you've been pushing yourself too hard, taking too much on your plate and just burning yourself out.

也可能是你把自己逼得太緊，承受了太多的壓力，讓自己焦頭爛額。

Other times, we might feel this way because we had expectations for what the world should be or what our life should look like.

其他時候，我們之所以會有這種感覺，可能是因為我們對這個世界或我們的生活抱有期望。

And when that all fell short, we lost our sense of control and didn't know how to handle it.

當這一切落空時，我們失去了控制感，不知道該如何處理。

Honestly, even the pandemic and seeing the ugly parts of society can be really disheartening and cause many of us to feel hungover, unmotivated, and exhausted.

老實說，即使是大流行病和看到社會的醜惡現象，也會讓人感到沮喪，使我們中的許多人感到宿醉、無精打采和精疲力竭。

In terms of energy, we've been operating too much in our masculine, focusing on productivity, achievement, external success, and control.

在能量方面，我們一直過多地以男性的方式運作，注重生產力、成就、外部成功和控制。

And now, our body and energy are telling us we need to surrender to our feminine, to go inward, slow down, heal, and love ourselves.

而現在，我們的身體和能量都在告訴我們，我們需要向女性屈服，向內走，放慢腳步，治癒疾病，愛自己。

Surrender is a key word here.

投降是這裡的關鍵詞。

We have to release our feeling of control, release our expectations on ourselves, and accept ourselves as we are right now.

我們必須釋放控制感，釋放對自己的期望，接受現在的自己。

It's both hard and easy at the same time.

這既困難又容易。

It can be so hard to surrender, but on the other hand, it's so easy because all you have to do is let go.

投降可能很難，但另一方面，投降又很容易，因為你要做的就是放手。

There's no action needed, just inaction.

不需要行動，只需要不行動。

So what should you do when you feel like doing nothing?

那麼，當你覺得無所事事時該怎麼辦呢？

First of all, let yourself rest.

首先，讓自己休息一下。

Remove any and all pressure to be or do anything.

卸下所有壓力，讓自己成為一個什麼樣的人，做什麼樣的事。

Just exist.

只要存在。

Stop putting any expectations on yourself, and understand that you probably feel burnt out or depleted.

不要再對自己抱有任何期望，要理解自己可能感到疲憊不堪或精疲力竭。

So just let your body and mind rest and recuperate.

所以，就讓你的身心得到休息和恢復吧。

I think it's so ironic and magical that when you're unwell, all you have to do is do nothing, aka rest, because your body is fighting hard for you.

我覺得當你不舒服的時候，你只需要什麼都不做，也就是休息，因為你的身體正在為你努力奮鬥，這真是諷刺又神奇。

Your immune system is doing the hard work, and your body literally already knows what to do.

你的免疫系統正在做艱苦的工作，你的身體實際上已經知道該怎麼做了。

You don't have to do anything.

你什麼都不用做。

Just sit back and allow your body to balance and heal itself.

只需靜靜地坐下來，讓身體自我平衡和康復。

Secondly, give yourself love.

第二，給自己愛。

Be kind and gentle with yourself, no matter what.

無論如何，都要善待自己，溫柔地對待自己。

Practice unconditional love, meaning give yourself love regardless of anything.

踐行無條件的愛，即不計較任何事情，給予自己愛。

Love is accepting, so accept yourself exactly as you are right now.

愛就是接納，所以要接納現在的自己。

Don't force anything and practice self-forgiveness if you've been hard on yourself.

如果你對自己苛刻，不要勉強自己，要練習自我寬恕。

Wherever you are right now is okay.

無論你現在在哪裡，都沒關係。

Also, try shifting your focus.

此外，還可以嘗試轉移注意力。

Don't underestimate the power of changing your perspective.

不要低估改變觀點的力量。

We often feel low because we've been focusing on the wrong or difficult things.

我們之所以情緒低落，往往是因為我們把注意力放在了錯誤或困難的事情上。

I learned this while doing the Liberation Korea challenge.

這是我在參加 "解放韓國 "挑戰賽時學到的。

When you focus on what is hard, for example, the shoulder pain and shaking arms in that challenge, you feel like giving up because it's such a struggle.

當你把注意力集中在困難的地方時，例如，挑戰中的肩痛和手臂顫抖，你就會覺得要放棄，因為這太艱難了。

But when you focus on what is easy, like breathing, it makes it easier to get through the tough time.

但是，當你把注意力集中在容易的事情上，比如呼吸，就會更容易度過難關。

So instead of focusing on what is hard, try focusing on what is easy.

是以，與其把注意力放在困難的事情上，不如試著把注意力放在容易的事情上。

Instead of focusing on what's going wrong in your life, focus on what is still going right.

與其關注生活中出現的問題，不如關注仍然正確的事情。

Do this as a journaling exercise.

將此作為日記練習。

Actively choose where you turn your attention to because it matters and it makes a huge difference in how we feel.

積極選擇你的關注點，因為這很重要，它會讓我們的感覺大不相同。

If you feel like you need more help, talk to someone in your life that you trust.

如果您覺得需要更多幫助，請與您信任的人交談。

We each need a support system in our lives and our mental health suffers if we don't have one.

我們每個人在生活中都需要一個支持系統，如果沒有這個系統，我們的心理健康就會受到影響。

Another option is to consider online therapy.

另一種選擇是考慮在線治療。

Personally, I've used BetterHelp for the past couple years, so thank you BetterHelp for sponsoring this video.

我個人在過去幾年中一直在使用 BetterHelp，是以感謝 BetterHelp 贊助本視頻。

BetterHelp is professional counseling done securely online and is available for clients worldwide.

BetterHelp 是一種安全的在線專業諮詢，面向全球客戶。

Once you sign up, BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist.

註冊後，BetterHelp 將評估您的需求，併為您匹配持證專業治療師。

On the app, you can message your counselor or schedule a weekly video or phone session.

在應用程序上，您可以給輔導員留言，或安排每週一次的視頻或電話會議。

It's really easy since everything is done online and on your own time.

因為一切都可以在網上完成，而且可以利用自己的時間，所以非常簡單。

What's great is that it's a minimal commitment.

最重要的是，它的投入很小。

You can switch therapists if you don't like yours and you can cancel anytime if you don't like it.

如果您不喜歡您的治療師，您可以更換，如果您不喜歡，您可以隨時取消。

It's more affordable than traditional offline counseling and financial aid is also available.

它比傳統的線下諮詢更經濟實惠，而且還提供經濟援助。

So if you want to nurture your mental health with professional counseling, try BetterHelp.

是以，如果您想通過專業諮詢來促進心理健康，不妨試試 BetterHelp。

Visit betterhelp.com and join over 1 million people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.

訪問 betterhelp.com，加入 100 多萬人的行列，在經驗豐富的專業人士的幫助下，掌控自己的心理健康。

Since BetterHelp is sponsoring this video, they're offering the Lavendaire community 10% off your first month.

由於 BetterHelp 贊助了本視頻，他們將為 Lavendaire 社區提供首月九折優惠。

Just go to betterhelp.com.

請訪問 betterhelp.com。

The next piece of advice I have for you when you're feeling low is stop consuming content that makes you feel worse.

當你情緒低落時，我給你的下一個建議是，停止消費那些讓你感覺更糟的內容。

This includes any content that makes you feel bad about yourself, content that makes you compare yourself to others, and even positive or inspirational content, because sometimes it reminds you of what you're unable to do right now.

這包括任何讓你自我感覺不好的內容、讓你拿自己和別人比較的內容，甚至包括正面或鼓舞人心的內容，因為有時這些內容會提醒你現在還做不到什麼。

Sometimes it can be hard to have a positive mindset about something and that's okay.

有時，我們很難對某件事情抱有積極的心態，這沒關係。

Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling right now.

無論你現在感覺如何，都允許自己去感受。

Accept yourself as you are.

接受現在的自己

If you want an instant refresh, you can also go into nature.

如果你想立即恢復精神，也可以走進大自然。

Being in nature heals you on a spiritual level.

在大自然中，你會得到精神層面的治療。

You're reminded of the stillness and ease in nature and that you're just a small part of this bigger world.

你會想起大自然的靜謐和安逸，想起自己只是這個大世界的一小部分。

When you're out in nature, you feel small.

在大自然中，你會覺得自己很渺小。

Here, you can revive your sense of peace.

在這裡，您可以重獲平靜。

It doesn't even have to be a major trip.

甚至不必是一次大型旅行。

Just take a walk outside, go to a nearby park, maybe go to the beach or the mountains, or even your local nursery.

只要到戶外散散步，去附近的公園，也許去海邊或山上，甚至去當地的託兒所。

I mean, even going to your local home improvement store where they have that outdoor nursery can make you feel a little better, because I feel like the energy of the plants and flowers can be so healing.

我的意思是，即使是去當地的家居裝飾店，那裡的戶外苗圃也能讓你感覺好一些，因為我覺得植物和花朵的能量是如此治癒人心。

Next, understand that life happens in cycles.

其次，要明白生命是有周期的。

Just like the cycle of the day, our moon, or our four seasons, life also happens in cycles.

就像一天的週期、我們的月亮或四季一樣，生命也有周期。

Change is the only constant.

變化是唯一的不變。

This means that life never stays the same and is always going through cycles or seasons.

這意味著，生命永遠不會一成不變，總會經歷週期或季節。

Have you ever heard of the saying, this too shall pass?

你聽說過 "一切都會過去 "這句話嗎？

Whatever you're going through, know that it will pass.

無論你正在經歷什麼，要知道一切都會過去。

You might be going through a tough time right now, but it won't stay like this forever.

你現在可能正經歷一段艱難的時期，但不會永遠如此。

Your situation and your feelings will change.

你的處境和感受會發生變化。

Just stay patient and persevere through this season.

只要保持耐心，堅持度過這個賽季。

Learn to embrace the cycles and seasons of your life, both the highs and the lows, because without the lows, there wouldn't be highs and vice versa.

學會擁抱生命的週期和季節，無論是高潮還是谷底，因為沒有谷底就沒有高潮，反之亦然。

It's the depth and the variety that allow you to feel the difference.

它的深度和多樣性讓你感受到與眾不同。

If you only knew day, but never knew night, you would take the sun for granted.

如果你只知道白天，卻不知道黑夜，你就會認為太陽是理所當然的。

You wouldn't appreciate it as much.

你就不會那麼欣賞它了。

It's because you know night, that you can appreciate the day and vice versa.

因為了解夜晚，才能欣賞白天，反之亦然。

Same with our emotions.

我們的情緒也是如此。

It's because you've experienced the lows, that you can deeply appreciate the highs.

正因為經歷過谷底，才能深刻體會高潮。

Once you've given yourself rest and you're ready to take some action, start with baby steps.

一旦你讓自己得到了休息，並準備好採取一些行動，就從小步開始吧。

Again, release any expectations or pressure you might have for yourself.

再次，釋放你對自己的任何期望或壓力。

Break down your tasks into the smallest, easiest chunks you can.

將任務分解成最小、最簡單的塊。

If you want to start exercising to nurture your health and boost your mood, instead of setting a goal like, I want to work out for an hour every day, set tiny goals like, put on my workout clothes today, put on my shoes, open a workout app, or step outside to walk for five minutes.

如果你想通過鍛鍊來促進健康和提升心情，與其設定 "我想每天鍛鍊一小時 "這樣的目標，不如設定 "今天穿上運動服，穿上運動鞋，打開一個鍛鍊應用程序，或者到室外走五分鐘 "這樣的小目標。

Do as much as you feel you can, and congratulate yourself for those small actions.

能做多少就做多少，併為這些微小的行動祝賀自己。

We tend to want to be ambitious and set these big goals for ourselves, but when we don't meet them, we feel like we've failed and then we feel even worse about ourselves.

我們往往希望雄心勃勃，為自己設定這些遠大的目標，但當我們沒有實現這些目標時，我們會覺得自己失敗了，然後對自己的感覺更加糟糕。

The better approach is to start small and give yourself grace.

更好的辦法是從小事做起，給自己留有餘地。

A small effort is still an effort.

再小的努力也是努力。

By doing this, you take the pressure off and you're building your stamina to be able to do more.

這樣做可以減輕壓力，增強體力，從而做得更多。

Lastly and importantly, find gratitude in every little thing.

最後，也是最重要的一點是，要從每一件小事中找到感激之情。

Get specific about all the small things in life you're grateful for.

具體列出生活中所有讓你感激的小事。

Open up your journal or a Word doc and start writing a list of sentences that begin with, I'm grateful or I'm blessed.

打開你的日記本或 Word 文檔，開始寫一系列以 "我很感激 "或 "我很幸運 "開頭的句子。

I actually did this exercise last night and ended up writing over 900 words in a list that went on and on.

實際上，我昨晚也做了這個練習，結果寫了 900 多個單詞，一直寫個不停。

It's funny how, once you start focusing on gratitude, more and more things pop up.

有趣的是，一旦你開始注重感恩，就會有越來越多的事情出現。

I wrote things like, I'm blessed to have experienced music festivals and concerts pre-pandemic.

我寫道："我很幸運能在大流行之前經歷音樂節和音樂會。

I'm blessed to have a big family with a lot of cousins.

我很幸運有一個大家庭，有很多表兄弟姐妹。

I'm blessed to have a great relationship with my brother.

我很幸運能與我的哥哥保持良好的關係。

I'm blessed to have healed from emotional baggage in my past.

我很幸運，過去的情感包袱已經痊癒。

I'm blessed to be alive and healthy during a pandemic.

我很慶幸在大流行病期間還能健康地活著。

I hope these ideas were helpful to you.

希望這些想法對你有所幫助。

It's a gentle reminder that if you feel like doing nothing, it's okay to do nothing.

這是一個溫馨的提醒：如果你什麼都不想做，什麼都不做也沒關係。

It's okay to be gentle with yourself.

對自己溫柔點沒關係。

It's okay to give yourself space to breathe and to heal.

給自己喘息和療傷的空間是可以的。

We all need it from time to time.

我們時不時都需要它。

It's part of our cycle.

這是我們循環的一部分。

Like I said, there's both masculine and feminine energies.

就像我說的，既有陽剛之氣，也有陰柔之美。

Our world operates mostly on the masculine and we're expected to do and achieve and add value to the world.

我們的世界主要依靠男性來運作，我們被期望做事、取得成就併為世界增添價值。

But we can't ignore the feminine energy that wants us to go inward, to allow, to be.

但我們不能忽視女性的能量，它希望我們向內，允許，成為。

I'm learning more and more the beauty of simply existing, of least effort, not trying to achieve or do more, but to do less and allow life to flow more naturally.

我越來越體會到簡單存在的美，最少努力的美，不試圖實現或做更多，而是做更少的事，讓生活更自然地流淌。

I think people worry that if you don't do anything, your life won't move forward, but that's not true.

我想人們會擔心，如果你什麼都不做，你的生活就不會前進，但事實並非如此。

Just as your body knows how to heal itself when you do nothing, your life will be guided forward and change will happen because change is always happening, even if you're not trying to.

就像你的身體知道如何在你什麼都不做的情況下自我痊癒一樣，你的生活也會被引導前進，變化也會發生，因為變化總是在發生，即使你並沒有試圖去改變。

All you have to do is follow your intuition.

你所要做的就是跟隨你的直覺。

And if you don't know what it's telling you, get quiet.

如果你不知道它在告訴你什麼，那就安靜下來。

Maybe it's telling you, you need a break before I tell you what to do next.

也許它在告訴你，在我告訴你下一步該怎麼做之前，你需要休息一下。

Thank you so much for watching.

感謝您的收看。

Please subscribe and leave a comment below with your thoughts.

請訂閱並在下方留言發表您的看法。

Are you able to surrender and flow with ease?

你是否能夠臣服並從容不迫？

Can you release those expectations you have on yourself?

你能釋放對自己的期望嗎？

Sending you so much love for your journey.

在你的旅途中，我們將為你送去滿滿的愛。

See you next time.

下次再見

Bye!

再見！