字幕列表 影片播放
-
In order to successfully keep the "jealousy" monster under control,
為了要成功控制「忌妒」這個怪獸,
-
you have to search your feelings to try and find out the underlying cause of your jealousy.
你要尋找你內心真實的感受,試著去找出產生忌妒的根本原因。
-
When your partner looks at another, do you feel that you're going to lose him/her?
當你的伴侶在忙別的人事物時,你會覺得你要失去他、她了嗎?
-
Do you believe that he's devoting too much time to another instead of you?
你會覺得他在別的事物上面投資的時間比在你身上多,而你的地位會被取代嗎?
-
When you ask yourself these questions, you will be able to determine the intensity of your jealousy,
當你問自己這些問題時,你就可以知道你忌妒的程度,
-
and realize that if you're behaving irrationally,
然後了解若你的有著不理性的行為舉止,
-
then the problem might lie with you.
那麼這個問題可能跟隨著你。
-
Overcoming jealousy requires finding a way to build your confidence without looking to others for comparison.
克服忌妒需要找到一個方法來建立你的信心,而不是要尋找他人來進行比較。
-
Self-hypnosis can teach you how to erase the negative thoughts about yourself that lead to negative behavior.
自我催眠能教你如何除去那些導致負面行為的自身的負面想法。
-
Talking to your partner about your apprehensions may also help.
跟你的朋友談談你的不安及恐懼或許也能幫助你。
-
You may set some rules on behavior at the onset of the relationship and commit to them.
你可以在一段感情的初期就設定一些規則,然後遵守它們。
-
This will establish the foundation for trust between the two of you if at any time.
這樣不久就可以建立起你和伴侶間信任的基礎。
-
One of you makes a mistake, keep the communication lines open,
你們其中一人犯了錯時,要持續地和對方溝通,
-
keep an open mind and discuss the situation.
保持開闊的心並一起討論狀況。
-
Trust will develop and flourish as the relationship grows.
信任會隨著感情的成長而更茂盛。
-
You also have to learn to control your emotions and confront your fears and suspicions in a rational manner.
你也要學習控制你的情緒,且用理性的方式來面對你的恐懼跟懷疑。
-
Remember, that jealousy can affect everyone.
記住,忌妒可以影響任何一個人。
-
You have to value the effort: you and your partner have both put into your relationship.
你要衡量雙方的努力:你與伴侶對於這段關係付出的心力。
-
There may be a chance that your assumptions may be baseless.
有可能你的猜測沒有任何根據。
-
You wouldn't want to ruin a good relationship if you let your jealousy control you.
你不會想毀掉一段良好的關係,只因你被嫉妒控制吧。
-
Find more ways to overcome jealousy and how to control jealousy on my website.
來我的網站了解更多克服以及控制忌妒的方式吧。