you have to search your feelings to try and find out the underlying cause of your jealousy.

你要尋找你內心真實的感受，試著去找出產生忌妒的根本原因。

When your partner looks at another, do you feel that you're going to lose him/her?

當你的伴侶在忙別的人事物時，你會覺得你要失去他、她了嗎?

Do you believe that he's devoting too much time to another instead of you?

你會覺得他在別的事物上面投資的時間比在你身上多，而你的地位會被取代嗎?

When you ask yourself these questions, you will be able to determine the intensity of your jealousy,

當你問自己這些問題時，你就可以知道你忌妒的程度，

and realize that if you're behaving irrationally,

然後了解若你的有著不理性的行為舉止，

then the problem might lie with you.

那麼這個問題可能跟隨著你。

Overcoming jealousy requires finding a way to build your confidence without looking to others for comparison.

克服忌妒需要找到一個方法來建立你的信心，而不是要尋找他人來進行比較。

Self-hypnosis can teach you how to erase the negative thoughts about yourself that lead to negative behavior.

自我催眠能教你如何除去那些導致負面行為的自身的負面想法。

Talking to your partner about your apprehensions may also help.

跟你的朋友談談你的不安及恐懼或許也能幫助你。

You may set some rules on behavior at the onset of the relationship and commit to them.

你可以在一段感情的初期就設定一些規則，然後遵守它們。

This will establish the foundation for trust between the two of you if at any time.

這樣不久就可以建立起你和伴侶間信任的基礎。

One of you makes a mistake, keep the communication lines open,

你們其中一人犯了錯時，要持續地和對方溝通，

keep an open mind and discuss the situation.

保持開闊的心並一起討論狀況。

Trust will develop and flourish as the relationship grows.

信任會隨著感情的成長而更茂盛。

You also have to learn to control your emotions and confront your fears and suspicions in a rational manner.

你也要學習控制你的情緒，且用理性的方式來面對你的恐懼跟懷疑。

Remember, that jealousy can affect everyone.

記住，忌妒可以影響任何一個人。

You have to value the effort: you and your partner have both put into your relationship.

你要衡量雙方的努力：你與伴侶對於這段關係付出的心力。

There may be a chance that your assumptions may be baseless.

有可能你的猜測沒有任何根據。

You wouldn't want to ruin a good relationship if you let your jealousy control you.

你不會想毀掉一段良好的關係，只因你被嫉妒控制吧。

Find more ways to overcome jealousy and how to control jealousy on my website.

來我的網站了解更多克服以及控制忌妒的方式吧。