Name: 情商--學生應有的技能 | Ronen Habib | TEDxGunnHighSchool (Emotional Intelligence- The Skills Our Students Deserve | Ronen Habib | TEDxGunnHighSchool)
Uploaded: 2024-09-11T01:17:39.000Z
Duration: 18 min 18 s

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When I was a senior in high school, I applied to seven colleges and got rejected by all of them except for my safety school, which was UC Santa Cruz.

高三時，我申請了七所大學，除了我的安全學校加州大學聖克魯茲分校外，其他學校都拒絕了我的申請。

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And to make matters worse, I have a terrible sense of direction.

更糟糕的是，我的方向感很差。

Now I'm not sure if you're familiar with the UC Santa Cruz campus, but if not, I want you to imagine a huge forest with a bunch of classes stuck in different parts of it.

我不知道你們是否熟悉加州大學聖克魯茲分校的校園，如果不熟悉，我想讓你們想象一下，在一片巨大的森林中，有許多班級被困在不同的地方。

As a joke, my high school friends actually gave me a watch with a compass on it so I get from place to place.

開個玩笑，我的高中同學居然送了我一塊帶指南針的手錶，這樣我就能從一個地方走到另一個地方了。

I needed a compass that year, but not one that would get me from class to class.

那一年，我需要一個指南針，但不是一個能讓我從一堂課走到另一堂課的指南針。

One that would help me find my way to live a more happy and more fulfilled life.

它能幫助我找到生活得更快樂、更充實的方式。

You see, when I was a freshman at UC Santa Cruz, I was lost and unhappy.

你看，當我還是加州大學聖克魯茲分校的大一新生時，我很迷茫，也很不開心。

I was taking courses in computer science that I hated because I was told, major in computer science, you'll get a good job, you'll make a lot of money, and you'll be rich and happy.

我選修了我討厭的計算機科學課程，因為有人告訴我，主修計算機科學，你會找到一份好工作，你會賺很多錢，你會變得富有和快樂。

I was following this motto, suffer now so you can be happy later, and most importantly, don't question it.

我一直遵循著這樣的座右銘：現在受苦，以後才能幸福，最重要的是，不要質疑。

But my girlfriend at the time, who's now my wife, she did question it.

但我當時的女朋友，也就是我現在的妻子，她確實提出了質疑。

And she asked me, why are you taking these courses?

她問我，你為什麼要學這些課程？

And she's like, no, actually, you don't have to take these courses.

她說，不，實際上，你不需要上這些課程。

You can choose to drop these courses and major in something you enjoy learning about.

您可以選擇放棄這些課程，轉而主修自己喜歡的專業。

Because you see, up until that point, I never asked myself what I enjoyed learning about.

因為在此之前，我從未問過自己喜歡學習什麼。

對我來說，這個問題似乎有些放縱。

Luckily, she pushed me to take a class called Personal Empowerment, taught by Professor

幸運的是，在她的推動下，我選修了一門名為 "個人賦權 "的課程。

And Frank taught me that paying attention to what makes me feel alive, what makes me feel happier, is not wrong, and it's not a luxury.

弗蘭克告訴我，關注能讓我感覺自己還活著、能讓我感覺更快樂的事情並沒有錯，也不是什麼奢侈的事情。

It's actually critical to my happiness and also to my success.

事實上，這對我的幸福和成功至關重要。

Most importantly, Frank taught me that paying attention to my emotions and using this information to make decisions in my life was the compass that I needed to live a more fulfilled and happier life.

最重要的是，弗蘭克教會了我關注自己的情緒，並利用這些資訊做出生活中的決定，這是我過上更充實、更幸福生活所需的指南針。

I thought getting into UC Santa Cruz was the worst thing ever.

我以為考上加州大學聖克魯茲分校是最糟糕的事情。

Because after that class, I started to live a more fulfilled and happier life.

因為在那堂課之後，我開始過上了更充實、更快樂的生活。

I actually started to do things that I enjoyed more, that I was drawn to.

實際上，我開始做一些我更喜歡的事情，我被吸引的事情。

Now fast forward about 10 years, I find myself teaching AP Economics to 17 and 18 year old kids who are really smart, really hard working, and a lot of whom are actually also really detached from their emotions.

現在快進到 10 年前，我發現自己正在給十七八歲的孩子們講授 AP 經濟學，他們非常聰明、非常勤奮，而且很多人實際上也非常疏遠自己的情感。

All of whom are really stressed, and some of whom lack social and interpersonal skills.

所有這些人的壓力都非常大，其中一些人缺乏社交和人際交往能力。

And I wanted my students to have the skills that so fundamentally changed me.

我希望我的學生也能掌握這些從根本上改變了我的技能。

These skills that amount to what Daniel Goleman calls emotional intelligence.

這些技能相當於丹尼爾-戈爾曼（Daniel Goleman）所說的情商。

And he defines emotional intelligence as the ability to monitor one's own and other people's emotions, to label these emotions appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide our own thinking and ultimately our behavior.

他將情商定義為監控自己和他人情緒的能力，為這些情緒貼上適當標籤的能力，以及利用情緒資訊來指導我們自己的思維並最終指導我們的行為的能力。

It includes components such as these, self-awareness, social skills, empathy, self-regulation, motivation.

它包括以下內容：自我意識、社交技能、移情、自我調節、動機。

If you haven't used at least one of these in the last 24 hours, we really need to talk.

如果你在過去 24 小時內至少沒有使用過其中的一種，我們就真的需要談談了。

Because we use these things all the time.

因為我們一直在使用這些東西。

Ten minutes ago, when I was backstage, I looked like this.

十分鐘前，當我在後臺時，我看起來是這樣的。

Because it's scary to speak in front of a thousand people and be recorded, right?

因為在上千人面前發言並被錄音是很可怕的，對嗎？

I had this negative self-talk telling me, oh, no one's going to want to listen to this, you're going to make a fool out of yourself, no one cares about this, right?

我的消極自我對話告訴我，哦，沒人會想聽這個，你會讓自己出醜，沒人在乎這個，對嗎？

So I had to take a deep breath and remind myself why this is important to me, try to shift my focus as much as I can away from that voice.

是以，我不得不深吸一口氣，提醒自己為什麼這對我很重要，儘量把注意力從那個聲音上轉移開。

And I decided to visualize something that makes me feel calm and centered, that puts me in the present moment.

我決定想象一些能讓我感到平靜和集中的東西，讓我置身於當下。

And for me, it's the incredibly cute pictures of my kids.

而對我來說，則是孩子們可愛無比的照片。

And so they helped me remember why this message is so important.

是以，他們幫我記住了為什麼這條資訊如此重要。

So this is my way, right, of self-regulating to do this.

But look, these skills come in handy in so many different ways.

但是你看，這些技能在很多方面都能派上用場。

Have you ever procrastinated because you didn't want to do something, right?

你是否曾經因為不想做某事而拖延過？

Have you ever been in conflict with someone?

We need to notice when we're triggered, when we're flooded.

我們需要注意自己何時被觸發，何時被淹沒。

We need to be able to actively listen to the other person.

We need to be able to empathize with their emotions and their feelings.

我們需要能夠對他們的情緒和感受感同身受。

We need to be able to assert ourself in a non-blameful way.

我們需要能夠以一種不帶責備的方式堅持自我。

And by the way, these are skills that companies such as these highly, highly value, okay?

順便說一句，這些技能是這些公司非常非常看重的，好嗎？

In education, teachers around the world ask themselves, do we provide 21st century skills to our students?

在教育領域，全世界的教師都在問自己，我們是否為學生提供了 21 世紀的技能？

But this question is never answered in the world of education.

但在教育界，這個問題從來沒有答案。

All the conferences I go to, it kind of like floats there.

在我參加的所有會議上，它都像是漂浮在那裡。

And so I ended up going to a conference where top HR executives from these companies listed the skills that they want people to possess before they work for them.

於是，我參加了一個會議，會上這些公司的人力資源高管列出了他們希望員工在為其工作之前應具備的技能。

They want people who can work well with others.

他們需要的是能與他人很好合作的人。

They want people who have basic knowledge of subject matter.

他們需要的是對學科知識有基本瞭解的人。

They want people who can persevere through adversity.

他們需要的是能在逆境中堅持不懈的人。

And they want people who can be ruthlessly intentional with their time.

他們需要的是能夠無情地利用時間的人。

They also said that it's very, very difficult to find people who possess these skills.

他們還說，要找到掌握這些技能的人非常非常困難。

And these are rooted in emotional intelligence.

Very difficult to find people who have these skills.

And so let me paint this picture to you right now.

現在就讓我給你們描繪一下這幅畫面。

These companies are offering emotional intelligence courses, like at Google, they offer a course called Search Inside Yourself.

這些公司正在開設情商課程，比如谷歌就開設了一門名為 "搜索你的內心 "的課程。

And they're offering these courses because our educational system is failing to provide these courses that offer the skills the private sector so dearly wants.

他們之所以開設這些課程，是因為我們的教育系統未能提供這些課程，而這些課程能夠提供私營部門非常需要的技能。

But what if we did offer these skills in our education?

但是，如果我們真的在教育中提供這些技能呢？

What if we offer these courses in schools?

如果我們在學校開設這些課程呢？

Imagine the benefit to our society well beyond the workforce.

試想一下，我們的社會所能獲得的好處將遠遠超出勞動力的範疇。

Imagine the benefit to our society, like for marriages and child rearing, if we had emotionally intelligent parents who could attune to their kids' needs, who could emotion coach their kids.

試想一下，如果我們的父母都具有情感智慧，能夠關注孩子的需求，能夠對孩子進行情感指導，那麼我們的社會將會受益匪淺，比如在婚姻和子女教育方面。

Imagine the benefit to our nation if we had lawmakers who actually knew how to self-regulate and be empathic and active listen.

試想一下，如果我們的立法者真正懂得自我調節、換位思考和積極傾聽，我們的國家將會受益匪淺。

And the thing that's crazy to me is that these skills are completely trainable.

讓我感到瘋狂的是，這些技能是完全可以訓練的。

You know, we assume that second-graders don't know how to multiply, how to divide, and how to read, and that's why we teach it to them, as we should.

你知道，我們假設二年級學生不知道如何乘法、如何除法、如何閱讀，所以我們才教他們，這是我們應該做的。

Why do we assume that second-graders know how to self-regulate or self-manage or even be empathic?

為什麼我們認為二年級學生懂得自我調節或自我管理，甚至懂得換位思考？

You see, schools across the nations have embraced something called the Common Core Standards.

你看，全國的學校都接受了一種叫做 "共同核心標準 "的東西。

And with Common Core, you know, if you go to their website, there's actually a section in the Common Core Standard that says, what is not covered by the standards?

至於 "共同核心"，你知道，如果你訪問他們的網站，"共同核心 "標準中實際上有一個部分是這樣說的："標準中沒有涵蓋哪些內容？

And in that section, there is a line that says, social, emotional, and physical development are not covered in the standards, which can only make sense if you live alone in a cave.

在該部分中，有一句話是這樣說的："標準中不包括社會、情感和身體發展"，只有當你一個人住在山洞裡時，這句話才有意義。

So why are we not offering, why is there not in the Common Core?

那麼，為什麼我們不提供，為什麼共同核心中沒有？

Well, it turns out that Goleman writes in his book that there was a meta-analysis of 668 schools that implemented SEL programs, social and emotional learning programs.

事實證明，戈爾曼在書中寫道，對 668 所實施 SEL 計劃（社會和情感學習計劃）的學校進行了薈萃分析。

Dr. Weisberg at the University of Illinois found that schools who do implement SEL programs see up to 50% of children improving achievement scores, 38% improving GPAs, suspensions dropping by 44%, and kids showing 63% significantly more positive behavior.

伊利諾伊大學的魏斯伯格博士發現，實施了 SEL 計劃的學校中，多達 50% 的孩子成績有所提高，38% 的孩子 GPA 有所提高，停學率下降了 44%，孩子們的積極行為明顯增加了 63%。

Students are learning more, and schools are safer.

And they're remarkable to the point that the state of Illinois decided to implement SEL standards.

伊利諾伊州決定實施 SEL 標準，這一點非常了不起。

So in Illinois, every student is taught to recognize and accurately label their emotions, and to identify non-verbal clues as to how someone else feels, amongst many, many other things.

是以，在伊利諾伊州，每個學生都要學習識別和準確標註自己的情緒，以及識別他人感受的非語言線索，等等。

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