Name: 不藏私！我從最好的一本書中汲取的 5 條人生建議直接分享給你們！ (5 lessons from one of the best books I’ve ever read)
Uploaded: 2024-09-13T21:01:30.000Z
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Hey friends, welcome back to the channel.

So this is a very, very short, small book, which I read a few years ago.

這是一本非常非常簡短的書，我幾年前讀過。

And Derek Sivers is one of my favorite people, favorite thinkers in the world.

Derek Sivers 是我最喜歡的人之一，也是世界上最喜歡的思想家。

And the advice that he shares has resonated with me so much over the years.

多年來，他分享的建議讓我產生了很多共鳴。

And so in this video, I wanna share five excerpts, five lessons from this book that I'm continuing to revisit again and again.

所以在這部影片中，我想與大家分享這本書中的五段摘錄、五堂課，我將不斷地重溫這些內容。

What if you didn't need money or attention?

You know that feeling you have after a big meal, when you're so full that you don't want anything more.

你知道大吃一頓後的那種感覺吧，飽得什麼都不想再吃了。

Ever wonder what that would feel like in other parts of your life?

有沒有想過在你生活的其他部分會是什麼感覺？

We do so many things for the attention to feel important or praised.

我們做很多事情都是為了獲得關注，從而感到自己很重要或受到稱讚。

But what if you had so much attention and so much praise that you couldn't possibly want any more?

但是，如果你得到了如此多的關注和讚美，以至於你不可能再想要更多呢？

We do so many things for the money, whether we need it or not.

無論我們是否需要錢，我們都會為錢做很多事情。

But what if you had so much money that you couldn't possibly want anymore?

但是，如果你的錢多得不可能再要了呢？

And then if you stopped doing all those things you're doing just for the money or the attention, what would be left?

然後，如果你不再做那些只為金錢或關注而做的事情，還會剩下什麼呢？

Who would you be if you didn't do these things?

如果不做這些事，你會成為什麼樣的人？

If you were completely satisfied, then what?

After an understandable period of relaxing, what would you pursue?

經過一段可以理解的放鬆期後，您會追求什麼？

Don't say sit around and do nothing because that's still just relaxing.

不要說坐著什麼都不做，因為那仍然只是放鬆。

I mean, after that, when you're ready to be useful to others again, what would you do then if you didn't need the money and didn't need the attention?

我的意思是，在那之後，當你準備好再次為他人所用時，如果你不需要錢，不需要關注，你會怎麼做？

Yeah, this question of what we wanna do with our time, what we wanna do with our lives is one of the central questions that we're all trying to answer, mostly when we get into our 20s, often when we graduate, and we're like, ah, what do I do now?

是啊，我們想用我們的時間做什麼，我們想用我們的生命做什麼，這個問題是我們都想回答的核心問題之一，主要是在我們進入 20 多歲的時候，通常是在我們畢業的時候，我們會想，啊，我現在該做什麼？

And one of the best things I've found for this is to just sort of do a lot of exploration, try out a bunch of different things and see what vibes,

在這方面，我發現最好的方法之一就是進行大量的探索，嘗試各種不同的事物，看看會產生什麼影響，

but also journaling prompts like this, questions like this that encourage us to get away from the default things of status or success or desire for money or desire for security, all that kind of stuff.

同時還可以寫日記，提出這樣的問題，鼓勵我們擺脫默認的地位、成功、對金錢的渴望、對安全感的渴望，所有這些東西。

A question like, what would you actually do if you didn't care about the money and you didn't care about the attention?

比如，如果你不在乎錢，不在乎關注度，你到底會怎麼做？

Next up we have, if you're not feeling hell yeah, then say no.

接下來，如果你不覺得「讚啦」，那就說「不」。

Most of us have lives filled with mediocrity.

我們大多數人的生活都充滿了平庸。

We say yes to things that we felt half-hearted about.

我們對自己半信半疑的事情說 "是"。

So we're too busy to react when opportunities come our way.

所以，當機會來臨時，我們忙於應對。

We miss out on the great because we're busy with the mediocre.

因為忙於平庸，我們錯過了精彩。

If you're not feeling hell yeah, that would be awesome about something, say no.

如果你不覺得 "好極了"，那就說 "不"。

This starts to free your time and your mind.

這將開始解放你的時間和思想。

Then when you find something you're actually excited about, you'll have the space in your life to give it your full attention.

然後，當你找到真正讓你興奮的事情時，你的生活中就會有足夠的空間來全神貫注地對待它。

You'll be able to take massive action in a way that most people can't because you cleared away your clutter in advance.

因為你提前清理了雜物，所以你能以一種大多數人無法做到的方式採取大規模行動。

說 "不 "會讓你的 "是 "更有力量。

Though it's good to say yes when you're starting out, wanting any opportunity or needing variety, it's bad to say yes when you're overwhelmed, over-committed or need to focus.

雖然在你剛起步、想要任何機會或需要多樣化時說 "是 "是件好事，但在你不堪重負、過度投入或需要集中精力時說 "是 "就不好了。

But the things you do, do them all the way.

但你所做的事情，一定要堅持到底。

This is a lesson I keep on needing to relearn and relearn and relearn and relearn.

這是我不斷需要重新學習、重新學習、再學習、再學習的一課。

And every entrepreneur that I look up to also worries, also really, really, really struggles with this lesson.

我所仰慕的每一位企業家也都為這一課煩惱，也都非常、非常、非常糾結。

Where when you're just starting out, you kind of wanna say yes to everything because you're getting all these opportunities and you're like, you wanna try different things.

當你剛剛起步時，你會想對所有事情都說 "好"，因為你會得到所有這些機會，你會想嘗試不同的事情。

You wanna take advantage of all the things.

But then at a certain point, you kind of know what you need to do.

但到了一定程度，你就會知道自己需要做什麼。

You know what the things that you wanna focus on actually are.

你知道你想關注的事情到底是什麼。

And any deviation or distraction from those things just scatters you in a bunch of different directions and you end up not really making any meaningful progress.

任何偏離或分散注意力的行為都會讓你分散到不同的方向，最終無法取得任何有意義的進展。

But that requires the ability to say no to stuff.

但這需要有能力對一些事情說 "不"。是什麼？

There was a famous writer, I can't remember who it was, who said that one of the sad things about, one of the unfortunate side effects of being a successful writer is that you start getting all this fan mail.

有一位很有名的作家，我不記得是誰了，他說過，作為一個成功的作家，其中一件可悲的事情，其中一個不幸的副作用，就是你開始收到這些粉絲的信件。

And if you were to respond to the fan mail, you would never have any time to do the writing.

如果你回覆粉絲的信件，你就永遠沒有時間寫作了。

And one thing a lot of writers get into trouble with is that they're, in spending too much time interacting with the fans because they view that as a good thing and they really wanna do it, they then lose the focus from their work.

很多作家都會遇到一個問題，那就是他們花太多時間與粉絲互動，因為他們認為這是一件好事，他們真的想這麼做，但這樣一來，他們就失去了工作的重心。

There's a phrase in business, which is that sevens kill businesses.

生意場上有一句話，叫做 "七分生意三分錢"。

Seven out of 10 people, seven out of 10 projects, things that you said yes to because it was like a seven out of 10 exciting.

十分之七的人，十分之七的項目，十分之七的事情，你都答應了，因為這就像是十分之七的興奮。

If it's only a seven out of 10 exciting, it's not worth doing.

如果 10 分中只有 7 分令人興奮，那就不值得去做。

And actually those seven out of 10s, like it's easy to say no to the things that are three out of 10 or two out of 10 or one out of 10.

實際上，那些十分之七的事情，就像對十分之三、十分之二或十分之一的事情說 "不 "一樣容易。

It's easy to say no to the stuff that you just really don't wanna do.

拒絕那些你真的不想做的事情很容易。

But it's a lot harder to say no to the stuff where it's like, oh, you know, that thing's pretty good.

但是，要拒絕那些讓人覺得 "哦，你知道，那東西挺不錯 "的東西，就難上加難了。

But I mean, maybe it's a seven out of 10, but I probably should do it anyway because I'm really lucky to be in this position and I should take it on and it'll be good for my CV and it'll help me with this and this and that.

但我的意思是，也許滿分是 7 分，但無論如何我都應該去做，因為我真的很幸運能得到這個職位，我應該去做，這對我的履歷有好處，對我的工作也有幫助。

And then before you know it, your calendar and your to-do list are absolutely rammed and you're feeling overwhelmed because you just have too much stuff going on.

然後在你意識到之前，你的日程表和待辦事項清單就已經被塞得滿滿的，你會感到力不從心，因為你有太多的事情要做。

And then the stuff that actually moves the needle, because those seven out of 10 things never really move the needle.

然後是那些能真正起作用的東西，因為這十件事中有七件永遠不會真正起作用。

The stuff that actually moves the needle falls by the wayside.

而那些真正能起到推動作用的東西卻被棄置一旁。

Oh, and by the way, if you happen to be watching this before the 20th of September, 2024, then you might like to join my completely free quarterly alignment workshop.

哦，對了，如果你正好在 2024 年 9 月 20 日之前收看這期節目，那麼你可能想參加我的完全免費的季度調整研討會。

This is a totally free online workshop I host on Zoom about every three months.

這是我在 Zoom 上舉辦的完全免費的在線研討會，大約每三個月舉辦一次。

And the idea is that we reflect on your last three months, we align to your life vision and we set your goals for the final quarter of the year.

我們的想法是，對過去三個月進行反思，與你的人生願景保持一致，併為今年最後一個季度設定目標。

I've been hosting these every few months or year and there's always thousands of people on the call and they find them super helpful and it's completely free.

我每隔幾個月或一年就會舉辦一次這樣的活動，每次都有成千上萬的人参加，他們覺得這些活動非常有用，而且完全免費。

So if you wanna sign up and join me facilitating a Zoom session, then you can check out the link in the video description.

如果你想報名參加我的 Zoom 會議，可以查看影片說明中的連結。

A few years ago, I lived in Santa Monica, California, right on the beach.

幾年前，我住在加州的聖莫尼卡，就在海邊。

There's a great bike path that goes along the ocean for seven and a half miles.

這裡有一條很棒的自行車道，沿著海邊長達 7.5 英里。

On weekday afternoons, it's almost empty.

工作日下午，這裡幾乎空無一人。

So a few times a week, I'd get on my bike and go as fast as I could for the 15 mile loop.

每週我都會騎上自行車，以最快的速度跑完 15 英里的環路。

I mean, really full on, 100%, head down, red faced sprinting.

我的意思是，真正全力以赴、百分之百、低著頭、面紅耳赤地衝刺。

I'd finish exhausted and look at the time, 43 minutes, every time.

每次我都會筋疲力盡地結束比賽，然後看看時間，43 分鐘。

After a few months, I noticed I was getting less enthusiastic about this bike ride.

幾個月後，我發現自己騎車的熱情越來越低。

I think I'd mentally linked it with being completely exhausted.

我想我在心理上已經把它和精疲力竭聯繫在了一起。

So one day I decided I would do the same ride, but just chill, take it easy, nice and slow.

於是有一天，我決定再騎一次，但只是放鬆一下，慢慢來，慢慢騎。

I was relaxed and smiling and looking around.

我很放鬆，面帶微笑，環顧四周。

A pelican flew right over me in Marina Del Rey.

在 Marina Del Rey，一隻鵜鶘從我頭頂飛過。

When I looked up to say, wow, he shit in my mouth.

當我抬頭想說 "哇 "的時候，他把屎拉在了我嘴裡。

I'm usually so damn driven, always doing everything as intensely as I can.

我通常都很有幹勁，做什麼事都盡心盡力。

I felt I could do this forever without any exhaustion.

我覺得我可以一直這樣做下去，而不會感到任何疲憊。

When I finished, I looked at the time, 45 minutes.

完成後，我看了看時間，45 分鐘。

Yep, I double checked, 45 minutes as compared to my usual 43.

是的，我仔細檢查過了，是 45 分鐘，而我平時是 43 分鐘。

So apparently all of that exhausting, red faced, full on push, push, push I had been doing had given me only a 4% boost.

很顯然，我所做的那些筋疲力盡、面紅耳赤、全力以赴的推進，只給我帶來了 4% 的動力。

I could just take it easy and get 96% of the results.

我只需輕鬆一點，就能取得 96% 的成果。

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