Don't take my word for it, but to me, if someone is confident to make a gesture that represents compassion, tenderness, and playfulness, and is mindful to respect and protect those who are not following the traditional masculine role, as they do, it definitely fits the definition of positive masculinity more than those who use derogatory terms on others.
別聽我瞎說,但在我看來,如果一個人自信地做出一個代表同情、溫柔和嬉戲的動作,並注意尊重和保護那些沒有遵循傳統男性角色的人,這絕對比那些對他人使用貶義詞的人更符合積極男性的定義。