Name: 如何停止過度思考一切 | 梅爾-羅賓斯 (How To Stop Overthinking EVERYTHING | Mel Robbins)
Uploaded: 2024-08-13T14:30:55.000Z
Duration: 10 min 27 s

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In any year of your life where you feel stuck, you know what you need to do to move the needle, to change your career, to improve your health, to work on your marriage.

在你人生中感到困頓的任何一年，你都知道自己需要做些什麼來推動前進，改變你的職業，改善你的健康，改善你的婚姻。

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And in fact, if you're listening to me right now and you go, Mel Robbins, you are wrong.

事實上，如果你正在聽我說話，然後你會說 "梅爾-羅賓斯"，那你就錯了。

Go to Google and type in, I hate my job, and you will get hundreds of millions of links.

在谷歌上輸入 "我討厭我的工作"，你會得到數以億計的鏈接。

You will probably find a hundred thousand videos that are made by people who have been stuck in their jobs who will walk you through a step-by-step process that you could take in order to change.

你可能會找到成千上萬個視頻，這些視頻都是由那些被工作困住的人制作的，他們會一步一步地教你如何改變現狀。

How do you make yourself take actions when you're afraid, when you're scared, when you're overwhelmed?

當你害怕、恐懼、不知所措時，如何讓自己採取行動？

How do you break the negative thinking that is causing you to feel paralyzed?

如何打破讓你感到癱瘓的消極思想？

See, the problem for most of us is we to change your life or change your career or change your health is to take action.

你看，我們大多數人的問題是，要改變你的生活、改變你的事業或改變你的健康，就必須採取行動。

And so the reason why so many people get stopped by procrastination and stopped by fear and stopped by anxiety is because they never get past the part of just thinking about it.

是以，很多人之所以被拖延症、恐懼和焦慮所困擾，就是因為他們從來沒有克服過思考這個環節。

And I believe that we all have a habit that I call the habit of hesitation.

我相信，我們每個人都有一種習慣，我稱之為 "猶豫的習慣"。

And in psychology, psychologists and researchers say there's basically two types of people, right?

在心理學中，心理學家和研究人員說基本上有兩種人，對嗎？

There's people that have a bias towards action.

And those are the kinds of folks that when inspiration strikes or when confidence strikes or when courage strikes or when opportunity strikes, they tend to lean toward it and to take action.

當靈感、信心、勇氣或機遇來臨時，這些人就會傾向於採取行動。

And based on research, those folks tend to be happier, healthier, more successful, more fulfilled in life.

根據研究，這些人往往更快樂、更健康、更成功、生活更充實。

And those of us that have what psychologists call a bias towards thinking, which means in a moment of uncertainty, a moment of opportunity, a moment where you need courage or confidence, instead of leaning toward it, you lean away from it and you start thinking, what should I do?

心理學家稱之為 "思考偏差"，這意味著在不確定的時刻、機會來臨的時刻、你需要勇氣或信心的時刻，你不是傾向於思考，而是遠離思考，開始思考：我該怎麼辦？

And it's that habit of hesitating in moments of change that is keeping you stuck.

而正是這種在變革時刻猶豫不決的習慣讓你陷入困境。

We call it a lot of things, but it's just a habit of pausing.

我們有很多叫法，但這只是一種暫停的習慣。

And then you trip into patterns of I mean, people say information is power.

然後你就會陷入人們所說的 "資訊就是力量 "的模式。

And based upon what you're saying there, and I actually agree with this, information is not everything, is it?

根據你所說的，我其實也同意這一點，資訊並不是萬能的，不是嗎？

Like we can have the information, we can have the knowledge, you know, knowledge is power.

比如，我們可以獲得資訊，我們可以獲得知識，你知道，知識就是力量。

是的，但這不是全部，不是嗎？

You can have the knowledge and not take action.

你可以擁有知識卻不採取行動。

I know a lot of really smart people that are miserable.

我認識很多非常聰明的人，但他們都很悲慘。

I know a ton of people that do nothing but read self-help books or watch videos on YouTube about inspiration and do nothing.

我認識很多人，他們除了閱讀自助書籍或在 YouTube 上觀看關於靈感的視頻外，什麼也不做。

And the reason why is they gather information as a way to feel like you're working on something.

原因是，他們收集資訊是為了讓你覺得自己在做什麼。

And learning is a really important thing to do.

Like understanding, becoming more self-aware, it's critical to you improving your life.

就像理解、提高自我意識一樣，這對你改善生活至關重要。

It's critical to you being happier and more fulfilled.

這對你更快樂、更充實至關重要。

If you don't understand yourself and you don't understand the patterns of thinking, the patterns of behavior that are and replace them.

如果你不瞭解自己，不瞭解自己的思維模式和行為模式，就會被它們所取代。

But you can get yourself comfortable with learning and duping yourself into thinking that somehow being smarter about what you need to do to be healthy will make you healthy.

但是，你可以讓自己適應學習，並欺騙自己，讓自己以為更聰明地瞭解自己需要做什麼才能健康，就能讓自己健康。

Just like reading about launching a business doesn't launch a business.

就像閱讀關於創辦企業的文章並不能創辦企業一樣。

And so, you know, one of the other things that I find to be really interesting, and I think this one of the reasons why people really resonate with a lot of what I have to say.

是以，你知道，我發現還有一件事非常有趣，我認為這也是人們對我所說的很多話產生共鳴的原因之一。

I don't know if it's the dyslexia, the ADHD, what it is, but I can't remember a lot of information in terms of a list.

我不知道是閱讀障礙還是多動症，但我記不住很多資訊。

So if I'm trying to get healthy and you give me 11 things to do, I will do none of them.

所以，如果我想獲得健康，你給我 11 件事讓我做，我一件也不會做。

If you give me one simple thing that I can grab onto, I will likely try it.

如果你給我一個簡單的東西，我可以抓住它，我很可能會嘗試。

And I think a lot of times what happens for folks is, and I know it certainly has happened for me, is that even if the information is empowering, if it feels complicated, I'm not going to do it.

我想很多時候，人們會出現這樣的情況，我知道我也是這樣，即使資訊很有力量，但如果感覺很複雜，我就不會去做。

That's the beauty or one of the beauties, I'd say, of your approach, whether it's in your, you know, you've written multiple books, but the one before this, and including this one, The High Five Habits, you know, the subtitle, I think, says all take control of your life with one simple habit.

我想說的是，這就是你的方法的妙處，或者說妙處之一，不管是在你的書裡，你知道，你寫了多本書，但在這之前的那本書，包括這本《五大習慣》，你知道，副標題，我想，說的是用一個簡單的習慣掌控你的生活。

And as you talk, Mel, I really, I can't tell you how much I connect with what you're saying, because it's a, it's very similar to the approach I've tried to take with patients for over 20 years now is keep it simple.

梅爾，當你說話的時候，我真的無法形容我有多認同你所說的，因為這與我 20 多年來對病人採取的方法非常相似，那就是保持簡單。

You know, what is that one keystone habit that's the door to all those other habits?

你知道，什麼是通往其他所有習慣的關鍵習慣嗎？

Before we get into the new book, I have a new team member.

在介紹新書之前，我的團隊來了一位新成員。

And last night, I said to her, hey, so I've got Mel coming to the studio, she was losing it with excitement.

昨晚，我對她說，嘿，梅爾要來工作室了，她興奮得都快瘋了。

And she said, Mel Robbins changed my life.

她說，梅爾-羅賓斯改變了我的生活。

If it wasn't for Mel, I'd still be in a job that was stressing me out.

如果沒有梅爾，我現在可能還在從事一份讓我倍感壓力的工作。

If it wasn't for Mel, I'd still be on antidepressants.

要不是梅爾，我現在還在服用抗抑鬱藥。

If it wasn't for Mel's 5-4-3-2-1 rule, I wouldn't have pressed send on the application to join your team, Rangan.

如果不是梅爾的 5-4-3-2-1 規則，我也不會按發送鍵申請加入你的團隊，蘭甘。

And that just really hit me at how profound and how life changing your work is, because this is one individual who has shared how it's helped her health, it's helped her, well, it's helped her physical health, her mental well being.

這讓我真正感受到了你的工作是多麼深遠，多麼改變了我的生活，因為這個人分享了你的工作是如何幫助了她的健康，幫助了她的身體健康，幫助了她的精神健康。

And it's helped her to get a job, which as she said to me last night, has pushed her out of the comfort zone that she knew she could do, but probably wouldn't have had the courage to go for.

這也幫助她找到了一份工作，正如她昨晚對我說的，這份工作把她從舒適區推了出來，她知道自己可以做到，但可能沒有勇氣去做。

And there's a couple things that I want to say about that.

關於這一點，我有幾句話想說。

That story does a beautiful job of explaining my mission in the world.

這個故事很好地解釋了我在這個世界上的使命。

And that is to uncover simple tools that anybody can use to help them make changes in their life.

這就是發掘任何人都能使用的簡單工具，幫助他們改變生活。

So the reason why Steph was so excited, and I hear it every day, like one of the coolest things about being on YouTube and being on social media and putting work out and speaking on stages around the world is when you have a super simple idea, it's so sticky that anybody can share it.

斯蒂芬之所以如此興奮，是因為我每天都能聽到這樣的聲音：在YouTube上，在社交媒體上，在世界各地的舞臺上發表作品和演講，最酷的事情之一就是，當你有一個超級簡單的想法時，它的粘性非常強，任何人都可以分享它。

It sounds kind of stupid that count backwards.

You're not going to forget that because it and the idea itself is so simple and so sticky.

你不會忘記這一點，因為它和這個想法本身是如此簡單，如此具有粘性。

Anybody can try it and anybody can share it.

任何人都可以嘗試，任何人都可以分享。

And oftentimes people don't even know my name.

很多時候，人們甚至不知道我的名字。

They're like, oh my gosh, you're the five lady or Robin.

他們會說，我的天哪，你是五女士還是羅賓。

And I love that because for me, it's about the tools.

我喜歡這樣，因為對我來說，工具才是最重要的。

And in Steph's case, what's super interesting about her excitement, because I literally cannot go through a day at this point and have somebody not walk up to me and say, you changed my life.

在斯蒂芬的案例中，她的興奮是超級有趣的，因為在這一點上，我一天都不能讓別人不走過來對我說："你改變了我的生活。

And I always say the exact same thing when somebody tells me that.

每當有人這麼跟我說的時候，我總是會說同樣的話。

我說，非常感謝你告訴我這些。

I appreciate you acknowledging me and following me, but you deserve the credit because you did the work.

我很感謝你對我的認可和追隨，但你應該得到榮譽，因為你做了工作。

I just gave you a tool that I happened to discover that helps you move from thinking to doing.

我只是給了你一個我偶然發現的工具，它能幫助你從思考走向行動。

So she moved herself from thinking about how much she hated her job to 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, stopping the thinking by counting backwards and pushing herself to move.

於是，她把自己從思考自己有多討厭這份工作轉移到 5、4、3、2、1，通過倒數來停止思考，促使自己動起來。

She moved herself from thinking about applying for the dream job of yours and 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, hitting send.

她把自己從申請你夢想中的工作的想法中解放出來，5、4、3、2、1，點擊發送。

She moved herself from thinking about going to the gym to 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, cutting the procrastination loop in half and then replacing it with a push to take action.

她讓自己從想去健身房變成了 5、4、3、2、1，將拖延的循環減半，然後用推動行動來取而代之。

And so what's so elegant and simple and empowering about the five second rule or the high five habit or all the other simplistic stuff that I tend to share with the world, because that's the stuff that works for me, is that these are all tools that cut through the bullshit holding you back.

是以，"五秒鐘法則"、"擊掌習慣 "或所有其他我傾向於與世人分享的簡單方法，之所以如此優雅、簡單和給人力量，是因為這些方法對我很有效。

And it just so happens that your nerdy friend Mel has done all the research to be able to explain to you why science and research and decades of psychological academic work actually is encapsulated by counting backwards 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, or in this particular new brain hack, the high five habit, how simply high-fiving the human being you see in the mirror every single morning as part of your self-encouragement, self-love, like this is powerful stuff.

碰巧的是，你的書呆子朋友梅爾已經做了所有的研究，能夠向你解釋為什麼科學和研究以及數十年的心理學學術工作實際上是通過倒數5、4、3、2、1來概括的，或者在這個特殊的新的大腦黑客中，擊掌習慣，如何簡單地擊掌你每天早上在鏡子中看到的人，作為你自我鼓勵、自愛的一部分，就像這是強大的東西。

If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing.

如果你喜歡這段視頻，請訂閱，因為我不想讓你錯過任何內容。

我們即將推出很多令人驚喜的產品。

Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family.

非常感謝你把這些東西發給你的朋友和家人。

 We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

我們為您製作這些視頻，請務必訂閱。