My love life.

我的愛情生活

Have you felt stuck in life?

你是否感到生活困頓？

And what do you do to overcome that feeling?

你如何克服這種感覺？

Do you ever compare yourself to others on social media?

你是否曾在社交媒體上將自己與他人進行比較？

How many kids would you like to have?

你想要幾個孩子？

When will you get married?

你們什麼時候結婚？

Do you suffer from imposter syndrome and how do you deal with it?

您是否患有 "冒名頂替綜合症"，您是如何應對的？

Hello, this is Taylor.

你好，我是泰勒

If you're new here, I'm a management consultant and a YouTuber, blah, blah, blah.

如果你是新來的，我是一名管理顧問和優酷用戶，諸如此類。

I'm from Los Angeles, California, but now I live in New York City.

我來自加利福尼亞州洛杉磯，但現在住在紐約。

OK, first question.

好吧，第一個問題。

This is a warm up question.

這是一個熱身問題。

Where did you go to college and do you miss it?

你在哪裡上的大學，你懷念那裡嗎？

I went here for college.

我在這裡上大學。

And yes, I miss aspects of college.

是的，我懷念大學生活的方方面面。

I miss being geographically close to so many of my friends and having a built in context to see them every day, aka in the classroom, around campus, at parties, etc.

我懷念在地理位置上與這麼多朋友近在咫尺的日子，懷念每天都能見到他們的情景，比如在教室裡、校園裡、聚會上等等。

But it's not like I want to be back there.

但我並不想回到那裡。

Making my own life where I am now is awesome.

在我現在的地方創造自己的生活是一件很棒的事情。

Financial independence is awesome.

經濟獨立是件了不起的事。

So, of course, while I miss aspects of college, it is a different phase of my life that I look back on very fondly.

是以，當然，雖然我懷念大學生活的方方面面，但這是我人生的另一個階段，我非常喜歡回顧這個階段。

But I am now happily in a new phase.

不過，我現在正愉快地進入一個新階段。

OK, no more warm up questions.

好了，沒有熱身問題了。

How much money do you make?

你能掙多少錢？

To be completely honest, a lot more as of late on account of YouTube growth and some really great sponsorships, which has been a dream come true.

老實說，最近由於 YouTube 的發展和一些非常棒的贊助，我的夢想成真了。

Not necessarily the money being the dream come true, but just seeing growth after literally thousands of hours of editing and learning how to create an engaging video in general over the last two years has been way more rewarding than I could have ever imagined.

不一定是錢讓我夢想成真，而是在過去的兩年裡，我花了上千小時剪輯和學習如何製作一個引人入勝的視頻，看到了自己的成長，這比我想象的更有意義。

And the income that I make from this is just a bonus on top of my full time consulting income.

我從中獲得的收入只是我全職諮詢收入之外的額外收入。

So I am very, very grateful.

是以，我非常非常感激。

I've been tinkering with the thought of making a how much I make video where I actually go through the different income streams and amounts for each one.

我一直在考慮製作一個 "我賺了多少錢 "的視頻，在視頻中我將介紹不同的收入來源和每種收入的金額。

I like those videos.

我喜歡這些視頻。

I know they can rub some people the wrong way, but also who cares?

我知道它們會讓一些人產生誤解，但又有誰會在意呢？

I don't know. Let me know in the comments if you'd want to see that.

我不知道。如果你想看，請在評論裡告訴我。

Another random filming location.

另一個隨機拍攝地點

Since you've got Antarctica kicked off, amazing.

既然你已經把南極洲踢開了，那就太棒了。

Have you been to all seven continents?

你去過七大洲嗎？

Thank you.

謝謝。

And no, actually, I have not been to Africa.

不，事實上，我還沒去過非洲。

Cape Town is a pretty high on my bucket list.

開普敦在我的遺願清單上排在前列。

So once I go there, that will be my seventh continent.

所以，一旦我去了那裡，那將是我的第七個大洲。

Do you get nightmares?

你會做噩夢嗎？

Funny you should ask.

你問得真有意思。

I had a grueling nightmare last night.

昨晚我做了一個可怕的噩夢。

I woke up in cold sweats and jumped up in bed only to realize that my nightmare was actually a reality.

我嚇得一身冷汗，從床上跳起來，才意識到我的噩夢竟是現實。

And that reality is that 72.2% of you guys are not subscribed.

而現實情況是，你們當中有 72.2% 的人沒有訂閱。

OK, worst joke ever. I know.

好吧，史上最爛的笑話。我知道

But in my defense, most YouTubers who make that joke are like 10% of you guys are not subscribed.

但我要辯解的是，大多數開這種玩笑的 YouTuber 都有 10% 的人沒有訂閱。

And for me, it's 72.2%. OK, I'm begging you for your pity.

而對我來說，是 72.2%。好吧，我乞求你們的同情。

No, I'm not. But I am begging you to subscribe.

不，我沒有。但我求你訂閱。

Hit the like button while you're at it, too. I'd appreciate it.

順便點個贊吧。我將不勝感激。

What's the first country that comes to mind when you think of working abroad?

說到出國工作，您首先想到的是哪個國家？

I'll give you a hint.

我給你個提示

This is the fierce snake.

這就是凶猛的蛇。

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Come here, mate.

哇，哇，哇，哇過來，夥計

The most venomous snake in the world.

世界上最毒的蛇

Tips for actually doing content creation.

實際創作內容的技巧。

But keeping it professional.

但要保持專業性。

Still, no TikTok dancing.

還是沒有 TikTok 舞蹈。

I can talk a lot about YouTube tips in general.

關於 YouTube 的一般技巧，我可以談很多。

That's the problem with these Q and A's is they give me so many different spinoff video ideas.

這些問答的問題就在於，它們給了我太多不同的衍生視頻創意。

And I'm just like, I'll save that for another video.

我就想，還是留到下一個視頻吧。

But then I never actually do the other video.

但實際上，我從來沒有拍過其他視頻。

Anyway, back to your question.

言歸正傳，回到你的問題上來。

Ideally, you find the overlap between the videos that people want to see and the videos that you like to make.

理想情況下，你要找到人們想看的視頻和你喜歡製作的視頻之間的重合點。

That's my Venn diagram.

這就是我的維恩圖。

Here's an example.

這裡有一個例子。

You might want to make a My California Road Trip video.

你也許想製作一段 "我的加州公路之旅 "視頻。

But if you're first starting out, very few people will be compelled to actually click on that video because they have not established a connection with your personality or your filming style yet.

但是，如果你剛起步，很少有人會被迫點擊視頻，因為他們還沒有與你的個性或拍攝風格建立聯繫。

Versus if you make that video, but frame it in a slightly different way where you can title it the 10 best things to do on a California road trip.

相比之下，如果你製作了這樣的視頻，但框架略有不同，你可以把它命名為加州公路旅行的 10 件最值得做的事。

Then it's actually a searchable video and clearly promises to deliver some value to the viewer.

然後，它實際上是一個可搜索的視頻，並明確承諾為觀眾提供一些價值。

That advice is more so for people who are just starting out.

這些建議更多的是針對剛剛起步的人。

If you have a following and a lot of people who just watch you for your personality or for your editing style or what have you, then you can make that My California Road Trip video and people will still watch it, which is very liberating as a creator.

如果你有粉絲，有很多人只是因為你的個性、你的剪輯風格或其他原因而觀看你的視頻，那麼你就可以製作《我的加州公路之旅》視頻，人們仍然會觀看，這對創作者來說是一種極大的解放。

Nonetheless, whether you're a beginner or you have a following,

無論如何，無論你是初學者還是有追隨者、

I still think it's important to try to deliver some value a decent amount of the time.

我仍然認為，在適當的時候提供一些價值是很重要的。

I try to find a balance of entertainment and delivering some value in most of my videos, like my New York City apartment tour, for example, that is pure, mindless entertainment that caters to a wide audience.

在我的大多數視頻中，我都試圖在娛樂和提供一些價值之間找到平衡，比如我的紐約公寓之旅，就是一個純粹的、不費吹灰之力的娛樂，迎合了廣大觀眾的口味。

So I tried to make it lighthearted and funny.

所以我試著讓它變得輕鬆有趣。

But I also took a minute to discuss the legality of flex walls in New York City and talk about how much it would cost to actually install one depending on what type of flex wall it is.

不過，我也花了一點時間來討論柔性牆在紐約市的合法性，並根據不同類型的柔性牆來討論實際安裝的費用。

I'm not saying I'm a Wharton professor out here teaching some serious concepts, but I know that I at least appreciate when I walk away from a video feeling like I learned something new.

我並不是說我是沃頓商學院的教授，在這裡教授一些嚴肅的概念，但我知道，當我從視頻中走出來，感覺學到了一些新東西時，我至少會很感激。

So I do try to incorporate that in most of my videos.

是以，我在大部分視頻中都會嘗試融入這一點。

Also, these tips are based on the assumption that you want to grow on YouTube.

此外，這些技巧是基於您想在 YouTube 上發展的假設。

If you just like making videos and you want to make that My California Road Trip just for fun and you don't care about a lot of people seeing it, then obviously there's nothing wrong with that.

如果你只是喜歡製作視頻，只是為了好玩而想製作《我的加州公路之旅》，並不在意是否有很多人看到，那麼這顯然沒什麼不對。

The tips I'm giving are more so for channel growth.

我給出的建議更多是針對管道增長的。

Ever been to Croatia?

去過克羅地亞嗎？

Yes, I have. And it is gorgeous.

是的，我有。它非常漂亮。

I'm also about 25% ethnically Croatian from my dad's side.

我父親那邊還有大約 25% 的克羅地亞血統。

Fun fact. I need some water.

有趣的事實我需要一些水。

Water!

水

Are you happy in general with where you are personally and or professionally?

你對自己的個人和職業發展總體上滿意嗎？

In general? Absolutely.

一般來說？當然。

I actually have some very exciting life updates I'll be sharing soon related to my personal and professional satisfaction.

實際上，我很快就會分享一些與我的個人和職業滿足感有關的令人興奮的生活更新。

But high level? Yes.

但是高水平？是的。

Moving to New York City, for example, which is the biggest life change I've ever made besides going to college on the East Coast, I guess.

比如說，搬到紐約，我想這是除了去東海岸上大學之外，我人生中做出的最大改變。

It's made me a lot more independent because even though I have a lot of friends here, my four closest loved ones, six if you count these rascals, do not live here.

這讓我變得更加獨立，因為儘管我在這裡有很多朋友，但我的四位至親（如果算上這些無賴，則是六位）並不住在這裡。

And this is the first time I've been away from all four of them at the same time.

這是我第一次同時離開他們四個。

I don't know why that sounds so mysterious.

我不知道為什麼這聽起來那麼神祕。

But anyway, even though I generally am very happy with where I am personally and professionally,

但不管怎麼說，儘管我對自己的個人和職業發展總體上都很滿意、

I still always feel like there is something that I can improve on.

我仍然總覺得自己還有可以改進的地方。

And this seamless transition brings me to today's sponsor, BetterHelp.

這種無縫銜接讓我想到了今天的贊助商 BetterHelp。

Let's talk about mental health and therapy for a sec.

讓我們先談談心理健康和治療。

One of the ways that I really came around to thinking about therapy is through analogies.

我真正開始思考治療的方法之一是通過類比。

We get our cars serviced to prevent bigger problems down the road.

我們對汽車進行保養是為了防止以後出現更大的問題。

We work out and see doctors to prevent illness and injury in our bodies.

我們鍛鍊身體、看醫生是為了預防身體生病和受傷。

We go to the dentist to prevent cavities.

我們看牙醫是為了預防蛀牙。

And therapy is the same thing.

治療也是同樣的道理。

It is routine maintenance for your mental and emotional health.

這是對你的心理和情感健康的日常維護。

It does not mean that anything is wrong with you.

這並不意味著你有什麼問題。

It means that you are investing in yourself to keep your mind healthy.

這意味著你在為自己投資，以保持心理健康。

BetterHelp is customized online therapy that offers video, phone and even live chat sessions with your therapist.

BetterHelp 是一種定製的在線治療方法，可提供與治療師的視頻、電話甚至實時哈拉會話。

So you don't have to see anyone on camera if you don't want to.

所以，如果你不願意，就不必在鏡頭前看到任何人。

You just fill out a questionnaire to help assess your specific needs and then you get matched with a therapist in under 48 hours.

您只需填寫一份問卷，幫助評估您的具體需求，然後在 48 小時內為您匹配一名治療師。

Then you schedule secure video and phone sessions.

然後安排安全的視頻和電話會議。

Plus, you can exchange unlimited messages and everything you share is completely confidential.

此外，您還可以無限制地交換資訊，而且您共享的所有資訊都是完全保密的。

Something I discussed in my latest BetterHelp session with my therapist, Gretchen, was to take a moment to appreciate the everyday small things in life that can go unnoticed when I am laser focused on work for days at a time.

在最近一次與治療師格雷琴（Gretchen）的 BetterHelp 課程中，我討論了一件事，那就是花點時間欣賞生活中的日常小事，當我一連幾天都專注於工作時，這些小事可能會被忽視。

You can also request a new therapist at no additional charge anytime.

您還可以隨時免費要求更換治療師。

So many people use BetterHelp that they are currently recruiting additional therapists in all 50 states.

使用 BetterHelp 的人如此之多，以至於他們目前正在美國 50 個州招募更多的治療師。

So join the over two million people who have taken charge of their mental health through BetterHelp.

是以，請加入通過 BetterHelp 掌握自己心理健康的 200 多萬人的行列。

Get 10% off of your first month at betterhelp.com slash Taylor Bell.

使用 betterhelp.com slash Taylor Bell，第一個月可享受 10% 折扣。

And thank you, BetterHelp, for sponsoring this video.

感謝 BetterHelp 贊助本視頻。

OK, I got quite a few on whether or not I suffer from imposter syndrome and if so, how I deal with it.

好吧，我收到了不少關於我是否患有冒名頂替綜合症的問題，如果是，我是如何應對的。

Sometimes, yes, but a lot less than I used to.

有時是的，但比以前少多了。

I think I felt imposter syndrome the most in school, not in high school, but in college.

我覺得我在學校感受最深的是 "冒名頂替綜合症"，不是在高中，而是在大學。

Going to an Ivy League university,

上常春藤聯盟大學

I was surrounded by very smart, high functioning people 24-7.

我的周圍全天候都是非常聰明、功能強大的人。

And while I have strengths of my own and I was there for a reason, it would be very easy, for instance, to notice in class if the person sitting next to me understood a concept faster than I did or if a friend of mine seemingly had to study less than I did to do well.

雖然我有自己的長處，我在那裡也是有原因的，但在課堂上，如果坐在我旁邊的人比我更快地理解了一個概念，或者我的一個朋友似乎比我學習得更少，就很容易注意到。

So stuff like that.

諸如此類的東西。

It was never debilitating, but when you're surrounded by just brilliant people all the time, it can be easy to feel kind of stupid.

這並沒有讓人崩潰，但當你身邊總是圍繞著才華橫溢的人時，你很容易會覺得自己有點愚蠢。

Yet I wouldn't have it any other way.

然而，我不會有其他選擇。

I really like to be surrounded by people who bring me up.

我非常喜歡被那些能讓我振作起來的人包圍。

And so the trade off is worth it, in my opinion.

是以，在我看來，這種交換是值得的。

But I mentioned that I don't feel that as often anymore.

但我說過，我不再經常有這種感覺了。

Realistically, a lot of that is probably because I'm no longer in a context where that comparison to the person next to me is so visible, like in a college classroom.

實事求是地講，這很大程度上可能是因為我不再像在大學課堂上那樣，在與旁邊的人進行比較時那麼顯而易見。

And then with consulting,

然後是諮詢、

I'm not usually working alongside someone at my level that I can easily compare myself to.

我通常不會和與我同級別的人一起工作，我很難與他們進行比較。

You know, I'm usually working directly with a manager.

你知道，我通常直接與經理合作。

And finally, something else I would say, one good thing that comes with age is that you generally become more confident in who you are, at least I certainly have.

最後，我還想說的是，隨著年齡的增長，有一件好事就是，你通常會對自己的身份更加自信，至少我是這樣。

So that makes a big difference as well, in terms of not feeling imposter syndrome as much.

是以，這也帶來了很大的不同，讓我不再覺得自己有冒名頂替綜合症。

Ideal place to settle down? California.

理想的定居地？加利福尼亞州

I am not married to L.A., but somewhere on the California coastline between San Diego and San Francisco would be lovely.

我沒有嫁給洛杉磯，但聖地亞哥和舊金山之間加州海岸線上的某個地方會很不錯。

And for retirement, way down the line,

還有退休後的生活、

I hope to have property in a number of spots and just kind of hop around between them.

我希望能在多個地方擁有房產，在它們之間跳來跳去。

But for home base, Carmel, California.

但大本營還是在加利福尼亞州的卡梅爾。

I could retire there.

我可以在那裡退休。

Have you felt stuck in life?

你是否感到生活困頓？

And if so, how do you overcome that?

如果是這樣，如何克服？

One hundred percent.

百分之百。

And I go through this pretty frequently, where even though I am generally very happy with where I am in my career and personally, like I said,

我經常會遇到這種情況，儘管我對自己的事業和個人發展總體上非常滿意，但就像我說的那樣、

I still go through these moments where I ask myself, like, what am I even doing?

我仍然會問自己，我到底在做什麼？

Like right now, even what am I doing?

比如現在，我在做什麼？

It's an uncomfortable feeling that I think everyone in their 20s faces where you just feel kind of directionless.

我想每個 20 多歲的人都會面臨這種不舒服的感覺，你會覺得沒有方向。

I haven't found one surefire thing that just fixes this problem for me.

我還沒有找到一種萬無一失的方法來解決這個問題。

But one thing I like to do is set aside a day, usually a Sunday and usually by myself, where I pack up my backpack with whatever book I'm reading, my headphones and my laptop.

但有一件事我喜歡做，那就是留出一天時間，通常是星期天，通常是我一個人，在這一天裡，我會收拾好我的揹包，裝上我正在讀的書、我的耳機和我的筆記本電腦。

I go to a coffee shop that I know I like.

我去一家我知道自己喜歡的咖啡店。

I get a coffee and a baked good.

我買了一杯咖啡和一份烘焙食品。

I sit down.

我坐下來。

I open my laptop to try to get some creative juices flowing, whether that's starting a script to a new video or at least writing down some ideas.

我打開筆記本電腦，試圖激發一些創作靈感，無論是開始編寫新視頻的腳本，還是至少寫下一些想法。

If the creative juices just aren't flowing, I don't get mad at myself because there's no use in trying to force it.

如果創作靈感無法湧現，我也不會生氣，因為強求是沒有用的。

And so then I'll just read my book.

然後我就讀我的書。

And if the weather is nice, I will do this 100 percent of the time outside, either along the Hudson River or somewhere like right here on the grass.

如果天氣好的話，我百分之百會在戶外活動，要麼沿著哈德遜河，要麼就在草地上。

My point here is I like to take a reset day for myself, doing things that I know make me feel happy and make me feel relaxed.

我想說的是，我喜歡給自己放一天假，做一些我知道能讓我感到快樂和放鬆的事情。

And that usually puts my mind at peace.

這通常會讓我心平氣和。

If you feel stuck to the point where you think you need a serious career shift, that's a little bit different and a different discussion.

如果你覺得自己陷入了困境，需要認真地進行職業轉變，那就有點不同了，需要進行不同的討論。

I'm more so talking about that sort of uncomfortable, anxious, directionless feeling that can pop up fairly often, especially for people in their 20s.

我說的更多的是那種不舒服、焦慮、沒有方向的感覺，這種感覺會經常出現，尤其是對於 20 多歲的人來說。

How much money do you think is enough to be financially independent?

您認為多少錢才足夠實現經濟獨立？

Question mark. Top zero point one percent.

問號。前 0.1%。

For context, I think that the top zero point one percent annual income in the US is like two to four million dollars or something like that.

我認為，在美國，年收入最高的 0.1%的人的年收入大概是 200 萬到 400 萬美元左右。

So no, totally depends where you live.

所以，這完全取決於你住在哪裡。

If you are somewhere like this, where the cost of living is very high, if you support a family.

如果你在這樣的地方，生活成本很高，如果你養家餬口。

But to give you something that might be helpful, you can take the 50 30 20 budgeting rule of thumb, which says you can put 50 percent of your after tax dollars towards needs, 30 percent towards wants, and then put 20 percent towards savings slash investments.

不過，有一點可能會對你有所幫助，你可以採用 50 30 20 的預算經驗法則，即你可以將稅後收入的 50% 用於滿足需求，30% 用於滿足願望，然後將 20% 用於儲蓄和投資。

I personally think that the 30 percent towards once is a little too high, but it will, of course, differ depending on your situation.

我個人認為，一次 30% 的比例有點過高，當然，這也要根據您的情況而定。

And that's just sort of a budgeting rule of thumb that you can use to evaluate your financial independence and what that might look like for you, depending on your income and circumstances.

這只是一個預算編制的經驗法則，你可以根據自己的收入和情況，用它來評估你的財務獨立以及財務獨立對你來說可能是什麼樣的。

Do you ever compare yourself to others on social media?

你是否曾在社交媒體上將自己與他人進行比較？

Not a ton, to be honest, but I think it's inevitable, too.

說實話，不是很多，但我認為這也是不可避免的。

At least a little bit subconsciously.

至少在潛意識裡是這樣。

I probably do it with people that I went to college more so than influencers.

比起有影響力的人，我可能更喜歡和我上過大學的人打交道。

But one good thing about social media is that you can also curate it.

但社交媒體的一個好處是，你也可以對其進行策劃。

So you see what you want to see.

所以，你看到的都是你想看到的。

If there's one person whose photos always seem to make you feel like you're not doing enough with your life or you're not traveling enough or whatever it might be, just unfollow them.