Most from experience.

大部分都是經驗之談。

Some of them I heard in passing.

其中有些是我順便聽到的。

Many of them I'm still practicing, but all of them I do believe are true.

其中很多我還在實踐，但我相信它們都是真的。

Life is not easy.

生活並不容易。

It is not.

事實並非如此。

Don't try to make it that way.

不要試圖讓它變成那樣。

Life's not fair.

生活是不公平的。

It never was.

從來沒有過。

It isn't now and it won't ever be.

現在不是，以後也不會是。

Do not fall into the trap, the entitlement trap, of feeling like you're a victim.

不要掉進陷阱，不要掉進權利陷阱，不要覺得自己是受害者。

You are not.

你不是。

Get over it and get on with it.

忘掉它，繼續前進。

So the question that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us, what success is to you.

是以，我們要問自己的問題是，成功對我們來說是什麼，成功對你們來說又是什麼。

Is it more money?

是錢多嗎？

That's fine.

沒關係。

I've got nothing against money.

我不反對金錢。

Maybe it's a healthy family.

也許這是一個健康的家庭。

Maybe it's a happy marriage.

也許這是一段幸福的婚姻。

Maybe it's to help others.

也許是為了幫助他人。

To be famous.

出名

To be spiritually sound.

精神健全。

To leave the world a little bit better place than you found it.

讓世界變得比你發現它時更好一點。

Continue to ask yourself that question.

繼續問自己這個問題。

Your answer may change over time and that's fine, but do yourself this favor.

你的答案可能會隨著時間的推移而改變，這沒有關係，但請幫你自己一個忙。

Whatever your answer is, don't choose anything that will jeopardize yourself.

無論你的答案是什麼，都不要選擇任何會危及自己的事情。

Prioritize who you are, who you want to be, and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character.

優先考慮你是誰，你想成為誰，不要把時間花在任何與你的性格相悖的事情上。

Be brave.

勇敢一點

Take the hill.

上山

But first answer that question, what's my hill?

但首先要回答這個問題，我的山丘是什麼？

So first, we have to define success for ourselves and then we have to put in the work to maintain it.

是以，首先，我們必須為自己定義成功，然後我們必須付出努力來保持成功。

Take that daily tally.

每天做一次統計。

Tend our guard.

照顧好我們的後衛。

Keep the things that are important to us in good shape.

讓對我們重要的東西保持良好狀態。

Where you are not is as important as where you are.

你不在的地方和你在的地方一樣重要。

It is just as important where we are not as it is where we are.

我們不在的地方和我們在的地方一樣重要。

Look, the first step that leads to our identity in life is usually not, I know who I am.

聽著，通往我們人生身份的第一步通常不是 "我知道我是誰"。

I know who I am.

我知道我是誰。

That's not the first step.

這不是第一步。

The first step is usually, I know who I am not.

第一步通常是，我知道我不是誰。

Process of elimination.

排除法

Defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are.

用 "我們不是什麼 "來定義自己，是我們真正認識自己的第一步。

You know that group of friends that you hang out with that really might not bring out the You know, they gossip too much or they're kind of shady.

你知道，和你一起出去玩的那群朋友，可能真的不會給你帶來什麼，他們太八卦了，或者他們有點陰暗。

They really aren't going to be there for you in a pinch.

他們真的不會在緊要關頭為你提供幫助。

Or how about that bar that we keep going to that we always seem to have the worst hangover from.

或者是我們經常去的那家酒吧，我們似乎總是宿醉最嚴重。

Or that computer screen, right, that computer screen that keeps giving us an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human interaction.

或者是電腦屏幕，沒錯，電腦屏幕一直在給我們藉口，讓我們無法走出家門，與世界接觸，獲得一些真正的人際交往。

Or how about that food that we keep eating, stuff that tastes so good going down, makes us feel like crap the next week, we feel lethargic, we keep putting on weight.

或者說，我們不斷吃的食物，吃下去味道很好的東西，下週卻讓我們感覺糟透了，昏昏欲睡，體重不斷增加。

Well those people, those places, those things, stop giving them your time and energy.

那麼，那些人、那些地方、那些事，就不要再給他們時間和精力了。

Just don't go there.

別去就是了。

I mean, put them down.

我是說，把它們放下。

And when you do this, when you do put them down, you quit going there, you quit giving them your time, you inadvertently find yourself spending more time and in more places that are healthy for you, that bring you more joy.

當你這樣做的時候，當你放下它們的時候，你就不會再去那裡，你就不會再給它們時間，你就會在不經意間發現自己花了更多的時間，去了更多對你健康有益的地方，給你帶來了更多的快樂。

Why?

為什麼？

Because you just eliminated the who's, the where's, the what's, and the when's that were keeping you from your identity.

因為你剛剛消除了那些讓你無法確定身份的 "誰"、"哪裡"、"什麼 "和 "何時"。

Like trust me, too many options, I promise you, too many options will make a tyrant of us all.

相信我，選擇太多，我向你保證，選擇太多會讓我們都變成暴君。

All right, so get rid of the excess, the wasted time.

好吧，那就去掉多餘的，浪費的時間。

Decrease your options.

減少你的選擇。

If you do this, you will have accidentally, almost innocently, put in front of you what is important to you by process of elimination.

如果你這樣做了，你就會無意中，幾乎是天真的，通過排除法把對你來說最重要的東西擺在你面前。

Knowing who we are is hard.

知道我們是誰很難。

It's hard.

這很難。

So give yourself a break.

所以，讓自己休息一下吧。

Eliminate who you are not first and you're gonna find yourself where you need to be.

首先消除你不是誰，你就會發現自己在你需要的地方。

Instead of creating outcomes that take from us, let's create more outcomes that pay us back, fill us up, keep your fire lit, turn you on for the most amount of time in your future.

讓我們創造更多的成果，回報我們、充實我們、點燃你的激情、讓你在未來最長的時間裡煥發活力，而不是創造剝奪我們成果的成果。

We try our best, we don't always do our best.

我們盡力了，但並不總是做到最好。

Architecture is a verb as well and since we are the architects of our own lives, let's study the habits, the practices, the routines that we have that lead to and feed our success, our joy, our honest pain, our laughter, our earned tears.

建築也是一個動詞，既然我們是自己生活的建築師，那就讓我們來研究一下我們的習慣、做法和常規，這些習慣、做法和常規導致並滋養了我們的成功、我們的快樂、我們真誠的痛苦、我們的歡笑、我們賺來的眼淚。

Let's dissect that and give thanks for those things and when we do that, guess what happens?

讓我們剖析一下，為這些事情感恩，當我們這樣做的時候，你猜會發生什麼？

We get better at them and we have more to dissect.

我們會變得更好，也有更多的東西可以剖析。

Be discerning.

擦亮眼睛。

Choose it because you want it.

選擇它是因為你想要它。

Do it because you want to.

這樣做是因為你想這樣做。

We're gonna make mistakes.

我們會犯錯誤。

You gotta own them and you gotta make amends and then you gotta move on.

你必須承擔責任，做出補償，然後繼續前進。

Guilt and regret kills many a man before they're done.

內疚和悔恨會讓很多人前功盡棄。

So turn the page, get off the ride.

翻過這一頁，下車吧。

You are the author of the book of your life.

你是你生命之書的作者。