Instead of saying, look at what happened to me, look at what they did to me, use a technique called cognitive shifting and consciously redirect your attention to, okay, this is what's happening in my life, this is where I want to be, and this is what I'm going to do about it.
不要說 "看看發生在我身上的事,看看他們對我做了什麼",而是使用一種叫做 "認知轉移 "的技巧,有意識地將你的注意力轉移到 "好吧,這就是我生活中發生的事,這就是我想要的,這就是我要做的"。