Oh, let's get very personal.

這話題會變得很私人。

I really, really f*n regret that.

我非常後悔這件事。

I did that?

我居然那樣做？

You can't just lie in bed and eat cookies.

你不能安逸的躺在床上吃著餅乾。

Getting old is not for the faint of heart.

變老不適合膽小的人。

They look at you like you're worthless.

他們看你的眼神好像你一文不值。

Have you ever wondered what the regrets of some of the oldest yet wisest people in the world are?

你有沒有想過，世界上一些最年長但最聰明的人的遺憾是什麼？

Or maybe some pieces of life advice that they would give to someone of your age?

或是他們會給你這個年齡的人一些什麼樣的人生建議？

In this video, I'm gonna be interviewing retired seniors in their 60s, 70s and 80s about their best pieces of life advice and their deepest regrets.

在這個影片中，我會採訪 60 多歲、70 多歲和 80 多歲的退休老人，了解他們的人生建議和最深切的遺憾。

How old are you?

你多大了？

I'm 70.

我 70 歲了。

What does it feel like to be 70?

70 歲的感覺是什麼？

It feels one year older than 69.

感覺比 69 歲大一歲。

And what does 69 feel like?

69 歲的感覺是什麼？

One year older than 68.

感覺比 68 歲大一歲。

Here's what it feels like: you look the same looking out, what people see you entirely differently.

變老的感覺是這樣：你看起來是一樣的，但人們對你的看法卻完全不同。

And in today's world, they look at you like you're worthless.

在當今世界，人們視你為一文不值。

You feel like you played tackle football the day before.

感覺自己前一天還在擒抱對手。

You just can't remember why you feel so sore.

你不記得為什麼會感到如此疼痛。

And you're up and you're doing things and you're just really sore.

你起床正在做事情的時候，真的很痛。

And then you go into the bathroom and you go like this,

然後你走進浴室，嚇了一大跳，

because all of a sudden there's this old face in front of you and you go, "holy shit. I'm old. I forgot."

因為突然之間，一張蒼老的臉出現在你面前，你會心想：「天哪。我老了。我忘了。」

I played hockey until a couple of years. I quit at 84.

我打了好幾年的曲棍球直到我 84 歲。

I take no medication. I don't remember when I've had a headache. Feel good.

我不吃藥。 我不記得我什麼時候頭疼過。 感覺不錯。

How old are you? - 73.

你幾歲？- 73 歲。

Can you describe to me what it feels like to be 73?

你能否形容一下身為 73 歲的感覺呢？

Wonderful. Depends (on) what life you had before. - It sucks.

很好。這取決於你人生是怎麼過的？- 很糟。

How was your life?

你的生活是怎樣的？

It was absolutely great.

絕對是很棒的。

I was born in France came to Canada when I was very young.

我出生在法國，在我很小的時候就來到了加拿大。

What is a big mistake that you've made or a big regret that you have that you learned a valuable lesson from?

你曾經犯過很大的錯誤或你從很大的遺憾中吸取的寶貴教訓的是什麼？

I got married when I was very young.

我在很年輕的時候就結婚了。

Like, I don't know how old you are, but I have grandchildren that are in their thirties, so I would probably have lived life a little bit more than getting married then.

我不知道你多大了，但我現在有三十多歲的孫子了，所以我希望當初應該多享受一點生活再結婚。

How old were you when you got married? - 18.

你結婚的時候多大？- 18 歲。

What age would you get married at, let's say today?

如果是現在的話，你會在幾歲結婚？

Probably in my thirties.

可能是三十多歲的時候。

I think like I'm 23 but physically, I don't feel like I'm 23.

我覺得我心靈上是 23 歲，但身體上，我不覺得我是 23 歲。

And then the world looks at you differently and they respond differently.

然後世界以不同的眼光看待你，他們的反應也不同。

Can you elaborate on that?

你能詳細說明一下嗎？

Well, I think as a woman, you feel a little invisible as you get older.

我認為作為一個女人，隨著年齡的增長，你會越來越被忽視。

When you're younger, you get a lot of attention. A lot of people look at you and talk to you.

當年輕的時候，會得到很多關注。很多人看你，和你說話。

I don't think we value older people. I think we think they're kind of like, out of date.

我覺得我們不重視老年人。 我覺得大家都認為老人家很過時。

I'm tired, man. It's like gravity has been holding on to me for a long f*cking time.

我很累。就好像地心引力已經拖著我很長時間了。

I'm like so many people who suddenly look up and go, "What? 73? When did that happen?"

我和很多人一樣，突然意識到「什麼？我 73 歲了？什麼時候發生的？」

I'm not ready for Medicare yet, but I'll take it.

我還沒有準備好使用醫療保險，但我會接受的。

When you look at the 20 somethings of today, what is one thing you don't like about them?

對於現在的 20 多歲年輕人，你不喜歡他們什麼地方？

The social media stuff, all the selfies and the kind of marketing oneself as a product.

社交媒體的東西，自拍和那種把自己當作產品來推銷的做法。

You can't sit in an airport or even in a park and talk to anybody because everybody is like this. Put it away, turn it off.

你沒辦法在機場甚至公園和任何人交談，因為每個人都在滑手機。把手機收起來，關掉。

I feel like there's a whole language of images that I just don't have the training to get because it didn't happen with me from birth, which kind of makes me feel left out a little.

我覺得現在社會有全新的圖像語言是我沒有學習過的，因為它不是我出生時發明的，這讓我覺得有點被社會排除在外。

What does it feel like to be 75?

75 歲的感覺是什麼？

Wonderful.

很好。

I just signed a seven-year employment contract.

剛剛簽了一份為期七年的聘僱合約。

And what does it feel like to be 69?

那麼 69 歲的感覺是什麼呢？

Like, I just have learned enough to get started.

我剛學了足夠的知識來開始人生。

A little bit of walking problems had not in tune with the body.

有一點些走路的問題，跟身體不協調了。

Every now and again, I'm reminded that I'm not 40 anymore, I'm 59 and I'm 60 next year and that's surprising.

時不時地，我被提醒我不再是 40 歲了，我已經 59 歲了，明年我就 60 歲了，這很令人震驚。

If you could give one piece of advice to someone younger than you, what would you say?

如果你可以給比你年輕的人一個建議，你會說什麼？

Don't worry so much about things. I worried about everything when I was young. After a while you just think, "what's the point?" Just do it.

不要擔心那麼多事情，我在年輕的時候什麼都擔心，過了一段時間，你就會想「這有什麼意義呢？」做就對了。

Because we were mental health nurses, I can say not being happy is not the same as being ill, but I think there's a big emphasis on mental health.

因為我們是心理健康的護士，所以我可以肯定地說，不快樂和生病是不一樣的，但我認為人們非常重視心理健康。

It encourages people to think that if they're not happy all the time, there's something wrong as opposed to it's just normal life.

它鼓勵人們認為，如果他們一直不開心，那就是有問題，而不是正常的生活。

Sometimes you're happy about things, sometimes you're not happy about things.

有時你對事情感到高興，有時你對事情不高興。

What is the biggest mistake or biggest regret that you have in your life?

你一生中犯過最大的錯誤或最大的遺憾是什麼？

Well, I could have traveled more.

我本可以多去外面走走。

I mean, I've traveled a lot, but I really enjoy that.

我的意思是，我已經去很多地方旅行過了，但我很享受旅行這件事。

I'm sorry I let one of the languages I knew when I was younger go.

我很抱歉我忘掉了我年輕時學習的一種語言。

I also really, really f*n and regret that I didn't take advantage of public schools here.

我也非常後悔我沒有進到這裡的公立學校就讀。

I could have learned to play a musical instrument.

我本可以學習演奏樂器。

For whatever reason I didn't do... I think it was because I didn't think my parents had enough money to buy me an instrument.

不管出於什麼原因我沒有去學習……我想是因為我認為我父母沒有錢買樂器給我。

I didn't do it and now I regret it desperately.

我當時沒有學習，而現在我極度後悔。

You know, I really wish I had learned to play music because it's very, very important to me.

我真的希望我學會演奏音樂，因為音樂對我來說非常非常重要。

I feel like it's in me, but I don't know how to express it.

我覺得它就在我心裡，但我不知道該如何表達。

How old are you?

你多大了？

- 83. - 84.

- 83 歲。 - 84 歲。

What does it feel like to be... - Wait a second, you're 85!

83 歲是什麼感覺？- 等等，你是 85 歲！

Ohh, yesterday I was 84.

喔對，昨天我 84 歲。

What does it feel like to be 83 and 85? - Old.

83 歲跟 85 歲的感覺是什麼？- 很老。

Getting old is not for the faint of heart.

變老並不適合膽小的人。

Thank God my health is fine.

感謝上帝，我的健康狀況很好。

Me, I have a long medical history.

我有很長的醫療病史。

I'm a swimmer. I could swim 1000 yards.

我是游泳運動員。我可以游 1000 碼。

Can you swim 1000 yards?

你能游 1000 碼嗎？

When did you start saying that you felt old?

你什麼時候開始說自己感覺很老的？

When my son says that I should sell the house and move into an assisted living, things like that. You feel old.

當我的兒子說我應該賣掉房子，搬到輔助生活社區那些的，你就感到自己老了。

How do you feel about that?

你對此有什麼感受嗎？

What can I do?

我能怎麼辦？

I mean, I'm upright.

我很誠實。

It's pretty good. I don't want to go through my life again.

很好。我不想再經歷我的人生一次了。

But we do look at all you young people and we envy you because we think you have so many choices.

但確實，我們看著你們這些年輕人會羨慕你們，因為我們認為你們有很多選擇。

Physically, I feel fine. Mentally, I feel fine. A little more tired, but I regret some of the mistakes I made.

身體上，我很好；精神上，我也感覺很好，是有一點點累，不過我對自己犯的一些錯誤感到後悔。

I'm a nurse. I help people die who are much younger than me.

我是一名護士，我幫助那些比我年輕很多的人死去。

I'm still standing. Life is sweet.

我仍然活著，人生是美好的。

We are slowly losing our memory and I realize that and this worries me.

我們正在慢慢失去記憶，而我意識到了這一點，這讓我很擔心。

Physically, I feel younger, but mentally, I feel older.

身體上，我覺得比較年輕，但精神上，我覺得自己老了。

What is something that when we were younger, we tend to prioritize, but as we get older, we realize isn't that important?

什麼事情是我們年輕的時候往往會優先考慮的，但隨著我們年齡的增長，我們會意識到這並不重要？

Time. It just seems to me young people are always in such a hurry, such a hurry.

時間。感覺年輕人總是如此匆忙。

I understand it. The world is out there to be taken, you know?

我懂。這個世界有很多可以爭取的，

So if I go here, I go there, I go here, I go there.

所以會來來去去。

But I think just calm down and proceed sensibly.

但我認為年輕人要冷靜下來，理智地往前走。

What people think of you.

別人對自己的看法。

How does that change over time?

這個是如何隨著時間改變的？

I really don't care anymore.

我現在真的不再在乎了。

And I used to care not a lot, but, you know, you did want to fit in.

我以前關心的雖然不是很多，但確實會想融入團體裡。

I used to have a hierarchy in my mind.

我曾經在心中有一個等級制度。

There were like the cool people and the popular people, and then there was the nerdy people like me, and now I realize there's no hierarchy.

分成很酷的人還有受歡迎的人，然後是像我這樣的書呆子，現在我意識到根本沒有等級這種東西。

So what matters then?

那納現在什麼重要？

You know, at the end of the day, it's community. The ability to connect to people and do something that's meaningful to you that maybe is pretty for the world, but maybe not.

到頭來，重要的還是社群。與人建立聯繫並做對自己有意義的事情的能力，這些事情可能對世界來說很美好，但也許不是。

Stuff. The older you get, the more you go.... Yes. - Material stuff?

東西。 年紀越大，走得越遠……是的。 - 物質的東西？

You're going: Why do I have all this stuff.

你會想「我為什麼有這些東西？」

Competitiveness. You really don't have to beat everybody at all costs.

競爭。 你真的不需要不惜一切代價擊敗所有人。

So who do you have to be? - Yourself.

那麼應該要怎麼做呢？ - 當你自己。

Is there something that we tend to prioritize a lot when we're younger, but as we get older, we realize isn't actually that important?

有沒有什麼事情我們年輕時往往會優先考慮很多，但隨著年齡的增長，我們會意識到其實並不那麼重要？

Yes, worrying about women.

有，擔心女人。

Can you elaborate on that?

你能詳細說明一下嗎？

Yes. - Better be cardful.

好。- 最好小心的說喔。

I never worried about earning a living. I was a chemist. You gave me money I made crap out of it.

我從來沒有擔心過謀生的問題。我是一名化學家。你給我錢我就可以生出各種東西。

We worry about what everybody else thinks of us and what we look like. It's rubbish.

我們在乎其他人對我們的看法以及我們的樣子。這根本不重要。

Our cosmetics and hair in our face. You guys don't have to worry about it so much, but we women we're encouraged to spend a lot of money on it.

我們的臉上要化妝和照顧頭髮。你們男生不必太擔心，但社會鼓勵我們女性在這上面花很多錢。

It's a waste of time, (a) waste of energy, (a) waste of life.

這是在浪費時間、浪費能源、浪費生命。

What is one regret that you have or one mistake that you've made that you learned a valuable lesson from?

什麼是讓你後悔或犯下的一個錯誤，並從中吸取寶貴的教訓？

Not being kind enough and generous enough,

對人不夠友善和慷慨，

getting too caught up in "someone hurt my feelings" or "they didn't do things the way I thought" and getting rigid about it, instead of just going, "you know what, it'll all work out in the end."

過於在乎「有人傷害了我的感情」或「他們沒有按照我的想法做」並且對此變得刻板，而不是抱持著「事情最終都會迎刃而解的」的信念。

We both love to travel. I think we waited until we thought, oh, we can afford that.

我們都喜歡旅行。我們一直等到我們認為可以負擔得起的時候才開始旅行。

It would have been much more fun to travel when we were younger at less nice places.

如果我們年輕的時候去沒有那麼高級的地方旅行會更有趣。

So we didn't start really traveling until we were about 50.

所以我們直到 50 歲左右才開始去旅行。

So yes, we can afford nicer places to go, but it would have been much more fun to have done some backpack stuff. You know.

沒錯，我們可以負擔得起去更高級的地方，但如果當初當個背包客的話，應該會更有趣。

I was too competitive sometimes at work back in the old days where I felt that winning was what was important and I probably didn't treat some people very nicely.

在過去的日子裡，我有時在工作中太好勝了，我覺得勝利才是最重要的，所以我可能沒有善待某些人。

That came at the expense of... - friendships and of my own comfort.

那是以犧牲... - 友誼和自我安慰為代價的。

Now looking back and kind of going like, "I did that?"

現在回過頭來看，會心想：「我當時居然那樣做？」

If you went back in time and could redo it, what would you have done?

如果你回到過去並可以重來，你會做什麼？

Really treat people as you want to be treated.

真心待人，像你自己想被對待的那樣。

Sometimes when you make a choice when you're in your twenties, you don't realize the implications of how things are going to roll out in your life.

有時當你在二十多歲時做的選擇，你不會知道到事情會如何在你的人生中發展。

Although I graduated college and I got a master's degree, I should have studied harder.

雖然我大學畢業了，也拿到了碩士學位，但我應該更努力學習的。

I went to a two-year college, but I should have gone to a four-year college.

我上的是兩年制大學，但我應該上四年制大學。

What is the biggest mistake that you've made that you regret?

你犯過讓你後悔的最大錯誤是什麼？

Oh, let's get very personal.

這話題會變得很私人。

I'm married too young. I wasn't grown up yet.

我太早結婚了。我當時還沒有長大。

I was very early twenties. My first wife was 20.

我當時二十歲出頭。我的第一任妻子只有 20 歲。

And we were still developing. I think mid to late twenties before one gets to permanent with anybody because you're still changing.

我們的心智仍在發展，我認為在一個人與任何人永久相處之前，二十多歲到二十多歲，因為你還在改變。

That's my biggest regret I think.

這是我最大的遺憾。

If you could give one piece of advice to someone younger than you, what would you say?

如果你能給比你年輕的人一個建議，你會說什麼？

Keep active, don't smoke, don't drink and have fun, you know, enojoy yourslef.

保持活躍、不抽煙、不喝酒、玩得開心，享受自己。

Don't be a follower, be an independent mind. Have your own judgment about things. Otherwise you're going to become a robot.

不要做一個追隨者，擁有獨立的心智，對事物有自己的判斷，否則，你就會變成一個機器人。

We used to when we were young. Make sure that we would write a beautiful letter with the right words, right style, etc.

我們年輕的時候就是這樣。曾經我們確保自己用正確的詞、正確的書寫體寫一封漂亮的信。

This cannot exist anymore because you only communicate via this thing, which I don't even give it a name. It's like a telegram.

這不再存在了，因為現在你只能通過這個東西交流，我甚至沒有給它起名字。這就像電報一樣。

It's a monstrosity.

這是個怪物。

Relax.

放鬆。

Show me the same respect as you'd show to any other human being.

像對待任何其他人一樣尊重我。

Don't look at the critics because it'll throw you off your game.

不要看批評的言論，因為它會讓你放棄。

You stay true to your vision.

忠於自己的願景。

You know, I could give you the standard crap.

我可以給你一些標準的廢話。

Give me your crap.

我想聽你自己的廢話。

Okay, my crap is really, if you think of something honestly, you could be dead tomorrow, so... really, even at your age could be dead tomorrow. I'm serious.

我的建議就是，老實說，你可能明天就死了，所以真的......即使在你這個年紀也可能明天就死了。 我是認真的。

Look out the meteor, you know? Just if you really want to do it, you really ought to do it.

看看流星。只要你真的想做，你就應該去做。

I would probably encourage people to do what you are passionate about.

我可能會鼓勵人們去做你熱衷的事情。

Like you hear people say, I can't believe I'm being paid to do this, that would be wonderful.

你聽到大家說的那樣，我不敢相信我得到報酬做這件事，那太好了。

Do something that challenges you for all the expectations that you might think you have limits, You might have to try and see the world through other people's eyes.

做一些挑戰你期望的事情，你可能認為你有限制，你可能必須站在別人的立場看這個世界。

We don't all have the same opportunities and it's up to us to make sure that others have the same opportunities we do every day.

我們並非都擁有相同的機會，我們有責任確保其他人擁有與我們相同的機會。

You've got to grow and every day you gotta learn something.

你必須成長，每天你都要學習一些東西。

You can't just lie in bed and eat cookies.

你不能只是躺在床上吃餅乾。

You have to get up and get going.

你必須站起來，開始行動。

You don't know it all

你什麼都不會知道。

For sure you don't know it all, so don't think you do. Keep on learning, learn from somebody every day. - And you never will.

當然你什麼都不會知道，所以不要以為你會。繼續學習，每天跟別人學習。- 你永遠也不會知道。

Don't take out more than you put in.

不要拿出比你投入的更多。

Probably try and do the best thing you can by yourself.

可能嘗試自己做最好的事情。

And then when you know and love yourself, you can actually give a little bit more to other people.

然後當你了解並愛自己時，你就可以多為別人付出一點。

Never do anything that might cause remorse because remorse is something that you cannot repair.

永遠不要做任何可能引起悔恨的事情，因為悔恨是你無法修復的。

Turn a cheek. If someone comes at you or yells at you or insult you, look the other way.

把臉別過去。 如果有人朝你走來，對你大喊大叫或侮辱你，請不要在意。

Don't worry about what people think. Don't worry about the feedback you're getting.

不要擔心人們的想法。不要擔心你得到的反饋。

I mean, take the feedback because that helps you refine what you're working on and it can be useful, but just stop worrying so much and just do something interesting and that's it.

接受反饋，因為這有助於你讓正在做的事情變得更好，可能是有用的，但停止擔心這麼多，去做一些有趣的事情，就是這樣。

Don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today

今天能做的不要拖到明天。

Just be a good person. If you're a good person, somehow everything works out to be good. Goodbye everybody.

做一個好人。如果你是一個善良的人，那麼一切都會很順利。大家掰掰。

If you like this video then you're definitely gonna like this video right here and if you haven't already subscribed, please make sure to do so.

如果你喜歡這個影片，那麼你肯定會喜歡這裡其他的影片，如果你還沒有訂閱，請記得訂閱。

Thank you for watching. I'm Will, and as always, it's a mindset.

感謝您的觀看。我是 Will，一如繼往，這是一種思維模式。