Name: 談話技巧：別害羞！ Conversation Skills: DON'T BE SHY!
Uploaded: 2017-12-28T22:00:00.000Z
Duration: 11 min 12 s

未來簡單式

Hi, there. My name is Ronnie. Today, I'm going to teach you something very fun and exciting

Hi大家好，我是朗妮。今天我要教一個刺激有趣又重要的東西

to 不定詞

and important. It's how to improve your speaking. Whether you're speaking English or whether

就是如何增進會話能力。不管是平常說英文

現在進行式

you're doing public speaking in front of people or whether you're just speaking to a neighbor,

還是，哦～公開演講！有時跟鄰居寒暄幾句

someone on the bus, someone in a store, or a taxi driver, you might be shy. What does

又或者是跟公車上的人、賣東西的人、計程車司機說話， 你可能會......害羞！

"shy" mean? "Shy" means you don't like -- or you're nervous -- to speak to strangers or

"害羞"是什麼意思？  "害羞"就是你不喜歡...或你會緊張.....所以不想跟陌生人說話

to speak to other people. So if you are naturally a shy person, I'm sure you've heard people

或和任何人說話。如果你天性害羞，我確定你一定很常聽別人

over and over again say, "Don't be shy! Come on. Don't be shy!" Easier said than done,

一直～一直～跟你說 "不要害羞啦!來麻，不要害羞了！" 　　說比做簡單

isn't it, shy people? So I want to give you some tips or some pointers maybe to help you

是吧？害羞的人？ 所以我想要給你們一些提示和方法，也許能幫助你

to be less shy. It's impossible to be 100 percent outgoing if you are naturally a shy

讓你不這麼害羞，當然不可能完全變外向，如果你天性害羞

So today's lesson is how you improve your speaking. Don't be shy!

所以今天要教的就是如何增進會話能力，切勿害羞！

The first thing that you have to do is think about why. "Why am I shy?" There may be many

你要做的第一件事情就是想想為什麼。     "我在害羞什麼？" 可能有很多原因

different reasons. I'm just going to go through a couple of them. The number one reason, probably,

我來舉一兩個例子，第一個我覺得會是

if you're watching these videos, is because you are trying to speak a new language. Maybe

你正在看這個影片的原因，因為你在學習新的語言。

it is English. And you are shy to make a mistake. You don't want to say something bad, funny,

這個新的語言可能是英文。犯了錯會覺得很害羞，你不想犯那些不好的、搞笑的、

rude, embarrassing. You don't want your face to go red and they'll go, "Ha ha! You said

無禮的、尷尬的錯誤。不想滿臉通紅還要面對他們嘲笑 ＂哈哈！

a funny word!"Okay. That will happen. And you know what? Who cares? It happens all the

你說的話好好笑！＂   好，我們總是會說錯話阿！但你知道嗎？ 誰在意啊？ 這常常發生阿。

我也常常說很好笑的話阿（笑）

Another reason why you may be shy is because you "talk funny". Lots of people have different

另一個讓你害羞的原因可能是 ＂講話方式很好笑＂，很多人有各種不同的

problems with their mouths. Some people have a speech impediment. Some people have a lisp,

發音問題，有些人有口吃，有些人口條不順。

so they don't pronounce words probably like me. Maybe you have a very strange or different

所以他們像我一樣，無法發出正確的音（偷笑）。　又或許你有一個很奇怪的口音

accent than the other people around you. People often ask me, "Ronnie, where are you from?"

或一個跟別人不一樣的口音。　別人很常問我，＂朗妮，你是哪裡人？＂

And I say, "Canada." And they say, "No, you're not." "Yes, I am." "But you have an accent."

我就說：＂加拿大＂然後他們就說＂不，你不是吧。＂  ＂是阿，我是阿。＂ ＂但你有一種口音。＂

"Yes. I have an accent. I talk funny. Who cares? I'm from Canada. Nice to meet you."

＂是阿，我有一點口音。 聽起來滿妙的，但管他的！我從加拿大來的，很高興認識你！＂

So even if you do talk funny or you have an accent, rock with it. Yeah. You speak differently.

所以即使你聽起來很妙或是你有種口音，就當作是特色吧！ 是阿，你說起話來很特別

Good. Don't be like other people. Other people are boring.

那太好了！　不要像其他人一樣，他們都很無聊...

This is a problem. Maybe you just don't like to talk. Okay? Maybe you are quiet. Maybe

這麻煩了！也許你就是不喜歡跟別人說話，是吧？ 也許你就是比較安靜

you don't want to talk to anyone ever, at all. That's cool. If you don't like people

也許你這輩子都不想跟別人說話，那好吧，如果你不喜歡別人

and you don't like to talk, don't force yourself to talk. Maybe you could write something.

也不喜歡跟別人說話， 不用逼自己去說， 或許你可以用寫的

Maybe you could text message or email someone. But that's not going to improve your speaking.

不然你可以傳簡訊或寫信， 但這樣沒辦法讓你的英文口說進步

If you do not like to talk to people, that's your choice. But I'm trying to help you overcome

如果你不喜歡跟別人說話， 那是你的選擇。 但，我只是想幫助你改善這害羞的難題

your shyness. So let's go through a couple ways to actually do this. Don't be shy!

所以就讓我來舉兩個做法，你就可以實際去做！  不再害羞！

Just say, "Hi!" So if you're standing at a bus stop or the subway station or anywhere,

只要說＂嗨！＂(自嗨)  　假如你在公車站、或地鐵、或任何地方

and there's another human being beside you -- let's say that you're at a bar, and there's

然後你旁邊站了另一個人類....假如～你在酒吧裡

a beautiful girl or a very handsome boy. The quickest, the easiest, and the best way to

那邊有一位美女或是一位帥哥，最快最簡單又最好的開場白

speak to someone is just to say, "Hi! My name is Ronnie." Don't use "Ronnie", though. That's

就是跟他說 ＂嗨！我是朗妮！＂  不要用＂郎妮＂就是了...

my name. You have to use your name. So just say "hi" to people. If they want to speak

那是我的名字， 你要用你的名字。 所以只要跟他們說＂嗨＂。　 如果他們想跟你說話

to you, they will start the conversation. They will say, "Oh, hi. My name is --. Nice

他們會回應你， 他們會說　"噢！嗨！我是某某某...

to meet you." "Oh, nice to meet you, too." Uh-oh! And then, your shyness sets in because

很高興認識你。"　 "噢!我也很開心認識你"  喔喔！然後呢？你開始害羞了...因為...

-- "What do I say? Shoes. I have shoes. Do you have shoes? Oh, God. I'm such an idiot.

"我該說什麼？？我該說什麼？？？恩...鞋子！我有鞋子！你...你有鞋子嗎？   噢！天啊！我真是個白癡！

I can't even speak." Maybe the other person will have asked you a question. You can always

我根本說不好話！＂  也許對方原本要問你問題

ask people basic questions, like, "Where are you from? Why do you talk funny? Why are you

你也當然可以問他們一些間單的問題， 例如＂你是哪裡人呢？為什麼你的口音這麼有趣？

為什麼你會害羞？＂  這類有趣的問題

When you're actually speaking to someone, it's really important that you choose a topic

當你跟別人對話時，很重要的是， 你選擇自己喜歡的話題。

that you like. So if I were to meet someone -- "Hi. My name is Ronnie." "Hi." "Cool. So

假如你遇到一個人 ＂嗨！我是朗妮。＂　  ＂嗨！＂　 ＂酷，恩......

-- oh, I like music. Do you like the Sex Pistols?" "Yeah." "Me, too. Oh, my God. No way! What

.............噢！我喜歡音樂。你喜歡性手槍合唱團嗎？＂ ＂喜歡啊！＂ ＂我也是！噢我的天阿～真假！

other kind of music do you like?" So I like to talk to people about music. The only problem

你還喜歡哪種音樂？＂ 我很喜歡跟別人聊音樂， 唯一的問題就是

is not a lot of people like the same music I do. So you have to choose a topic that you

沒有很多人喜歡這種音樂....（哭）  所以你要選一個你喜歡的話題來對話

like to talk about. If you're lucky, the other person will also like the topic.

如果幸運的話， 對方也會很喜歡這個話題。

The next one: Get a job. Now, this might be very strange for you to even comprehend, but

接下來： 找份工作！現在， 這個可能讓你很難理解，但是

I -- right here -- am shy. When I was a child, I wasn't shy. I would do anything and go anywhere.

我...我本人...很害羞...  小時候，我不害羞， 什麼都會做、哪裡都敢去，

But as I got older -- high school, university -- I just didn't want to talk to people. I

慢慢長大後。升高中、升大學....  我開始不想跟別人說話了。

think people are boring, and I'd rather sit by myself and think about things. So I became

我覺得人們都很無聊，寧願自己一個人坐著想事情。 於是我變得害羞，

shy. I didn't want to talk to people. People would talk to me, and I'd rather be, like,

我不想跟他們說話，但他們會跟我說話， 但我只想著...

"I don't know what to say. Hi." One thing that I did do when I was in high school, I

＂我不知道該怎麼跟他們打招呼......＂   高中時期我做了一件事

got a job as a waitress. Gulp. So guess what. Every time somebody came into my restaurant,

我找了一份服務生的工作。　緊張了...你猜怎麼？ 每次有人走進這間餐聽，

I had to talk to them. I had to be nice to them. I had to smile. I don't want to smile,

我就必須跟他們說話， 我必須要客氣對待他們， 一定要要笑笑的， 嘻～（假笑） 可是我不想笑，

but I had to. Getting a job where you have to talk to people, like being a waiter or

但我必須要笑。  找一份可以讓你說話的工作，例如：前台的服務生

a waitress, even something in the back like working in a kitchen, working in a store -- if

或是後場的工作，例如廚房。 不然當個店員也可以

you can get a job where you are forced to talk to people, I guarantee you, you will

如果你可以找到一個能夠逼你說話的工作，我跟你保證！

overcome your shyness because you are forced to talk to people. Please also be careful

你就能夠克服害羞， 因為你被強迫著要跟人說話。請注意！

-- people are boring, as I mentioned before.

..........人們都很無趣，像我前面說的。

The next one is: Get a dog. "Get a dog? What? Are you going to talk to the dog?" No. But

下一個方法：養一隻狗！ "養狗？什麼？你要我跟狗說話嗎？＂ 不是，但

guess what? I don't know why, but people who have dogs always like to talk to other people

你猜怎麼？ 我不知道為何，養狗的人很愛跟養狗的人聊天

who have dogs. For example, in the morning, when I walk my dog, people talk to me about

例如， 一天早上， 我在遛狗，有人想跟我聊我的狗，

stupid things about my dog. "How old is your dog?" "Who cares?" "What's your dog's name?"

＂你的狗幾歲啦？＂     ＂誰管他啊？＂    ＂他叫什麼名字？＂

"Why? Are you going to send it a birthday card?" Okay. People that have dogs are usually

＂幹麻？你要寄生日卡給牠嗎？＂  對， 養狗的人通常很友善

friendly, and it forces you to interact with other people. Sometimes, people ask me questions,

這會幫助你跟他們互動。  有時，他們問我問題

and I say, "Yes. Seven. Good. Okay." And I just stare at my dog. "Come on, dog. Come

我就會回答 ＂恩...7歲...好...哦...＂ 然後我只好盯著我的狗看然後心想  ＂拜託！狗狗！快點！我們走！

on, dog. Let's go, dog. Come on. I don't want to talk to these people." But getting a dog

噢～我們走喇！ 我不想跟這些人說話！＂   所以養狗

will help you walk around the neighborhood. It will help you talk to people. It's an interesting

可以讓你帶他在家附近溜達， 幫助你跟鄰居說說話。  有一個非常有趣的事情

idea that if you have a cat, or if you're a cat person, you're shy. But people that

就是如果你養的是貓，或你比較喜歡貓，你通常害羞。  但如果你養的是狗

have dogs are usually -- but not always -- more friendly. Are you a cat person or a dog person?

通常喇～不是一定～   都比較活潑友善。 你比較喜歡貓還是狗呢？

This is one of my favorite things in the world, ever. Travel. Okay? Leave your house; get

這是我最喜歡做的一件事！耶～（很嗨）  旅行！對吧？ 離開你家，

on an airplane -- get some money, first; get a job; get some money; jump on an airplane;

坐上飛機.....存點錢先； 找份工作、存點錢、坐上飛機，

and go traveling. Do it alone. How scary! If you travel by yourself without anyone -- that

然後去旅行。自己一個人去！  多可怕啊！ 如果你能獨自旅行

means alone -- you are forced to talk to people. You're going to be lonely. You're going to

就是一個人而已哦， 就會被迫要去跟別人說話。  你會非常寂寞，

want to talk to people. You're going to go to restaurants by yourself and sit there and

會很想跟別人說話。 因為當你一個人坐在餐廳裡

look at the menu all alone. You're going to see other people talking, and you'll go, "I

獨自看著菜單，旁邊還有人在聊天，然後你就會想著...

wish I had a friend." All you have to do is talk to people. Say the magic word, "Hi!"

＂有個朋友在就好了。＂  其實只要跟他們說話事情就搞定，說出那個字： ＂嗨！＂

And start a conversation. When you travel, you're forced to talk to people. When you

然後就有人可以聊天了。  旅行時，你時常被迫要去跟別人說話.

check in at a hotel, when you take a bus, when you're asking for directions. And I guarantee

當要入住飯店時、 搭公車時、問路時。 而我跟你保證

you will make some really good friends. You'll probably meet a lot of crazy people, too.

你可以交到很棒的朋友， 也一定會遇到一大堆瘋狂的人，

And last, but not least, when you're traveling alone, when you have a dog, when you're at

最後，但並非不重要， 當你獨自旅行時、養狗時、或工作時，

your job, get drunk. Oh, yeah. There's a reason why alcohol has a name, Like "Six-Pack Attack"

喝醉吧！噢沒錯！  這就是為何酒會有這些名字，像是＂六六大順＂

or "Liquid Lunch", because when you drink alcohol-- "Social Lubricant" is a good one.

或是＂酒午餐＂， 因為當你喝酒時， 酒就是很好的＂交際潤滑＂

When you drink alcohol, you are not as shy as you were. Now, I am being a little bit

當你喝酒時，就不會像從前那樣害羞。現在， 當我說

sarcastic when I say, "Get drunk." If you have one or two drinks, you're going to feel

＂喝醉＂時有比較誇張一點。 其實喝個一兩瓶酒精飲料之後，你就會覺得

less shy. When I write here, "Get drunk", I don't mean, like -- and throw up. That's

比較不害羞。 我的＂喝醉＂指的不是說...#$*&@......醉到吐...

not cool. Nobody wants to talk to you. So have one or two alcoholic drinks -- or just

那一點都不酷， 沒人會想跟你說話， 只要喝一兩杯就夠了

some coke -- and you will become less shy naturally. It will happen. It's fun.

或喝點可樂...就不會那麼害羞了，很自然的，這能成功的，而且很好玩！

Are you shy? Don't be shy. Follow these tips. Figure out why you are shy. And please, write

你會害羞嗎？別害羞，照著這些方法，找出害羞的原因，然後請留言給我

in the comments and tell me why you are shy. Maybe I can help you. Maybe I can't. Maybe

告訴我你為什麼會害羞，也許我能幫助你，但也許不能，

you're just shy. If you are, good luck. Bye.

也許你就是害羞，如果你是，那祝你好運！掰拉～