Maybe your relationship was like baking soda and vinegar, explosive and reactive dating can be an absolute minefield at times, and it can sometimes be hard to know what to expect when it comes to meeting new people to help with this.

也許你的關係就像小蘇打和醋，爆炸性和反應性的約會有時絕對是一個雷區，有時很難知道在遇到新的人幫助時該期待什麼。

Here are some things you might want to avoid when entering a new potential relationship.

以下是進入新的潛在關係時你可能想要避免的一些事情。

Number one emotional dumpers, As the title suggests, emotional dumpers want a relationship for one reason alone to have somebody whom they can dump their emotional baggage onto.

頭號情感傾銷者，正如標題所示，情感傾銷者想要一段關係的原因只有一個，那就是有一個可以傾銷他們情感包袱的人。

If you're doing an emotional dumper, then it's likely that you will hear about every problem that they're facing in life and you will have no choice but to endure listening to this on a regular basis.

如果你在做一個情感傾訴者，那麼很可能你會聽到他們在生活中面臨的每一個問題，你將別無選擇，只能忍受經常聽這些。

If you try to suggest a solution, they will likely not listen to you.

如果你試圖建議一個解決方案，他們很可能不會聽你的。

They tend to be in love with their self pity and misery, take time to think about how much emotional dumping you can take before continuing this kind of relationship.

他們往往愛上了自己的自憐和痛苦，在繼續這種關係之前，花點時間想想你能承受多少情感傾軋。

Number two, overly clingy people, are you dating somebody who constantly calls or messages you There's a difference between being eager and being clingy people are clingy for various reasons.

第二，過於粘人的人，你是否在和一個不斷給你打電話或發資訊的人約會。 渴望和粘人之間是有區別的，人們因為各種原因而粘人。

It may be due to insecurities or previous relationships that lead them to overcompensate because of fears that you may leave them.

這可能是由於不安全感或以前的關係導致他們過度補償，因為擔心你會離開他們。

They may also have expectations regarding romantic gestures from you, which they will be upset about if you don't meet for them.

他們也可能對你的浪漫姿態有所期待，如果你不為他們滿足，他們就會感到不安。

So if you're a person who appreciates personal space and independence.

是以，如果你是一個欣賞個人空間和獨立性的人。

It might be wise to avoid this type of person because you may feel suffocated in the relationship?

避免這種類型的人可能是明智的，因為你可能在這種關係中感到窒息？

Number three, the extreme perfectionist a perfectionist is somebody who has the constant need to strive for perfection, even if it hurts the people around them and stands in the way of forming healthy relationships, perfectionists often flip between two main emotions of dread and relief.

第三，極端的完美主義者完美主義者是指那些不斷需要追求完美的人，即使這傷害了他們周圍的人，阻礙了形成健康的關係，完美主義者經常在恐懼和解脫這兩種主要情緒之間翻轉。

If you notice that the person you're dating is difficult to please always looking for flaws or problems and they always want to be in control, then they could be exhibiting signs of an extreme perfectionist.

如果你注意到你約會的人很難取悅，總是尋找缺陷或問題，他們總是想控制自己，那麼他們可能表現出極端完美主義者的跡象。

Number four, the narcissist, this is probably the thing which comes up the most when talking about who not to date.

第四，自戀者，這可能是在談論不與誰約會時出現最多的事情。

Generally speaking, narcissists are self obsessed, judgmental and tend to be very selfish.

一般來說，自戀者都是自我迷戀，有判斷力，往往非常自私。

This type of person can be particularly draining as they want to create a perfect image of themselves and their lives and want you to follow along with this.

這種類型的人可能特別令人沮喪，因為他們想為自己和自己的生活創造一個完美的形象，並希望你也跟著一起做。

You will rarely meet a narcissist who will show any level of genuine empathy towards others.

你很少會遇到一個自戀者會對他人表現出任何程度的真正同情。

They also never admit they're wrong or accept their mistakes.

他們也從不承認自己的錯誤或接受自己的錯誤。

And number five, the toxic communicator ever heard somebody you're dating say I fight with you because I love you.

第五，有毒的溝通者曾經聽到你約會的人說我和你吵架是因為我愛你。

Chances are you could be dating a toxic communicator.

你有可能正在和一個有毒的溝通者約會。

These types of people will find it hard to give you respect.

這些類型的人將發現很難給予你尊重。

Instead they will argue, counter argue and never give you space or an opportunity to explain things.

相反，他們會爭論、反駁，而且從不給你空間或解釋的機會。

This type of person may measure your love by how much disrespect you'll take from them.

這種類型的人可能會以你能從他們那裡得到多少不尊重來衡量你的愛。

So do you agree with the points we've mentioned in this video?

那麼你是否同意我們在這段視頻中提到的觀點？

Remember every relationship is different?

記得每段關係都是不同的嗎？

These are just general signs.

這些只是一般的跡象。

You may want to watch out for always listen to your instincts and think about how you feel around the person you're in a relationship with.

你可能要注意總是聽從你的直覺，想想你在與你交往的人身邊的感覺。

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非常感謝您的觀看，直到下一次。