It's been said that loneliness is a universal human experience and chances are if you're watching this, then you've probably felt lonely too.

有人說，孤獨是人類的普遍經歷，如果你在看這個，那麼你可能也感到過孤獨。

No one is exempt from feeling a sense of loneliness in their lives from time to time, no matter what their age, race, background or social circumstances may be.

沒有人能夠免於在生活中時常感到孤獨，無論他們的年齡、種族、背景或社會環境如何。

But when left to its own devices, it can be a potentially damaging state of mind to be in.

但是，如果任其發展，這可能是一種潛在的破壞性心理狀態。

So why do we feel lonely and better yet?

那麼，為什麼我們會感到孤獨，而且更好呢？

What can we do about it?

我們能做些什麼呢？

Well, here are six psychology backed signs to help with just that number one, you have a good friend or two, most people tend to feel lonely when they don't have as many friends as they like or they have too many acquaintances they don't feel particularly close to.

好吧，這裡有六個有心理學支持的跡象來幫助解決這個問題，第一，你有一個好朋友或兩個，大多數人在沒有他們喜歡的那麼多朋友或有太多他們不覺得特別親密的熟人時，往往會感到孤獨。

So if you have at least one close friend in your life, you genuinely feel like you can trust and who cares for you, then you're already doing so much better than you probably think you are.

是以，如果你的生活中至少有一個親密的朋友，你真正感覺到你可以信任並關心你，那麼你已經做得比你可能認為的好得多。

In fact one of the most famous psychological studies, the 40 year Harvard study on Happiness has found that it's not the quality of our social relationships that determines our happiness, but rather their quality.

事實上，最著名的心理學研究之一，哈佛大學40年的幸福研究發現，決定我們幸福的不是我們的社會關係的品質，而是它們的品質。

Number two, you have people you can get help from.

第二，你有可以得到幫助的人。

Many people want to be popular and well liked never without a friend by their side or flaunting a million followers on social media, but we all know that deep down inside, none of that matters.

許多人都想成為受歡迎的人，受人喜歡的人，從來沒有一個朋友在他們身邊，或在社交媒體上炫耀有一百萬的粉絲，但我們都知道，在內心深處，這些都不重要。

If the people you surround yourself with, don't truly care about you as a person.

如果你身邊的人，並不真正關心你這個人。

So if you've ever found yourself in a tough spot before or struggling with a problem that someone in your life helped you to solve, be it a friend or a family member, then count yourself lucky.

是以，如果你曾經發現自己以前處於一個艱難的境地，或者在一個問題上掙扎，而你生活中有人幫助你解決了這個問題，無論是朋友還是家人，那麼算你幸運。

You're not as alone as you think you are.

你並不像你認為的那樣孤獨。

Number three, you have people who can give you advice even though you might feel too scared to open up and burden other people with your problems or worry that they might treat and look at you differently once you do, the truth is you'll never really know until you try.

第三，你有可以給你建議的人，即使你可能覺得太害怕了，不敢敞開心扉，把你的問題給別人造成負擔，或者擔心一旦你這樣做，他們可能會以不同的方式對待和看待你，事實是你永遠不會真正知道，直到你嘗試。

Who knows?

誰知道呢？

You might already have plenty of people in your life, would be more than happy to listen to what's troubling you and even offer some advice like your parents, your best friend, your teacher, your guidance counselor and so on.

你的生活中可能已經有很多人，會非常樂意傾聽你的煩惱，甚至提供一些建議，比如你的父母、你最好的朋友、你的老師、你的指導顧問等等。

Number four, you can talk about your hobbies and interests.

第四，你可以談一談你的愛好和興趣。

Okay, so maybe talking about all the touchy feely stuff is a bit uncomfortable for you.

好吧，所以也許談論所有這些感性的東西對你來說有點不舒服。

That's okay.

那也沒關係。

A lot of people feel the same way.

很多人都有同樣的感覺。

But talking to someone about your hobbies and interests can be just as fulfilling and therapeutic too, especially with those who share the same passion as you.

但是，與人談論你的愛好和興趣也可以是同樣的充實和治療，特別是與那些與你有同樣激情的人。

Finding someone you can talk to about all the things that make you happy, whether it's a favorite film book or passed time is already enough to make us feel a stronger sense of belonging and emotional connection with others.

找到一個可以和你談論所有讓你快樂的事情的人，無論是最喜歡的電影書還是經過的時間，已經足以讓我們感到更強的歸屬感和與他人的情感聯繫。

Number five, you have people you regularly check in with even if you might not see them as often as you'd like or you feel like you've drifted apart and aren't as close as you used to be.

第五，你有定期報到的人，即使你可能不像你想的那樣經常見到他們，或者你覺得你們已經漸行漸遠，不像以前那樣親密。

That doesn't mean that your loved ones have stopped caring about you or that you don't matter to them anymore.

這並不意味著你的親人已經不再關心你，或者你對他們不再重要。

Chances are even if they don't keep in touch anymore, they still check in on you from time to time and make sure you're okay.

機會是即使他們不再保持聯繫，他們仍然不時地檢查你，確保你沒事。

Sunday brunch at your parents house, grabbing coffee with an old friend, a quick phone call from your sibling.

週日在父母家吃早午餐，和老朋友一起喝咖啡，接到兄弟姐妹的快速電話。

All of these things tell you you're not as alone as you might feel sometimes because at the end of the day, your loved ones will always be there.

所有這些事情都告訴你，你並不像你有時可能感到的那樣孤獨，因為在一天結束時，你的親人會一直在那裡。

And number six, you're careful about who you let in.

第六，你要小心你讓誰進來。

Being careful about who you let into your life in your inner circle can reap a lot of rewards, but it can also make us feel more alone than we really are.

謹慎對待你讓誰進入你的生活，在你的核心圈子裡，可以收穫很多，但它也可能使我們感到比實際情況更孤獨。

We might feel like we don't have as much of a social media presence.

我們可能會覺得我們沒有那麼多的社交媒體存在。

Don't go out as often as other people think we should or aren't constantly surrounded by other people in our day to day lives regardless of all these things.

不像其他人認為的那樣經常外出，或者在我們的日常生活中不經常被其他人包圍，不管這些事情。

However, it's still a lot better to choose your friends wisely because then you can be sure that the people you do let your guard down around can be trusted.

然而，明智地選擇你的朋友仍然要好得多，因為這樣你就可以確保你身邊的人可以信任你，讓你放鬆警惕。

So do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here.

那麼你是否與我們在這裡提到的任何事情有關。

Has this helped you realize that you're not as alone as you once thought.

這是否幫助你認識到，你並不像你曾經認為的那樣孤獨。

While it's tempting to push such a painful and scary feeling aside, it's important that we acknowledge it and try to understand why we're feeling this way.

雖然很想把這種痛苦和可怕的感覺推到一邊，但重要的是我們要承認它，並試圖理解為什麼我們會有這種感覺。

Loneliness after all, is just like any other human emotion.

孤獨畢竟就像其他人類的情感一樣。

It's meant to teach us something about ourselves.

它的目的是讓我們瞭解自己。

We might not yet realize maybe your loneliness is trying to tell you to make a conscious effort to get closer to your loved ones.

我們可能還沒有意識到，也許你的孤獨正試圖告訴你要有意識地努力接近你的親人。

Or maybe it's telling you that something needs to change in your life regardless whatever the reason may be, if you're seriously struggling with your mental health, the best thing you can do is reach out to a mental health care professional today and seek help if you found this video helpful like and share it with friends that might find inside in it.

或者，也許它在告訴你，你的生活需要改變，不管是什麼原因，如果你正與你的心理健康嚴重掙扎，你能做的最好的事情就是今天向心理健康護理專家求助，如果你覺得這段視頻有幫助，請喜歡並與可能在裡面找到的朋友分享它。

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謝謝你的觀看。

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