with some of your relationships?

與你的一些關係？

It's no secret that maintaining a healthy relationship

保持健康的關係已經不是什麼祕密了

is challenging.

是具有挑戰性的。

It takes effort and time.

這需要努力和時間。

You have to find the balance

你必須找到平衡點

between establishing rules for your relationship

在為你們的關係建立規則之間

and allowing space for changes to occur.

併為變化的發生提供空間。

So to help you out here are a few unspoken rules

是以，為了幫助你，這裡有幾條不言而喻的規則

that can help you create and maintain

可以幫助你創建和維護

a healthy relationship.

一個健康的關係。

Number one, learn to love yourself.

第一，學會愛自己。

We all give the love we have learned to accept.

我們都給予我們已經學會接受的愛。

So to love someone

所以要愛一個人

you must first learn how to love yourself.

你必須首先學會如何愛自己。

It seems a bit silly, but most of us show love

這似乎有點傻，但我們大多數人都在表達愛意

based on how we have received love.

基於我們如何接受愛。

In loving yourself,

在愛自己。

you learn how to care about your wellbeing

你學會如何關心你的健康

and how to demonstrate acts of love

以及如何展示愛的行為

that are not obligatory or reciprocal.

非義務性或互惠性的。

You learn to love for the sake of loving.

你要學會為愛而愛。

And that's the kind of love you should cultivate

而這正是你應該培養的愛

in all your healthy relationships.

在你所有的健康關係中。

Number two, red flags.

第二，紅旗。

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked

你是否曾經和你真正喜歡的人約會過？

only to end it because of a red flag?

只是因為一個紅旗而結束？

While sometimes it's good to be wary of ignoring red flags

雖然有時警惕忽視紅旗是件好事

especially when you idealize the person

特別是當你把這個人理想化的時候

you're with too much.

你與太多。

The opposite of exaggerating a red flag too much

過度誇大紅旗的反面教材

can happen too.

也可能發生。

This can mean thinking too much

這可能意味著想得太多

or over worrying about their flaw that you end up

或過度擔心他們的缺陷，以至於你最終會

sabotaging a possible good thing.

破壞了一個可能的好東西。

Instead, realize that a red flag isn't the end of the world.

相反，意識到紅旗並不是世界末日。

If it's something that really the concerns you,

如果這是你真正關心的事情。

you can try to bring it up with them and talk about it.

你可以試著向他們提出來，談談這個問題。

Number three, have the uncomfortable conversations.

第三，進行不舒服的談話。

Are you always running away from having to talk about

你是否總是在逃避不得不談的問題？

serious and important matters?

嚴肅而重要的事項？

While it may be uncomfortable,

雖然這可能是不舒服的。

it's important to have difficult conversations

進行困難的對話是很重要的

when you have concerns and issues in your relationship.

當你在你們的關係中遇到疑慮和問題時。

Talk things through and compromise.

把事情談清楚，並作出妥協。

Do whatever you both need to do

做你們倆需要做的任何事情

to confront the uncomfortable topic, but do it together.

面對這個不舒服的話題，但要一起做。

Number four, acknowledge and support each other.

第四，相互承認和支持。

You cheer each other on.

你們互相打氣。

When things get tough, it's important to have people

當事情變得艱難的時候，重要的是要有一些人

to support and push you on,

以支持和推動你繼續前進。

whether it's just acknowledging that your work is hard

不管是承認你的工作很辛苦

or supporting them when they wanna make career change.

或在他們想改變職業時支持他們。

Being each other's pillar of support

成為對方的支持支柱

is crucial for a healthy relationship.

是健康關係的關鍵。

Number five, be loyal to each other.

第五，對彼此忠誠。

Being loyal to your partner is a given

對你的伴侶忠誠是必然的

in a healthy relationship.

在一個健康的關係中。

The reason loyalty is important is because it denotes trust

忠誠度之所以重要，是因為它代表著信任

which is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

這是每一個健康關係的基礎。

Number six, keep your promises.

第六，遵守你的承諾。

Another unspoken rule for a healthy relationship

健康關係的另一個潛規則

is to keep your promises.

是要遵守你的承諾。

Whether they're promises you make to yourself

無論它們是你對自己作出的承諾

or to your partner.

或給你的夥伴。

Keeping and following through with your promises,

信守並貫徹你的承諾。

shows that you have a strong sense of responsibility,

這表明你有強烈的責任感。

are trustworthy, and are committed to them.

是值得信賴的，並對他們作出承諾。

Number seven, be friends.

第七，做朋友。

Did you start out as friends

你們開始時是朋友嗎？

before becoming romantically involved?

在成為戀人之前？

Sometimes being friends first can help build

有時先做朋友可以幫助建立

a good foundation of trust, communication and companionship.

一個良好的信任、溝通和陪伴的基礎。

Of course, it's fine

當然，這很好

if you didn't start out as friends, either

如果你們一開始不是朋友，也不是

since you can still build a friendship

既然你還能建立友誼

while in a romantic relationship.

在浪漫的關係中。

You may actually find that it helps you

你可能真的會發現，這有助於你

both be more intimate and understanding with each other.

彼此之間都更加親密和理解。

And finally, number eight,

最後是第八項。

always say good morning and good night.

總是說早上好和晚上好。

Do you make it a habit to greet each other in the morning?

你們是否養成了在早晨互相問候的習慣？

Not only is it courteous, but saying good morning

這不僅是一種禮貌，而且說早安也是一種禮貌。

and good night is a good way to show them

和晚安是向他們展示的一個好方法

that you're thinking about them.

你在為他們著想。

Even a quick message to them

甚至給他們發一條快速資訊

especially when you're busy shows them that you care.

特別是在你忙碌的時候，向他們表示你的關心。

How do you feel about these rules?

你對這些規則有什麼看法？

Let us know in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中告訴我們。

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如果你覺得這段視頻對你有幫助，請務必喜歡、訂閱。

and share this video with those who might benefit from it.

並與那些可能從中受益的人分享這段視頻。

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不要忘記點擊通知鈴聲圖標

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每當Psych2Go發佈新的視頻時，就會得到通知。

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本視頻中使用的參考資料和研究

are are added in the description below.

是在下面的描述中添加的。

Thanks so much for watching and see you next time.

非常感謝您的觀看，下次再見。