So here are five steps you can take for your nose to be seen as real boundaries.

是以，這裡有五個步驟可以讓你的鼻子被視為真正的邊界。

Number one, check in with yourself, We grew up thinking that helping others is a selfless act, but self care is not selfish.

第一，對自己進行檢查。我們從小就認為幫助別人是一種無私的行為，但自我護理並不自私。

Checking in with ourselves is one way we know how we actually feel about any situation, assess what you're getting into and see if it aligns with who you are and what you believe in knowing what you need and who you are is the key to making the right decisions because it is only you who knows yourself best number to believe in your skills and capacity often are yeses are the result of feeling inferior self efficacy.

對自己進行檢查是我們知道自己對任何情況的實際感受的一種方式，評估你正在進入的情況，看看它是否與你是誰和你相信的東西相一致，知道你需要什麼和你是誰是做出正確決定的關鍵，因為只有你最瞭解自己，相信你的技能和能力的人數往往是是自我效能感低的結果。

A person's belief that they can succeed in their endeavors, helps us build self confidence.

一個人相信自己的努力能夠成功，有助於我們建立自信心。

This can help you create goals and know which direction you need to go, believing you have the capacity and the skills will give you more confidence in setting boundaries when you know your skills, you'll be able to stand firm and not be directed to do whatever others want.

這可以幫助你創建目標，並知道你需要去哪個方向，相信你有能力和技能，當你知道自己的技能時，在設定界限方面會有更多的信心，你將能夠站穩腳跟，不會被訓示去做別人想做的事。

Number three, set boundaries fairly and no is a no.

第三，公平地設定界限，不就是不。

Now that you're reminded of your priorities and skills, you need to start to set those boundaries without exception saying no.

現在，你被提醒了你的優先事項和技能，你需要開始設定這些界限，不例外地說不。

Should I apply equally among colleagues, peers and even family, putting these boundaries in place fairly well, let people know your priorities are non negotiable, not making excuses for anyone will gain respect from others and let them know that you are true to your boundaries.

我是否應該在同事、同行甚至家人之間同樣適用，把這些界限放得相當好，讓人們知道你的優先事項是不容商量的，不為任何人找藉口，會得到別人的尊重，讓他們知道你是忠實於自己的界限。

Number four offer alternatives.

第四項是提供替代方案。

If people find it hard to solve their issues without your help, then offer alternative solutions.

如果人們發現沒有你的幫助很難解決他們的問題，那麼就提供替代的解決方案。

You can maybe give them a timetable or appoint another person to do it for you.

你也許可以給他們一個時間表，或者指定另一個人替你做這件事。

This will reiterate your boundaries and will help people realize which favors you can and cannot help with number five just do it.

這將重申你的界限，並將幫助人們認識到哪些是你可以幫助的，哪些是不可以幫助的，第五條就是這樣做。

There is no greater practice than to just do it.

沒有什麼比直接去做更偉大的實踐了。

You'll never be able to truly understand your limits and your priorities unless you practice it.

除非你實踐，否則你永遠無法真正瞭解你的極限和你的優先事項。

Start with the small stuff like saying no to a weekend trip with your friends because you're too tired from work, then say no to your family.

從小事做起，比如因為工作太累而拒絕與朋友的週末旅行，然後對家人說不。

When they ask you for your time during a very important time in your career.

當他們在你事業的一個非常重要的時期向你索取時間時。

When you start doing this, you'll understand what you truly want, how people will react and how you'll handle it better.

當你開始這樣做時，你就會明白你真正想要的是什麼，人們會有什麼反應，以及你會如何更好地處理它。

The next time boundaries are difficult to create.

接下來的時間裡，界限很難建立。

We never want to miss out on anything and we want to impress people and make them think we can do it all.

我們從來不想錯過任何事情，我們想給人們留下深刻印象，讓他們認為我們可以做到這一切。

But we are only human and have limits or boundaries that keep us safe and protected.

但我們只是人類，有限制或界限，以保持我們的安全和保護。

It may be tempting to say yes to every single opportunity or require, but the major yes should be to yourself and your priorities.

對每一個機會或要求說 "是 "可能很誘人，但主要的 "是 "應該是對你自己和你的優先事項。

So remember sometimes saying no is the best yes, you can give yourself can you relate to any of these points?

是以，請記住，有時說 "不 "是最好的 "是"，你可以給你自己，你是否與這些觀點有關？

Let us know in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中告訴我們。

Also feel free to share this video with others who might benefit from it.

也請隨時與其他可能從中受益的人分享這段視頻。

As always, the references used are listed in the description box below.

一如既往，所使用的參考文獻都列在下面的描述框中。

Until next time.

直到下一次。

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朋友們保重，訂閱心理，去爭取更多。

Great content.

偉大的內容。

Thanks for watching.

謝謝你的觀看。