I am now in a place in my life and in my career, my business where I'm wanting to be more unapologetically authentically mice and that video explains all of that.

我現在在我的生活和我的事業中處於一個位置，我想更加不加掩飾地做一隻真實的老鼠，而那個視頻解釋了這一切。

So first of all, my reaction is complete astonishment.

是以，首先，我的反應是完全驚訝。

I can't believe the positive responses that I got one after the other from putting up that video, I'm telling you right now and this is part of the back story.

我無法相信，我把那段視頻放上去後得到了一個又一個的積極迴應，我現在就告訴你，這就是背景故事的一部分。

I almost did not put out that video at all.

我幾乎完全沒有放出那個視頻。

It was going to go into the trash bin on my computer.

它本來要進入我電腦上的垃圾箱。

I was this close, it didn't happen because clearly the video came out and here we are today.

我就差這麼一點，它沒有發生，因為很明顯，視頻出來了，我們今天就在這裡。

So let me tell you why I almost didn't put out that video, There were a lot of emotions that I was feeling leading up to putting out that video.

所以讓我告訴你為什麼我幾乎沒有放出那段視頻，在放出那段視頻之前，我有很多的情緒。

There were a couple of questions that I continuously kept asking myself that actually were so damaging and so toxic.

有幾個問題，我不斷地問自己，實際上是非常有害的，非常有毒。

I mean, I don't know, like I don't know any other words to describe, but they were just the worst types of questions that you could ask yourself when you are wanting to move into a new direction when you're wanting to take on a new project, when you're wanting to let's say, make a new career move or you're wanting to start a business or you're wanting to make a lifestyle change.

我的意思是，我不知道，就像我不知道有什麼其他詞語可以描述，但它們只是最糟糕的問題類型，當你想進入一個新的方向，當你想接受一個新的項目，當你想讓我們說，做一個新的職業發展，或者你想開始一個企業，或者你想做出一個生活方式的改變，你可以問自己。

If you ask yourself these two particular types of questions, the way that I was asking myself those questions and as often as I was asking those questions, they will slow you down so much to the point where they might even stop you from doing anything altogether.

如果你問自己這兩類特別的問題，我問自己這些問題的方式和我問這些問題的頻率，它們會使你的速度大大降低，甚至可能使你完全停止做任何事情。

And I want to bring awareness to what those questions are.

而我想讓大家意識到這些問題是什麼。

So let me give you a little bit of a back story.

是以，讓我給你講講背景故事。

My son has a story book called The Little Blue Truck, it was given to us by friends of ours and he loves reading that book at night or he wants me or my husband to read that book to him at night before he goes to bed and in the sea story there is one part of it where there's this character, a dump truck that shows up in little blue trucks world and he's saying, I have big important things to do, move out of the way and essentially what ends up happening is this dump truck, because he's moving so quickly, so swiftly, so aggressively on his path that he doesn't see that there is a curve in the road go ahead and in that curve where that bend is a huge mud puddle and he ends up getting stuck in the mud and eventually little blue truck has to come and help save him and all that stuff, but why that's so significant is because I was that dump truck getting stuck in the mud consistently because I felt like I want to make this shift, I want to talk to people about real things that I care about that I know are going to help them.

我兒子有一本故事書叫《小藍車》，是我們的朋友送給我們的，他喜歡在晚上讀這本書，或者他想讓我或我丈夫在晚上睡覺前給他讀這本書，在這個海洋故事中，有一個角色，一輛翻斗車出現在小藍車的世界裡，他說，我有重要的事情要做，讓開路，基本上最後的結果是這輛翻斗車，因為他走得太快，太迅速了。在他的道路上如此積極，以至於他沒有看到道路上有一個彎道，在那個彎道上有一個巨大的泥潭，他最終被困在泥漿中，最終小藍車不得不來幫助他和所有的東西，但為什麼這是如此重要，因為我就是那個被困在泥漿中的垃圾車，因為我覺得我想做出這種轉變，我想

I want to put myself out there again and in a different way and I was very methodical about it when I first sort of was playing with this idea, trying to strategically plan it, but nothing was happening.

我想再次把自己放在那裡，以不同的方式，當我第一次玩這個想法時，我非常有條不紊，試圖從戰略上規劃它，但什麼也沒有發生。

I hadn't recorded that video, I hadn't thought it through really as to what was my real purpose behind it.

我沒有錄製那段視頻，我也沒有想清楚，我背後的真正目的是什麼。

I just was just trying to implement steps for myself and none of those steps really, even if I tried taking those steps, they didn't go anywhere.

我只是在努力為自己實施步驟，而這些步驟都不是真的，即使我試圖採取這些步驟，也沒有任何進展。

I was stuck in the mud and the reason why I was stuck in the mud was because as I was trying to plan, being very serious about it, I caught myself in a web of questions and in a web of self doubt and anxiety and fear and low confidence and all those things that we experience when we're about to make a change.

我陷入了泥潭，而我陷入泥潭的原因是，當我試圖計劃，非常認真地計劃時，我陷入了問題之網，陷入了自我懷疑、焦慮、恐懼和信心不足以及所有這些我們在即將做出改變時經歷的事情。

So what are those two questions that I kept asking myself that were causing me to get stuck in the mud?

那麼，我一直問自己的那兩個問題是什麼，導致我陷入了泥潭？

The first question is what if blank?

第一個問題是如果空白怎麼辦？

What if negative situation occurs?

如果發生負面情況怎麼辦？

What if worst case scenario occurs?

如果發生最壞的情況怎麼辦？

What if this bad thing happens?

如果發生這種壞事怎麼辦？

I mean they're all essentially the same question, but is what if and what if not in a good way?

我的意思是它們本質上都是同一個問題，但如果和如果不是一個好的方式，是什麼呢？

What if in a bad way?

如果以一種不好的方式呢？

Something happens?

發生了什麼事？

So in my case, what if people think I'm crazy, What if people say really bad things about me or what if it actually just goes nowhere?

所以在我的情況下，如果人們認為我瘋了，如果人們說我非常糟糕的事情，或者如果它實際上只是沒有任何進展怎麼辦？

What if no one resonates with what I have to say?

如果沒有人對我說的東西產生共鳴怎麼辦？

I mean it's not so bad.

我的意思是，這並不是那麼糟糕。

If no one resonates fine, whatever move on.

如果沒有人產生共鳴很好，不管怎樣，繼續前進。

But the other things where if what if people really have an angry reaction to me being who I am?

但其他的事情是，如果人們真的對我的身份有憤怒的反應怎麼辦？

Obviously that wasn't the case, but that was what was going through my head.

顯然，情況並非如此，但這是我腦子裡的想法。

And when we ask ourselves these, what if questions, when you ask yourself these questions, what if this goes wrong?

而當我們問自己這些，如果問題，當你問自己這些問題時，如果這出了問題怎麼辦？

What if this doesn't work out?

如果這不成功呢？

What if I fail?

如果我失敗了怎麼辦？

What ends up happening is that you ask yourself a whole bunch of questions that you don't even have the answers to, you only have control over what you do, how you do it and your pure intentions, you have control over those, but you have no control over what happens and how people react.

最終發生的情況是，你問自己一大堆問題，你甚至沒有答案，你只能控制你做什麼，如何做，以及你的純潔意圖，你可以控制這些，但你無法控制發生的事情和人們的反應。

And the problem with us as human beings is that we think we have control over everything.

而我們人類的問題是，我們認為我們可以控制一切。

And so that's why we ask ourselves these What if questions because we think if we ask ourselves these, what if questions somehow we'll have an answer to resolve those questions and the truth is we don't what if your house burns down tomorrow?

是以，這就是為什麼我們問自己這些 "如果 "的問題，因為我們認為如果我們問自己這些 "如果 "的問題，我們會有一個答案來解決這些問題，而事實是我們沒有，如果你的房子明天被燒燬怎麼辦？

That is a real scenario that could potentially happen.

這是一個有可能發生的真實情況。

But are you gonna actually sit today here right now and actually plan for that worst case scenario what you're gonna do if in case your house burns down?

但你是否打算今天就坐在這裡，為最壞的情況做計劃，如果你的房子被燒燬，你會怎麼做？

No you're not going to do do that.

不，你不會這樣做的。

I mean it sounds ridiculous, doesn't it?

我的意思是這聽起來很荒謬，不是嗎？

But this is what we do to ourselves.

但這就是我們對自己的做法。

We sit and we plan or we think we're planning by asking these questions for what could potentially happen.

我們坐下來，我們計劃，或者我們認為我們在通過問這些可能發生的問題來計劃。

The worst case scenario that could potentially happen because we think it will give us a sense of control.

有可能發生的最壞情況，因為我們認為這將給我們帶來一種控制感。

And I've experienced this quite a bit actually with my um my coaching clients and they're about to apply for jobs.

實際上，我在我的教練客戶中經歷過不少這樣的事情，他們即將申請工作。

They start asking the questions of, oh but what if they don't like this resume or what if they don't like these answers that I give or what if they don't ask the same question that I'm preparing for?

他們開始問這樣的問題：哦，但是如果他們不喜歡這份履歷，或者他們不喜歡我給出的這些答案，或者如果他們不問我準備的同樣的問題怎麼辦？

Or what if what if what if what if what if and like I say you have no control over how people react and what they'll do?

或者萬一萬一，萬一萬一，就像我說的，你無法控制人們的反應和他們會做什麼？

You only have control over what you do and how you feel about it and your intentions about it.

你只能控制你所做的事情，以及你對它的感覺和你對它的意圖。

So when then what do you do if you're in this web of what if questions it's not enough to just say I'm going to stop.

是以，當你處於這個如果問題的網絡中時，你會怎麼做，僅僅說我要停下來是不夠的。

I'm just gonna stop telling myself to ask these, what if questions because that's not going to work, It's just like when you tell your toddler to stop playing with that sharp object because you told them to stop playing with it, of course they want to play with it.

我只是要停止告訴自己要問這些，如果的問題，因為那是行不通的。這就像你告訴你的孩子不要再玩那個尖銳的東西，因為你告訴他們不要再玩了，他們當然想玩了。

It's your mind works the same way.

這是你的思想以同樣的方式工作。

So it's not enough to say just stop thinking about it.

是以，僅僅說停止思考是不夠的。

Instead you're going to turn inwards and you're going to ask yourself, why am I asking myself these questions?

相反，你要向內轉，你要問自己，為什麼我在問自己這些問題？

Where did I learn this pattern of thinking from?

我從哪裡學到這種思維模式的？

I can tell you right now, it's likely from your upbringing somewhere in childhood, someone older than you in your family would ask you, Well, what if this happens, what if that happens, what if that happens or they were in that sort of pattern mindset and you witnessed that and you learned that behavior from them and you learned to fear the worst case scenarios from them.

我現在就可以告訴你，很可能是在你童年的某個成長過程中，家裡比你年長的人會問你，嗯，如果這個發生了怎麼辦，如果那個發生了怎麼辦，或者他們是那種模式化的心態，你目睹了這一切，你從他們那裡學到了這種行為，你從他們那裡學會了對最壞情況的恐懼。

It was learned.

據瞭解。

Now you have to unlearn it, you have to ask yourself where did this come from?

現在你必須解開它，你必須問自己這是從哪裡來的？

Where did I pick up on this pattern?

我是從哪裡學來的這個模式？

Who taught me how to do this?

誰教我這樣做的？

And you know, it's not about blaming anybody that sort of passes this behavior, this pattern onto you and they just happen to be caught up in this exact same pattern that you're in now and you happen to have been exposed to it.

你知道，這並不是要責備那些把這種行為、這種模式傳給你的人，他們只是碰巧陷入了與你現在完全相同的模式中，而你碰巧接觸到了這種模式。

So don't blame them, just understand where it came from.

所以不要責怪他們，只要理解它的來源。

And when you can understand where it comes from this pattern of thinking, then you can say, okay, this is a learned behavior now that I know where it comes from, I've released myself a little bit from it.

而當你能理解它來自這種思維模式的時候，你就可以說，好吧，這是一種學習到的行為，現在我知道它來自哪裡了，我已經把自己從它那裡釋放了一點兒。

You'll actually notice a space between you and those.

你實際上會注意到你和那些人之間有一個空間。

What if questions, you'll notice that they don't have a hold on you as strongly as they did just maybe a few minutes before because you're actually facing them head on and then on top of that, if that doesn't work, let's just say which it should.

如果有問題，你會注意到，他們對你的牽制沒有幾分鐘前那麼強烈，因為你實際上是正面對著他們，然後在此基礎上，如果這不起作用，我們就說應該這樣。

But if that doesn't work, another thing to do is to then try to actually answer your what if questions.

但如果這不起作用，另一件要做的事是，然後嘗試實際回答你的如果問題。

So your what if question of what if this fails?

是以，你的萬一問題是，如果這個問題失敗了怎麼辦？

The likelihood is that if it fails, you're just gonna have to figure a way out of it.

可能的情況是，如果它失敗了，你就得想辦法解決。

If it fails, you'll figure it out.

如果失敗了，你會想辦法解決的。

That's the real answer.

這就是真正的答案。

You'll pick yourself back up because if it fails, you're not gonna die, it's not the end of the world, you'll figure it out.

你會重新振作起來，因為如果失敗了，你不會死，這不是世界末日，你會想辦法解決。

And so hopefully that gives you comfort.

是以，希望這能給你帶來安慰。

Okay, so what if questions that those are a killer, they slow you down.

好吧，那麼如果問題，那些是一個殺手，他們拖累你。

They keep you stuck in the mud and they will slow down your progress from reaching the goal that change that new direction that you want to head in second type of question you may be asking yourself that also keeps you stuck in the mud like that dump truck is the question of what will people think of me?

它們使你陷入泥潭，它們會減緩你的進展，使你無法達到改變你想要的新方向的目標，第二種類型的問題你可能會問自己，也使你像那輛垃圾車一樣陷入泥潭，那就是人們會怎麼看我的問題？

That was a huge question that I struggled with.

這是一個讓我糾結的巨大問題。

Not so much.

沒有那麼多。

Well, no, this time around for sure.

嗯，不，這次是肯定的。

But also even before I ever started on Youtube, I had those questions running through my mind.

但是，即使在我開始在Youtube上工作之前，我的腦海中也有這些問題。

What are people gonna think of me?

人們會怎麼看我？

They're gonna think I'm crazy.

他們會認為我是個瘋子。

That's generally the answer.

這通常是答案。

They will think I'm crazy.

他們會認為我是個瘋子。

And the thing is, is if you care and put a lot of value on what other people think of you, you end up consuming all of your energy, your time, your effort, your brain power, your emotions, your spiritual essence.

問題是，如果你關心並把很多價值放在別人對你的看法上，你最終會消耗你所有的精力、時間、努力、腦力、情感、精神本質。

I mean, I don't even know how to describe everything about you, gets consumed in that in thinking about what other people think.

我的意思是，我甚至不知道如何描述關於你的一切，在思考其他人的想法時被消耗在這一點上。

I have to tell you something about that these other people that you're concerned about, they are currently all walking on their unique paths dealing with their unique pains, their unique traumas, they're unique issues.

我必須告訴你一些事情，你所關心的這些其他人，他們目前都走在他們獨特的道路上，處理他們獨特的痛苦，他們獨特的創傷，他們是獨特的問題。

And so they're within your circle, your community, your family, your group of friends, the people that you're worried about.

所以他們就在你的圈子裡，你的社區，你的家庭，你的朋友群，你所擔心的人。

But they're all coming from different directions and walks of life.

但他們都來自不同的方向和各行各業。

And what that means is that when people are coming from all different directions and different walks of life with different mindsets and different behaviors and different patterns of thinking and different emotional states, they're all going to have a different opinion, they're all going to think differently and just like I talked about before we happen to think as humans that we have control over so much.

而這意味著，當人們來自各個不同的方向和不同的生活領域，有著不同的心態和不同的行為，不同的思維模式和不同的情緒狀態，他們都會有不同的意見，他們都會有不同的想法，就像我之前談到的，我們碰巧認為作為人類，我們可以控制這麼多。

We have no control over every single person's opinion because every single person's opinion is going to differ and vary based on their own perceptions, their own beliefs about themselves.

我們無法控制每一個人的意見，因為每一個人的意見都會根據他們自己的看法、他們對自己的信念而有所不同。

The way that they're going to see you is a reflection of how they see themselves.

他們看你的方式是他們看自己的方式的反映。

Take note of that when you are showing up authentically as who you are, the way that they're reacting to you is a direct reflection of actually how they feel about themselves.

請注意，當你以真實的身份出現時，他們對你的反應是直接反映了他們對自己的感受。

There is something within them that they're either seeing or not seeing and that's the reaction that you're getting.

他們內心有一些東西，他們要麼看到，要麼沒有看到，這就是你得到的反應。

Just reflect on that when you have a moment, that person is going through their own stuff.

當你有時間的時候就反思一下，那個人正在經歷他們自己的事情。

And so for them, it just feels really good to offload some of that negative energy that they're carrying on to somebody else and you just happen to be in their line of target in a more simpler world.

是以對他們來說，把他們所攜帶的一些負能量卸給別人感覺真的很好，而你恰好在一個更簡單的世界裡成為他們的目標。

We would say that they were jealous, it's like a defense mechanism.

我們會說，他們是嫉妒，這就像一種防禦機制。

You just say that somebody else is jealous and you kind of feel better about it.

你只是說別人在吃醋，你有點感覺好了。

But it's really it's an insecurity, jealousy stems from insecurities, insecurity stems from pain from being hurt from feeling not good enough from feeling not valuable, not worthy.

但這其實是一種不安全感，嫉妒源於不安全感，不安全感源於痛苦，源於被傷害，源於感覺不夠好，源於感覺沒有價值，不值得。

They want to offload that negative energy because they can't carry it.

他們想卸下這些負能量，因為他們扛不住了。

There's only so much pain a person can carry before they start to show that they're carrying this pain when they show it it comes out in anger.

一個人只能揹負這麼多的痛苦，然後他們開始表現出他們揹負的這種痛苦，當他們表現出這種痛苦時，就會以憤怒的方式表現出來。

It comes out in Snide remarks, Snide comments, they show you that they're unhappy with themselves, and then you think, you know, you end up feeling like you just gave me this negative comment, or you just gave me this this this negative energy.

它表現在冷嘲熱諷中，冷嘲熱諷，他們向你表明他們對自己不滿意，然後你想，你知道，你最終會覺得你剛剛給了我這個負面的評論，或者你剛剛給了我這個這個負面的能量。

I don't like you as a person, but you don't realize that beneath that there is pain there.

我不喜歡你這個人，但你沒有意識到，在那下面有痛苦。

And so when you can understand that depth to a person, when you go a little bit deeper beyond the they're just not a nice person, you'll recognize that there is something more there.

是以，當你能理解一個人的深度時，當你在他們不是一個好人之外再深入一點時，你會認識到那裡有更多東西。

And then what ends up having the understanding of that, that they're in a really tough place, that they're acting out, that negative energy that they're feeling.

然後最終有什麼理解，他們在一個非常艱難的地方，他們的行為，他們所感受到的那種負能量。

It becomes empowering, you see them differently, and when you can see that and feel that in sense that from them and understand them.

它變得有力量，你以不同的方式看待他們，當你能看到和感覺到，從他們那裡感覺到，並理解他們。

Then, all of a sudden the pain that you felt from that criticism that you're received, it goes away, it doesn't bother you let me recap, Okay, the two damaging types of questions that are holding you back from making progress in your life, from making progress from that career change from that new direction shift that you want to go on.

然後，突然間，你從收到的責備中感受到的痛苦就消失了，它不再困擾你了，讓我來回顧一下，好的，這兩個破壞性的問題類型阻礙了你在生活中取得進展，阻礙了你在職業變化中取得進展，阻礙了你想去的新方向轉變。

What if negative situation occurs, scenario type of questions, worst case scenario questions and what will people think of me?

如果發生負面情況怎麼辦，情景類問題，最壞情況下的問題，人們會怎麼看我？

They are actually quite powerful because they are bringing awareness to you, that it's time to turn inwards and then what you're going to find, at least that's what I found is that a space opens up, a space opens up between me and those questions.

它們實際上是相當強大的，因為它們給你帶來了意識，是時候向內轉了，然後你會發現，至少我發現的是，一個空間打開了，一個在我和這些問題之間打開的空間。

Instead of investing all my time, emotional mental energy into wondering about the answers for those or questioning myself with those questions.

而不是把我所有的時間、情感精神能量都投入到對那些答案的思考中，或者用那些問題來質疑自己。

A space opens up where I don't ask myself those questions and instead you still ask yourself what if but it's a what if this amazing result could happen?

一個空間打開了，我不問自己這些問題，相反，你仍然問自己如果，但這是一個如果這個驚人的結果會發生的問題？

What if this possibility, this beautiful possibility comes true?

如果這種可能性，這種美麗的可能性實現了呢？

What if it can be beyond my wildest dreams?

如果它能超越我最瘋狂的夢想呢？

You start thinking along those lines, you start feeling into a more loving, warm, safer space within yourself and you're able to then move forward with your goals with your dreams, with your passions, feeling at ease.

你開始沿著這些思路思考，你開始感覺到自己內心有一個更有愛、更溫暖、更安全的空間，你就能夠朝著你的目標、你的夢想、你的激情前進，感覺很自在。

So that is what I've worked on and I would say I'm feeling quite good about where I'm at with having made these realizations within myself over these last several years and months and that is what I want to share with you today.

是以，這就是我所做的工作，我想說，在過去幾年和幾個月裡，我對自己內心的這些領悟感覺相當好，這就是我今天想與你們分享的內容。

If you're feeling stuck, you're feeling like you're trapped, check yourself out, see if you are asking yourself these questions and then do the work process it.

如果你感覺被卡住了，你感覺你被困住了，請檢查一下自己，看看你是否在問自己這些問題，然後做工作處理。

Then you'll open yourself up to that space and you can move forward with more ease.

然後你會打開自己的空間，你可以更輕鬆地向前邁進。

That's all I have to say now.

這就是我現在要說的一切。

Thank you so much.

非常感謝你。

I really hope that helps looking forward to seeing how this resonates with you.

我真的希望這有幫助，期待看到這與你有什麼共鳴。