It's something that most people are uncomfortable talking about, right?

這是大多數人都不願意談論的事情，是吧？

But sex is an important part of being human, not just in our romantic relationships, but in the relationship with ourselves as well.

但性是人類很重要的一個部分，不僅限戀愛關係中，我們與自己的關係也是如此。

Understanding our sexual needs and desires can help us understand ourselves better and better connect with our partners if we're willing to share our needs with them.

瞭解自身的慾望能幫助我們更好地瞭解自己，而如果我們願意與伴侶分享自己的慾望，兩人也能更加緊密聯繫。

But some of us struggle with our sexual needs.

但是有些人會為此掙扎。

Some people might actively try to push away their sexual nature to avoid it.

有些人可能會刻意對避自己的本性。

And suppressing our sexual needs can lead to some difficulties within ourselves and in our relationships

壓抑性需求會導致我們自身和人際關係出現問題。

Are you struggling with connecting to your own sexual side?

你是否為自己的性需求而困擾掙扎呢？

Here are five signs that you may be suppressing your sexual needs.

以下是五個表明你可能正壓抑自己性需求的跡象。

Number one, you find it difficult to understand sexual boundaries.

一，難以理解性愛上的界線。

Sex is a very intimate act, but it's still one that requires boundaries.

性是一種非常親密的行為，但它仍然需要設立界線。

You need to be able to communicate with your partner what you're okay with and what you're not.

你得與伴侶溝通什麼是你可以接受的，什麼不行。

If you're suppressing your sexual needs, you might find it difficult to communicate what you need,

如果你正壓抑性需求，你可能會發現自己很難說出想要什麼，

or you might find it difficult to object when you don't like what someone's doing.

或者某人正在做你不喜歡的事情，而你卻難以拒絕。

Similarly, your partner needs to be able to communicate that with you too, and trust that you will respect their boundaries.

同樣，你的伴侶也需要與你溝通，並相信你會尊重他們設下的的界線。

Suppressing your sexual needs may make it difficult to understand where the boundary line is.

壓抑性需求時，你可能會難以理解邊界線在哪。

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全世界的心理健康狀況都在大幅下降，這就是為什麼我們如此致力於創造更多的影片內容。

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加入我們的任務，幫助我們分享影片吧。

Thanks for being a part of our journey.

感謝你成為我們的助力。

Number two, you're afraid of what others might think of your desires.

第二，害怕別人對你慾望的看法。

You might find it difficult to communicate with partners about your sexual needs because you're afraid of what they'll think of you if they hear your desires.

你可能很難與伴侶交流性需求，因為你擔心他們聽到你慾望後的想法。

This might be true even if your sexual needs aren't to extreme or maybe you're afraid that voicing your needs will hurt your partner or their ego.

即使你的需求不是很極端，這情況也可能發生，又或者你擔心說出你的需求會傷害伴侶的自尊心。

It's okay to be nervous when you're opening up to your partner about your desires.

當你向伴侶敞開心扉談論你想要什麼時，緊張很正常。

But remember, if you're in a safe consensual relationship, your partner should want to hear what you need to feel sexually satisfied.

但請記住，如果你處於一段安全、雙方合意的關係中，那麼你的伴侶應該會想聽你在性生活中想要什麼。

And they should want to help if they can.

而如果情況允許，他們也應該會願意配合。

Number three, you often feel frustrated or tense.

三，往往會感到沮喪或緊張。

An important part of sexual urges is also a release.

性衝動很重要的一個部分是，它是種釋放。

This might be an orgasm or it could just be a connection to yourself and your partner.

可能是高潮，也可能只是你與自己和伴侶的聯繫。

But suppressing or attempting to ignore our sexual needs can lead to us feeling irritated, frustrated, or even tense as we don't get the release that we need.

但是壓抑或試圖忽視性需求會導致惱怒、沮喪，甚至緊張，因為無法得到所需的釋放。

Having an orgasm releases lots of happy chemicals such as dopamine and oxytocin.

性高潮會釋放出許多讓人快樂的化學物質，例如多巴胺和催產素。

Suppressing your sexual needs and not being able to have that release may lead to feelings of physical tension or emotional frustration.

壓抑自己的性需求，無法釋放可能會導致身體緊張或情緒沮喪。

Number four, you feel confused about your body, mind, and desires.

第四，對自己的身體、思想和慾望感到困惑。

Suppressing your sexual needs can also make it hard to understand your desires.

壓抑性需求也會致使自己難以理解自身慾望。

You might find your body responding to sexual stimuli while your mind feels negatively or disgusted by anything remotely sexual.

你可能會發現自己的身體對性刺激有反應，但心裡卻對任何與性有關的事感到消極或厭惡。

Or you may take on the sexual needs and desires of your partner, but not explore your own.

或者，你可能會滿足伴侶的性需求和慾望，但卻不探索自己的需求與慾望。

These difficulties can and leave you feeling confused about your sexual nature and desires.

這些阻礙會讓你對自己天生的性慾望感到困惑。

This is why it can be important to explore our sexual desires in a safe environment.

這就是為什麼在安全的環境中探索我們的性慾是很重要的。

Number five, your sexual desires can feel more urgent and don't go away.

第五，你的性慾變得更加迫切，且不會消失。

Trying to suppress something doesn't always make it go away.

試圖壓抑某事並不總能讓它消失。

Sometimes it makes things worse.

有時這會讓事情變得更糟。

Or in trying to suppress your sexual needs, you might actively try to avoid sexual thoughts too.

或者在試圖壓抑自己性需求時，你也可能會積極地試圖避開性相關念頭。

And forcing yourself to not think of something usually just makes you think of it more.

強迫自己不去想某事，通常只會讓你更常去想。

So, in your efforts to force your sexual needs and thoughts away, you might be doing just the opposite.

所以，強迫自己避開性需求和想法，可能只會適得其反。

When we suppress our sexual needs we're essentially trying to deny a part of ourselves that we think might be bad or shameful or come from feelings of guilt.

當我們壓抑我們的性需求時，我們基本上是在試圖否定自己覺得壞或可恥的那部分，也可能是源於內疚感。

This may come from religious beliefs or more conservative households.

這可能源於宗教信仰或保守家庭觀念。

Our sexual needs are neither bad nor shameful.

我們的性需求既不壞也不可恥。

And in exploring and addressing our own sexual needs, we can improve our sex lives, especially if we're willing to open up to our partner about them,

而透過探索和解決自己的性需求，我們可以改善性生活，特別是如果你願意向伴侶敞開心扉，

when we're comfortable with it, of course.

當然是你感到安全，願意說的話。

But remember, you're not alone when it comes to having sexual needs and desires, and having them doesn't make you strange or wrong.

但請記住，當談到有性需求和性慾時，你並不是一個人，擁有這些感受不代表你很奇怪或犯了錯。

It's just another part of being human.

這只是人類的一部分。

Can you relate to any of this?

你有共鳴嗎？

If so, share with us in the comments if you're comfortable.

如果有，請在評論區與我們分享，如果你願意的話。

The references and studies used are listed in the description below.

所用的參考文獻和研究報告在下面描述欄。

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如果你覺得這個視頻有幫助，別忘了訂閱、分享和按讚這個影片。

Thanks for learning and growing with us, and see you in the next video.

謝謝你與我們一起學習和成長，下次見！