Many of us would initially respond with things like, "someone tall" or "I like green eyes."

我們很多人最初會回應像是「很高的人」，或是「我喜歡綠色眼睛。」等回應。

Well, what about those times you look at people you've liked in the past and thought to yourself, "But they don't all look alike."

你是否有過看著你過去喜歡的人，然後對自己說：「但他們看起來跟之前並不完全一樣。」的時候？

Or you've encountered someone who seems to be your ideal in every single way on paper but you meet them and wonder, "who are you?"

或者你遇到了一個人，他的各個面向似乎都是你的理想型，但你真的遇到他們時會心想：「你是誰？」

The answer to that mystery is that attraction is based on three things: you consider them approachable, believe in positive factoids about them and if they make you feel good.

這個謎團的答案是，吸引力基於三件事：你認為他們平易近人、相信關於他們的正面事實、以及他們是否讓你感覺良好。

If the trifecta is incomplete, this could lead to not being attracted to the person, no matter how Hollywood-esque that smile is.

如果這三個面向不完整，可能會導致你不被這個人所吸引，無論對方的笑容多麽像個好萊塢明星。

Here are six psychological things that make you less attractive.

以下是六種會降低你的吸引力的心理因素。

Number one, being sleep deprived.

第一，睡眠不足。

No matter how much caffeine you sewll, sleep deprivation takes a toll on everything.

無論你喝了多少咖啡，睡眠不足都會對一切造成影響。

This could ruin the first impression meeting with someone.

這可能會毀掉第一印象。

When you first meet someone, you have a limited amount of information to decide your next steps.

當你第一次見到某人時，你只有有限的信息來決定你的下一步。

Should you get closer or should you back away slowly.

是該靠近一點還是慢慢遠離。

As humans, we rely on sight initially to give us that quick initial assessment.

作為人類，我們一開始都是依靠視覺來進行快速的初步評估。

So if you show up looking like a haggard potato, your selfie or Instagram buddy potential isn't the only thing that's less-than-stellar.

所以如果你看起來很憔悴，那麼你的自拍或 Instagram 並不是唯一重要的東西，

Other attraction factors like the appearance of health and trustworthiness also take a hit.

其他吸引力因素，像是健康和值得信賴的外表，也會受到打擊。

Number two, body smell.

第二，體味。

Fabio is one thing and there are plenty of products and methods to avoid it but ever think about a similar body odor.

Fabio 是一回事，有很多產品和方法可以避免它，但想想類似的體味。

This goes deep and comes from your DNA.

這深入人心，來自於你的D。N. A.

We have something called a major histocompatibility complex or MHC.

我們有一種叫做主要組織兼容性複合體或MHC的東西。

They're a group of genes that do coding to help out the immune system and they influence body odor.

它們是一組做編碼幫助免疫系統的基因，它們影響身體的氣味。

So bathing yourself in cologne doesn't change anything.

所以用古龍水給自己洗澡並不能改變什麼。

Studies have found that women were more attracted to men with dissimilar MHCs to their own.

研究發現，女性對具有不同MHC的男性更有吸引力。S對他們自己的。

This is hypothesized to encourage gene variability, thus a stronger immune system.

據推測，這將鼓勵基因的變異性。是以，一個更強大的免疫系統。

Number three, excessive focus on appearance.

第三，過度關注外觀。

Hey, we're all into looking good and feeling good.

嘿，我們都喜歡看起來很好，感覺很好。

You do you and love yourself for it, just don't let it go overboard.

你做你的，併為此愛你自己。只是不要讓它過頭了。

Sure, initial encounters are strongly influenced by physical attractiveness but that's fleeting.

當然。最初的接觸受到身體吸引力的強烈影響，但這是短暫的。

No matter how much about hottie they appear to be, if all they care about is their self image, that becomes a repulsing factor.

不管他們看起來有多大的熱心腸。如果他們所關心的只是他們的自我形象。 這就成了一個令人厭惡的因素。

It's true that in the end, we need substance and if all we're getting is air, we're howdy.

誠然，最終我們需要物質，如果我們得到的只是空氣。

Number four, not being humble.

我們是奧迪四號，當你得到一場勝利時，不要謙虛。

When you get a win, do you crow that it was all you that you're just legendary and single handedly did it all?

你是否認為這都是你的功勞，你只是傳奇，單槍匹馬地完成了這一切？

Or do you credit those who helped you, like friends, teachers, family and maybe even that one cashier who would stay five minutes late every shift just to make sure you could get some food at the end of the night?

或者你會歸功於那些幫助過你的人，如朋友、老師、家人，甚至可能是那個會遲到5分鐘的收銀員。每一班都只是為了確保你在晚上結束時能得到一些食物的謙卑。

Humility, so known as a modest view of oneself, was found to help not only start but maintain romantic relationships with humble partners being scored as more attractive than arrogant ones.

也被稱為謙虛的自我看法被發現不僅有助於開始，而且有助於維持浪漫的關係，謙虛的伴侶被打分認為比傲慢的伴侶更具吸引力？

So although we like to contribute for the good of the cause, we still want to be acknowledged for our part, whether it be a project or a partnership.

是以，儘管我們喜歡為事業做出貢獻，但我們仍然希望自己的部分得到認可，無論是項目還是合作關係，如果這種認可被篡改，在信用卷軸上只有他們的名字，我們往往會感到被欺騙、被背叛或被利用，第五條過於微笑或過於驕傲與前一點有關。

If that recognition is usurped where it's only their name on the credit reel, we tend to feel cheated, betrayed or used.

Number five, overly smiley or too proud.

Related to the previous point, this is all about how you hold yourself or appear in pictures.

這都是關於你如何持有自己或在照片中出現的問題。

If you love pompous, puffed out and arrogant or over smiley, it gives the same vibe as not being humble.

如果你喜歡華而不實、振振有詞、傲慢無禮或過度微笑，就會給人一種不謙虛的感覺。

This type of nonverbal expression implies that perhaps that smile can't be trusted and that pride may override the well-being of anyone other than themselves.

這種類型的非語言表達暗示，也許那個微笑不能被信任，而且驕傲可能會凌駕於除他們自己以外的任何人的福祉之上。

And number six, contractive body language.

而第六項簽約的肢體語言烏龜很可愛，但這是因為它們是烏龜，你是人類。不要試圖龜縮自己。

Turtles are cute, but it's because they're turtles, you're a human. Don't try to turtle yourself.

It was found in a study between several universities that people become more attractive when their posture and bodily display are more expansive, like open arms and a non-hunched back. It singles welcome.

在幾所大學的研究中發現，當人們的姿勢和身體展示更加寬廣，如張開雙臂和不駝背時，會變得更有吸引力。

The opposite of that, contractual body language, like crossing your arms and legs and hunching over decreases desirability.

這是單打獨鬥，歡迎與之相反的契約性肢體語言，比如交叉手腳和駝背會降低可取性。

This is conveying a message of don't come close and closing myself off from you.

這是在傳達一個資訊：不要靠近，把我自己與你關閉，所以如果你想歡迎別人進來，就去把你的身體放進去。

So if you want to welcome people in, go ahead and put your body into it.

We used to think attraction equals physical beauty, but we know now that attraction is a complex thing involving the whole person, inside and out flaws and all

我們過去認為吸引力等於身體上的美貌，但我們現在知道，吸引力是一個複雜的東西，涉及整個人，裡面和外面的缺陷和所有這些東西。

which of these things have you noticed in yourself or others?

你是否在自己或他人身上注意到？

Have you tried changing anything and how did it work out?

你有沒有試著改變任何東西？那麼結果如何呢？

We'd love to see you get into some good conversation below, and if we could humbly ask for a like, that would be super appreciated.

我們希望看到你在下面進行一些良好的對話，如果我們能謙虛地請求你的喜歡，那將是超級感激的。

Thanks for watching and catch you next time.

謝謝觀看，下次再會。