What do you believe makes a relationship healthy?

你認為什麼能使一段關係健康？

How do you tell when a relationship begins to turn toxic relationships should be nurturing and balanced To make a relationship work?

你如何判斷一段關係開始變成有毒的關係，應該是培養和平衡的，以使一段關係順利進行？

Both parties should be willing to do their best, even if your best means having to make compromises.

雙方都應該願意盡力而為，即使你的盡力意味著必須做出妥協。

It's also just as important to know when not to make compromises.

同樣重要的是，要知道何時不做妥協。

If you have certain standards, you have them for a reason.

如果你有某些標準，你有這些標準是有原因的。

Here are eight relationship behaviors you should never accept number one, A lack of trust.

以下是你永遠不應該接受的八種關係行為，第一，缺乏信任。

Do they become extremely jealous at the slightest matter?

他們會不會因為一點小事就變得非常嫉妒？

Are they constantly comparing themselves to your social circle?

他們是否經常將自己與你的社交圈進行比較？

Nobody's perfect.

沒有人是完美的。

But if this happens all the time, it can be quite draining on you.

但如果這種情況一直髮生，就會對你造成相當大的壓力。

If they don't ever trust you, you have to constantly reassure your partner about your loyalty.

如果他們不曾信任你，你必須不斷向你的伴侶保證你的忠誠度。

If they breach your own privacy without your consent, Like constantly going through your phone or checking all your private text messages, That's really unfair to you and it's not okay, period.

如果他們在未經你同意的情況下侵犯你自己的隱私，比如不斷翻看你的手機或檢查你所有的私人簡訊，這對你真的不公平，這是不可以的，就這樣。

Number two.

第二。

Extreme cleanliness.

極端清潔。

Do they always ask where you're going?

他們是否總是問你要去哪裡？

Do you need to report where you are, what you're doing every hour or so?

你是否需要每隔一小時左右報告你在哪裡，你在做什麼？

There's nothing wrong with communicating your whereabouts by any means.

通過任何方式傳達你的行蹤都沒有錯。

But it can become super tiresome if you're always being asked on a repetitive loop, it's important to have your own time away from your partner, even when things are going well.

但是，如果你總是被重複性地要求，就會變得超級令人厭煩，重要的是要有自己的時間離開你的伴侶，即使事情進展順利。

If both parties don't have their own space in the relationship that's not healthy.

如果雙方在關係中都沒有自己的空間，那就不健康了。

One of you.

你們中的一個。

If not both may feel a loss of identity, even if you live together, your partner still needs to respect your space and vice versa so far do any of these behaviors sound familiar to you?

如果沒有，雙方都可能感到身份的喪失，即使你們住在一起，你的伴侶仍然需要尊重你的空間，反之亦然，那麼到目前為止，這些行為中是否有你熟悉的？

If so, what do you plan to do next?

如果是這樣，你接下來打算怎麼做？

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We know that being in a relationship like this can be tormenting, which is why we're more determined than ever to help people avoid toxic relationships and build healthier ones.

我們知道，處於這樣的關係中可能是一種折磨，這就是為什麼我們比以往任何時候都更堅定地幫助人們避免有毒關係並建立更健康的關係。

If you support our cause, liking this video and subscribe and decide to go would help us a lot.

如果你支持我們的事業，喜歡這個視頻並訂閱並決定去，將對我們有很大的幫助。

So thank you and keep watching because we have six more important behaviors you should look out for.

所以謝謝你，並繼續關注，因為我們還有六個重要的行為，你應該注意。

Number three, avoiding responsibilities.

第三，迴避責任。

Are they unwilling to lend a hand with chores?

他們是否不願意幫著做家務？

Do they hesitate to plan a future with you?

他們是否對與你一起計劃未來感到猶豫？

Relationships are all about give and take if you're working all the time and they're not, that can be a problem.

關係是關於付出和回報的，如果你一直在工作，而他們沒有，這可能是一個問題。

They expect you to do everything for them without being thoughtful of your needs.

他們希望你為他們做一切，而不考慮你的需要。

They don't own up to their mistakes and they get defensive pretty quickly.

他們不承認自己的錯誤，而且他們很快就會有防備。

In times of crisis they don't show you any support or even offer a shoulder to cry on they distance themselves to avoid you.

在危機時刻，他們不會給你任何支持，甚至不會提供一個可以哭泣的肩膀，他們會疏遠你，以避免你。

And the situation number four gaslighting, Are you unsure if they're manipulating you?

而第四種情況是氣話，你是否不確定他們是否在操縱你？

Gaslighting is to manipulate a person by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.

煤氣中毒是通過心理手段操縱一個人，使其對自己的理智產生懷疑。

They make you feel shame and guilt over how you supposedly acted, particularly when no one else does.

他們讓你為你所謂的行為感到羞愧和內疚，特別是在沒有人這樣做的時候。

Gaslighting is very subtle and can easily warp a person's sense of self.

煤氣中毒是非常微妙的，可以輕易地扭曲一個人的自我意識。

They make you question your own judgment.

他們讓你質疑自己的判斷。

The more you hear hurtful things about yourself, especially coming from someone you love, the more you begin to believe them.

你越是聽到關於你自己的傷害性事情，特別是來自你所愛的人，你就越是開始相信他們。

It's one of the worst and most toxic things someone can do.

這是一個人可以做的最糟糕和最有毒的事情之一。

Number five constant lying.

第五種情況是不斷撒謊。

Does your partner lie?

你的伴侶會撒謊嗎？

Do you often find them in the middle of a lie?

你是否經常在謊言中發現他們？

Honesty is key in any relationship.

誠實是任何關係中的關鍵。

The stepping stone to trust when your partner is a compulsive liar, they may lie so often that they can't even keep their stories straight anymore.

信任的墊腳石當你的伴侶是一個強迫性的說謊者時，他們可能經常說謊，甚至不能再保持他們的故事。

That's totally unfair to you.

這對你完全不公平。

It's not a healthy environment for you to be in.

這對你來說不是一個健康的環境。

Sometimes people stay in unhealthy relationships because they believe that they can and will get better while sometimes that can be true.

有時人們留在不健康的關係中，因為他們相信他們可以而且會變得更好，而有時這可能是真的。

Most of the time though, if you're dating someone who lies a lot, chances are they always will.

不過大多數時候，如果你和一個經常撒謊的人約會，很可能他們總是會撒謊。

Number six super flakiness.

六號超級片狀物。

Are they always running late for your movie dates?

他們總是在你們的電影約會中遲到嗎？

Do they apologize to you or just brush it off?

他們是向你道歉還是拂袖而去？

Like it's no big deal to be fair.

好像這沒什麼大不了的公平。

People can sometimes be late.

人們有時會遲到。

It does happen.

它確實發生了。

Events can transpire and that's totally out of your control, but it is also necessary to make time for those that they care about.

事件會發生，這完全不是你能控制的，但為他們關心的人騰出時間也是必要的。

This includes keeping you in the loop if your partner has to cancel appearing at an event that you are both going to, they should let you know as soon as possible or are you waiting in agony for two or three hours with no reply, it's normal for people to not respond right away, but they should get back to you within a respectable amount of time.

這包括讓你瞭解情況，如果你的伴侶不得不取消出現在一個你們都要參加的活動中，他們應該儘快讓你知道，或者你在痛苦中等待了兩三個小時都沒有回覆，人們不馬上回復是正常的，但他們應該在一個可敬的時間內回覆你。

Number seven false accusations, disagreements and the occasional fight in a relationship can be healthy.

第七項錯誤的指責、分歧和關係中偶爾的爭吵可以是健康的。

But if they're in the habit of accusing you of things that you can never even imagine, this can be a major red flag accusations such as questioning your loyalty all the time.

但如果他們習慣性地指責你一些你根本無法想象的事情，這可能是一個重要的紅旗指責，比如一直質疑你的忠誠度。

Can be utterly soul destroying.

可以說是徹底的靈魂摧殘。

Oftentimes those who are guilty of something they know is wrong, will project it onto someone else.

很多時候，那些明知有錯的人，會把它投射到別人身上。

It's always a good idea to guard against such behavior.

防範這種行為總是一個好主意。

The most important thing to remember is that you need to stay true to yourself, even if they try gaslighting you into believing their version of the truth And number eight cheating.

最重要的是要記住，你需要保持對自己的真實性，即使他們試圖用氣體照明讓你相信他們版本的真相。

If you're ever cheated on, it's not your fault.

如果你曾經被欺騙，這不是你的錯。

Remember that if your partner cheats on you, that's about them.

記住，如果你的伴侶對你不忠，那是關於他們的。

Not you.

不是你。

Yes, It's hard to leave someone when you love them so dearly, no matter their flaws, But once you've been cheated on it takes a toll on your mental health.

是的，當你如此深愛一個人的時候，無論他有什麼缺點，都很難離開他，但是一旦你被欺騙，就會對你的心理健康造成傷害。

Your self worth can tank victims of cheating can be made to feel worthless.

你的自我價值可以坦克作弊的受害者會被弄得毫無價值。

You may ask yourself why you weren't ever good enough or what you did to deserve it.

你可能會問自己，為什麼你永遠都不夠好，或者你做了什麼才值得這樣。

It's what we do with those thoughts that matters.

重要的是我們如何處理這些想法。

You are not your thoughts, but you are your actions once a liar, Always a liar.

你不是你的思想，但你是你的行為，一旦是金光黨，永遠是金光黨。

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

一旦作弊，就永遠是作弊者。

If you feel safe and comfortable with your partner, it's important to be open and communicate.

如果你對你的伴侶感到安全和舒適，重要的是要開放和溝通。

Your thoughts and feelings.

你的想法和感受。

Trust and honesty go a long way.

信任和誠實可以走很長的路。

The right person makes you laugh and challenges you in a healthy way.

正確的人讓你笑，並以健康的方式挑戰你。

Of course, if you're not in a happy, healthy relationship, you can always reach out for help.

當然，如果你不在一個快樂、健康的關係中，你可以隨時伸出援手。

Those who love you care about you.

那些愛你的人關心你。

They just want what's best.

他們只是想得到最好的東西。

You should want the best for yourself to have you experienced any of these points mentioned, are you only just recognizing some of the problems.

你應該為自己想要最好的東西，以你是否經歷過上述任何一點，你是否只是認識到一些問題。

Feel free to leave a comment with your experience feedback or suggestions.

歡迎留下評論，提出你的經驗反饋或建議。

If you found this video helpful, be sure to hit the like button and share it with others too.

如果你覺得這段視頻對你有幫助，一定要按下喜歡按鈕，並與其他人分享。

Don't forget to subscribe to like to go and hit the notification bell for more new videos.

不要忘記訂閱喜歡去，並點擊通知鈴以獲得更多的新視頻。

Thanks for watching.

謝謝你的觀看。