How can you determine that?

你怎麼能確定呢？

Is there a test for it?

是否有一個測試？

An attractive personality refers to likability.

有吸引力的個性指的是可塑性。

It's simply impossible for everyone in the world to like you, but that doesn't mean you should throw away the chance to become someone better for yourself and for others you have good qualities as well as room for growth.

世界上的每個人都喜歡你是根本不可能的，但這並不意味著你應該放棄成為更好的人的機會，對於其他人來說，你有好的品質以及成長的空間。

But if you want to build an attractive personality, where should you start?

但如果你想建立一個有吸引力的人格，你應該從哪裡開始呢？

We have six tips in store for you to build an attractive personality.

我們為你準備了六個提示，以建立一個有吸引力的個性。

According to science.

根據科學的說法。

# one adopt a less talk more action mindset.

#一採取少說多做的心態。

Are you the type of person who complains a lot, venting is fine, according to Angela Grice, a speech language pathologist, venting can help us gain perspective and put words to our feelings.

你是那種經常抱怨的人嗎？發洩是可以的，根據語言病理學家安吉拉-格萊斯的說法，發洩可以幫助我們獲得觀點，並把我們的感受表達出來。

And the simple act of naming your feelings can help reduce your distress around them.

命名你的感覺這一簡單的行為可以幫助減少你在這些方面的困擾。

The problem comes when you start to negatively obsess over something.

當你開始消極地糾結於某件事時，問題就來了。

Are you constantly talking about it?

你是否經常談論它？

Are your friends getting tired of it negatively obsessing over something and not actually doing anything about?

你的朋友們是否已經厭倦了消極地糾結於某件事情而沒有實際行動的做法？

It can lead to a worse mood for you and those around you instead of resorting to complaining?

這可能會導致你和你周圍的人心情更糟，而不是訴諸於抱怨？

Try building a more optimistic resilient outlook on your problems when you have to do something, it's best to do it as soon as you can and do your easier or more urgent tasks first before moving on to another that way you feel productive which helps you feel better and more relaxed.

試著對你的問題建立一個更樂觀的彈性觀點，當你必須做某件事時，最好是儘快去做，先做你比較容易或比較緊急的任務，然後再去做另一個任務，這樣你就會覺得有成效，這有助於你感覺更好，更放鬆。

Also don't forget to take little breaks.

也不要忘了小憩一下。

Not only is it important but it can even boost your motivation.

這不僅很重要，而且甚至可以提高你的積極性。

Number two work on increasing your patients.

第二項工作是增加你的病人。

It's not easy to work under pressure when you're tired, irritated or anxious, it's more difficult to get things done.

當你疲憊、煩躁或焦慮時，要在壓力下工作是不容易的，更難把事情做好。

This is why people seem more attractive personality wise when they remain calm under pressure, you can be that person if you want to be.

這就是為什麼當人們在壓力下保持冷靜時，他們看起來更有人格魅力，如果你想成為這樣的人。

The secret is mindfulness.

祕訣在於心態。

Let's say you have to work with a person you find annoying.

比方說，你必須和一個你覺得討厭的人一起工作。

Would you try to avoid them at all costs or would you accept your situation and try to reframe your mindset?

你會試圖不惜一切代價避免它們，還是接受你的處境並嘗試重新構建你的心態？

A patient person is tolerant.

一個有耐心的人是寬容的。

They don't take themselves too seriously because they understand that everything will pass.

他們不把自己看得太重，因為他們明白一切都會過去。

So if you want to practice being more patient, you can try training yourself to be in the moment.

是以，如果你想練習更多的耐心，你可以嘗試訓練自己處於當下。

Ask yourself questions that can help you understand your emotions, avoid judging first and listen well.

問自己一些可以幫助你瞭解自己情緒的問題，先避免判斷，好好聽。

But remember patience is built over time, but you can do it number three.

但請記住，耐心是隨著時間的推移而建立的，但你可以做到第三點。

Practice selflessness.

實行無私奉獻。

Don't you appreciate when someone goes out of their way to help you.

當有人不顧一切地幫助你時，你難道不感激嗎。

Kindness is always attractive and being kind without asking for something in return even better according to Kara Lydon, a registered dietitian and nutritionist selflessness can lead to happiness because it helps you connect with others, quash your ego and act from your heart and soul.

根據註冊營養師和營養師卡拉-萊登（Kara Lydon）的說法，善良總是有吸引力的，不求回報的善良甚至更好，無私奉獻可以帶來幸福，因為它幫助你與他人建立聯繫，摒棄自我，從你的內心和靈魂出發行事。

Of course there is such thing as being too selfless and that's why it's good to understand your self worth.

當然也有過於無私的情況，這就是為什麼瞭解自己的自我價值是件好事。

But don't be afraid to give out kindness in the world in whatever way you can like through complementing a stranger, dipping a waitress or cooking for your parents, kindness is free, but the rewards you get from it are priceless.

但是，不要害怕以任何方式在世界範圍內發放善意，比如通過補充一個陌生人，浸泡一個女服務員或為你的父母做飯，善意是免費的，但你從中得到的回報是無價的。

Number four, nurture your self esteem, Are you at peace with your body and self?

第四，培養你的自尊心，你對自己的身體和自我感到平靜嗎？

If the answer is no or anything close to it, that's okay.

如果答案是否定的或接近否定的，那也沒關係。

Self love is an everyday battle.

自愛是一場日常戰鬥。

So take this as a reminder to not let the worst days win.

是以，請將此作為一個提醒，不要讓最糟糕的日子獲勝。

A person with high self esteem is confident and as we all know, confidence is attractive when somebody has true confidence in themselves.

一個有高度自尊的人是自信的，正如我們都知道，當某人對自己有真正的信心時，自信是有吸引力的。

We arrive at certain conclusions about their personality and lifestyle and it's good to remember that building self esteem is not a one time thing, It requires patience, exercising, eating better and being more productive are some ways to nurture your self esteem, but ultimately it requires a shift in mindset.

我們對他們的個性和生活方式得出某些結論，記住建立自尊心不是一次性的，這需要耐心，鍛鍊身體、吃得更好、更有成效是培養自尊心的一些方法，但最終需要轉變心態。

When you acknowledge yourself as a work in progress rather than something set in stone habits can change.

當你承認自己是一個正在進行的工作，而不是一成不變的東西時，習慣就會改變。

People grow at different paces, you are better than who you were a year ago, then you can certainly try your best to be better than who you were yesterday.

人的成長速度不同，你比一年前的你更好，那麼你當然可以盡力比昨天的你更好。

Number five treat, socializing as your friend, not your enemy.

第五項對待，把社交作為你的朋友，而不是你的敵人。

Do you enjoy mingling with other people?

你喜歡和別人打交道嗎？

Building an attractive personality refers to internal and external growth.

建立一個有吸引力的人格是指內部和外部的成長。

You start by creating better habits, having a better personal outlook helps determine how you present yourself to the world A.

你從創造更好的習慣開始，有一個更好的個人前景有助於決定你如何向世界展示自己A。

K.

K.

A socializing some people hate putting themselves out there and that's normal.

一個社交有些人討厭把自己放在外面，這很正常。

There are plenty of different personality types and there's room for all of them.

有很多不同的個性類型，所有的人都有空間。

But try to remember that it's not good to be stuck in your comfort zone forever.

但要努力記住，永遠停留在舒適區並不是好事。

Research has found that people who had higher levels of agreeableness or extroversion were also rated as more physically attractive.

研究發現，認同感或外向性水準較高的人也被評為在身體上更有吸引力。

Good communication skills are always helpful even for introverts.

良好的溝通技巧即使對內向的人也總是有幫助的。

At times.

有時。

It's good to set little challenges for yourself.

為自己設定小挑戰是件好事。

You can do it and number six train yourself to look on the bright side.

你可以做到這一點，第六，訓練自己看向光明的一面。

Never underestimate the power of an optimistic outlook.

永遠不要低估樂觀前景的力量。

According to dr medina, an affiliate professor of bioengineering at the University of Washington School of Medicine.

據華盛頓大學醫學院生物工程系副教授麥迪納博士說。

Optimism not only reduces stress but it also promotes the production of the neurotransmitter dopamine as you may know, dopamine makes you feel good.

樂觀不僅能減少壓力，而且還能促進神經遞質多巴胺的產生，你可能知道，多巴胺讓你感覺良好。

It increases your motivation and focus.

它能提高你的積極性和注意力。

You become more productive and start to see the better side of things which people find attractive when you're optimistic.

你會變得更有成效，並開始看到事情更好的一面，當你樂觀時，人們會發現它的吸引力。

You tend to bring people up not dampen their mood but it's not always easy being optimistic, especially if you haven't gotten used to that glass half full mindset and that's okay.

你傾向於把人帶起來，而不是打擊他們的情緒，但要樂觀並不總是容易的，特別是如果你還沒有習慣這種半滿的心態，那也沒關係。

Being optimistic takes time and you can take it step by step, a simple trick that you can do right now is putting on your positive lens.

樂觀需要時間，你可以一步一步來，你現在可以做的一個簡單的技巧是戴上你的積極鏡片。

Did anything happen today that put your mood down the drain?

今天有沒有發生什麼事讓你的心情一落千丈？

It may have been difficult but did you gain something from that experience what made you smile or feel better afterwards?

它可能很困難，但你是否從那段經歷中獲得了一些東西，使你微笑或事後感覺更好？

This is called positive Reframing.

這就是所謂的積極重構。

And this method of thinking can help you train your brain to become more optimistic, both in the short and long term and lastly be gentle with yourself.

而這種思考方法可以幫助你訓練你的大腦變得更加樂觀，無論是短期還是長期，最後是對自己溫柔。

You are unique and important and that in itself makes you attractive.

你是獨特和重要的，這本身就使你具有吸引力。

Do you consider yourself someone with an attractive personality if it doesn't feel like you're quite there yet, Which points do you think you could work on?

你認為自己是一個有魅力的人嗎？如果感覺你還沒有達到這個水準，你認為你可以在哪一點上下功夫？

There are plenty of benefits to being optimistic.

保持樂觀有很多好處。

And if you want to learn more about that comment below and if you like this video, remember to share it with friends.

如果你想了解更多相關資訊，請在下面評論，如果你喜歡這個視頻，記得與朋友分享。

As always the references and studies used are in the description below.

一如既往，所使用的參考資料和研究報告都在下面的描述中。

Until next time.

直到下一次。

Thanks for watching.

謝謝你的觀看。