It was about a husband who manipulated his wife by playing with the gas lights.

它關於一個丈夫通過玩弄煤氣燈來操縱他的妻子。

Nowadays, the term often refers to a serious psychological issue in which one person manipulates or abuses the thoughts and actions of another person, ultimately leading to a distortion of their reality.

如今，這個術語通常指的是一個嚴重的心理問題，即一個人操縱或濫用另一個人的思想和行動，最終導致他們的現實被扭曲。

Gaslighting can damage a relationship between two people, whether between friends, lovers or family.

煤氣燈操縱會損害兩個人之間的關係，無論是朋友、戀人還是家人之間。

Are you wondering if you're gaslighting someone without knowing it?

你想知道你是否在不知不覺中對某人進行了煤氣燈操縱嗎？

To give you more insight and reassurance, here are a few signs you are gaslighting someone, even if you don't mean to.

為了讓你更了解和確保，以下是你在對某人煤氣燈操縱的跡象，儘管你不是有意的。

Number one: Minimization.

第一：貶低。

One of the most common signs of gaslighting and the most dangerous is messing with the other person's feelings

煤氣燈操縱最常見也是最危險的就是擾亂一個人的感受。

When your friend is crying about her stolen backpack and you respond with, "You're exaggerating."

當你的朋友正在為她被偷的背包而難過時，你說：「你很誇張誒。」

Then that's a sign that you are minimizing your friend's feelings.

那麼那就是你在貶低他的感受。

Gaslighting will make the victim's feelings seem absurd and unjust, blaming them for being too sensitive and over-reactive.

煤氣燈操縱使受害者的感受顯得既荒謬又不合理，責怪他們太敏感和反應過度。

This will cause an emotional unbalance for the other person and they begin to question themselves and their sanity.

這將導致對方的情緒不平衡，令他們開始懷疑自己和他們的理智。

Number too: Distracting.

第二：轉移話題。

Your friend asks you about what you've done this weekend, but you shift the subject by asking about the way she said it.

你的朋友問你這個週做了什麼，但你卻轉移話題，問她說話的方式。

Do you often distract others this way?

你是否常以這種方式轉移話題？

This might not be an obvious sign of gaslighting, but it is a start.

這可能不是一個明顯的煤氣燈操縱跡象，但會是一個開始。

Many people like to hide details of their life from other people, maybe because they're embarrassed or they're afraid of jealousy, but gas lighters will distract you from your purpose, turning the tables around.

許多人喜歡向別人隱瞞自己的生活細節，也許是因為這他們感到尷尬，或害怕招來嫉妒，但煤氣燈操縱者會從你問問題的目的來轉移話題，讓自己成為主動的一方。

For example, when you ask why the lights were on when you left the house, a gas lighter will respond with something like "What's wrong with your memory lately?"

例如，當你問：「為什麼離開家時沒關燈」，煤氣燈操縱者會回說：「你最近的記憶力沒事吧？」

Number three: Lying.

第三、說謊。

And you surely have played the telephone game when you were a child, also known as transmission chain experiment in cultural evolution research.

小時候，你一定玩過電話遊戲，在文化演進研究中也被稱為連鎖傳輸實驗。

Information gets passed around a group, each person whispering what was said to them in the next person's ear and then revealed at the end.

小組間要傳送一個訊息，一個人小聲對另一個人說他們聽到了什麼，然後最終揭曉這個訊息。

Most often the truth gets distorted as the words get passed on.

大多數情況下，真相會隨著話語的流傳而被扭曲。

It's a funny game to play.

這是個有趣的遊戲。

However, gas lighters take it more seriously, incorporating it into everyday life by lying and distorting the truth.

然而，煤氣燈操縱者會真正做這件事，他們會在日常生活中藉由說謊來扭曲事實。

Do you lie to others often?

你常對別人撒謊嗎？

Lying can be about the simplest things, such as who switched the TV channel,

可能會為很簡單的事撒謊，比如誰把電視轉台，

but slowly, over time, these subtle little changes will create a big impact on the receiver's mental health, resulting in a distortion of reality.

但慢慢地，隨著時間，這些細微的小變化會對接受者的心理健康產生很大的影響，對真相產生扭曲。

Number four: Denial.

第四：否定。

"I don't remember." "That never happened."

「我不記得了。」「沒有發生過。」

These phrases are commonly used by gas lighters.

這些話是煤氣燈操縱者常說的。

They'll deny something happened or that they've done something wrong to tamper with the victim's memory.

他們會否認發生過的事情，或他們做錯的事，來篡改受害者的記憶。

This will cause the victim to feel ignored and their opinions unheard.

這使得受害者感到被忽視，他們的意見得不到傾聽。

In the future, the victim will not be sure what exactly happened.

受害者會不確定當時到底發生了什麼。

Was it real or were they just imagining it?

這是真的還是只是他們的想象？

Sometimes it really can be the case where you don't remember such a thing happening.

有時真的不記得有這樣的事情發生。

Maybe because you were drunk or maybe because you have a bad memory.

也許是因為你喝醉了，也許是因為你的記憶力不好。

But when you know what happened and deny it, then that is gaslighting.

但當你知道到底發生了什麼事卻還是否認它，那麼這就是煤氣燈操縱。

The number five: Isolation.

第五、孤立。

A gas lighter will often try to make the other person feel lonely and helpless by claiming that other people talk about them behind their back or that people don't like them.

為了讓另一方感到孤立無援，煤氣燈操縱者常會提起別人是怎麼在背後談論另一半的，又或是講起那些不喜歡另一半的人。

Gas lighters will isolate their victims, separating them from their family and friends by spreading false information.

煤氣燈操縱者通過講一些假資訊來孤立這些受害者，讓他們與他們的家人和朋友產生隔閡。

They may claim that, "Everyone thinks you're crazy."

他們可能會說，「大家都覺得你有病。」

In this way, the victim will believe that they have no one, and will therefore turn to and believe the gas lighter.

這樣一來，受害者就會認為沒有人是站在他們那的，因此就會相信和求助煤氣燈操縱者。

Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation in which the victim is made to believe that their thoughts and memories are incorrect.

煤氣燈操縱是一種心理上的控制，受害者會因而認為他們的想法是錯的，記憶是假的。

Sometimes people are not aware of their actions and the effects it has on others.

有時人們不知道自己的行為對他人的影響。

So it's important to take some time and get to know yourself.

所以花點時間瞭解自己是重要。

If you minimize the other person's feelings, distract them, lie about the truth, deny their statements and isolate them, then you are probably gaslighting them.

如果你貶低他人感受、轉移話題、扭曲真相、否定對方的想法並試圖孤立他們，他們很可能你就在煤氣燈操縱他們。