Please note that overlap is possible and likely in any of these relationship types.

請注意，在任何這些關係類型中，都有可能而且有可能出現重疊。

Number one narcissistic relationships, Have you ever felt that your partner rarely takes your feelings into consideration and everything they do is all about themselves, that they always undermine you and make you feel beneath them.

第一號自戀關係，你有沒有覺得你的伴侶很少考慮你的感受，他們所做的一切都是為了自己，他們總是削弱你，讓你覺得自己在他們之下。

Dr lisa Firestone, a psychologist and author has pointed out that if your partner is all about themselves, always needing attention and affirmation, they may be high in narcissistic traits.

心理學家和作家lisa Firestone博士指出，如果你的伴侶只顧自己，總是需要關注和肯定，他們可能具有高度的自戀特徵。

Many studies have shown that in a narcissistic relationship, your partner is more likely to engage in manipulative and game playing behaviors which are designed to keep you coming back to them.

許多研究表明，在自戀的關係中，你的伴侶更有可能從事操縱性和遊戲性的行為，這些行為的目的是讓你回到他們身邊。

These people usually have a difficult time loving someone else and lack the ability to feel empathy and genuine care for their partner's feelings.

這些人通常很難去愛別人，缺乏對伴侶的感受感同身受和真正關心的能力。

Number two controlling relationships.

第二，控制關係。

Does your partner want to have a say in everything you do?

你的伴侶是否希望對你做的每件事都有發言權？

Including your choice of clothes, your hairstyles, and even your daily schedule.

包括你對衣服的選擇，你的髮型，甚至你的日常日程。

In many relationships, it's normal for one partner to take on more of a leadership role than the other.

在許多關係中，一方比另一方承擔更多的上司角色是正常的。

However, it becomes problematic when one partner needs to have complete control and dominance over everything without considering their partner's feelings relationship and family.

然而，當一方需要完全控制和支配一切，而不考慮其伴侶的感情關係和家庭時，就會出現問題。

Counselor Val Holden has identified controlling as a type of abuse in relationships.

諮詢師瓦爾-霍爾登（Val Holden）認為控制是關係中的一種虐待。

People suffering from a controlling relationship usually feel intimidated insecure or guilty and emotionally abused by their partners.

遭受控制性關係的人通常會感到被恐嚇的不安全感或內疚，並在情感上受到伴侶的虐待。

Some signs of controlling relationships include overactive jealousy, invading personal boundaries and attempting to isolate you from your friends and families If these signs ever appear in your romantic relationship, it's important to take them seriously and to make sure you're safe and can leave if you need to number three Codependent relationships.

控制性關係的一些跡象包括過度的嫉妒，侵犯個人界限，並試圖將你與你的朋友和家人隔離 如果這些跡象曾經出現在你的浪漫關係中，重要的是要認真對待它們，並確保你是安全的，如果你需要，可以離開。

One in love.

戀愛中的人。

It's normal to depend on your partner more than you would with other people.

與其他人相比，你更依賴你的伴侶，這很正常。

But are you finding that you cannot live without your partner, that they do everything for you that you couldn't do yourself?

但你是否發現，你不能沒有你的伴侶，他們為你做了你自己無法做到的一切？

These are signs of codependency for behavioral health.

這些都是行為健康的依賴性的跡象。

A texas based mental health organization has defined this type of relationship as a kind of dysfunctional relationship where one person is a caretaker and the other person takes advantage.

德克薩斯州的一個心理健康組織將這種類型的關係定義為一種功能失調的關係，其中一個人是照顧者，而另一個人則是利用者。

It's worth noting that codependency can severely affect both sides of the relationship.

值得注意的是，依賴性會嚴重影響關係的雙方。

Not only the caregiver, just like drugs, Codependency is highly addictive and can be extremely destructive to your mental health.

不僅是照顧者，就像毒品一樣，依賴性是高度成癮的，對你的心理健康有極大的破壞性。

It allows one partner to sink deeper into the love addiction while forcing the other to sacrifice certain things in order to fulfill their partner.

它允許一方在愛的癮頭上陷得更深，同時迫使另一方為了滿足他們的伴侶而犧牲某些東西。

Fortunately, medical news today has found that taking small steps towards separation in the relationship, for instance, getting involved with a new hobby, friends or activity independently can help form a more positive and balanced connection with your loved one.

幸運的是，今天的醫學新聞發現，在關係中採取分離的小步驟，例如，獨立參與新的愛好、朋友或活動，可以幫助與你的夫妻形成一個更積極和平衡的聯繫。

Number four scorecard relationships, Give and take is a primary role in a healthy relationship in a good loving relationship where you both genuinely care about the others well being, you will find that offering and taking actions towards each other is enjoyable and delightful.

第四張記分卡的關係，給予和接受是健康關係中的一個主要角色，在一個良好的愛的關係中，你們都真正關心對方的福祉，你們會發現，對對方提供和採取的行動是愉快和令人高興的。

But have you ever noticed that your partner is always keeping track of what they're doing for you?

但是你有沒有注意到，你的伴侶總是在記錄他們為你做了什麼？

That if everything isn't perfectly 5050, they take an issue with it.

如果一切不是完美的5050，他們就會有意見。

This might be because they actually keep score of who contributes more in the relationship.

這可能是因為他們實際上在記錄誰在關係中的貢獻更大。

This action of scorekeeping seems like a normal thing to maintain the balance in a relationship.

這種記分的行動似乎是維持關係平衡的正常事情。

However dr Jeffrey Bernstein in his book, why can't you read?

然而，傑弗裡-伯恩斯坦博士在他的書《你為什麼不能閱讀？

My mind has pointed out that this type of behavior can be extremely destructive to your loving relationship.

我的思想已經指出，這種類型的行為會對你們的愛的關係產生極大的破壞性。

It nurtures negative feelings as your partner only focuses on what you're not doing versus what you are doing.

它培養了負面的情緒，因為你的伴侶只關注你沒有做的事情，而不是你正在做的事情。

Whenever this situation happens to you, it's best to resist the urge to defend yourself or counter attack.

每當這種情況發生在你身上時，最好是剋制住自衛或反擊的衝動。

Instead, you can have an open conversation with your partner.

相反，你可以與你的伴侶進行公開對話。

If they really love you, they will listen to your feelings and give you guys a chance to reconnect and reboot and number five abusive relationship.

如果他們真的愛你，他們會傾聽你的感受，給你們一個機會重新聯繫，重新啟動和第五號虐待關係。

And lastly, the most dangerous type of toxic relationship is when one is being physically or emotionally abusive to the other, according to kids health, a nonprofit mental health organization, abuse means treating someone with violence, disrespect, cruelty, harm or force and when someone treats their partner in any of these ways, it's called an abusive relationship, abusive relationships can be physical, sexual or emotional or it could be all of these, it's not always obvious to realize that you're in an abusive relationship and it's common for the victim to believe that it's their own fault and that they somehow deserve the abuse.

最後，最危險的有毒關係類型是當一方對另一方進行身體或情感虐待時，根據非營利性心理健康組織兒童健康的說法，虐待意味著以暴力、不尊重、殘忍、傷害或武力對待某人，當某人以任何這些方式對待他們的伴侶。虐待關係可以是身體上的、性上的或情感上的，也可以是所有這些，並不總是很明顯地意識到你處於虐待關係中，受害者通常認為這是他們自己的錯，他們在某種程度上應受到虐待。

This type of relationship can coincide with any of the other types and be difficult to get out of.

這種類型的關係可能與其他任何類型的關係重合，並且難以擺脫。

However, it is important to know that you are never to blame for any abusive behaviors from your partner.

然而，重要的是要知道，你永遠不會因為你的伴侶的任何虐待行為而受到責備。

Some emotionally abusive relationships look perfectly normal on the outside, abusers come in all forms and can be anyone.

一些情感虐待的關係在外面看起來非常正常，虐待者有各種形式，可以是任何人。

It's important to remember that there are people who can help you every step of the way.

重要的是要記住，每一步都有人可以幫助你。

If this situation ever happens to you, If you're feeling threatened and harmed in your relationship, it's best to seek help from someone you trust and explore other options that can get you out.

如果這種情況曾經發生在你身上，如果你在你們的關係中感到受到威脅和傷害，最好向你信任的人尋求幫助，並探索其他可以讓你擺脫困境的選擇。

Loving is all about bringing you joy and happiness, not sorrow, pain and fear.

愛是為了給你帶來快樂和幸福，而不是悲傷、痛苦和恐懼。

Getting out of a toxic relationship with someone you are deeply in love with might seem impossible.

與你深愛的人走出一段有毒的關係，可能看起來不可能。

But often you will find the other side to be brighter than what you could imagine if you're dealing with a toxic partner.

但往往你會發現，如果你面對的是一個有毒的伴侶，另一面會比你能想象的更光明。

There are a number of organizations that can offer you help and support, talk to someone you trust such as a friend counselor or youth worker.

有許多組織可以為你提供幫助和支持，請與你信任的人交談，如朋友的諮詢師或青年工作者。