I have so much laundry to do.

我有很多衣服要洗。

Hope she cancels, hope she cancels.

希望她會取消。

So much work to do. - I hope she cancels.

很多事情要做。- 希望他會取消。

So many emails to respond to.

很多電子郵件要回覆。

She canceled.

她取消了。

Friendships in my twenties were easy, there was an abundance of time for long walks, all day hangs, spontaneous adventures.

在我二十多歲的時候，維持友誼很容易，因為有很多的時間可以散步、整天閒逛、去冒險。

But as we get older and our Google Calendar increases its color coordination and responsibility,

但是隨著年齡的增長還有我們的 Google 日曆增加了工作事項和責任感，

it's getting harder and harder to have those kinds of luxurious hangs without intense planning and preparation.

如果沒有大量的計劃和準備，要奢侈的聚在一起變得越來越難。

What about Monday from 12:31:45?

星期一的 12:31:45 呢？

Could it be on the East side?

可以在東岸嗎？

Shit. I have to be in Santa Monica by 2:15. Thursday evening?

糟糕。我必須在星期四 2:15 前趕到聖莫尼卡。還是禮拜四晚上呢？

How late, I have a Zoom at eight.

太晚了，我八點有個 Zoom 會議。

Then we have to meet at nine and that's pumpkin time. My nighttime routine is essential not to activate insomnia.

那我們只能約九點，但那是我的睡覺時間了。 我晚上進行的活動不能害我失眠。

We could try the first weekend in September for a getaway.

我們可以試著在 9 月的第一個週末去度假。

That could work.

可能可以喔。

Yeah, that sounds great.

對啊，好主意。

Okay, great.

好的，太好了。

So 2023 September in the CAL.

那就在日曆上記 2023 年 9 月。

Perfect.

完美。

And these days, I feel like social media gives us a false sense of being close to people.

現在，我覺得社交媒體給了我們一種與人親近的錯覺。

You know, we often know what's happening with our friends because of their status updates rather than actual disclosures in person.

我們都知道自己的朋友的近況，但這是因為他們會不停更新動態，而不是當面的分享。

I'm engaged.

我訂婚了。

Fire emoji, fire emoji, fire emoji.

（按一堆火焰符號）

Meeting up now kind of feels like having a quickie, stealing away from our grown up lives for a down and dirty happy hour.

現在跟朋友見面都感覺匆匆忙忙忙的，像是從我們長大的生活中偷走一小段時間來度過虛偽的歡樂時光。

And something I found that has radically changed my friendship quality time while still letting me have a balanced life is what we call "twin time" or a "do as you do day".

我發現一些事情徹底改變了我跟朋友之間的寶貴時間，同時仍然讓我過著平衡的生活，這就是我們所說的「雙胞胎時間」或「做自己的一天」。

Mundane tasks like going to the grocery store together, taking the same workout classes or having work dates have allowed my best friends and I had to bond during our very busy lives.

一起去雜貨店、參加相同的健身課程或工作日小約一下等平凡的任務讓我和我最好的朋友在我們非常忙碌的生活中還是能保持聯繫。

And of course, you know, we'll still carve out the occasional happy hour, weekend trip or intentional hang that is fully devoted to quality time,

當然，我們仍然會偶爾空出歡樂時光、週末旅行或有意的閒逛，這些都是完全投入到寶貴時間的，

but we've taken the pressure off and just fully leaned into friendships that allow us to be casual and disjointed and go with whatever flow life takes us through.

但我們已經卸下了壓力，完全依靠友誼，讓我們變得隨意和脫節，隨波逐流。

Okay, so how about Michelle you drive and then we'll drop you off at the doctor's office. - Perfect.

Michelle，你開車，然後我們載你到醫生那裡。- 完美。

We'll work on our laptops nearby until we're ready to pick you up and then go to CVS. - Love it. I have my shopping list.

我們會在附近用筆電工作，直到我們準備好去接你，然後前往 CVS。 - 太讚了。 我的購物清單準備好了。

Okay. And then you two will take me to my video session and then you'll wait and work.

好的。然後你們兩個會帶我去我的視訊會議，然後你們就邊等我邊工作。

So many emails. I just got seven more.

好多電子郵件。剛剛又收到七封。

Okay, and then we'll get massages and drinks because we earned it.

然後我們去按摩和喝一杯，因為我們值得。

And more often than not when we have twin time and do these errands together, I found that we often stumble into more adventures.

通常，當我們有雙胞胎時間並一起做這些差事時，我發現我們經常會遇到更多冒險。

Like last Christmas, Michelle and I went to go drop off this Christmas gift to a guy's house.

就像去年聖誕節一樣，Michelle 和我把一個聖誕禮物送到某個人家裡。

I had dated him but I wasn't dating him anymore, but I bought him this like very specific jacket that was like tailored to his body and I couldn't return it,

我和他約會過，後來沒有了，但我給他買了一件非常特別的夾克，就像是為他量身定做的，而且我不能退貨，

so I was like, let's just bumble on over there together 'cause I know he's out of town.

所以我當時想，那我們就一起去他家吧，因為我知道他不在城裡。

And we were talking and Michelle was like, "I think you should stay in the car just in case."

我們在聊天，Michelle 說：「我覺得你應該待在車裡面，以防萬一。」

I was like, okay, so we Facetime, and she went to drop off the gift, and lo and behold, on his doorstep, he showed up.

我當時想，好吧，所以我們用 Facetime 視訊，她去送禮物，結果沒想到，他出現在他家門前。

And we were on Facetime and I just hear his voice go hi and then Michelle's really high voice goes hi and then on Facetime, I say "xxxx" really loud, so she hangs up on me, I duck into the passenger seat.

我們還在 Facetime 視訊，我聽到他說嗨，然後 Michelle 用很高的聲音說嗨，然後在 Facetime 上，我大聲說「xxxx」，所以她掛斷了電話，我躲進了副駕位子。

Michele power walked around the building, jumped into the car, we both screamed and drove away.

Michele 很快地繞著大樓走出來，跳進車裡，我們都尖叫著開走了。

It was like a really great adrenaline rush.

這真的是很強烈的腎上腺素激增。

And then we called Melissa.

然後我們打電話給 Melissa。

Oh my God, we just ran into Jade.

我的天，我們剛剛遇到 Jade。

Whoa! Where?

哇！哪裡啊？

In front of his house.

在他家門口的地方。

You know, it was like stupid and obvious and not coincidental at all when I'm telling it,

這很蠢，又很明顯完全不是巧合，

but to us, it was prime adventure time out of a boring, mundane, errand.

但對我們來說，這是遠離無聊、平凡、差事的最佳冒險時間。

And a lot of our fun wild moments have been birthed from doing these errands together. That just needed to get done, made into a prime adventure by the company we kept.

我們很多有趣的瘋狂時刻都是從一起做這些差事中誕生的。就是一些需要完成事情，卻能跟我們保持聯繫的夥伴一起將其變成大冒險。

I'm Anna Akana and thank you the Patreon who supported today's video.

我是 Anna Akana，感謝支持今天影片的贊助者。