How has this last week been?

過去這週過得怎麼樣？

Don't you already know?

你不是已經知道了嗎？

'Cause I'm all-knowing?

因為我無所不知？

Yes.

對。

Yes.

沒錯。

So, last week you were trying to figure out if Adam was the one.

上週你試圖弄清楚亞當是否是你對的那個人。

Yes, but I have been journaling my own answer to that question. Just like you told me.

對，我一直有在記錄我對這個問題的答案，就像你叫我做的那樣。

How's it going?

進展如何？

Well, three things came to me.

首先，我感受到了三件事。

First off, that Adam is really good at communication.

第一、亞當真的很善於溝通。

Whether we're just having, like, a fun conversation or discussing our feelings, or we're navigating conflicts.

無論是在進行有趣的對話、討論感受，還是解決紛爭。

Babe, I really think that we should eat this.

寶貝，我真的覺得我們應該吃這個。

God said it wasn't chill babe. And you know I'm terrified of authority figures.

寶貝，上帝說這樣做不酷，而且你知道超怕權威人士。

We shouldn't operate out of fear, right babe?

我們不應該受恐懼控制呀，不是嗎，寶貝？

We don't know what... We don't know and don't you want to know?

我們不知道… 我們不知道會發生什麼事，難道你不想知道嗎？

I don't know, babe.

我不確定，寶貝。

I like it here in paradise.

我喜歡天堂。

And plus, that snake looks sass.

再加上那條蛇看起來很有來頭。

What if the forbidden fruit shows us that there's places beyond here that we could explore?

那如果吃禁果可以讓我們了解，這裡之外還有可以探索的地方呢？

I totally support you, babe, and whatever you want to do, babe.

我完全支持你，無論你想做什麼，寶貝。

But I had to draw a clear boundary.

但我必須劃出一個明確的界限。

Okay, babe I'm sorry to keep fighting about this.

好吧，寶貝，很抱歉我一直為這個問題爭吵。

I get it, babe, you're passionate. I do. I totally get it.

我了解，寶貝，你很有熱忱。我懂，我完全明白。

But let's table this and come back to it later when we're more regulated, okay, babe?

但我們先把這個放一邊，等我們更有規劃的時候再來討論好嗎？

Absolutely. Every relationship is gonna have conflict.

沒錯，每段關係都會有衝突。

The important thing is to know how to fight.

重要的是要知道正確的爭吵方式。

And if you and Adam want kids eventually, you'll want to model healthy conflict for them.

而且如果你和亞當最終想要孩子，你會想為他們樹立健康的衝突模式。

Yeah.

是的。

Otherwise they'll just kill each other.

否則他們只會自相殘殺。

Yes.

是的。

Yes. Unfortunately, they will.

沒錯，不幸的是，他們會。

What?

什麼？

Hmm? What else?

嗯？你還意識到什麼？

Well, the second thing I realized is that we're both really aligned.

我意識到的第二件事是，我們倆思想真的很一致。

We have the same wants in life.

我們在生活中有同樣的渴望。

We're going in the same direction.

我們正朝著同一個方向前進。

We have compatible value systems.

我們價值觀契合。

Okay. Well, if we moved out, where would you want to live?

好吧，如果我們搬出去，你想住在哪？

Anywhere without bugs, babe.

沒有蟲子的地方，寶貝。

I'm really sick of all these bugs everywhere, babe.

真的很討厭到處都是蟲子。

Yes, yes.

是的，沒錯。

When we often ask ourselves, how do I know if this person is the one we're making it an "I" experience when it's not, it's a "We".

我們經常問自己「怎麼知道這個人是不是對的人」，這時我們就只著重於自己，但這其實是兩個人的事。

It's something we are building together with the other person.

一段關係需要雙方共同建立。

A two person experience from one rib.

來自一根肋骨的雙人體驗。

Yes, yes, recycling. You'll need it.

對，沒錯，回收再利用，你之後會需要的。

So what was the final thing you realized?

那麼，你最後意識到的是什麼呢？

Well, the last thing was actually something that Adam said.

嗯，最後一個其實是亞當說的。

I told him that I was having trouble figuring out if he was the one, or just the only one in Eden.

我告訴他，我不清楚他是否是我的真命天子，還是只是伊甸園裡只有他一個可以選。

Are you mad at me babe?

你在生我的氣嗎，寶貝？

Of course not, babe.

當然沒有，寶貝。

It's a totally reasonable question to think through.

這是問題完全合理。

I asked myself the same question.

我也會問自己同樣的問題。

You have?

真的嗎？

Yeah, babe.

沒錯，寶貝。

And, how I know you're the one?

那我怎麼知道你就是對的那個人？

It's hard to describe it, but it's a sense that I can be myself completely around you.

這很難解釋，但它是一種感覺，我在你身邊可以完全做自己。

The pretty parts, the ugly parts, and you accept me, babe.

不論是光鮮亮麗的，還是醜陋的部分，你都接受我，寶貝。

And the core of our relationship, our foundation, is friendship.

而我們關係的核心基礎，是友誼。

One where we're both able to be free and safe around each other.

我們都能在對方身邊感到自由和安心。

That is beautiful, babe.

這話好美，寶貝。

Look, babe.

寶貝，

If you want to eat this forbidden fruit, I'll do it with you.

如果你想吃禁果，我會和你一起。

Really, babe?

真的嗎？寶貝。

Yeah, babe.

真的，寶貝。

If it's important for you to have this experience together, to grow together, then as your person, I'll do it.

如果體驗這個對你來說很重要，你想一起成長，那麼作為你的人，我會這樣做的。

Babe.

噢，寶貝。

So you ate the apple?

所以你吃了那個蘋果？

Yes.

對。

And in eating from the Tree of Knowledge we realized we are the ones for each other.

而吃了智慧果之後，我們意識到我們的是彼此對的人。

That's wonderful, Eve.

太棒了，夏娃。

So, are you gonna kick us out?

所以你要把我們趕出去嗎？

Well, that's all the time we have left for today.

好，我們今天的時間就到這。

Let's revisit this next week.

下週再來討論這個問題。

Same time?

一樣的時間嗎？

Sounds great.

聽起來不錯。

Bye.

再見。

Ready the rain.

準備降雨。

I'm Anna Akana.

我是Anna Akana。

Thank you to the patrons who supported today's video, and thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring today's episode.

感謝支持今天視頻的贊助人，也感謝 BetterHelp 贊助今天的節目。

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心裡諮商對於掌控生活中的掙扎是必不可少的，不管是自己的掙扎親人的經歷的苦難。

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BetterHelp 會為你匹配專屬持牌諮商師，你可以在 48 小時內開始使用專業諮詢。

Professional counseling that is done securely online with a broad range of expertise.

這些專業諮詢是在線上安全進行的，且諮商師們具有廣泛專業知識。

BetterHelp has more than 15,000 counselors in their network that otherwise may not be locally available in many areas.

BetterHelp 擁有超過 15,000 名諮詢師，這是別的地方找不到的。

You can log into your account anytime, and send a message to your counselor, plus schedule a weekly video or phone session.

你可以隨時登錄帳號，向你的輔導員發送信息，並安排每週的視訊或電話諮詢。

BetterHelp offers more affordable access than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.

與傳統諮商相比，BetterHelp 提供了更實惠的方案，而且他們有提供補助。

They want to help you start living a happier and more fulfilled life today.

他們想幫助你從今天開始過上更快樂、更充實的生活。

You can go to betterhelp.com/akana, that's better H.E.L.P.

現在就上 betterhelp.com/akana，拼寫是 better H.E.L.P.

And join the over one million people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional, go to betterhelp.com/akana to sign up today, and get 10% off your first month.

加入超過一百萬人行列，在有經驗的專業人士的幫助下掌控自己的心理健康，今天就上 betterhelp.com/akana 註冊，領取第一個月九折折扣。