And though we all have preconceived notions about a couple like this, What does the science say about age gap or may december relationships.

雖然我們都對這樣的情侶有先入為主的觀念，但科學上對年齡差距或可能是12月的關係有什麼說法。

My own parents have an 11 year age gap.

我自己的父母有11歲的年齡差距。

I have personally dated men younger than me the same age as me and up to 15 years older.

我個人曾與比我年輕的男人約會，與我同齡的也有，最多的比我大15歲。

Most of the women I've dated, however, have been roughly around the same age, but I can definitely feel how the age of my partner affects many aspects of our role relationship.

然而，我約會過的大多數女性都大致在同一年齡段，但我絕對能感覺到我的伴侶的年齡是如何影響我們角色關係的許多方面。

Cultural references, mindset level of maturity.

文化參考，心態的成熟程度。

So age gap relationships generally refer to a 10 year or more difference in age and they very often involve an older man partnered with a younger woman.

是以，年齡差距關係一般指的是年齡相差10歲或更多，它們通常涉及一個年長的男人與一個年輕的女人合作。

Only 1% of age gap couples involve an older woman partnered with a younger man and all cultures demonstrate the age gap couple phenomenon.

只有1%的年齡差距夫婦涉及年長女性與年輕男性的合作，所有文化都顯示出年齡差距夫婦的現象。

Some african countries have a larger average about 30 Percent, whereas across Western countries, only about 8% of all married heterosexual couples are classified as large age gap.

一些非洲國家的年齡差距較大，平均約為30%，而在整個西方國家，只有約8%的已婚異性夫婦被歸類為年齡差距較大。

There's very limited research or evidence on same sex age gap couples.

關於同性年齡差距夫婦的研究或證據非常有限。

But what we do have suggest that the rates are actually much higher.

但我們所掌握的情況表明，該比率實際上要高得多。

25% of male male unions and 15% of female female unions demonstrate the large age gap.

25%的男性聯姻和15%的女性聯姻顯示了巨大的年齡差距。

Now for the purposes of this video, I'm only going to refer to the studies found between adults.

現在，為了這個視頻的目的，我只想提到在成年人之間發現的研究。

So not young adults in age gap relationships or marriages and young adults would be like 25 or younger because for the most part, those studies show really negative results with a high rate of exploitation.

是以，在年齡差距的關係或婚姻中，不是年輕的成年人，年輕的成年人會像25歲或更年輕，因為在大多數情況下，這些研究顯示出真正的負面結果，剝削率很高。

Now obviously there's some inherent issues that could happen in an age gap relationship where the male is older, depending on the socioeconomic status of both partners, they're just more likely to be power dynamics at play in favor of the man, which is probably where the stigma of adult age gap couples comes from.

現在，顯然有一些固有的問題可能發生在男性年齡較大的關係中，這取決於雙方的社會經濟地位，它們只是更有可能是有利於男性的權力動態，這可能是成年年齡差距夫婦的恥辱的來源。

And that stereotype assumes that these relationships don't have great outcomes, that they're exploitative, that they won't inherently work due to genera operational differences or just plain old power and balance on the negative side.

而這種刻板印象假設這些關係沒有很好的結果，它們是剝削性的，它們不會因為代際操作的差異或只是普通的權力和消極方面的平衡而內在地發揮作用。

Some studies show that age gap relationships can come with more depression, symptoms, higher mortality rates for the younger partner, higher mortality rates for the woman regardless of who is the younger counterpart in the couple and a higher rate of intimate partner violence.

一些研究表明，年齡差距的關係可能伴隨著更多的抑鬱症、症狀，年輕的伴侶死亡率更高，無論夫婦中誰是年輕的對應方，女性的死亡率都更高，親密伴侶暴力的發生率也更高。

Though it's very important to note that that study was done in Nigeria, so I'm not sure how that tracks globally, but I was really surprised to find some studies such as this one have found that the relationship satisfaction reported by age gap couples is actually the highest reporting greater trust commitment and less jealousy than similar age couples.

儘管需要注意的是，這項研究是在尼日利亞進行的，所以我不確定在全球範圍內如何跟蹤，但我真的很驚訝地發現，一些研究，如這項研究發現，年齡差距的夫婦報告的關係滿意度實際上是最高的，報告說比同齡夫婦有更大的信任承諾和更少的嫉妒心。

So over three quarters of these couples report satisfying romantic partnerships and studies have also disproved the Aceh that younger women in these relationships have daddy issues or attachment issues and it's interesting a factor that actually negatively impacts age gap couples, is their perception of social disapproval.

是以，超過四分之三的這些夫婦報告了令人滿意的浪漫伴侶關係，研究也推翻了這些關係中的年輕女性有父親問題或依戀問題的說法，有趣的是，實際上對年齡差距夫婦產生負面影響的一個因素，是他們對社會不認可的看法。

So if one or both of the partners feels like particularly subjected to community disapproval or they think like their friends or their family don't like their relationship.

是以，如果伴侶中的一方或雙方感到特別受到社會的不認可，或者他們認為像他們的朋友或家人不喜歡他們的關係。

The risk of breaking up increases and this pressure and judgment from the outside world affects both heterosexual and same sex couples equally.

分手的風險增加，這種來自外部世界的壓力和評判對異性和同性夫婦的影響是一樣的。

But if a couple is not susceptible to social disapproval, this rejection actually strengthens their commitment.

但如果一對夫婦不容易受到社會的反對，這種拒絕實際上會加強他們的承諾。

It's sort of like the Romeo Juliet effect.

這有點像羅密歐-朱麗葉效應。

You want to stick it to the montagues and the capulets of the world and show them that they're wrong and look obviously studies on this coupledom are limited and nothing can predict how to unique people will operate in an independent relationship and a lot of the psychological studies done about age gap marriages and relationships aren't taking into consideration the motivations of each partner, the intent of Entering into the relationship or even separating how big of an age gap are these two people displaying.

你想把它貼到世界上的蒙塔格和卡普雷特身上，讓他們知道他們是錯的，顯然關於這種夫妻關係的研究是有限的，沒有什麼可以預測獨特的人將如何在獨立的關係中運作，很多關於年齡差距的婚姻和關係的心理學研究沒有考慮到每個夥伴的動機，進入這種關係的意圖，甚至分開這兩個人顯示的年齡差距有多大。

Plus there's something to be said about just like falling in love with a person regardless of gender race.

此外，還有一些東西可以說，就像愛上一個人，不分性別種族。

Age as long as over 25 though, because consent is imperative.

不過年齡只要超過25歲就可以了，因為同意是必須的。

You guys, I'm an icon in thank you.

你們這些傢伙，我是一個圖標，感謝你們。

The patrons who supported today's video and you guessed it.

支持今天視頻的贊助人，你猜對了。

Thank you to daddy squarespace for sponsoring today's episode Daddy squarespace makes it easy for creators to monetize their content and expertise in a way that fits their brand.

感謝daddy squarespace贊助今天的節目 daddy squarespace讓創作者以適合自己品牌的方式輕鬆實現其內容和專業知識的貨幣化。

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是以，通過會員區，你可以為你的業務開闢一個新的收入來源，並通過出售對視頻、在線課程、新聞簡報、占星評級等門類內容的訪問權來釋放你的時間。

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再加上在線預訂和安排，使客戶比以往任何時候都更容易安排課程、會議、占星讀數，他們可以很容易地獲得你的空閒，並可以在線重新安排時間。

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所以你不必處理協調日曆的問題。

If you make a content like myself and or are an astrologer that makes video content.

如果你像我一樣做一個內容，或者是一個做視頻內容的占星師。

They have video studio now, so you can create pro level videos effortlessly and their app helps you make and share engaging content.

他們現在有視頻工作室，所以你可以毫不費力地創建專業水準的視頻，他們的應用程序幫助你製作和分享有吸引力的內容。

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是以，你可以為你的閱聽人講述你的故事，並推動銷售。

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你去squarespace dot com進行免費試用，每當你準備推出時，就去squarespace dot com slash ana，使用代碼anna，首次購買網站或域名可獲得10%的折扣。