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Man: I'm just going to be in the green room in the back

男士：表演結束後，若你真的想要說什麼

if you really want to talk about some, after you're done.

我會在舞台後的休息室喔

Chen Lizra: Just give me the clicker.

Chen Lizra: 趕快給我PPT遙控器

Man: OK. Got your clicker here.

男士：好啦，給你

Thank you.

謝啦

Whoo!

挖喔

Man: Really?

男士：真的假的

CL: I guess you don't need coffee now, do you?

CL：我想你現在不需要喝咖啡了，是吧

Man: Well, right.

男士：好吧好吧

CL: My name is Chen Lizra.

CL：我叫Chen Lizra

I'm a dancer, author and an entrepreneur.

我同時是個舞者、作家，以及企業家

I started my talk with a seductive dance

我以誘惑人的舞蹈開始我的演說

because I want you to first feel the seduction,

因為我想要讓妳們感受到被誘惑的感覺

to get you -- kind of -- to gut level.

讓你們--有點--超出理性

I'm fascinated with seduction, but not just with the dance and the movements,

我著迷於誘惑之道，但不限於舞蹈動作

but also with how you can bring it in a practical way into day-to-day life.

而是在於如何將誘惑融入日常生活

Since 2005, I've been travelling back and forth to Cuba

我從2005年開始來來往往古巴

in order to train with the best professional dancers.

和專業的舞者一起訓練

This is when I first started seeing seduction as a valuable life skill.

這是我第一次開始認知到誘惑是個重要的生活技能

I'm so fascinated with seduction,

我深深著迷於誘惑之道

but mostly because it's such a playful fun thing.

但大部分是因為誘惑本身很好玩

I truly believe that everyone has the power to seduce in them,

我相信每個人都有能力去又誘惑他人

we just need to unleash it.

我們只是需要釋放這股力量

And I also believe that we need to develop this skill

而我也相信我們需要從小就發展這項技能

from a very young age, so it can help us

如此誘惑就可以幫助我們

become a lot more successful in life.

獲得更大的成功

So let's examine seduction for a second,

讓我們觀察一下誘惑之道到底是什麼

and let's take a look at our perception of seduction,

讓我們了解一下我們對誘惑的感受

what it all means.

它到底代表什麼意思

When we first hear the word "seduction",

一聽到誘惑這兩個字

we have a lot of misconceptions.

我們會有許多誤解

The word has been sexualized so many times

這個字大多數時候都被色情化

that we can't even imagine it as a positive skillset.

我們根本無法想像誘惑是正向的技能

We typically associate seduction with something negative,

通常我們講到誘惑都會聯想到負面的東西

because we consider it the less honest or acceptable form of influence.

因為我們認為誘惑是不誠實的或是難以令人接受的力量

People who are easily seduced

輕易就被誘惑的人們

to some degree feel manipulated into the situation.

會覺得自己在情境之下被操控了

When we think of gender roles, it's not even a question

換到性別角色的話 這個例子更明顯

that men are permitted a lot more freedom than women to seduce.

男人比起女人有更多自由去誘惑

And when we think of work and seduction,

當我們想到工作和誘惑

we merely go to sleeping your way to the top and being unprofessional.

我們就直接就想到，和高層睡在一起，不專業的工作倫理

You know how people say, some people say that money's bad,

你知道有些人說金錢不好

but the money itself is not bad, right?

但金錢本身其實不壞，對吧

It comes down to money gives you power,

細看之下其實是金錢給人權力

and power can be used for good and for bad;

而權力可以用在壞的或好的地方

it comes down to who you are inside.

這得要看看你的內在

Seduction is exactly the same,

誘惑也就是這樣

it comes down to your DNA and what you choose to do with it.

誘惑根植在DNA中 取決於你如何使用它

I choose to make seduction classy,

我選擇讓誘惑變的優雅

and to add to it my sense of loyalty and integrity.

加上我感受到的正直和高貴

Seduction is really about your untapped power

誘惑真的是你還未使用的力量

that you're not using, that you want to unleash.

你沒在使用；你想要釋放的一股力量

Would we tell superman not to stop a bullet?

我們會告訴超人不要擋下子彈嗎

Or a doctor not to save a life?

或是告訴一位醫生不要去拯救生命

But, of course, not.

當然不會

Seduction is about charm, connection, vulnerability, pride,

誘惑是魅力、連結、脆弱、驕傲

self-confidence and appeal.

自信以及吸引力

I'm one of those lucky ones, that gets to go to Cuba all the time.

我很幸運能有機會常去古巴

And I've been observing this culture for a very long time,

我觀察了這個文化好長一段時間

seeing how aware they seem to be of their seductive powers.

觀察到他們多能駕馭誘惑的力量

You can say that in many ways,

你可以說很多方面來講

Cuba has been like a seduction laboratory for me,

古巴隊我來說一直是個嘗試誘惑的實驗室

where I get to study seduction and understand how they use it better.

這個地方讓我學習如何誘惑以及了解如何誘惑的更好

But it's not like Cubans are the only people in the world

但世界上並不是只有古巴人

that understand how to use seduction, right?

才知道如何誘惑，是吧?

You can experience it in other countries in the world:

你可以在其他國家體驗到

in Israel, in Brazil and the Dominicans and many other countries.

以色列，巴西，多明尼加，以及世界各個國家

And yet in Cuba I found a combination of things,

而在古巴我找到了事物的結合

a very unique combination of things,

非常獨特的結合

that I haven't found yet anywhere else in the world,

這是我在世界其他角落找不到的

and I'll speak about some of them today.

今天我就講講這些結合

And you'll probably agree with me when I say

你應該也會同意我的看法

that the chances of finding this kind of seduction out in the open

當我在公開的場合說尋找這種誘惑

in North America is pretty close to slim, right?

在北美這種地方這種機會可說是微乎其微，是吧？

I truly believe that we can learn a valuable life lesson

我真的相信我們可以學到一門珍貴的人生課程

from Cubans about life and seduction.

關於古巴人對於生活對於誘惑的看法

And having said that, if we were to try and take seduction

如果我們真的去嘗試誘惑

and break it into some kind of a formula, what would that look like?

並且把誘惑分解成一些公式，那會是什麼樣子呢

One: desire -- start taking notes!

第一個：慾望。開始記筆記囉！

Desire means knowing what you want

慾望指的是知道你要什麼

and then having the willingness to go after it.

並且有動力去追求想要的東西

In Cuba, rumba is the game of seduction between the man and the woman.

在古巴，倫巴是一種男女之間誘惑的遊戲

The woman is the flirty hen and the guy is the seductive rooster.

女人是勾引人的母雞而男人是誘惑的公雞

The woman uses her body to seduce the men to say, "Want it? Come and get it."

女人用她的身體去誘惑男人，並說：想要嗎？來吧！

The guy on the other hand will use his body

男士則會用他的身體

to demonstrate his masculinity.

去展現他雄性的一面

He'll try to decoy her. Boom!

男士會嘗試讓女士落入圈套 迸！

Launching an attack. (Laughter)

發射一發子彈 (笑聲)

He's trying to pecker her and get her pregnant.

他嘗試要讓女士懷孕

She'll notice the attack, she'll block it,

女士會感受到攻擊，會閃避

she'll mock him for not succeeding,

女士嘲笑男士沒成功

and she'll go, "Didn't make it. Try again."

她會說：沒成功啊，再來一次

Cubans interact on the streets everyday, as if they're playing the game of rumba.

古巴人每天在街上都上演這種戲碼，就好像他們在玩倫巴

They keep a tension, a sexy tension, always alive.

他們讓這種緊張，性方面的緊張，永不停歇

It's like, you could almost have it, but not.

就好像你可以一直擁有，但卻不然

But if you only tried, then maybe.

但你如果有試過，那就有可能

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Keeping the "maybe" alive is the skill of presenting potential possibilities

讓"可能吧"一直存在，是一種展現潛在可能的技巧

and then fuelling them with desire.

然後用慾望去灌溉他們

It's about learning where the emotional buttons are,

去了解情緒的開關在哪裡

and then triggering them.

然後去引爆他們

When there is real desire, even if it's hidden,

當有真正的慾望出現，即使是藏著的

it's possible to lure it out.

也有可能讓猛虎出匣

But you really got to get what the other person is missing,

但你要去了解人們缺少什麼

and then give it to them.

並去滿足他們的需求

And when it's done right, it's virtually impossible to say "no" to.

如果做對了，幾乎沒有人會說不

Number two: confidence.

第二個：信心

Strong self-confidence is essential for seduction;

擁有強大的自信才能誘惑別人

without it you can't go after what you want.

沒有了自信，你就得不到你想要的

Our self-image is formed at a very young age

我們的自我形象在早期就已經成形

and is deeply affected by our environment.

並且身受環境的影響

Cubans praise their kids from a very young age

古巴人在他們孩子還小的時候就不斷稱讚他們

to feel confident and stunning in their own bodies,

這讓他們的小孩裡外都散發了自信

because they recognize this is a very valuable life skill.

因為古巴人知道這是很重要的生活技能

You'll see them at the pool at the hotel, the music is like blasting,

你會看見他們在泳池旁邊，音樂隆隆作響

they're grinding to the music, and the little ones

大人彼此起舞，而小孩

are grinding right beside them, and they'll turn to them and say,

就在大人旁邊磨蹭學樣，大人就會跟小孩說

"Que lindo!" or "Que linda eres!" -- "You're so beautiful!"

你好漂亮啊！你超美的！

Add to this that in Cuba there is no advertising,

再加上古巴本身沒有廣告

because it's a communist country,

因為古巴是個共產社會

so there's nothing that distorts the body image.

所以沒有東西能扭曲身體的形象

Cubans, not like us, are not affected

古巴不像我們

by the media to try and think that they need a perfect body.

身受媒體之害，認為應該要有一個完美的身體

Instead their self-image is formed out of how stunning

取而代之的是，他們的身體形象是由環境

the environment makes them feel, and how much love they get at home.

帶給他們的驚奇以及在家庭得到的愛所構成

As a result of all of this,

這樣的結果下來

Cubans grow up feeling intense pride and self-confidence,

古巴人裡外都充滿了強而有力的自信

no matter what body type or shape they might have.

不管他們的身形如何

And it's this kind of self-confidence that leads later on

這樣的自信都在日後的生活中引導著你

to how you present yourself in all areas of your life

在生活的各個領域展現著自己

and how you succeed.

並且達到成功

Body language.

肢體語言

When you walk on the streets of Havana,

當你走在哈瓦那的街頭

guys and girls check each other out, in the open, all the time.

男人和女人們在公開場合總是互相觀察

They're not trying to hide it.

他們不打算隱藏

And guys call after women with "Linda!", "Preciosa!"

男人叫女人：小妞！漂亮喔！

And women respond with how they hold their bodies,

女人則以扭轉身體

and how they accentuate their curves when they walk,

展現身體的曲線來回應

because they know they're being noticed and admired,

因為女人們知道有許多男人正在關注和稱讚她們

and they like it.

她們很喜歡這樣

It makes it really easy to seduce and be seduced,

如此一來不管是誘惑以及被誘惑都非常簡單

because you know what the other person is feeling.

因為你知道對方在想什麼

Seduction also shows up in the tone of your voice,

誘惑也同時展現在聲音的語調中

the kind of look you give, what you say and how you say it,

你給人怎樣的臉色，說什麼，以及怎麼說

and at times, even adding a little touch.

有時候，甚至去觸摸對方

Body language is very important for seduction

肢體接觸對於誘惑是非常重要的

because it communicates to the other person

因為它向別人訴說

what you want.

你要什麼

Number four: arousal.

第四個步驟：激發

To effectively seduce someone

要有效率的誘惑別人

there has to be an activation of the arousal,

要有個激活的程序

waking up in them the desire to give you what you want

激發對方內在的慾望，讓對方給你你想要的

and luring it out.

並且設法展現出來

But first, you have to connect and interact with the other person,

但第一步，你必須要和人有所連結和互動

if not, then how will you get to their heart?

如果沒有，你怎麼了解他們的心在想什麼

And for seduction to really work,

要讓誘惑真的有效

you have to give it your undivided attention, in a moment.

你必須在某個時刻全神貫注

One of the most charming things that I've noticed about Cuban men,

古巴男人最吸引人的其中一點在於

is how they to go after what they want completely fearless of the consequences

他們勇往直前不畏失敗

of getting hurt or getting rejected.

不怕受傷不怕被拒絕

They will seduce a woman over and over, making her feel desired and special,

他們一而再再而三地誘惑女人，讓她們覺得自己很特別，甚至慾望被勾起

even after she said "no" a couple of times,

即使女人說了好幾次"不要"

slowly sneaking into her heart and waking up that desire.

男人都悄悄地溜進她的心，並且喚起那慾望

In a "no" there was a "maybe" turns into a "yes".

起先是不要，再來就變成可能，最後變成好

That's damn sexy.

這真的超級性感的

This fearlessness of failure is a profoundly powerful capability

這種不會失敗的精神是非常強大的能力

that I've noticed in some of the most seductive people

從我認識中那些最有魅力的人們中

that I've ever met.

都是這樣子

But they can do this

但他們可以這樣做

because they've developed their intuitions so much,

是因為他們讓自己的直覺更敏銳

that they can easily distinguish between a "no" that means a "no",

變的可以輕易分辨真的的不要

because the last thing you want to do is not accept a "no" that means a "no".

因為你最不想要的是接受一個真正的拒絕

So what I really want you to get

我要你得到的東西

is that everyone has the power to seduce in them.

是每個人都有勾起別人慾望的能力

The trick is to learn how to use it and when.

秘訣在於如何使用以及何時使用

Seduction is a skill no matter how you look at it.

不管你怎麼看，誘惑是個技巧

You can call it: wooing, persuading,

你可以叫它：說服或遊說

winning someone over, charming, it doesn't really matter.

贏別人，魅力，都無所謂

But what it is, is really about using all of the elements

最重要的是如何使用這些我在演講中提到的

that I talked about here in the talk, which is one: desire, two: confidence,

各種元素：慾望，自信

three: body language, four: arousal,

肢體語言，激發

to build the connection that gets you what you want.

建立一種連結，讓你得到你想要的

It's also important to remember that seduction is not a science,

很重要的要記得，誘惑並不是科學

but an art, and that's the beauty of it, it comes from the heart.

而是種藝術，它來自於你的心

And like any art, it can definitely be taught.

就像任何一種藝術，一定可以經由學習學會

But to fully gain self-expression in it, you have to take the time to master it,

但完全的掌握它，運用它，需要時間去精通

and make it your own.

讓這項技能成為你自己的

My hope is that you will see seduction

我希望你們將誘惑視為一種

as a valuable life skill, as I've learned to.

有用的生活技能，就像我使用的那樣

Because so many people lose that childlike attitude

太多人都失去了那種小孩般的心

as they grow into adulthood, and something's missing.

當人們長為大人，有些東西就失去了

And wouldn't the world be a better place if we didn't.

如果我們都不曾失去這種赤子之心，整個世界會不會更好

I really believe that seduction leads to self-confidence,

我真心認為誘惑可以培養自信

and self-confidence leads to success in all areas of your life.

而自信能帶領你達成各種成功

Master seduction and you can have anything that you want in life.

精通誘惑的本領能讓你得到人生中各種你想要的東西

Anything.

任何東西

I did get a TED Talk, didn't I?

我就在TED上發表了一場演講，不是嗎？

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Thank you.

謝謝

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