Coming out as part of the LGBTQ+ community can be a terrifying ordeal.

以 LGBTQ+ 一員出櫃這件事可能是一場可怕的考驗。

The uncertainty of figuring out whether someone is safe to come out to can fill them with distress and anxiety.

要釐清是否可以安心地跟某人出櫃會讓他們充滿壓力與焦慮感。

If a friend or loved one chooses to come out to you,

如果一個朋友或親人選擇向你出櫃，

it means they've trusted you enough to share this very important part of themselves.

那代表著他們對你的信賴足以讓他們願意與你分享他們非常重要的一部分。

While it might come as a surprise at first, understand that their sexuality makes them no less of the person you love and appreciate.

一開始你可能會有些訝異，但要明白無論他們的性取向為何，他們還是原本那個你愛和欣賞的那個人。

Their identity is much more than their sexuality.

他們是「誰」，不僅僅只關於他們的性向。

At the same time, it's still something very much worth celebrating.

同時，這件事其實還很值得慶祝。

Whether it's a friend, sibling, or someone else, here are some ways to support your LGBTQ+ friend.

無論是朋友、兄弟姊妹，或是任何一個人，這邊將提供一些能夠給予你的LGBTQ+朋友支持的方法。

Number one: Reassure your friendship and support.

第一：肯定友誼並給予支持。

Your friend has just come out as a minority that some people may not support.

你的朋友剛從一個一些人可能不支持的少數群體中出櫃。

So, be a kind person.

所以，請表達你的善意。

Show that you don't fall under the disapproving crowd by affirming that you're still their friend, no matter what.

藉由肯定你們的友誼來表明你無論如何都不會成為反對的那一群人。

These words of affirmation will provide them with a sense of relief.

肯定之詞會為他們帶來一種寬慰。

So, make sure that your support is clear to them right away.

所以，確保你能立即地向他們表示你的支持。

Say things like, "That doesn't change our friendship at all," or,

說一些像是：「我們的友誼還是沒變」的話，或

"You'll always be my friend, no matter what."

「無論發生了什麼，你永遠都會是我的朋友」。

Number two: Offer them a hug.

第二：給個擁抱吧。

Were they emotional before they revealed their sexuality to you?

在他們向你揭露性向前，他們是不是很情緒化呢？

Coming out can be an overwhelming experience.

出櫃可能是一個讓人不知所措的經驗。

Many people get emotional right as the words come out of their mouth, especially if you're the first person they've come out to.

當他們口中說出關於出櫃的話語後，很多人會變得情緒化，尤其當你是他們第一個出櫃的對象時。

If you're unsure of what to do, offer them a hug.

如果你不知道該怎麼辦才好，給他們個大抱抱吧。

Hugs build a sense of trust and safety by boosting oxytocin levels.

通過提高催產素水平，擁抱給人一種信賴和安全感。

And for people with physical touch as their primary love language, this can be a great way to show your full support of their reveal.

而以身體接觸作為主要表達愛的方式的人來說，給予一個擁抱是在他們表明性向後一個很好的作法。

Number three: Learn more about their sexuality.

第三：了解更多他們的性向。

There's a world of different sexualities and identities out there, some that you may not have heard of,

這個世界有很多不同的性向和身份，其中有一些你可能都沒聽過，

but all are as valid as the next.

但他們都同樣有價值。

If you're confused about the terms they've used to identify with themselves,

如果你對於他們用來定義自己的名詞有些困惑，

don't be afraid to ask them about it nicely and appropriately.

別怕用友好且合宜的方式問問。

They'll likely be happy to explain further for you.

他們會很樂意向你解釋更多。

If they're unsure themselves, give them a nudge to go see a therapist or counselor to help clear things up.

若他們自己也不確定，不妨試著建議他們去看看心理治療師或諮商師來協助他們了解自己。

Even if they don't push through with that, showing thoughtful concern can mean the world to them already.

即使他們沒有那麼做，給予體貼的關心對於他們來說已經意義不凡了。

Number four: Lighten up.

第四：放鬆點。

Not all LGBTQ+ members come out of the closet the same way.

並非所有LGBTQ+成員都以同樣的方式出櫃。

Some may come out in a grand spectacle, while others come out low-key.

有些人可能會大張旗鼓，而有些人則想保持低調。

Everyone's experience is different.

每個人的經驗都不同。

In any case, it's still important to show your unwavering support.

無論是哪種情況，重要的是展示你不變的支持。

Stay off the jokes that may be deemed harmful and inappropriate, but don't act completely different and uptight, either.

不要開一些可能會讓人不適或不妥的笑話，但也不要就束手束腳或過度緊張。

Your friend would just want you to act the same way as you've always done, while also getting their sexuality or identity off their chest.

你的朋友寧願你像往常一樣，但同時也想像你傾吐真正的性向與身份。

And that's a perfectly reasonable thing to wish for.

那是一個完全合理的願望。

If their signals are unclear, ask them how you should support them as a friend.

如果給出的暗示不明確，問問他們他們需要身為朋友的你該怎麼做。

Give them a chance to express their desires by opening a clear and open means of communication with them.

和他們展開一場開放包容的對話來給予他們表達內心期望的機會。

Number five: Be an ally.

第五：和他們站在同一陣線。

Has your friend or sibling come out to you, and did so in fear that someone else would disapprove of their identity?

你的朋友或兄弟姊妹是否曾有出櫃後害怕某人不認可他們身份的經驗呢？

While there have been waves of progress made to challenge and fight against discrimination in recent years, it's still not completely phased out.

儘管近幾年已經為了消弭歧視作出了些進步，但反對聲音尚未完全消失。

If you hear another friend or classmate make homophobic or transphobic remarks,

若你聽到你的朋友或同學發表恐同或恐跨言論，

challenge their hurtful speech or help them understand the weight of the words they throw out.

挑戰他們傷人的話語，或是幫他們釐清話語的重量與威力。

No matter what, there are just some people who will never be on your friend's side.

無論如何，就是有些人永遠都不會站在你朋友那一邊。

The best thing you can do is to be a genuine friend that will always be there for them.

你所力所能及的是當一個永遠都會挺著他們的真朋友。

Create a safe space for your LGBTQ+ friend or loved one to be themselves.

創造一個讓你的LGBTQ+ 朋友或愛人能感到安全踏實的空間。

And number six: Continue doing the same things.

第六：繼續做你們會做的。

Do you and your friend play video games every Friday night?

你和你的朋友都會在週五晚上打電動嗎？

Do you walk home from school every day?

你們每天放學都一起回家嗎？

Well, keep doing it.

嗯，繼續這麼做。

The last thing your friend or loved one wants is to make things awkward between you two.

你的朋友與愛人最不想看到的事是你們倆變得尷尬。

Your friend might've stressed over the possibility of a friendship ending between you two or slowly drifting away.

你的朋友可能會因友誼結束或慢慢消失的可能性而備感壓力。

Your friend coming out doesn't change anything negatively.

他的出櫃並不會帶來任何負面影響。

Continue nurturing the friendship and growing together⏤you can help them feel more at peace .

繼續培養這段友誼並一起成長進步──你可以幫助他們感到更加平靜。

So, what was your favorite tip from this list?

那麼，在這幾點中，哪一項方法是你最喜歡的呢？

When a friend comes out to you, focus your attention on them, give them a chance to express themselves.

當你的朋友向你出櫃，將注意力集中於他們，給他們一個表達自己的機會。

Listen and show your support with no strings attached.

聆聽他們並全力地表達你的支持。

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你覺得這個影片有價值嗎？

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在評論區告訴我。

Please like and share it with friends that might find insight in this video as well.

請點擊喜歡並和也能在本部影片中洞察新領悟的朋友們分享。

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別忘了訂閱Psych2Go並打開小鈴鐺以接收更多內容。

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所有相關資源都在下方的資訊欄。

Thanks so much for watching, and we'll see you next time!

感謝你的收看，我們下次再見！