Name: 為什麼你仍然是單身？ 以及其他需要保密的問題 (Why Are You Still Single? (And Other Questions To Keep To Yourself))
Uploaded: 2022-05-20T16:50:46.000Z
Duration: 6 min 49 s

情態副詞

But your girl she vaccinated and she actually went out for brunch with a friend.

但是你的女孩她接種了疫苗，而且她真的和一個朋友出去吃早午餐了。

And you know, I feel like we've all been collectively just dying to socialize with other humans and hug our friends and party.

你知道，我覺得我們都在集體地渴望與其他人類交往，擁抱我們的朋友和聚會。

But what I did not anticipate is just how hard it was to socialize again.

但我沒有預料到的是，再次參加社交活動是多麼困難。

是以，這可能是一個有爭議的問題。

But how have you been you know, just reliving the same day since March.

但是你是怎麼過的，你知道，從三月開始就一直在重溫同一天的生活。

I mean, you know, there's no real news to report.

我的意思是，你知道，沒有真正的新聞可以報道。

No, I, I tried, you know the apps, that whole thing.

不，我，我試過了，你知道那些應用程序，那整個事情。

但是沒有，為什麼你還是單身？

我的意思是，你怎麼還是單身？

Um Well, I guess I'm single because well when we're in a global pandemic and I can't meet anybody new.

嗯，我想我是單身，因為當我們處於全球大流行的時候，我不能遇到新的人。

Um But also I am trying to intentionally not get into relationships built on trauma bonds anymore.

嗯，但我也在努力有意地不再進入建立在創傷紐帶上的關係。

But I mean like you're such a catch that it's crazy that nobody wants me.

但我的意思是，你是這樣的人，沒有人想要我，這很瘋狂。

我大概有一年沒有參加社交活動了。

I clearly I'm defensive about this topic.

我很清楚我對這個話題的防禦性。

Mm hmm Oh um I saw on instagram that you and your twin spoke up about the abuse and the really toxic set with James franco good for you guys?

我在Instagram上看到，你和你的雙胞胎說出了關於虐待和詹姆斯-弗蘭科的真正有毒的設置，對你們有好處嗎？

It's just, we just thought, why are we protecting him?

只是，我們只是想，我們為什麼要保護他？

比如你能為我詳細介紹一下虐待的情況嗎？

Um, I don't really want to talk about that over mimosas.

嗯，我真的不想在喝含羞草的時候談論這個問題。

Like people are always prying into my sister's suicide and it's like, wait, how did she die?

就像人們總是在打聽我妹妹的自殺問題，就像，等等，她是怎麼死的？

Well let me just reliving my trauma at 11 AM.

好吧，讓我在上午11點重溫一下我的創傷。

好了，女士們，你們決定了嗎？

But can you add avocado, put the dressing on the side and give me an ice cream tea.

但是你能不能加上牛油果，把調味料放在旁邊，給我一杯冰淇淋茶。

不加冰和加糖確實是我的確切命令。

So you were telling me how your sister died?

所以你在告訴我你妹妹是怎麼死的？

不，我想我們已經從這個問題上繼續前進了。

When are you and your husband finally having kids?

你和你丈夫什麼時候才會有孩子？

That's not the compliment that you think it is.

No, like where are you really from casa Dina?

不，比如說你到底是哪裡人，迪娜小姐？

Not nearly as much as the internet thinks I do.

不像互聯網上認為的那樣，我做了很多。

Are you ever self conscious about your nose?

你是否曾對自己的鼻子感到自責？

Has anyone ever called you a bit many times?

Yeah, I'll send you a link in 20 minutes.

是的，我將在20分鐘內給你發送一個鏈接。

It wasn't that awkward but there was definitely a sense of like whoa, we have forgotten the nuance of when it's appropriate to ask what and it makes sense.

這不是那麼尷尬，但肯定有一種感覺，就像哇，我們已經忘記了什麼時候應該問什麼的細微差別，這很有意義。

You know, we're all starving for connection so badly.

你知道，我們都非常渴望聯繫。

But the line between curiosity and wanting to connect versus overstepping and being insensitive is very thin one.

但是，好奇心和想要聯繫與越位和不敏感之間的界限是非常細的。

And my brunch with my friend made me examine the times in my life where I have been confronted with this exact line like oh my God, I remember in the before time I knew this woman through work and the last time I had seen her she was pregnant.

我和我朋友的早午餐讓我審視了我生命中的那些時間，在這些時間裡，我遇到了這句話，比如我的上帝，我記得在之前的時間裡，我通過工作認識了這個女人，而我最後一次見到她的時候，她已經懷孕。

And then when I ran into her again at a party, she wasn't.

然後當我在一個聚會上再次碰到她時，她不在了。

所以我當然要求很高興見到你。

She just it was clear what happened in that look.

她只是很清楚在那個眼神中發生了什麼。

So I just quickly changed the subject and carried on wow.

所以我就迅速改變了話題，繼續哇。

But it made me think about in those moments how we have two choices.

但這讓我想到在那些時刻，我們有兩個選擇。

We should keep to ourselves did you have a miscarriage or was it an abortion?

我們應該對自己說，你是流產還是墮胎？

Which by the way I've read on reddit that actual women have been asked this ship, can you believe it?

順便說一下，我在reddit上看到，真正的女性被問到了這艘船，你相信嗎？

The second option which I think you should take and which I took is to take the q read the room change the subject and save the other person from having to explain themselves.

我認為你應該採取的第二個選擇，也是我採取的第二個選擇，就是把 "q "讀到房間裡，換個話題，省得對方解釋。

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為什麼你仍然是單身？以及其他需要保密的問題 (Why Are You Still Single? (And Other Questions To Keep To Yourself))